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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am sure you ladies get vast quantities of messages especially when you appear online .

What makes you sort the wheat from the chaff ?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with Dirty Girl on this one humour..it certainly peeps my interest.

I had a feisty status up last week all tongue in cheek and received many a message but one guy stood oot from the rest as he got what I was saying..obv same wavelength of madness ..Started chatting got a lovely social oot of it and a cheeky impromptu meet yesterday too ..looking forward to round 3 as they say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A decent profile.

Decent pictures.

A decent first message that will make me laugh.

Be yourself.

Be patient.

Have fun and enjoy the ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth!

"
hey sexy I have maltloaf and a smile that goes on forever and if that doesn't work I have dabloons bye johnny depp x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth! "

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Am sure you ladies get vast quantities of messages especially when you appear online .

What makes you sort the wheat from the chaff ?

"

Dress up as one of the seven dwarves.

They particularly like Gropey or Sleazy. It gives them an opportunity to play up to their house-making tendencies, and a 4-inch cock always looks bigger when you're only 3'6"

That may just be me though

Mr ddc

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth! "

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth! "

Nice use of the word tuppence there I enjoyed that

I'm no expert here but I think some guys try too hard. They try to become someone they're not in their messages because they think that will make them more appealing. I think the number one thing is just relax and be yourself. You're going to strike-out a lot whichever way you approach it so just be yourself and have fun.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth!

Nice use of the word tuppence there I enjoyed that

I'm no expert here but I think some guys try too hard. They try to become someone they're not in their messages because they think that will make them more appealing. I think the number one thing is just relax and be yourself. You're going to strike-out a lot whichever way you approach it so just be yourself and have fun."

Every above!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

By not sending a message like the one I've just received asking if I have a pubed or shaven cunt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth!

Nice use of the word tuppence there I enjoyed that

I'm no expert here but I think some guys try too hard. They try to become someone they're not in their messages because they think that will make them more appealing. I think the number one thing is just relax and be yourself. You're going to strike-out a lot whichever way you approach it so just be yourself and have fun."
yes but not so relaxed your asleep ,snoring is not good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds awful, but intelligence does it for me. It's the ultimate turn-on.

Interesting, deep and with impeccable spelling and grammar.

(Had to repost that because of a typo! Oh, the irony....)

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Don't follow the herd..... stand out for your individuality.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

1) Sense of humour / twinkly eyes

2) Doesn't take himself too seriously but isn't apologetic either

3) Not demanding but is honest about what he wants; yet flexible

4) Non-clingy but still wants to meet over a long-term as a good friend where sex is a bonus

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Don't follow the herd..... stand out for your individuality."

This! Originality is good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A really big cock......

Yeah I'm that's shallow,,,,

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"A really big cock......

Yeah I'm that's shallow,,,, "

that is terrible, there is more to a guy than a big cock... I am aghast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A really big cock......

Yeah I'm that's shallow,,,,

that is terrible, there is more to a guy than a big cock... I am aghast"

Yes you're right View,,,,,

I should have said a really big cock with an available bi guy attached ......

Oh and he mustn't be to fussy ....

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth!

"

I always tend to get a better response when I'm able to 'bounce off' someone's status or a witty comment made in their profile.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"A really big cock......

Yeah I'm that's shallow,,,,

that is terrible, there is more to a guy than a big cock... I am aghast

Yes you're right View,,,,,

I should have said a really big cock with an available bi guy attached ......

Oh and he mustn't be to fussy ....

"

for goodness sake Soxy, priorities, priorities......

what about personality, intellect, good to charitable organisations, looks after his mum....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A really big cock......

Yeah I'm that's shallow,,,,

that is terrible, there is more to a guy than a big cock... I am aghast

Yes you're right View,,,,,

I should have said a really big cock with an available bi guy attached ......

Oh and he mustn't be to fussy ....

for goodness sake Soxy, priorities, priorities......

what about personality, intellect, good to charitable organisations, looks after his mum....

"

But View,,,,,,, some guys will say anything just to get a meet,,,,,,,, but a really big cock cant be faked ......

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"A really big cock......

Yeah I'm that's shallow,,,,

that is terrible, there is more to a guy than a big cock... I am aghast

Yes you're right View,,,,,

I should have said a really big cock with an available bi guy attached ......

Oh and he mustn't be to fussy ....

for goodness sake Soxy, priorities, priorities......

what about personality, intellect, good to charitable organisations, looks after his mum....

But View,,,,,,, some guys will say anything just to get a meet,,,,,,,, but a really big cock can't be faked ...... "

dam, dam trying to deflect that strumpet away from the big cock to have them all to myself hasn't worked....

okay will share them

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth! "

Tuppence - that's an old child's name for a willie - fnarr fnarr

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I like fun messages but I'm also fine will someone introducing themselves and asking me to look at their profile if they have decent pictures and a well written profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A really big cock......

Yeah I'm that's shallow,,,,

that is terrible, there is more to a guy than a big cock... I am aghast

Yes you're right View,,,,,

I should have said a really big cock with an available bi guy attached ......

Oh and he mustn't be to fussy ....

for goodness sake Soxy, priorities, priorities......

what about personality, intellect, good to charitable organisations, looks after his mum....

But View,,,,,,, some guys will say anything just to get a meet,,,,,,,, but a really big cock can't be faked ......

dam, dam trying to deflect that strumpet away from the big cock to have them all to myself hasn't worked....

okay will share them "

View I'm always happy to share.....in-fact being as I'd be sharing with you, I even be willing to take sloppy seconds...

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

A scary avatar helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A really big cock......

Yeah I'm that's shallow,,,,

that is terrible, there is more to a guy than a big cock... I am aghast"

But do you have a big cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A scary avatar helps

"

I think you look cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth!

Tuppence - that's an old child's name for a willie - fnarr fnarr"

I always thought it was for a vagina?

For what it's worth; this thread was answered very early on with the above 'humour' post.

It's really easy to see if my profile has been read rather than just my pics looked at.

I love humour and intelligence. I had an amazing time with someone who failed all my usual criteria simply because he had an eloquent voice. Turned out he has a PhD and a castle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three rules are all instant delete filters for us. Firstly if they have clearly not read our profile. Secondly if they send a one or two word message, if they cant be bothered why should we. And lastly cock profile pics are almost always an instant delete, same goes for a message with 4 or 5 cock pics and nothing else attached. All you have to do to stand out for us is read our profile fully, make sure you are within our wants and send a nicely worded message with at the very least a body shot. Simple. But you would think it was rocket science

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

excellent advice here! If only threads could be 'pinned' at the top of the forum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard for guys on here with a first message.

They send nothing but hello - the haven't tried hard enough.

They send copy and paste messages - they haven't tried hard enough and show themselves to be half arsed.

They send a "great tits" message - it usually gets deleted for being a bit childish.

They send an all about me message - they've given too much away and leave no room to be asked about themselves.

They send a humorous message - it sometimes looks like they've tried to hard.

So for guys to get the balance right somewhere in between all that is hard. Fair play to the ones that have got it right.

Mr

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By *ack LondonMan
over a year ago

London

I'm no lady!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

enter this world with your eyes wide open, recognise that all that glitters is not gold, take time and don't let yourself be rushed by deadlines, be clear about your expectations and always be true to your standards...

likely, you won't have an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They look for fellas covered in blue face paint with a tail.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Make shit up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By not sending a message like the one I've just received asking if I have a pubed or shaven cunt!"

Well ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am sure you ladies get vast quantities of messages especially when you appear online .

What makes you sort the wheat from the chaff ?

"

Personality. Which you can't substitute.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I like humour, but get annoyed when they've clearly copy and pasted something from the net

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like humour, but get annoyed when they've clearly copy and pasted something from the net "

I cut and pasted my reply recently

I posted a visit to a well known sauna and my inboxes here and on fab guys went into meltdown.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

Play to your strengths, know what you want and be approachable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth! "

Agree. And for me, although "grammarians " (if thats a word!) are disparaged on here, no txt spk and spellcheck please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me humour.

I like someone who makes me laugh with something cheeky. This is meant to be fun. I want to hang out with people who are themselves and don't try too hard to be some sort of studmuffin or Mr Grey wannabe.

Don't send me rude, don't send me one liners, don't send a massive story that's meant to be erotic cause all I can think is that it needs better punctuation!

Just send a message like you'd send to one of your mates, shooting the breeze. Read the profile of the person you're sending a message to because it's really obvious when you haven't.

There... that's my tuppence worth!

Agree. And for me, although "grammarians " (if thats a word!) are disparaged on here, no txt spk and spellcheck please. "

Oops! "that's"

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Am sure you ladies get vast quantities of messages especially when you appear online .

What makes you sort the wheat from the chaff ?

Personality. Which you can't substitute."

Maybe not, but easily faked.

Someone said I was nice once...what more proof do you need?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's chaff?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am sure you ladies get vast quantities of messages especially when you appear online .

What makes you sort the wheat from the chaff ?

"

Googly eyes on my penis

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Sometimes it helps to incorporate some words/phrases from their profile into your response- it shows that you have taken the time to read the profile.

Also helps if include why you would be attractive to her based on what she has asked for in the profile.

Oh and flattery and compliments do go a long way too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say, its more by luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am sure you ladies get vast quantities of messages especially when you appear online .

What makes you sort the wheat from the chaff ?

"

Dunno about the ladies but I find a threshing mill is great for sorting the wheat from the chaff........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They look for fellas covered in blue face paint with a tail. "

But don't go for more than two tail pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A really big cock......

Yeah I'm that's shallow,,,,

that is terrible, there is more to a guy than a big cock... I am aghast

Yes you're right View,,,,,

I should have said a really big cock with an available bi guy attached ......

Oh and he mustn't be to fussy ....

for goodness sake Soxy, priorities, priorities......

what about personality, intellect, good to charitable organisations, looks after his mum....

But View,,,,,,, some guys will say anything just to get a meet,,,,,,,, but a really big cock cant be faked ...... "

Oh yes it can!

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