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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always appreciate a guy saying hi and asking how we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always appreciate a guy saying hi and asking how we are."

OP just can't ever win.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But they get tons like that - try and have something a little different or personal to grab their attention! It'll pay dividends for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind getting a hi how are you. If it's from someone I find attractive in some way I'll say hi back

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do get it that women want men to be a little more creative, but it's nice to be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it "

I find those kind of profiles bloody rude. Is that how they speak to colleagues when they ask them if they've had a good weekend?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it

I find those kind of profiles bloody rude. Is that how they speak to colleagues when they ask them if they've had a good weekend? "

Ok, so my usual answer to people I know is 'fine, thanks'.

Then what?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

OP what most of really want is Italian poetry or a nice bit of Greek wooing..

try that, you never know..

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it

I find those kind of profiles bloody rude. Is that how they speak to colleagues when they ask them if they've had a good weekend?

Ok, so my usual answer to people I know is 'fine, thanks'.

Then what?"

Fancy a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!"

Indeed.

It would be fantastic if the women that have profiles like that would get off their thrones and make an effort instead of waiting for others to bow to them.

Won't ever happen though.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it

I find those kind of profiles bloody rude. Is that how they speak to colleagues when they ask them if they've had a good weekend?

Ok, so my usual answer to people I know is 'fine, thanks'.

Then what?

Fancy a shag? "

*sigh*

To be fair, my 'grumpy old woman alert' works better than any filters. One 'fancy a shag' message a week is easy to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it

I find those kind of profiles bloody rude. Is that how they speak to colleagues when they ask them if they've had a good weekend?

Ok, so my usual answer to people I know is 'fine, thanks'.

Then what?"

And you don't enquire about their weekend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quantum theory. That's what I want to see in a first message.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it

I find those kind of profiles bloody rude. Is that how they speak to colleagues when they ask them if they've had a good weekend?

Ok, so my usual answer to people I know is 'fine, thanks'.

Then what?

And you don't enquire about their weekend? "

We chat to each other when we have time about the things happening in our lives and then enquire about how they went later. They are friends and colleagues, not people I'm looking to have sex with.

A 'how's your weekend going' message here is at best, pointless because if I don't reply, they come on here moaning that they don't get replies. If it's a profile I like, I'm disappointed that's all they can come up with because, without fail, if I reply, they have nothing else to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it

I find those kind of profiles bloody rude. Is that how they speak to colleagues when they ask them if they've had a good weekend?

Ok, so my usual answer to people I know is 'fine, thanks'.

Then what?

And you don't enquire about their weekend?

We chat to each other when we have time about the things happening in our lives and then enquire about how they went later. They are friends and colleagues, not people I'm looking to have sex with.

A 'how's your weekend going' message here is at best, pointless because if I don't reply, they come on here moaning that they don't get replies. If it's a profile I like, I'm disappointed that's all they can come up with because, without fail, if I reply, they have nothing else to say."

Just out of curiosity what is it that you look for from an opening message ? Enlighten me please.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it

I find those kind of profiles bloody rude. Is that how they speak to colleagues when they ask them if they've had a good weekend?

Ok, so my usual answer to people I know is 'fine, thanks'.

Then what?

And you don't enquire about their weekend?

We chat to each other when we have time about the things happening in our lives and then enquire about how they went later. They are friends and colleagues, not people I'm looking to have sex with.

A 'how's your weekend going' message here is at best, pointless because if I don't reply, they come on here moaning that they don't get replies. If it's a profile I like, I'm disappointed that's all they can come up with because, without fail, if I reply, they have nothing else to say.

Just out of curiosity what is it that you look for from an opening message ? Enlighten me please."

Something different from asking how I am/how my week is going/did I have a nice Christmas. Like tens of thousands of people, I work weekends and most holidays in a thankless organisation doing a job I adore so occasionally, after a 13 hour shift with no breaks and a rinse and repeat cycle for four days makes me want to bite when I get a message like that.

But give it a bash, send me a how are you message.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I've got one waiting in my inbox. Let's see how it goes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


""

It's going as predicted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quantum theory. That's what I want to see in a first message."

I would love this. And I'm not kidding.

-Courtney

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You open your inbox, with dozens in it, and many first lines are the same - a few aren't. Some have no second lines.

Which ones get noticed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never start a message with how are you.

I always send a message about myself, who I am etc

It does make me giggle when I get a reply from someone who says on their profile don't ask how are you and their first reply to me is how are you

In all serious though if someone wants to message me back great if they don't then no big deal. Their choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!"

For me that's the start and end of the conversation if they hadn't read my profile, after a while, it got annoying so they just got deleted without being read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well a hi dos it for me im not up my self tho and its nice to be nice even tho this is a sex site a little respect gos a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say its ok to start a message with hi how are you? As long as there is more to'the message, if that is all you've got to offer then it is a bit rubbish,

Also do people really care how we are, if we answered honestly and said we are shit something really bad has happened would they really care?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well a hi dos it for me im not up my self tho and its nice to be nice even tho this is a sex site a little respect gos a long way"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quantum theory. That's what I want to see in a first message.

I would love this. And I'm not kidding.

-Courtney"
harlot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think a hi how are you is wrong. If that is how they start a conversation then fine.

I don't demand men write to me in a certain way. I don't follow instructions on what others want me to say either.

If I like the look of a profile I will message back. I don't expect anyone to follow a set of rules. Conversation will flow naturally if you have a rapport

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!"

Yes there are a lot of women on here that demand you get creative. How creative or exactly what they want you won't know. Basically, OP just be yourself. Send out whatever kind of message YOU want. You're going to get a million rejections anyway. Maybe just try and make your messages a bit interesting and be true to yourself.

I basically ignore any demanding profiles telling me what I shouldn't write if I want to avoid a block or a delete. I'm writing some bollocks to a random woman on Fab I like the look of, not the Queen. Sod that! Very unattracive. I quite happily wait for them to message me. Yes, women can SEND messages you know. A lot of them just haven't realised it yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it funny =] plus, it kinda forces them to be a TAD more creative with their opening mssg.

Ive seen one profile say "for the record, Im fine, Im going to be fine, my weekend was fantastic....to save you asking" :D

Love it

I find those kind of profiles bloody rude. Is that how they speak to colleagues when they ask them if they've had a good weekend?

Ok, so my usual answer to people I know is 'fine, thanks'.

Then what?

And you don't enquire about their weekend?

We chat to each other when we have time about the things happening in our lives and then enquire about how they went later. They are friends and colleagues, not people I'm looking to have sex with.

A 'how's your weekend going' message here is at best, pointless because if I don't reply, they come on here moaning that they don't get replies. If it's a profile I like, I'm disappointed that's all they can come up with because, without fail, if I reply, they have nothing else to say.

Just out of curiosity what is it that you look for from an opening message ? Enlighten me please.

Something different from asking how I am/how my week is going/did I have a nice Christmas. Like tens of thousands of people, I work weekends and most holidays in a thankless organisation doing a job I adore so occasionally, after a 13 hour shift with no breaks and a rinse and repeat cycle for four days makes me want to bite when I get a message like that.

But give it a bash, send me a how are you message."
with the greatest of respect how are people supposed to know that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!

Yes there are a lot of women on here that demand you get creative. How creative or exactly what they want you won't know. Basically, OP just be yourself. Send out whatever kind of message YOU want. You're going to get a million rejections anyway. Maybe just try and make your messages a bit interesting and be true to yourself.

I basically ignore any demanding profiles telling me what I shouldn't write if I want to avoid a block or a delete. I'm writing some bollocks to a random woman on Fab I like the look of, not the Queen. Sod that! Very unattracive. I quite happily wait for them to message me. Yes, women can SEND messages you know. A lot of them just haven't realised it yet "

Howard, you know you always address me as Your Majesty when you send me a message

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!

Yes there are a lot of women on here that demand you get creative. How creative or exactly what they want you won't know. Basically, OP just be yourself. Send out whatever kind of message YOU want. You're going to get a million rejections anyway. Maybe just try and make your messages a bit interesting and be true to yourself.

I basically ignore any demanding profiles telling me what I shouldn't write if I want to avoid a block or a delete. I'm writing some bollocks to a random woman on Fab I like the look of, not the Queen. Sod that! Very unattracive. I quite happily wait for them to message me. Yes, women can SEND messages you know. A lot of them just haven't realised it yet

Howard, you know you always address me as Your Majesty when you send me a message "

Yes Ma'am, I do!

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By *ixFoot2nFun4UMan
over a year ago

gosport

My issue is when women say 'no one line messages' then on the odd occasion they contact me I get 'hi how are you.' You go check out their profile and it says blatantly no one line messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think a hi how are you is wrong. If that is how they start a conversation then fine.

I don't demand men write to me in a certain way. I don't follow instructions on what others want me to say either.

If I like the look of a profile I will message back. I don't expect anyone to follow a set of rules. Conversation will flow naturally if you have a rapport "

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!

Yes there are a lot of women on here that demand you get creative. How creative or exactly what they want you won't know. Basically, OP just be yourself. Send out whatever kind of message YOU want. You're going to get a million rejections anyway. Maybe just try and make your messages a bit interesting and be true to yourself.

I basically ignore any demanding profiles telling me what I shouldn't write if I want to avoid a block or a delete. I'm writing some bollocks to a random woman on Fab I like the look of, not the Queen. Sod that! Very unattracive. I quite happily wait for them to message me. Yes, women can SEND messages you know. A lot of them just haven't realised it yet "

Well said!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I don't think a hi how are you is wrong. If that is how they start a conversation then fine.

I don't demand men write to me in a certain way. I don't follow instructions on what others want me to say either.

If I like the look of a profile I will message back. I don't expect anyone to follow a set of rules. Conversation will flow naturally if you have a rapport

"

This ideally is how Fab should work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a message out of the blue to/from someone you've never spoken to before, it helps if the opening message (and the sender's profile) actually has something to help kick-off a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think a hi how are you is wrong. If that is how they start a conversation then fine.

I don't demand men write to me in a certain way. I don't follow instructions on what others want me to say either.

If I like the look of a profile I will message back. I don't expect anyone to follow a set of rules. Conversation will flow naturally if you have a rapport "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women are up their own arse on here,not all just some....just saying

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Some women are up their own arse on here,not all just some....just saying"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!

Yes there are a lot of women on here that demand you get creative. How creative or exactly what they want you won't know. Basically, OP just be yourself. Send out whatever kind of message YOU want. You're going to get a million rejections anyway. Maybe just try and make your messages a bit interesting and be true to yourself.

I basically ignore any demanding profiles telling me what I shouldn't write if I want to avoid a block or a delete. I'm writing some bollocks to a random woman on Fab I like the look of, not the Queen. Sod that! Very unattracive. I quite happily wait for them to message me. Yes, women can SEND messages you know. A lot of them just haven't realised it yet "

Spot on !!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!"

"Hey", "hello", "hi", "how are you", "how was your weekend" or "how was your day" or "wanna f**k" is not what someone wrote to me and he got my attention

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"...

Yes, women can SEND messages you know. A lot of them just haven't realised it yet "

I tried; all I got was an alert which read "sending messages to tw*ts is currently unavailable; please try again later"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!

"Hey", "hello", "hi", "how are you", "how was your weekend" or "how was your day" or

"wanna f**k" is not what someone wrote to me and he got my attention "

That's very true , and now I know how to get your attention when I meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!"

us woman get so many of them, I look at other factors behind the message

no pic

profile blank

not read my profile

Too far

can't accommodate

don't go to the club I go

no verification been here over a year

if I say im good thankyou wbu

then I get a facebook convo

followed by would you like to drive two hours shag me behind a bush then go

nope rare I answer hi messages as many men, do make an effort so I would rather answer them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!"

They are polite openers, as long as that's not the whole message! Continuing with something witty or personal to show they've read the profile helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It bugs me when someone messages me and....who am I kidding?

I don't get any messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It really bugs me when women put in there profiles not to start your messages with Hey , hello, hi, how are you , how was your weekend or how was your day , but surely these are polite ways of starting off a conversation with somebody, rather thank wanna fuck !!!

They are polite openers, as long as that's not the whole message! Continuing with something witty or personal to show they've read the profile helps."

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