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By *rneil OP   Man
over a year ago

rochester and pembrokshire

I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No, I honestly don't. I would never consider myself less than someone else.

welcome and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I never feel anyone is out of my league and you're right some very sexy women on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that all the time but then there is the odd thread that encourages you to name names and wam!! The people you thought wouldn't be interested are!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I feel this all the time.

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By *rneil OP   Man
over a year ago

rochester and pembrokshire

I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

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By *rneil OP   Man
over a year ago

rochester and pembrokshire


"OP, I feel this all the time. "
Looking at your pictures you really have no need to feel this way.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow "

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to but then realised that the other person might feel that about me in their opinion so I send the message anyway. Nothing to lose other than a 2 minutes typing session to try and attract attention.

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By *rneil OP   Man
over a year ago

rochester and pembrokshire


"I think that all the time but then there is the odd thread that encourages you to name names and wam!! The people you thought wouldn't be interested are!! "
Again looking at your pictures you really have no need to feel like that

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

All the time but I know I have an appallingly poor self image.

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By *ighting17thMan
over a year ago

Bodmin

Just have confidence and pride in yourself and you will be fine-personality seems to be the most important thing to many, be able to have a conversation and write decent messages, etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really look at it that way. It isn't really about "leagues" for me.

Some people sound like they are looking for a couple like us, and that's great! And some are looking for something else, and that's great, too!

It's not like all the hot people fuck in one room and the not hot people fuck in another...or is it

-Courtney

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

Oh god yes. Crippling insecurity and anxiety and fear of rejection. Same at clubs - too nervous to approach. It's horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know where you're coming from OP.

Like others have said I don't think anyone is 'out of my league' as a person in general but in terms of physical looks / attributes for a no strings sex meet I do think 'there's no way they'd go for me'.

This also applies to veris they've had and people they've met: call me insecure but if I can see they've met toned, handsome guys and given them gushing sexual performance veris, it kind of makes me feel 'bloody hell, I don't think I could live up to that' ..

There's a couple of people I get on well with but not yet met and I'm almost undecided about whether I really *want* to meet (despite them being wonderful people) in case of being a crashing disappointment compared to the guys / women / couples they've already met

But nothing ventured nothing gained! Aim high and hopefully you'll get a really pleasant surprise good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon most people have thought it at least once.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing that makes me die is that in the real world the men I want won't take a second look at me yet here I am for all the world to see and guys like the ones in the real world actually do find me attractive (I am quite picky and can tell by now the guys that don't care what I look like to the ones that actually do)

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I pulled this HAWT black dancer in March... as I said to them

"You're *almost* out of my league..."

19hrs later...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just message anyway what have you got to lose? As previously stated its not all about looks etc on here I felt the same when I first started but my confidence has grown the longer I've been on here just chill and don't over think it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow "

I get contacted by guys I'd consider out of my league all the time. The only reason I think they contact me is because there are so many women on here they're getting a bit desperate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like that all the time OP!

I felt like I was going to pass out with nerves on my first meet!

But it has increased my confidence and I don't think anyone is "out of my league" anymore

Maybe I'm deluded ..... I don't care

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I don't like to think of anyone as out of my league. You never know what people are looking for or the kind of guys they're attracted to.

The reality of Fab however, especially for single guys is that you're generally going to have to be pretty good looking and fit to stand a chance with a lot of the women and couples. So in that sense you will be out of their league and there won't be too much you can do about that but that's more a reflection on the site than a reflection on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've turned down quite a few because of the stunners they have met I know what I look like and won't put myself through it ....if that makes sense.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Who knows what is possible until you attempt the impossible... and succeed?

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By *ovinglife5000Woman
over a year ago

London

no never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've turned down quite a few because of the stunners they have met I know what I look like and won't put myself through it ....if that makes sense. "

But what if one day they want a woman who is petit and slim and the next day they want a woman with great boobs and a bum? I think guys generally like variety... no?

-Courtney

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport


"Just message anyway what have you got to lose? As previously stated its not all about looks etc on here I felt the same when I first started but my confidence has grown the longer I've been on here just chill and don't over think it x"

The constant ignorings, a few knock backs and the occasional very nasty rejection adds up. I have come to the point that I rarely bother now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I never think that. No one is better than anyone else. People either appeal to others or they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just message anyway what have you got to lose? As previously stated its not all about looks etc on here I felt the same when I first started but my confidence has grown the longer I've been on here just chill and don't over think it x

The constant ignorings, a few knock backs and the occasional very nasty rejection adds up. I have come to the point that I rarely bother now."

Keep at it buddy! Like yourself, I've had all of the above. Yet somehow I've managed meets and, believe me, if I can get meets ANYONE can!

Keep at it, keep positive and I'm sure the rewards will come! Good luck fella!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'The only thing lower than my self esteem are my standards'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not out of our league but there are couples we like the look of but don't message them. Not through fear of rejection but more that we don't think we fit the descriptions of what they're looking for.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not out of our league but there are couples we like the look of but don't message them. Not through fear of rejection but more that we don't think we fit the descriptions of what they're looking for.

Mrs x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have very hot men message me and want to meet me , who I think in real life wouldn't look twice at me ... But they insist and yea I have met them and yea they have wanted me !!

Boots your confidence for sure !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And some people who were once Premier league standard and now Championship league...and still hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Keep at it buddy! Like yourself, I've had all of the above. Yet somehow I've managed meets and, believe me, if I can get meets ANYONE can!

Keep at it, keep positive and I'm sure the rewards will come! Good luck fella! "

Be nicer to yourself!!!!! Be nicer to yourself. Be nicer to yourself.

You, like many other men, are amazingly nice, but you are not nice to yourself. A woman who wants to meet you is just as lucky to meet you as you are to meet her.

-Courtney

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Fortune favours the brave

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

It is not that I don't get the occasional meet it is that I now either wait for those looking for something specific to contact me or only message people who seem to have very similar interests either through their profile or forum posts. The latter is fairly rare however as most of the people I have meet don't have profiles that match their interests.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

It's never occurred to me that I should not be good enough for someone - if I like a woman or a couple and we seem compatible, I'll message them.

There are some on here though that,in my opinion, from what they've written in there profiles, come across (to me) as thinking they are better than others.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I've turned down quite a few because of the stunners they have met I know what I look like and won't put myself through it ....if that makes sense.

But what if one day they want a woman who is petit and slim and the next day they want a woman with great boobs and a bum? I think guys generally like variety... no?

-Courtney"

That's it. Men do like variety. A woman comes in many different forms. All of which can be equally delectable. A lot of men do have a wide range when it comes to what they find attractive. And if a man's saying he wants to be with you, then he wants to be with you. Not sure if women see men in a similar way. Maybe a woman could answer that.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm not sure I ever think someone is out of my league... I don't know that I have self esteem issues either but often I'll look at a gym bod and think 'why on earth would someone with a body like that want someone with a body like mine?'

I'm comfy in my skin, I could do with a few less chins but in general I'm pretty happy with my lot. I'd quite like to be a bit fitter for health reasons so maybe finding a gym bod to keep me moving would be a good thing but I'd never approach one. I'd be permanently holding in my tummy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Keep at it buddy! Like yourself, I've had all of the above. Yet somehow I've managed meets and, believe me, if I can get meets ANYONE can!

Keep at it, keep positive and I'm sure the rewards will come! Good luck fella!

Be nicer to yourself!!!!! Be nicer to yourself. Be nicer to yourself.

You, like many other men, are amazingly nice, but you are not nice to yourself. A woman who wants to meet you is just as lucky to meet you as you are to meet her.

-Courtney"

lol sometimes it needs a Trans Atlantic approach to kick us out of our British reserve! Spot on Courtney!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think that sometimes

But through simple chatting and just being urself has given the confidence to send a mail. I not a serial mailing but just every now and then you get little surprise that cheers u up. Suppose it's down to how well u can handle rejection.

So people of fab think twice how u might let down a fellow swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that."

We aren't over confident or arrogant .... but no one is out of our league and we aren't too good for anyone either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to think anyone I like is going to be out of my league, mind you I've been messaging one and it looks hopeful that we might meet - when she called me gorgeous I was smiling the rest of the day......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the fear of rejection for me...I had many years of being told I was fat ugly etc ... I now am happy with myself but that fear of rejection is always there is guess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that."

Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school.

Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that.

Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school.

Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it. "

and they add to the insecurity as people are unsure if they are not mentioned and that's a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that.

Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school.

Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it. "

ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes sometimes i do especially where a certain guy is concerned

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that.

Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school.

Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.

and they add to the insecurity as people are unsure if they are not mentioned and that's a shame."

It is a shame....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that.

Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school.

Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.

ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties "

It clearly doesn't work. There's a thread every other day. If people can't hook up on a sex site.... gawwwd.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that.

Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school.

Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.

and they add to the insecurity as people are unsure if they are not mentioned and that's a shame.

It is a shame.... "

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that.

Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school.

Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.

ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties

It clearly doesn't work. There's a thread every other day. If people can't hook up on a sex site.... gawwwd. "

Shall we have a night out and if there is anyone you fancy I'll tell them and visa versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really look at it that way. It isn't really about "leagues" for me.

Some people sound like they are looking for a couple like us, and that's great! And some are looking for something else, and that's great, too!

It's not like all the hot people fuck in one room and the not hot people fuck in another...or is it

-Courtney"
I'm just looking for you Courtney I need you to educate me and analyse me

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank.....

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank....."

Just as well I like a good wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank....."

Haha

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank.....

Just as well I like a good wank "

but you can have a fag whilst you wank, it's outside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank.....

Just as well I like a good wank

but you can have a fag whilst you wank, it's outside "

A plan with no draw backs

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"no, the hot people fuck in one room and the not so hot get to look through the window and wank....."

It does make you wonder though. I never feel the urge to name people unless it's threads about going for a few beers cause there's lots of you I'd love a night out with. I much prefer going to a social and meeting everyone... then if there's a spark it's pretty obvious.

Equally, you send a message with 'fancy a fuck*' and they say no thanks, it's not the end of the world. We're not 12!

*do not send 'fancy a fuck' messages to strangers... they never work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow "

Ive been really surprised with some of the meets ive got? Chat normally and be nice to people and there is no harm in sending a polite message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that.

Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school.

Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.

ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties

It clearly doesn't work. There's a thread every other day. If people can't hook up on a sex site.... gawwwd.

Shall we have a night out and if there is anyone you fancy I'll tell them and visa versa "

That sounds fun.

I'm such a tit, I've been doing it wrong. I mail people I fancy and if the feeling's mutual we fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here."

I think you know when somebody is out of your league, people say personality counts but when sending a message it don't, if you mail somebody and they don't like your pics they aren't going to bother getting to know you to see if your a nice person or not

I've mailed many guys and never got a reply from a single one, because my tastes are to high I guess so now I don't bother I know from looking at a guy if he will mail be back, you only have to look at who's verified them to know if your their type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very suprised that ladies think this too

Wow

there is more insecurity than you would imagine, you just need to read the constant reassurance threads to identify that.

Not much amazes me but the weekly/ daily "who do you fancy" threads really does amaze me. For a site supposedly for adults it's like being back at primary school.

Do people ever mail each other??! I'm starting to believe the threads about forumites not actually meeting and just dreaming about it.

ah takes me back to 'my mate fancies your mate' at school. To be fair that used to work, sometimes, perhaps we should use that as a technique on here and buddy up with an online friend so we can all tell each other via third parties

It clearly doesn't work. There's a thread every other day. If people can't hook up on a sex site.... gawwwd. "

Fancy a fuck?!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here."

OP maybe instead of looking at your defects in yourself ( we all have them and we know what they are ) and letting them lower your confidence to the level where you expect to be rejected and fear that rejection because it re-enforces your negative thoughts about yourself.

You should silly as its sounds write down or make a list of what you consider you good qualities and good pionts.all these will most likely have very little to do with your looks or body shape .

Then start messaging people you find attractive if you get knocked back you can then reassure yourself by going back to your list .you will then realise you were turned down not on who you are as person but who you are as a static object in a picture .

This thought then should help you to deal with the rejection after all it wasn't you that was rejected it was only a static picture that because its a picture was only high lighting your looks your outer skin not the real you .

Hope this helps OP and anyone who's low on confidence self esteem to understand its not them being rejected its a image of them a facsimile only.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here.

OP maybe instead of looking at your defects in yourself ( we all have them and we know what they are ) and letting them lower your confidence to the level where you expect to be rejected and fear that rejection because it re-enforces your negative thoughts about yourself.

You should silly as its sounds write down or make a list of what you consider you good qualities and good pionts.all these will most likely have very little to do with your looks or body shape .

Then start messaging people you find attractive if you get knocked back you can then reassure yourself by going back to your list .you will then realise you were turned down not on who you are as person but who you are as a static object in a picture .

This thought then should help you to deal with the rejection after all it wasn't you that was rejected it was only a static picture that because its a picture was only high lighting your looks your outer skin not the real you .

Hope this helps OP and anyone who's low on confidence self esteem to understand its not them being rejected its a image of them a facsimile only.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here.

OP maybe instead of looking at your defects in yourself ( we all have them and we know what they are ) and letting them lower your confidence to the level where you expect to be rejected and fear that rejection because it re-enforces your negative thoughts about yourself.

You should silly as its sounds write down or make a list of what you consider you good qualities and good pionts.all these will most likely have very little to do with your looks or body shape .

Then start messaging people you find attractive if you get knocked back you can then reassure yourself by going back to your list .you will then realise you were turned down not on who you are as person but who you are as a static object in a picture .

This thought then should help you to deal with the rejection after all it wasn't you that was rejected it was only a static picture that because its a picture was only high lighting your looks your outer skin not the real you .

Hope this helps OP and anyone who's low on confidence self esteem to understand its not them being rejected its a image of them a facsimile only.

"
hi are you out of my league sexy bum ?

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here.

OP maybe instead of looking at your defects in yourself ( we all have them and we know what they are ) and letting them lower your confidence to the level where you expect to be rejected and fear that rejection because it re-enforces your negative thoughts about yourself.

You should silly as its sounds write down or make a list of what you consider you good qualities and good pionts.all these will most likely have very little to do with your looks or body shape .

Then start messaging people you find attractive if you get knocked back you can then reassure yourself by going back to your list .you will then realise you were turned down not on who you are as person but who you are as a static object in a picture .

This thought then should help you to deal with the rejection after all it wasn't you that was rejected it was only a static picture that because its a picture was only high lighting your looks your outer skin not the real you .

Hope this helps OP and anyone who's low on confidence self esteem to understand its not them being rejected its a image of them a facsimile only.

hi are you out of my league sexy bum ? "

what do you think

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By *rneil OP   Man
over a year ago

rochester and pembrokshire

This has been a real eye opener i thank each and every one of you for your comments and input.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I was never put into a league, so it doesn't cross my mind. I like many different types of people, so others' tastes will likely include me sometimes and not others.

There's only one way to find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

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By *laire4UWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

No never feel someone is out of my league to meet them but wondering if some feel they are out of my league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty are out of my league but if you dont ask you never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just message anyway what have you got to lose? As previously stated its not all about looks etc on here I felt the same when I first started but my confidence has grown the longer I've been on here just chill and don't over think it x

The constant ignorings, a few knock backs and the occasional very nasty rejection adds up. I have come to the point that I rarely bother now."

Maybe its more difficult being a single male on here but I wouldn't take any notice of people being nasty, they're just keyboard warriors and probably not worth your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty are out of my league but if you dont ask you never know "

That is true

Some of the guys who mail me I would never mail them first because I wouldn't in a million years think they would be interested

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"Plenty are out of my league but if you dont ask you never know

That is true

Some of the guys who mail me I would never mail them first because I wouldn't in a million years think they would be interested

"

I'm the same!!! Especially when I look at veris & see pics of stunning figures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never thought we were out of anyone's "league" . what's the worst that can happen? If someone thinks that, then we don't lose any sleep over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty are out of my league but if you dont ask you never know

That is true

Some of the guys who mail me I would never mail them first because I wouldn't in a million years think they would be interested

"

I'm the same, I don't send a mail as I think they're well out of my league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!"

Of course it's self-imposed, the league is in my head but that's the most important place! If I don't feel comfortable in my head, I won't enjoy myself. That's why no two people's leagues are the same. But I'm only bothered about what I think, and if I think someone is out of my league then any protestations that they're not are pointless, because I'm not interested in feeling like second best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Plenty are out of my league but if you dont ask you never know

That is true

Some of the guys who mail me I would never mail them first because I wouldn't in a million years think they would be interested

I'm the same!!! Especially when I look at veris & see pics of stunning figures "

Does this mean you don't think you have a stunning figure???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always perseverance ...no one's out of anyone's league...its personal taste and people giving u a chance. I have met two absolutely stunning ladies on here ..consider myself lucky. hey take a chance sometimes it works out....dont give up. Sometimes the super hot ones are the most laid back and welcoming. ..rather than the precieved _iew they maybe stuck up abt there beauty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

Of course it's self-imposed, the league is in my head but that's the most important place! If I don't feel comfortable in my head, I won't enjoy myself. That's why no two people's leagues are the same. But I'm only bothered about what I think, and if I think someone is out of my league then any protestations that they're not are pointless, because I'm not interested in feeling like second best."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

Of course it's self-imposed, the league is in my head but that's the most important place! If I don't feel comfortable in my head, I won't enjoy myself. That's why no two people's leagues are the same. But I'm only bothered about what I think, and if I think someone is out of my league then any protestations that they're not are pointless, because I'm not interested in feeling like second best."

But I think your out of my league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress "

I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think this so if a guy or couple are interested I then think they won't be after the dreaded face pic swap lol!! If they are then we are very pleased but still wonder why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress "

I think for me is not wanting that feeling of just being a make do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress

I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x"

That's not always true

I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel it all the time here. I don't get many replys but there are so many guys twice the size down there with six packs who seem to get the pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress

I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x

That's not always true

I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up "

But are those sort of people the type you want to meet? To me that's just natures way of saving you a meeting with a twat!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world"

If you think that what hope do I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world"

Who could say no to an arse like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress

I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x

That's not always true

I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up "

Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think this a lot!

Try to measure up against attractiveness levels and only contact those I think will realistically answer us

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world

If you think that what hope do I have "

Sorry off topic a bit here but that wallpaper is ace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't believe someone stood ruby up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here."

You're probably right mate.... no point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress

I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x

That's not always true

I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up

Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option. "

Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've turned down quite a few because of the stunners they have met I know what I look like and won't put myself through it ....if that makes sense. "

This ????

I sometimes tell the M not to mail couples if the F is hotter than me as I don't want the other M to be disappointed and be left out during the meet as all attention would be on her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world

If you think that what hope do I have

Sorry off topic a bit here but that wallpaper is ace "

Thanks. Says a lot for me though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the male of us and I have to say yes I think people are out of our league but there again no one is out of our league really , we are human and we all have different tastes , so to all them sexy young hot people with perfect bodies do me a favour . Stop mithering me I'm not interested !!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress

I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x

That's not always true

I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up

Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option.

Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly "

It's a bit shit either way to be fair

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress

I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x

That's not always true

I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up

Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option.

Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly

It's a bit shit either way to be fair "

My all time kick in the balls was a guy I arranged to meet who pulled up in his car, looked and me and just drove off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes when some guys contact me i think there out of my league and would not really be intrested in me in the real world

Who could say no to an arse like that "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

"

You can't when they just drive off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess few are, but remember one reason they may not contact us back, might be cos they think they are out of our league

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By *laire4UWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress

I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If thee went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x

That's not always true

I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up

Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option.

Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly

It's a bit shit either way to be fair

My all time kick in the balls was a guy I arranged to meet who pulled up in his car, looked and me and just drove off "
you seem to do well on meeting, plenty of verifications

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London

I know both feelings, on here and real life. On here I was contacted by a girl who said directly in her first message I was "waaaaay" out her league and so she wouldn't ask me to meet

As well I was rejected by another girl because I was not her type.

Try (gently), it is the only thing you have to do and you will never have regrets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know both feelings, on here and real life. On here I was contacted by a girl who said directly in her first message I was "waaaaay" out her league and so she wouldn't ask me to meet

As well I was rejected by another girl because I was not her type.

Try (gently), it is the only thing you have to do and you will never have regrets "

Why would anybody send a mail to somebody to tell them they won't ask for a meet because your out of their league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I could never meet someone who wouldn't look twice at me in "real life", I'm not sure if it's anything to do with leagues or with the fact that i don't want to see the look of horror on their faces as I undress

I don't think anyone would have that look on their face.. If they went to the effort of contacting you, chatting for some time and then arranging a meet then they will be 100% interested in you and your body so no need to worry about that lol x

That's not always true

I arranged a meet with a guy who let me down last minute because he had gotten a better offer, some guys just like one simmering in the back ground incase nothing better come up

Yup, I had the same except he didn't even tell me, just stood me up and I found out ages later that he'd gone to fuck someone else. I'm not prepared to feel like anyone's fall back option.

Not sure if that's better or worse, getting a text saying the meets off because they are meeting somebody else now isnt nice but I suppose you have to love the honestly

It's a bit shit either way to be fair

My all time kick in the balls was a guy I arranged to meet who pulled up in his car, looked and me and just drove off "

I remember you telling that story. What a kick in the balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know both feelings, on here and real life. On here I was contacted by a girl who said directly in her first message I was "waaaaay" out her league and so she wouldn't ask me to meet

As well I was rejected by another girl because I was not her type.

Try (gently), it is the only thing you have to do and you will never have regrets

Why would anybody send a mail to somebody to tell them they won't ask for a meet because your out of their league

"

Reverse psychology/shock them kinda thing 'oh no you're not. You're lovely'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I just add - none of this means I think the people I do meet are mingers, just that I'm sure they actually want to meet me, as opposed to me being the most convenient accessible hole who may get bumped for a thinner or perkier one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off "

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney"

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have this feeling all the time - since very few women respond in any way to my profile,message,winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting "

Isn't that just something that ugly people say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about what you've done in the real world,what you've achieved,the women that you have met,slept with,had relationships with etc and take your confidence from there.

It would be easier for you to score in your local town/city on a weekend if it's sex that you're after. It really isn't difficult....drinks,music,lights,loosing your inhibitions.

It has always worked for both sexes that way and always will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I think the opposite but then I'm an arrogant cunt so thats natural I guess.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting

Isn't that just something that ugly people say? "

Speak for yourself ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney"

Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.

Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting "

Not better. But I can consider myself better looking or a funnier, more interesting person than someone else and they the same about me. Otherwise we'd be equally attracted to everyone in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney

Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.

Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to."

I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.

And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting

Isn't that just something that ugly people say?

Speak for yourself ugly "

You're absolutely right! lol

Don't know what happened, I was a kid model growing up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney

Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.

Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.

I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.

And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)"

That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney

Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.

Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.

I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.

And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)

That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop "

No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting

Not better. But I can consider myself better looking or a funnier, more interesting person than someone else and they the same about me. Otherwise we'd be equally attracted to everyone in the world.

"

Everyone's opinion is different When it comes to who's better looking and everybody has different opinions on what makes a person interesting so you may think your better looking than some people but not everyone will agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still cant believe people still want to meet Poppa Smurf lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

No one is out of my league...I go in for the kill if I get rejected I just take it on the chin and move on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one is out of my league...I go in for the kill if I get rejected I just take it on the chin and move on.. "

Best way to be

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

An experience of mine!

Like the OP, I too have similar feelings although mine may be slightly more justified as I have less experience (despite my advancing years ) an health problems.

I`m sat in one of the jaccuzzis in Chams one Sunday night. Firstly, a couple of which the lady is younger than me and good looking enters the jaccuzzi and being the sort of guy I am, move to give them room. Then a single lady closer to my age entered the jaccuzzi but was separated from me by another single male and eventually another couple as well. I was getting a bit disappointed that I was getting pushed away from the lady I wanted to focus on but was getting pushed towards the couple with the younger lady who`s "league" was "above" mine and I was getting quite uncomfortable in trying to maintain a respectful distance and I hope this was obvious to the couple. Suddenly I was aware of the younger lady`s hand on my cock and she proceeded to give a hand job - no verbal contact, no eye contact, just a hand job!

OP! Just be patient, READ profiles until you know every word and get yourself along to clubs and socials. Talk to people while your there. Talk to both halves of the couple, talk to other single guys who may well introduce you the sort of people you would benefit from meeting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a couple we aslo feel like this at times especailly when we dont get much interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No such thing. Nobody is better than anyone else and if they think they are they're so not worth meeting

Not better. But I can consider myself better looking or a funnier, more interesting person than someone else and they the same about me. Otherwise we'd be equally attracted to everyone in the world.

Everyone's opinion is different When it comes to who's better looking and everybody has different opinions on what makes a person interesting so you may think your better looking than some people but not everyone will agree"

Well yeah, obviously. But it's my opinion that matters to me, so if I think someone is too good looking for me then even if they disagree they probably aren't going to be able to convince me otherwise. I don't really give a shit what other people think, I give a shit what I think.

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over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney

Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.

Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.

I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.

And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)

That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop

No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead...."

But if you're having toast for tea, and then someone dangles the prospect of steak in front of you, even if you were happy with the toast to start with and can have steak tomorrow instead, you're still going to be thinking "damn"....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had guys say they have seen our past meets and so I wouldn't be interested in them!

I say if you like someone then tell them what have you got to lose!!

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over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney

Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.

Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.

I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.

And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)

That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop

No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead....

But if you're having toast for tea, and then someone dangles the prospect of steak in front of you, even if you were happy with the toast to start with and can have steak tomorrow instead, you're still going to be thinking "damn"...."

I think we are just going to disagree on this. For me, when I decide I want to see someone, then that's it. I wouldn't meet toast. It would just be different levels of steak. Do I fancy prime rib, sirloin, or (I dunno, I'm veggie so I don't know different kinds of meat ). So if I am meeting prime rib, and sirloin asks for a meet, I will reschedule sirloin for another day and I wouldn't mind because I have prime rib tonight.

Like I said, the people that would cancel are, to me, just assholes. Since being on fab for longer, I think I am getting better as figuring out who they are. They are the toast, regardless of how hot they are.

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over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney

Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.

Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.

I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.

And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)

That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop

No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead....

But if you're having toast for tea, and then someone dangles the prospect of steak in front of you, even if you were happy with the toast to start with and can have steak tomorrow instead, you're still going to be thinking "damn"....

I think we are just going to disagree on this. For me, when I decide I want to see someone, then that's it. I wouldn't meet toast. It would just be different levels of steak. Do I fancy prime rib, sirloin, or (I dunno, I'm veggie so I don't know different kinds of meat ). So if I am meeting prime rib, and sirloin asks for a meet, I will reschedule sirloin for another day and I wouldn't mind because I have prime rib tonight.

Like I said, the people that would cancel are, to me, just assholes. Since being on fab for longer, I think I am getting better as figuring out who they are. They are the toast, regardless of how hot they are. "

I don't meet toast either. The difference we disagree on is that I won't meet anyone for whom I am toast and not steak. I only want to be streak, I don't want to feel like toast, even if it's the juiciest fillet steak on offer. If I'm going to feel like toast, I'm out.

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

Yes, I feel this a lot especially as we are in the older/mature age range.

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over a year ago


"Don't make me get my thread out from yesterday! I will you know!! Theres no such thing as leagues, its all self imposed, just talk to them!!

You can't when they just drive off

We had a guy cancel on us an hour before the meet because "his grandfather was in the hospital." He then had a veri from a single woman the next day.

My point is that the assholes are assholes. It has nothing to do with leagues. There are assholes, then there are nice people. Find the nice people who are also attracted to you

-Courtney

Well yeah - but the crucial bit there is "who are also attracted to you". And the leagues we all have in our minds are what determines that.

Anyway, even if someone is nice and knocks back the hottie who messaged them for a meet at the last minute because they don't want to cancel on me - that's still shit because they're going to be wishing they didn't have to.

I disagree with the last bit. They can just reschedule. Its simple.

And I was way hotter than her anyway!! (joke!!!)

That's the difference then, I don't want to meet anyone who is going to reschedule me for someone else full stop

No No! I mean they can reschedule with the other person. So they won't be wishing they were with them instead....

But if you're having toast for tea, and then someone dangles the prospect of steak in front of you, even if you were happy with the toast to start with and can have steak tomorrow instead, you're still going to be thinking "damn"....

I think we are just going to disagree on this. For me, when I decide I want to see someone, then that's it. I wouldn't meet toast. It would just be different levels of steak. Do I fancy prime rib, sirloin, or (I dunno, I'm veggie so I don't know different kinds of meat ). So if I am meeting prime rib, and sirloin asks for a meet, I will reschedule sirloin for another day and I wouldn't mind because I have prime rib tonight.

Like I said, the people that would cancel are, to me, just assholes. Since being on fab for longer, I think I am getting better as figuring out who they are. They are the toast, regardless of how hot they are.

I don't meet toast either. The difference we disagree on is that I won't meet anyone for whom I am toast and not steak. I only want to be streak, I don't want to feel like toast, even if it's the juiciest fillet steak on offer. If I'm going to feel like toast, I'm out. "

Well, I know you are going to say you aren't and that it just depends on how you feel, but I think you should never feel like toast. Never.

And if you do then it shouldn't just be because of how someone else looks. It should be because you can tell they are an asshole.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I really want toast now!

With proper butter and homemade strawberry jam!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a woman on here who I thought was out of my league but it turns out she likes me too

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By *ark_KnightsMan
over a year ago

london

Not out of my league as such but seems like I'm not their preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here."
my philosophy ,if you don't ask you don't get xx

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over a year ago


"I come on here and look at the ladies and couples and I sometime think that there is no point contacting them as they are way out of my league just wondering do others think the same ? This is meant as a compliment to all the stunning ladies and couples on here."

No. I contact them- if we have the right rapport and there is chemistry it matters little.

Its not the playground where the pretty girls and sporty guys all date each other anymore!

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London


"Why would anybody send a mail to somebody to tell them they won't ask for a meet because your out of their league

"

Strange type of approach...you know girls but she wanted to thank me for the pic I fabbed

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London


"toasts, steaks, ribs, etc"

I am eating tuna steaks tonight. Hope you all are ok with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dud used to but since I've been here after meeting a few people they've actually said I'm pretty decent looking, couldn't see it myself but now I have a little more confidence about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would anybody send a mail to somebody to tell them they won't ask for a meet because your out of their league

Strange type of approach...you know girls but she wanted to thank me for the pic I fabbed"

Are you just making this up

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London


"Are you just making this up "

Yeah right... I created a thread for "funny messages XD" but it was deleted. I have lots of them.

This was one funny but very appreciated. Good for my ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like to think of anyone as out of my league. You never know what people are looking for or the kind of guys they're attracted to.

The reality of Fab however, especially for single guys is that you're generally going to have to be pretty good looking and fit to stand a chance with a lot of the women and couples. So in that sense you will be out of their league and there won't be too much you can do about that but that's more a reflection on the site than a reflection on you."

Amen. Also there might be some women and couples here that will like you. But some people get dozens or even hundreds of messages a day. They'll delete 99% of their messages without reading them. Just try not to take it too personally as we all have our preferences and there will be people out there and on here who will really like you.

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