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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I'm a happy bunny... I've finally made things official with my fwb and we're together. Don't get me wrong as I am very very very happy... however.

We've spent the four out of the past six nights together, and as I'm so independent - and he's doing the chasing - I'm starting to feel like I need space, but when we do have space I miss him

Bear in mind I have been single for four years so maybe I'm so used to being by myself so much! Have any other long term singletons felt like this when in a new relationship? Or have I gone completely mad? (Probably...)

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Seems perfectly reasonable.

Give him 3 days a week to spend together - he can choose and preserve the fiction that he has some choice.

Best of both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its been like that for 6 years for me. We're together but there's no real commitment. We like our own space.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I would probably feel the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's understandable you would want a bit of space if you've been single for so long, if you wasn't missing him when he wasn't around then I'd be worried but you are so that's good xx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

That's exactly why I'm single.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's understandable you would want a bit of space if you've been single for so long, if you wasn't missing him when he wasn't around then I'd be worried but you are so that's good xx"

Oh, I really really really miss him! Being in my own bed on my own doesn't feel right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds pretty normal to me - and a bit of space is important too so you can appreciate each other all the more when you're together

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seems perfectly reasonable.

Give him 3 days a week to spend together - he can choose and preserve the fiction that he has some choice.

Best of both?"

I think so... maybe. Or when we're not together I'll potter around and do more of my own stuff.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds pretty normal to me - and a bit of space is important too so you can appreciate each other all the more when you're together "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's understandable you would want a bit of space if you've been single for so long, if you wasn't missing him when he wasn't around then I'd be worried but you are so that's good xx

Oh, I really really really miss him! Being in my own bed on my own doesn't feel right now "

That's a really nice feeling to miss someone but not at the same time, it kinda hurts too!!

I'm actually really happy for you and I hope you get the balance right xxx

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Just however you do, make sure you sit down at the beginning and say the are the ground rules - they may change over time but if you're honest from the off it save a whole lotta trouble.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's understandable you would want a bit of space if you've been single for so long, if you wasn't missing him when he wasn't around then I'd be worried but you are so that's good xx

Oh, I really really really miss him! Being in my own bed on my own doesn't feel right now

That's a really nice feeling to miss someone but not at the same time, it kinda hurts too!!

I'm actually really happy for you and I hope you get the balance right xxx"

Aw, thank you

This situation's been a loooooong long long long time coming!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just however you do, make sure you sit down at the beginning and say the are the ground rules - they may change over time but if you're honest from the off it save a whole lotta trouble. "

Yeah, we're very very very honest with each other, brutally so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its only natural to feel like you want your own space after being on your own for a while. Having someone around 24/7 is a big change, and can be difficult no matter how much you love being with them. So maybe just have a few days a week together until you adjust. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Just however you do, make sure you sit down at the beginning and say the are the ground rules - they may change over time but if you're honest from the off it save a whole lotta trouble.

Yeah, we're very very very honest with each other, brutally so "

Best way to be. Then you can have your own space when he's around. I need to be able to breathe and I'm properly cross when I don't get quality time by myself. Glad you found some love!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just however you do, make sure you sit down at the beginning and say the are the ground rules - they may change over time but if you're honest from the off it save a whole lotta trouble.

Yeah, we're very very very honest with each other, brutally so

Best way to be. Then you can have your own space when he's around. I need to be able to breathe and I'm properly cross when I don't get quality time by myself. Glad you found some love! "

I'm the same, I get reeeeeeally stroppy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, it doesn't matter how long you've been together or how in love you are, you will probably still need your space.

The fact that I like being on my own doesn't mean that I don't love my OH. Far from it.

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