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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever had a sub drop after a play session with their daddy and what is the best way to overcome it? Feeling very fragile after my 1st hard session with my 1st ever daddy and I've no idea of what to do.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Your Dom should help to look after you after your play session. He needs to make sure that you are ok physically and emotionally. Talk to him about your feelings now and see how he can help in the future.

Sub drop is not always unavoidable so you need to work out what support you need after. Be it cuddles and reassurance, talking about what happened in the session etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your Dom should help to look after you after your play session. He needs to make sure that you are ok physically and emotionally. Talk to him about your feelings now and see how he can help in the future.

Sub drop is not always unavoidable so you need to work out what support you need after. Be it cuddles and reassurance, talking about what happened in the session etc"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was all a bit of a shock. I'm v new to the daddy girl relationship and up till now my daddy had been soft with me in sessions. I had been naughty so I knew he was going to punish me but I wasn't sure it would be to the point that I was exhausted and near to tears xx I don't know how to mention it to him cos I felt great afterwards but last night the negative feelings regret pain etc hit x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Search for 'sub drop' in the forums. There have been lots of really helpful threads. You're not alone. Hope you feel better soon. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was all a bit of a shock. I'm v new to the daddy girl relationship and up till now my daddy had been soft with me in sessions. I had been naughty so I knew he was going to punish me but I wasn't sure it would be to the point that I was exhausted and near to tears xx I don't know how to mention it to him cos I felt great afterwards but last night the negative feelings regret pain etc hit x"

If you don't feel confident enough to talk to him then their should be no hard sessions... Plus any dominant and even more so a daddy should realise that the worst thing in the world for a little is to know that they have needed punishing. And made sure you were okay.

You should never be afraid to talk to him. To be honest I think it will.be less likely to be subdrop and more likely just to do with the whole heap of emotions that letting your daddy down has done. But he is meant to look out for your emotional and mental well being x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd plan on lots of contact after a session, so you're not physically alone. Lots of tender touching, a fully evened up balance between you and thorough discussion of emotional state and thoughts.

Eat well and don't rush from one high/low to another, whether with food or anything else.

Duration can be a bit unpredictable, so allow your schedule to be comfortable for a couple of days.

The forums have had a few posts but the net has lots too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What aftercare did your Dom provide?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the fact that you feel you can;t talk to your Dom about how you feel is really worrying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this sometimes. Feel free to message me if you would like and understanding ear

Rach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the fact that you feel you can;t talk to your Dom about how you feel is really worrying. "

Very worrying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the fact that you feel you can;t talk to your Dom about how you feel is really worrying. "

This was the biggest alarm bell for me .. x

Even if it's just in a journal that the dominant has access too... But communication is always key... And that is never more true than in power dynamic relationships or arrangements

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

make sure you are warm and comfortable in a quiet space afterwards also keep your blood sugars up immediately afterwards .would be looking at a good half hour of sitting quietly receiving cuddles and relaxing after any hard session

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was all a bit of a shock. I'm v new to the daddy girl relationship and up till now my daddy had been soft with me in sessions. I had been naughty so I knew he was going to punish me but I wasn't sure it would be to the point that I was exhausted and near to tears xx I don't know how to mention it to him cos I felt great afterwards but last night the negative feelings regret pain etc hit x"

As my old grand dad would say

Piss or get off the pot.

You entered this emotional contract clearly not knowing your boundaries or his, and he didn't seem to care about yours.

The sub women I know are strong individuals and would soon let their Dom know they had crossed a line the next time they had their balls in her mouth.

Probably an

unpopular answer but hey ho.

I do worry for young women getting into this lifestyle though.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"It was all a bit of a shock. I'm v new to the daddy girl relationship and up till now my daddy had been soft with me in sessions. I had been naughty so I knew he was going to punish me but I wasn't sure it would be to the point that I was exhausted and near to tears xx I don't know how to mention it to him cos I felt great afterwards but last night the negative feelings regret pain etc hit x

As my old grand dad would say

Piss or get off the pot.

You entered this emotional contract clearly not knowing your boundaries or his, and he didn't seem to care about yours.

The sub women I know are strong individuals and would soon let their Dom know they had crossed a line the next time they had their balls in her mouth.

Probably an

unpopular answer but hey ho.

I do worry for young women getting into this lifestyle though. "

Well with helpful supportive comments like this I'm sure they'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I leave it to everyone else to placate people all of the time.

Its not my style. I post what I see.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Yeah I leave it to everyone else to placate people all of the time.

Its not my style. I post what I see. "

You don't have to placate but educate rather than just tell them to 'piss or get off the pot'!

No one comes into this sort of lifestyle an expert. I'd wager that even you had some learning to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"He admits his aftercare was lacking. We had both had a drink a dn the alcohol played a bit part in the fact he just flaked afterwards.x"

Well I guess there's a lesson in there for you both. My personal preference is zero booze when I'm playing this way. I want us both to be in control. I hope next time is better for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi thanks for all the input and support its much appreciated. I now understand a little more about what to expect from a hard session and what I need to do before and after to take care of myself. I have spoken to my daddy and I know we understand each other. Thanks everyone xx

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

fuuuuuuumin

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Didn't we do this before and come to the conclusion that:-

a) it's to do with the endorphin release after a good session and

b) it's a misnomer to call it a sub-drop when fucker or fuckee can experience it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever had a sub drop after a play session with their daddy and what is the best way to overcome it? Feeling very fragile after my 1st hard session with my 1st ever daddy and I've no idea of what to do. "

Daddy should have thought about this!!! (affection) Lots of cuddles, soft kisses and hand holding, (warmth) a nice warm fleece, (sugar) hot chocolate... chocolate

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