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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we really value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are hard to read and understand, and I just tend to write pardon then if the second one is bad I delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite simple. If I can't understand a message I don't reply. I don't give it a seconds thought to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some are hard to read and understand, and I just tend to write pardon then if the second one is bad I delete "

We are usually about the same. A polite, "We couldn't understand your message." If the reply isn't better we don't bother.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"Some are hard to read and understand, and I just tend to write pardon then if the second one is bad I delete

We are usually about the same. A polite, "We couldn't understand your message." If the reply isn't better we don't bother."

Same here...amazed at how many like this we get especially from guys in their 40's plus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we really value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?"

I like eloquent and proper grammar, if figure if they can't write properly they properly can't speak properly either so I delete the messages.

And text speech, I don't get it, what's wrong with spelling out the whole word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I either send pardon or delete ....mostly delete

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By *AURA6969TV/TS
over a year ago

RUGBY

I always try to be tolerant of people. We are not all educated as well as others.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's the ones who say 'hi I'm ***' that I have trouble not saying 'well congratulations' or 'good for you' to!

Give me something to work with at least!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no"

Yes

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If I can't understand they may get sent a questioning statement or just a question mark.

But if we cant communicate it doesn't bode well for getting on, in all probability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we really value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?"

It is fairly surprising, how many people, are borderline illiterate. It seems unkind to judge people on their lack of certain ability, but I suppose we all do it. If you were to meet any of these people, in an everyday environment, you may find them charming and attractive, and definitely choose to meet again.You may have no idea about their reading/writing difficulties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we ureally value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?"
the way I look at it some are good at the written word and some are not until you meet a person or persons you have really no idea wether they are people whose company you would enjoy ,surely we are about meeting so my point is a few misspelled words really have no bearing on the people ,ok its annoying sometimes but that's all really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some are hard to read and understand, and I just tend to write pardon then if the second one is bad I delete

We are usually about the same. A polite, "We couldn't understand your message." If the reply isn't better we don't bother.

Same here...amazed at how many like this we get especially from guys in their 40's plus."

At the end of the day, age has nothing to do with it. There have always been people with certain learning difficulties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always try to be tolerant of people. We are not all educated as well as others."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We feel that lack of effort in a message might well equal lack of effort in a meet. It's as much about being able to provide some mental stimulation for us.

R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we really value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?

I like eloquent and proper grammar, if figure if they can't write properly they properly can't speak properly either so I delete the messages.

And text speech, I don't get it, what's wrong with spelling out the whole word "
Dear me! If you are going to lecture on "proper" grammar and comprehension at least check your own post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we really value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?

I like eloquent and proper grammar, if figure if they can't write properly they properly can't speak properly either so I delete the messages.

And text speech, I don't get it, what's wrong with spelling out the whole word Dear me! If you are going to lecture on "proper" grammar and comprehension at least check your own post!"

My apologies, I should have written 'I figure' and 'they probably', is that better?

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

It's not just on here. I have a reasonably well educated friend who's texts are usually gibberish. Never bothers to proof read, seems to just close his eyes, mash the keypad and hit send.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not just on here. I have a reasonably well educated friend who's texts are usually gibberish. Never bothers to proof read, seems to just close his eyes, mash the keypad and hit send."

I get the mental image of one of the Muppets (Kermit) mashing his head into the keyboard and then sweeping it back and forth. That certainly will make me smile reading those messages in the future!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some are hard to read and understand, and I just tend to write pardon then if the second one is bad I delete

We are usually about the same. A polite, "We couldn't understand your message." If the reply isn't better we don't bother.

Same here...amazed at how many like this we get especially from guys in their 40's plus."

Probably just got in from a night on the moonshine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One problem I find is when I write the first message I start getting way to formal to the point it's like a sodding job application.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"Some are hard to read and understand, and I just tend to write pardon then if the second one is bad I delete

We are usually about the same. A polite, "We couldn't understand your message." If the reply isn't better we don't bother.

Same here...amazed at how many like this we get especially from guys in their 40's plus.

At the end of the day, age has nothing to do with it. There have always been people with certain learning difficulties."

Learning difficulties yes...and I can make sense of those messages I'm talking about this .... Hu u ildk wd rll 2u ....an excerpt from one of today's messages....translations welcomed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Learning difficulties yes...and I can make sense of those messages I'm talking about this .... Hu u ildk wd rll 2u ....an excerpt from one of today's messages....translations welcomed."

This is very similar to some of the messages that we get. It is difficult to even try to make reasonable responses. Glad to see that we aren't being too harsh with asking for clarification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say spelling is important as older people seem to miss-read a lot of things, as for grammar and the rest no

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady


"I'd say spelling is important as older people seem to miss-read a lot of things, as for grammar and the rest no"

Don't disagree. I frequently misread stuff when people don't spell correctly!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"If I can't understand they may get sent a questioning statement or just a question mark.

But if we cant communicate it doesn't bode well for getting on, in all probability."

This for us too

I hate trying to translate text speak... maybe it's my age

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some are hard to read and understand, and I just tend to write pardon then if the second one is bad I delete

We are usually about the same. A polite, "We couldn't understand your message." If the reply isn't better we don't bother.

Same here...amazed at how many like this we get especially from guys in their 40's plus.

At the end of the day, age has nothing to do with it. There have always been people with certain learning difficulties.

Learning difficulties yes...and I can make sense of those messages I'm talking about this .... Hu u ildk wd rll 2u ....an excerpt from one of today's messages....translations welcomed."

What are you telling me ? You can't read Klingon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant beleave how much shit people get about spelling and grammar on here. Just because there spelling and grammar are shit dose that make them less of a person? They could be amazing at every other thing they do in there life but crap at the above and havent got a chance on here. If you was talking to these people you wouldn't even know.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Believe!

Sorry... couldn't help myself! I'm just yanking your chain. I'm shit at maths but no-one has ever asked meto recite the times table before I fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One problem I find is when I write the first message I start getting way to formal to the point it's like a sodding job application.

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Haha , yeah this. And once you start out that way, even if the response is good, it's difficult to get the conversation flirty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep my spelling and grammar are shocking but it dont bother me in real life. Dont need it for my job that im extremely good at but I am shit in bed because I cant spell

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

It depends how hot they are

Seriously though I don't look for perfect, I'm not. And I've never had a bad message, but even on forum posts some are hard to read.

If you can be arsed to work it out great. If not no worries.

At least it shows op and a few others want to read the messages!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we really value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?"

My grammar and spelling are atrocious...

Does it stop me having a blog to express myself in no ,does it stop me from expressing myself on this forum or in messages no.

Am I embarrassed about my lack of good grammar and spelling yes so much so I am thinking about taking a creative writing class ether online or off line .

Do I get angry with the grammar police no I just feel embarrassed when they point out my errors and there fore my deficiencies in this area ,

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady


"Believe!

Sorry... couldn't help myself! I'm just yanking your chain. I'm shit at maths but no-one has ever asked meto recite the times table before I fuck them. "

It's not just you that's bad with numbers. Many of the guys I meet say 8 and mean 5!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we really value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?

My grammar and spelling are atrocious...

Does it stop me having a blog to express myself in no ,does it stop me from expressing myself on this forum or in messages no.

Am I embarrassed about my lack of good grammar and spelling yes so much so I am thinking about taking a creative writing class ether online or off line .

Do I get angry with the grammar police no I just feel embarrassed when they point out my errors and there fore my deficiencies in this area ,"

There is a book called, Perfect Written English printed by Random House.

It is easy to read and gives you all the grammar rules you will ever need.

As one who had dyslexia at school, it has transformed my writing.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we really value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?

My grammar and spelling are atrocious...

Does it stop me having a blog to express myself in no ,does it stop me from expressing myself on this forum or in messages no.

Am I embarrassed about my lack of good grammar and spelling yes so much so I am thinking about taking a creative writing class ether online or off line .

Do I get angry with the grammar police no I just feel embarrassed when they point out my errors and there fore my deficiencies in this area ,

There is a book called, Perfect Written English printed by Random House.

It is easy to read and gives you all the grammar rules you will ever need.

As one who had dyslexia at school, it has transformed my writing. "

Thank you for that i will look into getting a copy of that book .

my problem stems from going off the rails from 13 to 16 and throwing away those years. then working in a job where English and writing skills were not necessary from the age of 16 if you don't practise a skill you can lose it and forget much of what you learned .

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"Some are hard to read and understand, and I just tend to write pardon then if the second one is bad I delete

We are usually about the same. A polite, "We couldn't understand your message." If the reply isn't better we don't bother.

Same here...amazed at how many like this we get especially from guys in their 40's plus.

At the end of the day, age has nothing to do with it. There have always been people with certain learning difficulties.

Learning difficulties yes...and I can make sense of those messages I'm talking about this .... Hu u ildk wd rll 2u ....an excerpt from one of today's messages....translations welcomed.

What are you telling me ? You can't read Klingon "

Ahhhhh...that's what it is...silly me

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Good grammar pays off. I once had a fantastic meet with someone. I got through the selection process partly based on good spelling and grammar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant beleave how much shit people get about spelling and grammar on here. Just because there spelling and grammar are shit dose that make them less of a person? They could be amazing at every other thing they do in there life but crap at the above and havent got a chance on here. If you was talking to these people you wouldn't even know."

Shock as people communicating via the writen word are judged on their ability to use the written word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get plenty of messages from "straight" blokes, very late at night, no doubt under the influence of substances. It's the only reason I can think of that explains the awful grammar, spelling and manners in their missives. Plenty of them go UNLOS the next day as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get plenty of messages from "straight" blokes, very late at night, no doubt under the influence of substances. It's the only reason I can think of that explains the awful grammar, spelling and manners in their missives. Plenty of them go UNLOS the next day as well."

Until I found out about the filters I had the same issues. It seems some men not only thought but typed with their penis too.

For myself I prefer at least a reasonable level of grammar and well constructed messages. At least to begin with though I am far from being a grammar nazi. I despise the deliberate modern misspellings of words...though I have a friend who does it on social media to fit in despite having read English at university.

I find intelligence attractive, so someone who can get and hold my attention with a message will more than likely get a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get plenty of messages from "straight" blokes, very late at night, no doubt under the influence of substances. It's the only reason I can think of that explains the awful grammar, spelling and manners in their missives. Plenty of them go UNLOS the next day as well.

Until I found out about the filters I had the same issues. It seems some men not only thought but typed with their penis too.

For myself I prefer at least a reasonable level of grammar and well constructed messages. At least to begin with though I am far from being a grammar nazi. I despise the deliberate modern misspellings of words...though I have a friend who does it on social media to fit in despite having read English at university.

I find intelligence attractive, so someone who can get and hold my attention with a message will more than likely get a response "

Yeah innit tho!

Sorry.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Cant beleave how much shit people get about spelling and grammar on here. Just because there spelling and grammar are shit dose that make them less of a person? They could be amazing at every other thing they do in there life but crap at the above and havent got a chance on here. If you was talking to these people you wouldn't even know."

The vast majority of communication on this site is done by way of the written word. Therefore it stands to reason that someone who uses that medium well and makes a great effort in this regard will make for a more successful candidate than someone who does not bother to check and make an effort.

None of this has anything to do with the very few people who actually have learning difficulties which prevent them from writing coherent sentences.

It is a sad reality that many people who simply cannot be bothered to learn make out that they have learning difficulties and thus muddy the ground for those who have genuine problems in this area and are struggling to communicate and be accepted.

Unwilling and unable are two different things.

That said those who did not get taught properly as youngsters need to be encouraged to develop and not shamed for their deficiencies.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Doesnt bother me too much as I understand that there are people that use the site, that have conditions such as Aspergers, Autism and dyslexia, which can effect the way they communicate and also, that most people use the site via their mobiles and autocorrect can be a curse (my iPhone seems to have Tourette's) so I will over look a fair bit as long as its eligible enough to understand what they meant by what they were writing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello everyone! I just wanted to know your feelings on messages that are just so poorly written (grammar, nonsensical words, no punctuation, etc.) that you can barely make sense of them. We generally try to respond to all messages, but if we can't understand the message it becomes increasingly hard to respond properly. As such, we really value and enjoy our conversations with people who write thought-out messages with substance and wit.

Being as that this is a site often based around messaging, how important is it for you that someone is eloquent in their messaging, or does it even make a difference?

I like eloquent and proper grammar, if figure if they can't write properly they properly can't speak properly either so I delete the messages.

And text speech, I don't get it, what's wrong with spelling out the whole word Dear me! If you are going to lecture on "proper" grammar and comprehension at least check your own post!

My apologies, I should have written 'I figure' and 'they probably', is that better?"

Well your still only going to get 8 out of 10 for such a silly mistake ??

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