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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Inspired by the "what were you like?" thread, what were you aspiring to be as an adult aged 15/16, and how different is the present reality?

At that age all I did was play my guitar, write self-indulgent songs of a melancholy nature, and create 'art' (I use that term loosely). I wanted to study 'A' level music and art and be a musician. My mother intervened and made me do other subjects so those plans didn't come to fruition. I also vowed never to have children.

Reality: I'm a gardener who is a single parent to 2 children. My 15 year old self would be horrified!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to be a nanny but after two weeks work experience looking after the little guys soon put a stop to that!

I didn't really have any hopes and dreams, never really been one for looking ahead, although I did always think I'd be a housewife just like my mum with a nice clean home and stuff

Reality: haven't got a career, got three wonderful boys, split from there dad, lodge in a house, hardly any money, the man I married became the househusband and is shit at housework.....yeah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my mid teens I was learning various musical instruments (drums, piano and saxophone) and was thinking of playing music as a career.

In reality I don't think I practised enough to be good enough to earn much of a living and now I work in a shop which I actually enjoy so I can't complain too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to be a multi-millionaire and retire early, got half of it right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to be a policewoman or an interior designer.

I design elearning and generally mess about creating widgets and stuff i love my job. To be fair it did really exist back then xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

didnt*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Inspired by the "what were you like?" thread, what were you aspiring to be as an adult aged 15/16, and how different is the present reality?

At that age all I did was play my guitar, write self-indulgent songs of a melancholy nature, and create 'art' (I use that term loosely). I wanted to study 'A' level music and art and be a musician. My mother intervened and made me do other subjects so those plans didn't come to fruition. I also vowed never to have children.

Reality: I'm a gardener who is a single parent to 2 children. My 15 year old self would be horrified!"
awwww but are you happy ,that's what counts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to be a rock star , a rugby player for wales. write books and go to university , be an archaeologist

I ended up an engineer then left that and now I have my dream job , I am a lucky chap.

still never mastered the guitar but I can cook up a storm on a kazoo

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I wanted to be a Solicitor - nearly made it too but seeing my friends struggling & battling for work has made me grateful I'm now out of it!

I never dreamed I'd be able to be a mum let alone a single one to my 2 boys but right now I'd say my life is just how I want it to be.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I wanted to be in the Police. I did my work experience at Lothian & Borders HQ and they told me to go and see a bit of life then apply. I went to work for criminal lawyers and saw the other side so that was pretty much the end of my career plans in the Police. 20 years later I still work for lawyers but I have the job I want and it's getting better and better. I finally get up in the mornings and enjoy that I like going to work (most of the time... there's always going to be shitty days!).

However, at school I was good at techie drawing and woodwork and I kind of wish I'd gone down that route into some sort of engineering like my Dad. My Mum thought I should get a 'proper' job and made me do economics and secretarial studies.

My only advice would be for anyone with kids is to encourage them to do the things they enjoy at school. Life is so much better when you do a job you love. We have to work to pay the bills, much better to do something you enjoy every day rather than it being a chore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a horny 15/16 guy my aspiration was to find a sexy older woman to take advantage of me, it took a little while but I have now achieved my goal lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same dream now as I did when I was a kid. I'm determined if nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Inspired by the "what were you like?" thread, what were you aspiring to be as an adult aged 15/16, and how different is the present reality?

At that age all I did was play my guitar, write self-indulgent songs of a melancholy nature, and create 'art' (I use that term loosely). I wanted to study 'A' level music and art and be a musician. My mother intervened and made me do other subjects so those plans didn't come to fruition. I also vowed never to have children.

Reality: I'm a gardener who is a single parent to 2 children. My 15 year old self would be horrified!"

Did you think you'd grow up to be that hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a teeneager growing up in rural middle England there wasn't much to do other than raise as much hell as possible but I was well grounded and we never did anything to hurt people (just each other!). I spent a lot of time playing my guitar and other instruments but all I ever wanted to do was join the army. I left school and joined up as soon as I could, I'd still be doing it now if it wasn't for 2006!

Now I'm a divorced single parent of 3 trying to decide what I want to do as I was made redundant last week. I think my teenage self would be proud of what I've achieved though, the fact I'm still breathing still amazes me...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I wanted to be an Art teacher and then discovered that I don't like other people's children , so it was a No.

but I am very happy that I made all the right choices and would it all again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to fly in fast jets for a living and achieved my dream in my 30's when I joined an aerobatic team as an engineer and did it on a daily basis for 6 years all over the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to be an accountant - I know I'm weird!

Until I did my work experience. The firm was a complete stereotype- smelly office, all the accountants were old men - soon changed my mind!

Sara

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wanted to fly in fast jets for a living and achieved my dream in my 30's when I joined an aerobatic team as an engineer and did it on a daily basis for 6 years all over the world "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to do a caring job, have a family and a happy home.

That's what I am and have but the happy home part took 7 years in an abusive marriage first. Now happy (most of the time!) with 3 gorgeous children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't have long term aspirations, more a set of short term goals. I loved playing my guitar and singing but never saw it as a career option. I wanted to get my O's and A's, took a year off because I was asked to do some community work for a year, did my first degree on the back of advice from my Dad, and got a related job at a household brand named company. It was only once I did a masters after 8 years working and a few job changes that a purpose to it all became clear and connected the dots. I now do what I consider a job I love and have done for 24 years

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I got the career I wanted, then I didn't want it, straight A student throughout education,career path took me to meet some wonderful people and my life is all the better for it.

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

Always wanted to do nursing left school did a yr in a factory then got a job at the psychiatric hospital in Chichester left there after 10 happy yrs now ive been working with ladies with dementia for last 11 yrs

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I wanted to be a vet (preferably working with wildlife out in Africa) or a marine biologist.

Fell into depression on my teens and didn't strive to achieve it.

Got two Little'un's now and doubt I could do something that took me away so often but I wouldn't change my life for anything.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What great posts. It's very heartwarming to read that most people are content with their achievements.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

I had 2 childhood dreams. The first was to work in a butchers shop, I achieved that and worked for a butcher between age 14 - 17. My second was to join the raf, something that I achieved at age 19.

My early 20's were spent stumbling around, trying to figure out what to do with my life as I had fulfilled all my dreams at such an early age.

Two things I most definitely did NOT want were marriage and children. That didn't exactly go to plan, two marriages and I spent 8 years trying for children with my ex husband.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I never knew what I wanted 'to be'. That was the problem. All my school friends seemed to have these great plans on what they were going to do. But I never knew. I had no great aspirations at all at that time. I was always a bit of a loner. Looking back I think the pressure from school and my parents to come up with a plan for what I was going to do just got too much for me. My school friends disappeared on their life's journeys and I ended up having a bit of a breakdown at 17/18. And even though I'd always been a model student and a very bright kid I ended up walking away with poor grades. This led to years of general bumming about and finding it difficult to get a job. I certainly couldn't find a job that was remotely fulfilling. Burnt out from all those years of schooling and the feeling of failure, I lacked focus. It felt like I'd jumped out of a plane and had forgotten my parachute! Then just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, I suffered a great personal tragedy. The person closest to me in the whole world died in tragic circumstances. That took me into a downward spiral that would take me ten years to even begin to emerge from. I ended up stuck in the dead end job I currently find myself in, single and with absolutely nothing to show for these last twenty years. If it wasn't for the love and support of my parents I couldn't even have made it this far.

And then finally, miraculously even, just in these last couple of years I have finally come to realise what I am capable of and even what I want 'to be' one day. I finally have aspirations! Chance meetings with a couple of amazing women have helped restore my faith in not just myself but in humanity as a whole. Opening my eyes up to the world and making me realise that there is hope and maybe I'm not quite the failure I've been thinking I am for the all these years. The future's just around the corner and finally I can't wait to get started. I just hope it's not too late...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to be a pop star, had synths and drum machines in my bedroom, joined a few bands. Also wanted to be an animal man, not sure what that meant, but just wanted to be with animals.

I have a mini studio at home and write songs and help bands and musicians, just can't seem to make money out of it.

Used to work part time in a Zoo, was a Countryside Ranger and have worked on UK conservation projects, so kind of similar position now as then. Kinda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never knew what I wanted 'to be'. That was the problem. All my school friends seemed to have these great plans on what they were going to do. But I never knew. I had no great aspirations at all at that time. I was always a bit of a loner. Looking back I think the pressure from school and my parents to come up with a plan for what I was going to do just got too much for me. My school friends disappeared on their life's journeys and I ended up having a bit of a breakdown at 17/18. And even though I'd always been a model student and a very bright kid I ended up walking away with poor grades. This led to years of general bumming about and finding it difficult to get a job. I certainly couldn't find a job that was remotely fulfilling. Burnt out from all those years of schooling and the feeling of failure, I lacked focus. It felt like I'd jumped out of a plane and had forgotten my parachute! Then just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, I suffered a great personal tragedy. The person closest to me in the whole world died in tragic circumstances. That took me into a downward spiral that would take me ten years to even begin to emerge from. I ended up stuck in the dead end job I currently find myself in, single and with absolutely nothing to show for these last twenty years. If it wasn't for the love and support of my parents I couldn't even have made it this far.

And then finally, miraculously even, just in these last couple of years I have finally come to realise what I am capable of and even what I want 'to be' one day. I finally have aspirations! Chance meetings with a couple of amazing women have helped restore my faith in not just myself but in humanity as a whole. Opening my eyes up to the world and making me realise that there is hope and maybe I'm not quite the failure I've been thinking I am for the all these years. The future's just around the corner and finally I can't wait to get started. I just hope it's not too late..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to be ... a tree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've achieved what I wanted to be when I was a teenager. Which was a nice life with a good career. I maybe didn't think I'd settle into it as early as I did, but that definitely isn't a regret. I could be moody and melancholy and a bit of a goth with a frustrated creative side when I was 14, but I think even then I knew it was my teenage phase and I wasn't going to be that way for the rest of my life.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

When I was a kid, I wanted to be an explorer, go to space, kayak the biggest Alpine white water descents, own my own forest, design and build my own kind of structures and find true peace and happiness.

I never got to space and I'm still searching for peace and happiness... time will tell.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I was torn between being a scientist or art of some form. I do both, some in my spare time. But my aspirations have altered course as I didn't fully grasp the future me or the world that well.

I was naive and had a sheltered life to some extent. I did think I'd be studying for years and was right as been back for 3 years. I assumed I'd be married and settled down and was wrong there, very wrong ??.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never knew what I wanted 'to be'. That was the problem. All my school friends seemed to have these great plans on what they were going to do. But I never knew. I had no great aspirations at all at that time. I was always a bit of a loner. Looking back I think the pressure from school and my parents to come up with a plan for what I was going to do just got too much for me. My school friends disappeared on their life's journeys and I ended up having a bit of a breakdown at 17/18. And even though I'd always been a model student and a very bright kid I ended up walking away with poor grades. This led to years of general bumming about and finding it difficult to get a job. I certainly couldn't find a job that was remotely fulfilling. Burnt out from all those years of schooling and the feeling of failure, I lacked focus. It felt like I'd jumped out of a plane and had forgotten my parachute! Then just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, I suffered a great personal tragedy. The person closest to me in the whole world died in tragic circumstances. That took me into a downward spiral that would take me ten years to even begin to emerge from. I ended up stuck in the dead end job I currently find myself in, single and with absolutely nothing to show for these last twenty years. If it wasn't for the love and support of my parents I couldn't even have made it this far.

And then finally, miraculously even, just in these last couple of years I have finally come to realise what I am capable of and even what I want 'to be' one day. I finally have aspirations! Chance meetings with a couple of amazing women have helped restore my faith in not just myself but in humanity as a whole. Opening my eyes up to the world and making me realise that there is hope and maybe I'm not quite the failure I've been thinking I am for the all these years. The future's just around the corner and finally I can't wait to get started. I just hope it's not too late..."
wow great post! Wish you the very best

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I wanted to be a vet (preferably working with wildlife out in Africa) or a marine biologist.

Fell into depression on my teens and didn't strive to achieve it.

"

Yeah, I wanted to go to vet school my entire childhood, but then hit my teens and went into rebellion instead!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never knew what I wanted 'to be'. That was the problem. All my school friends seemed to have these great plans on what they were going to do. But I never knew. I had no great aspirations at all at that time. I was always a bit of a loner. Looking back I think the pressure from school and my parents to come up with a plan for what I was going to do just got too much for me. My school friends disappeared on their life's journeys and I ended up having a bit of a breakdown at 17/18. And even though I'd always been a model student and a very bright kid I ended up walking away with poor grades. This led to years of general bumming about and finding it difficult to get a job. I certainly couldn't find a job that was remotely fulfilling. Burnt out from all those years of schooling and the feeling of failure, I lacked focus. It felt like I'd jumped out of a plane and had forgotten my parachute! Then just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, I suffered a great personal tragedy. The person closest to me in the whole world died in tragic circumstances. That took me into a downward spiral that would take me ten years to even begin to emerge from. I ended up stuck in the dead end job I currently find myself in, single and with absolutely nothing to show for these last twenty years. If it wasn't for the love and support of my parents I couldn't even have made it this far.

And then finally, miraculously even, just in these last couple of years I have finally come to realise what I am capable of and even what I want 'to be' one day. I finally have aspirations! Chance meetings with a couple of amazing women have helped restore my faith in not just myself but in humanity as a whole. Opening my eyes up to the world and making me realise that there is hope and maybe I'm not quite the failure I've been thinking I am for the all these years. The future's just around the corner and finally I can't wait to get started. I just hope it's not too late..."

Good luck. And it's not too late, because it is never too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had no aspirations,I still don't,not for myself anyway. Although the was the school swot in primary and the first two years of secondary I didn't like the social part of school as I got older. I didn't want to be anything or do anything marvellous and my parents didn't encourage me. I've always found more pleasure in helping others and looking after others,which is what I do best.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

... I also wanted to end all war but pretty soon wised up - I did help end one though... kind of.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I did exactly what I needed to do at 15; I left home and school. They were the only aspirations I had.

Now I'm about to retire after a career in the NHS and help my children and grandchildren. I remain single and have been for almost 30 years and I can honestly say, right now, I'm content and free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to play for a big orchestra... Failing that I wanted to be a geologist.. never wanted children.

I was determined to be the first in my family to go to uni and move away from the family.

Only the last two bits I managed x

I still long to play for a large orchestra... But think those days are long gone x

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I wanted to own my own property by the time of 25. In london. i'm 31 soon and only just saved enough for a deposit for a home in the middle of nowhere.

However, I didn't see myself being forced out of london or ending up in a crappy lacky job when i've got managerial experience, but that's just the way the cookie crumbles sometimes!

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