FabSwingers.com forum: judging a book by is cover

By *ourge OP Man
over a year ago

stourport nr kidderminster

.why do lots of people

.on fab .judge you in these way .

.have just tryd to help a couple .on some advice . .sayin would give my number to them. .

.I no that I have message them before .and got no thanks. .but the advice they wanted .I no about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just PM them

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Then just GIVE them the advice via p.m without any hassle and don't expect a reply.

That's called GIVING.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

".why do lots of people

.on fab .judge you in these way .

.have just tryd to help a couple .on some advice . .sayin would give my number to them. .

.I no that I have message them before .and got no thanks. .but the advice they wanted .I no about."

If you'd contacted them previously and they said "no thanks" it could appear as you were trying a different approach.

If you really just wanted to help, instead of sending a message with your number, why didn't you just send the information?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Then just GIVE them the advice via p.m without any hassle and don't expect a reply.

That's called GIVING."

Beat me to it!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Why would you need to talk to them over the phone?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

".why do lots of people

.on fab .judge you in these way .

.have just tryd to help a couple .on some advice . .sayin would give my number to them. .

.I no that I have message them before .and got no thanks. .but the advice they wanted .I no about."

How is that judging you?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

".why do lots of people

.on fab .judge you in these way .

.have just tryd to help a couple .on some advice . .sayin would give my number to them. .

.I no that I have message them before .and got no thanks. .but the advice they wanted .I no about.

How is that judging you? "

I did wonder that too.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It's obvious that people will form their opinions based on what they see, especially when that's all they've got access to.

Oh and aren't full stops supposed to go at the end of a sentence

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"It's obvious that people will form their opinions based on what they see, especially when that's all they've got access to.

Oh and aren't full stops supposed to go at the end of a sentence

al"

----- Cal

How can I spell my name wrong

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's obvious that people will form their opinions based on what they see, especially when that's all they've got access to.

Oh and aren't full stops supposed to go at the end of a sentence

al"

I think the full stop thing will be down to the device he's using. On my phone the full stop is so close to the space bar that I'm for ever sending texts littered with them.

I agree thought about judging by appearances, it's all we have to go on on the first instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's obvious that people will form their opinions based on what they see, especially when that's all they've got access to.

Oh and aren't full stops supposed to go at the end of a sentence

al"
The OP is in Greek?

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By *ourge OP Man
over a year ago

stourport nr kidderminster

.have tryd to pm them to message me .so could help .it was bout car adivce. but never said that it was about .and it be easier to tell some on the phone .than long winded messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% Women are the biggest Book cover girls.

All that tosh about personality.load of shit

(Men are also book covers,but don't even try to pretend personality matters)

Keep it quite though*they get the camel when I speak for them)

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

".why do lots of people

.on fab .judge you in these way .

.have just tryd to help a couple .on some advice . .sayin would give my number to them. .

.I no that I have message them before .and got no thanks. .but the advice they wanted .I no about."

If the advice was on how to use punctuation, I have a feeling I know why they ignored it.

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By *ourge OP Man
over a year ago

stourport nr kidderminster

.sorry about .oh messages read .with only some full stops ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% Women are the biggest Book cover girls.

All that tosh about personality.load of shit

(Men are also book covers,but don't even try to pretend personality matters)

Keep it quite though*they get the camel when I speak for them)

Are you still moaning

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The book cover suggested that you were potentially seeking to get too close for comfort. The artwork had a big Stop sign, keep clear.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Because many people use such things as a ploy to get your contact details.

Can you genuinely say that you would stop at the advice and respect that they have already said no or would you then start sending "You're very sexy"/"I want to do this, that and the other" messages to them?

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

It's like when people put in their contact details to get a quote for life insurance or something and then get all sorts of companies ringing you, trying to sell you shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% Women are the biggest Book cover girls.

All that tosh about personality.load of shit

(Men are also book covers,but don't even try to pretend personality matters)

Keep it quite though*they get the camel when I speak for them)

You are like 50 shades of grey. Nice cover bull full of ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've read a lot of books you'll become quite good at making a fairly good decision based on its cover, yes some gems might slip through but most people can live with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some covers are thankfully pretty fucking unambiguous, meaning you can avoid very easily.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

1 that isn't judging you

2 you could have just gave the advice via pm so giving them your number was irrelevant, via pm or over the phone your advice should be no different should it, unless you were trying to use wanting to help them as a tactic

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I once judged a book by its' cover. It was all about 70's fashion. I gave it another 10 years before it is retro enough to be cool again.

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By *ourge OP Man
over a year ago

stourport nr kidderminster

I would have pm'd them the advice but they did not specify what car advice they needed and as phoning them goes it would have been a lot lot easier to explain over the phone.

2.thought this was an adults site not a children's playground lol.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No need for phone numbers on fab and I prefer advice to be written anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No need for phone numbers on fab and I prefer advice to be written anyway. "

I need everything written down so I can remember it

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

"I would have pm'd them the advice but they did not specify what car advice they needed and as phoning them goes it would have been a lot lot easier to explain over the phone.

2.thought this was an adults site not a children's playground lol."

You could have pm'd some general car advice and followed it with an offer of more specific advice if they would like it.

Again, no need at all for phone numbers.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

because sometimes 'the cover' is all I want to subject myself to......

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

".why do lots of people

.on fab .judge you in these way .

.have just tryd to help a couple .on some advice . .sayin would give my number to them. .

.I no that I have message them before .and got no thanks. .but the advice they wanted .I no about."

just the way off life....move on and find something else or would you rather meet up with some one in real life then they have second thoughts and decide to call it off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

".why do lots of people

.on fab .judge you in these way .

.have just tryd to help a couple .on some advice . .sayin would give my number to them. .

.I no that I have message them before .and got no thanks. .but the advice they wanted .I no about."

That's not judging you, that's refusing to give a strange man off a swinger;s site their mobile.

Although the terminology you use does suggest that your intentions were not as honourable as you make out hence why you are annoyed at their reaction

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I would have pm'd them the advice but they did not specify what car advice they needed and as phoning them goes it would have been a lot lot easier to explain over the phone.

2.thought this was an adults site not a children's playground lol."

Well they pretty much know how you feel about them now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you confused them with poor spelling and grammar.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I would have pm'd them the advice but they did not specify what car advice they needed and as phoning them goes it would have been a lot lot easier to explain over the phone.

2.thought this was an adults site not a children's playground lol."

Well that contradicts your op doesn't it! You stated their car query was something you know about, now you're saying they weren't specific hence your reason for contacting them with your phone number.

They saw through your ruse and your miffed!

They're not interested in you! Get over yourself and move on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you've read a lot of books you'll become quite good at making a fairly good decision based on its cover, yes some gems might slip through but most people can live with that."

But hardbacks are just plain covered with an embossed name.

They're the shilloette avatar profile of the book world

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