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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is this an exercise in futility?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this an exercise in futility?"

Do what you want.

Noboby meets on here anyaway,they just spread forum love and hate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this an exercise in futility?

Do what you want.

Noboby meets on here anyaway,they just spread forum love and hate."

Speak for yourself!

I meet and spread erm....

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Is this an exercise in futility?"

Ignore grumpy he's having a strop.

Some people will meet married men and some won't. IMHO as long as you state it on your profile so people can make an informed choice then that's up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always 1 bad apple.

Ignore her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grumpy........ffs

Don't ignore me,I'm the only one to take on the forum mafia and still be talking.

Had the nod my cards are marked though

Anyway,crack on and ignore the forum.Really would be my advice(all joking apart)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married and getting meets, don't stress, my Mrs has her own profile on here too and she doesn't have any problems getting meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol. Thanks. All this banter is quite amusing actually

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We're married, it doesn't seem to stop us

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Put it on your profile, then people can make their own choice of whether they will meet you or not.

But you have to understand its not going to be everyone's cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ibaur,

Go with your heart is the honest answer.All forums(not just this one will give you good and Carp advice)

So you're far better to make you own call.

Live by the sword,die by the sword

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Ibaur,

Go with your heart is the honest answer.All forums(not just this one will give you good and Carp advice)

So you're far better to make you own call.

Live by the sword,die by the sword "

That advice sounds a bit fishy to me

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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago

coventry/Leicestershire border


"Ibaur,

Go with your heart is the honest answer.All forums(not just this one will give you good and Carp advice)

So you're far better to make you own call.

Live by the sword,die by the sword "

Whats Carp advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ibaur,

Go with your heart is the honest answer.All forums(not just this one will give you good and Carp advice)

So you're far better to make you own call.

Live by the sword,die by the sword

Whats Carp advice "

It involves willy worms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously.

I'm not allowed an opinion

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Ibaur,

Go with your heart is the honest answer.All forums(not just this one will give you good and Carp advice)

So you're far better to make you own call.

Live by the sword,die by the sword

That advice sounds a bit fishy to me "

Making a rod for his own back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ibaur,

Go with your heart is the honest answer.All forums(not just this one will give you good and Carp advice)

So you're far better to make you own call.

Live by the sword,die by the sword

Whats Carp advice

It involves willy worms "
or wriggly even ffs autocarrot or was it my mind

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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago

coventry/Leicestershire border


"Ibaur,

Go with your heart is the honest answer.All forums(not just this one will give you good and Carp advice)

So you're far better to make you own call.

Live by the sword,die by the sword

Whats Carp advice

It involves willy worms "

Are they not little things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll probably be slated but I meet married guys, I always say they take responsibility x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's cryptic for crap.

See what I mean about don't ask them for advice ?

They are Rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously.

I'm not allowed an opinion "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ibaur,

Go with your heart is the honest answer.All forums(not just this one will give you good and Carp advice)

So you're far better to make you own call.

Live by the sword,die by the sword

Whats Carp advice

It involves willy worms

Are they not little things "

Some are some aren't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 03/10/15 07:53:25]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a swinging site. Get the Mrs to join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't been to bed yet.Been battling the forum bullys.

Don't tell me you're gonna start now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's cryptic for crap.

See what I mean about don't ask them for advice ?

They are Rubbish "

You clearly didn't get oot of the right side of the bed this morning did you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Blimey. What have I started? Food for thought though. Thank you all

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

we are an FB couple and clearly state this on profile,and we meet married guys, the key issue is we declare it at the outset and it's on profile and expect the same. Same as lying about age, if you use this site you really have no reason to fib about anything IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this an exercise in futility?"

No, it's an exercise in infidelity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots are. Their choice and no one's place to judge them for it

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"It is a swinging site. Get the Mrs to join in."

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't been to bed yet.Been battling the forum bullys.

Don't tell me you're gonna start now "

The spunkskips probably won't mind eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots are. Their choice and no one's place to judge them for it "

But yet they do....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously.

I'm not allowed an opinion "

You are. You just aren't allowed to tell others what their opinion should be.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm married but obviously only meet people who want to meet me.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously.

I'm not allowed an opinion

You are. You just aren't allowed to tell others what their opinion should be. "

Now I know where I'm going wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As yet I've not deliberately had a solo 'meet' with a married lady, but I totally respect others choice to do that. As long as you're upfront, it may even be a bonus to some if you're married.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Lots are. Their choice and no one's place to judge them for it "

Wouldn't need to if they just cracked on with it instead of boring the tits off us with threads seeking validation/whining about lack of meets/questioning why swingers "moralise" by not sharing in their duplicity! etc etc ad nauseum!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Lots are. Their choice and no one's place to judge them for it

Wouldn't need to if they just cracked on with it instead of boring the tits off us with threads seeking validation/whining about lack of meets/questioning why swingers "moralise" by not sharing in their duplicity! etc etc ad nauseum! "
ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this an exercise in futility?

Ignore grumpy he's having a strop.

Some people will meet married men and some won't. IMHO as long as you state it on your profile so people can make an informed choice then that's up to them. "

Hey why's your profile hidden

Thread needs more bum tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this an exercise in futility?"

As long as its not an exercise in fertility!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are an FB couple and clearly state this on profile,and we meet married guys, the key issue is we declare it at the outset and it's on profile and expect the same. Same as lying about age, if you use this site you really have no reason to fib about anything IMO"

EXACTLY how we feel

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

If married men are on here, that's fine but not if they're not honest about it. I once met someone who claimed on his profile to be single, we met for a drink and he said he was divorced. A week later confesses he's still married!

A colossal waste of time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jbauer75

So basically it's like what I said.

Nobody meets here.

They are more like an Amish family and don't take well to Outsiders

Feck them though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another married one here. My relationship, my responsibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If married men are on here, that's fine but not if they're not honest about it. I once met someone who claimed on his profile to be single, we met for a drink and he said he was divorced. A week later confesses he's still married!

A colossal waste of time... "

Why?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is this an exercise in futility?"

It's difficult for many men on here alone because numbers are against them to start with. Being married will affect your success but there are any other factors too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can do what they want, maibe they are sex nymphs and their partner dont give them enough at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All just boils down to just a bit of honesty on an adult site

Yes an married and I do get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" jbauer75

So basically it's like what I said.

Nobody meets here.

They are more like an Amish family and don't take well to Outsiders

Feck them though "

We meet, weve had 3 meets this week. But we have never had a meet through the forum so you may have a point if thats what you mean. If you mean nobody on the site meets fullstop then I guess they just dont meet you? But your right about forum bullies. Lots of them on here weve blocked many people due to forum interaction and took a long break from the forums before due to bullying posters. Its a shame blocking them doesnt block them on the forums too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice on this thread is mine.

Ignore the forum and go with your heart.

Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may find some people who will meet married men. It could be a long,arduous search but it may be worth the wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that you're up front about being in a relationship. You give people the chance to decide if they want to meet someone who isn't single and on here without the partner's knowledge. That can cause problems and add strings that they don't want.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"we are an FB couple and clearly state this on profile,and we meet married guys, the key issue is we declare it at the outset and it's on profile and expect the same. Same as lying about age, if you use this site you really have no reason to fib about anything IMO

EXACTLY how we feel "

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"If married men are on here, that's fine but not if they're not honest about it. I once met someone who claimed on his profile to be single, we met for a drink and he said he was divorced. A week later confesses he's still married!

Had this happen to me ... because we had exchanged numbers ... had his Wife call me yelling and cursing ....

If I had been a nasty person I could of told her about fab ....but I didn't ... I took it on the chin ... his profile disappeared that day ..... but now I notice ... hes back !!!!!!!!

Note to oneself ...... avoid

A colossal waste of time... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically it's like what I said.

Nobody meets here.

"

Maybe profiles say this to throw people off the scent, to allow them to browse, chat and play without being sent 200 fancy a fuck messages a day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ibaur,

Go with your heart is the honest answer.All forums(not just this one will give you good and Carp advice)

So you're far better to make you own call.

Live by the sword,die by the sword

Whats Carp advice

It involves willy worms or wriggly even ffs autocarrot or was it my mind"

That autocarrot is such a mother forklift!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically it's like what I said.

Nobody meets here.

Maybe profiles say this to throw people off the scent, to allow them to browse, chat and play without being sent 200 fancy a fuck messages a day? "

Would be pointless seeing as 99% of people dont bother reading profiles before messaging lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically it's like what I said.

Nobody meets here.

Maybe profiles say this to throw people off the scent, to allow them to browse, chat and play without being sent 200 fancy a fuck messages a day?

Would be pointless seeing as 99% of people dont bother reading profiles before messaging lol"

Depends on the whether it's reading the profile or trawling through the paragraphs of demands as you find on some.

I know plenty of male and female profiles which are either short and to the point, or amusing/engaging which are good to read.

But if 99% of profiles aren't worth reading, 99% of profiles won't be read!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically it's like what I said.

Nobody meets here.

Maybe profiles say this to throw people off the scent, to allow them to browse, chat and play without being sent 200 fancy a fuck messages a day?

Would be pointless seeing as 99% of people dont bother reading profiles before messaging lol

Depends on the whether it's reading the profile or trawling through the paragraphs of demands as you find on some.

I know plenty of male and female profiles which are either short and to the point, or amusing/engaging which are good to read.

But if 99% of profiles aren't worth reading, 99% of profiles won't be read! "

You could put 3 lines.

No black guys

No bi guys

No anal

And a bi black guy would ask if he can fuck your arse!! Nothing against black or bi guys thats just a pure example. Quality of profiles has nothing to do with it how can it when the people messaging clearly have NOT read it so wouldnt know if it was quality or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this an exercise in futility?"

Are you assuming thaat your lack of meets is due to that reason alone?

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

x

I'm single and happy to be.. Will met married men if honest about it from the start.. Same as I will met married ladies..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reality is that married men on here who are cheating will have the odd stacked against them. There are some sweeping generalisations here but single men are more comfortable with public social meets. Single men are often available for short notice meets. Single men are available more often with far more flexibility. Single men don't clock watch and have to be back home after last orders Singlemen won't worry about scratches or bite marks or smelling of your perfume. Single men can more often accommodate and if not are less inclined to be worried about having a transaction on their bank statement for travelodge. I could probably think of many more examples and that's before you consider the morals of meeting married men and the chance of an angry spouse appearing on your doorstep or just how annoying so many whinging cheats on here actually are

People think that it's a moral decision and often it is but equally meeting genuinely single males is always going to be easier

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You make some valid points. Thank you!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Is this an exercise in futility?"

it will be to some as they will waste time trying to convince others who have chosen not to meet them. Rather spend the time and effort concentrating on the people who declare they will.

it is that easy.

good luck

repeat; for bi guys, asian guys, black guys, actually, all single guys..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll probably be slated but I meet married guys, I always say they take responsibility x"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Just use your efforts to contact people who don't state they're not interested in married/cheating people. Pointless doing otherwise.

Or target a female who's in the same position even.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and have clearly stated in my profile and what I'm looking for. I think if your open and honest from the start you don't waste anyone's time or your own

Rest is down to the individual or couple to decide if they want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you. Very welcome advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this an exercise in futility?"

No it works great for lots of married people. Single (unmarried) guys often find it difficult to find meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" jbauer75

So basically it's like what I said.

Nobody meets here.

They are more like an Amish family and don't take well to Outsiders

Feck them though "

Was sat in a bar with 50+ people from here only the other week....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no issues meeting married guys

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