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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Block is the best , I politely request to be blocked if they are uninterested xx

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

No thanks and no explanation works best in our experience. ....then block so you don't get badgered

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????"

The sites FAQ state that ignoring messages is not considered rude on fab.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We just say no thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done both but find if I go down the "sorry..." road to lots of people that means we've entered into a conversation of sorts and I get more messages.

I've currently got 900 unread messages in my inbox, not ignored just not got round to reading. If I replied to them all I'd be here forever.

I think I should get braver and start to use the block function!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get people asking me to block them,, not sure why I would do that,, when they haven't insulted me or been rude , just because I've said no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's polite when i get a message back just to say "No thank you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I said no thanks to someone earlier and got told I was abit rude so I turned round and said that no thanks was actually polite and I could've just said fuck off! Lol

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

A polite no thanks, and wish them well usually works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To delete, that way if they try to message again they'll get a helpful screen/message telling them their last message was not replied to and so won't waste their time messaging again...whether they pay attention or ignore it is another matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women would have sore fingers replying no to 1000 men a day, it would be a day time job, so ignoring them would be easier for them lol.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I get people asking me to block them,, not sure why I would do that,, when they haven't insulted me or been rude , just because I've said no thanks "

So they don't contact you again and possibly cause annoyance.

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER


"A polite no thanks, and wish them well usually works"

That's what I like to get back if they are not interested esp as I've spent time working out what to put in the message.

And I always reply to new messages. Not that I get the number you ladies get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always polite , though to be honest I don't really get that many messages.

I know you ladies are bombarded it must be jolly frustrating and impossible to answer them all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So a polite 'no thanks' followed by a block if they did take a hint...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they've taken the time and trouble to write nicely, then I'll do the same but with a polite decline...

If they've sent the usual disrespectful 3-word rubbish "How r u ?" etc - ignore, delete and probably block if I can be bothered...!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Why are you sorry?

'No thanks but have fun x' works for me. Anything more and there's ping pong messages and there's zero point in that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try and reply but getting the who what why not? is pretty tiresome so a block comes in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????"

It would depend on the message personally. How am I supposed to respond to a message just saying "nice tits" I say thanks & then they think I want to chat and I don't always or I say "Sorry I'm not interested" and then I get told they're not interested either.

I can't win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If anyone messages you and you don't want to chat, send them to your new social secretary - moi

Or

Do what I do- send a cut n paste reply vis-a-vis "thank you for your message but it has been deemed too dull to reply to".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it."
hey you wouldn't be in a minority but an honest one

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????"

Ignorance is rude. Sorry you are not my type & happy swinging works for me both ways

Mrs _d40

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ignored, no thanks sounds like I am better than them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never apologise for the fact that someone isn't my type. ...that implies I'm at fault

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Depends on the guy some can't take no for an answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on the guy some can't take no for an answer"

Completely crashing this thread _urvymama but I have to say that every time I see your avatar you remind me of Jo Wheatley from Bake Off. I double take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????"

What ever you do you sometimes can't win.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Depends on the guy some can't take no for an answer

Completely crashing this thread _urvymama but I have to say that every time I see your avatar you remind me of Jo Wheatley from Bake Off. I double take. "

If it makes you feel better I get told I look like her lot so it's not just you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on the guy some can't take no for an answer

Completely crashing this thread _urvymama but I have to say that every time I see your avatar you remind me of Jo Wheatley from Bake Off. I double take.

If it makes you feel better I get told I look like her lot so it's not just you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be brutally honest it all depends on the message received in the first place. A well though out and written, personalised message will receive a no thanks if that's the case.

How some guys want us to reply to a message that just says 'wow' is a mystery so they get filed under B1N pretty sharpish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is implying all messages are worthy of a reply.

A lot don't deserve a reply, yet I still feel guilty not replying. Catholic guilt I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say you should always just send a polite message and let them know you aren't interested (as a guy) instead of ignoring. I can understand why women don't and I don't personally care.

If it's a face picture that put you off though maybe leave it until a message or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should always send a message but I get so many I just delete, oh god that's awful I know!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never apologise for the fact that someone isn't my type. ...that implies I'm at fault"
well they are your eyes no one else's !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is implying all messages are worthy of a reply.

A lot don't deserve a reply, yet I still feel guilty not replying. Catholic guilt I'm sure "
I knew it 10 hail Mary's pitstop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is implying all messages are worthy of a reply.

A lot don't deserve a reply, yet I still feel guilty not replying. Catholic guilt I'm sure "

Wanna shag?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it."

To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.

To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write. "

It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.

To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write. "

Why should we reply to a message that just says 'wow'?

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????"

Both are the same why worry bout it

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????"

OP all I can say is treat others how you would want to be treated yourself in this debauched sex meets world .

If you do that then your staying true to yourself and at the end of the day that's all that matters .

If your mean be mean if your kind be kind like attracts like at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say you should always just send a polite message and let them know you aren't interested (as a guy) instead of ignoring. I can understand why women don't and I don't personally care.

If it's a face picture that put you off though maybe leave it until a message or two. "

What's the difference between not answering someone you're not interested in or just blocking someone you're not interested in? You don't tell the person why you've blocked them so why should you tell them why you haven't replied to their message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is implying all messages are worthy of a reply.

A lot don't deserve a reply, yet I still feel guilty not replying. Catholic guilt I'm sure

Wanna shag?"

Yeah, go on then.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.

To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write.

It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response. "

I just felt that there was a poem in there somewhere....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always respond with, you're not my type, good luck dude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.

To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write.

It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response.

I just felt that there was a poem in there somewhere.... "

Polite to reply

But sometimes too tedious

So silence persists

I'm more of a haiku kind of woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.

To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write.

It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response.

I just felt that there was a poem in there somewhere....

Polite to reply

But sometimes too tedious

So silence persists

I'm more of a haiku kind of woman."

I think you needed a space between your haiku and your haiku explanation, as I read it as a fourth line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably to reply is more polite. Still doesn't necessarily mean I can be arsed to do it.

To reply is polite, they sadly are such a bore to write.

It's not that they're boring, it's just that some messages really really don't warrant that level of effort in response.

I just felt that there was a poem in there somewhere....

Polite to reply

But sometimes too tedious

So silence persists

I'm more of a haiku kind of woman.

I think you needed a space between your haiku and your haiku explanation, as I read it as a fourth line "

I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried to, the fecking formatting removed it

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I think it's polite when i get a message back just to say "No thank you " "
who in their right mind would say no thank you to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the message, if they are really nice its a sorry but if they are rude, just over the top etc its a straight out ignore and possibly block. I have it written in my profile apologising in advance as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ignore a message or to reply saying 'sorry your not my type'????

OP all I can say is treat others how you would want to be treated yourself in this debauched sex meets world .

If you do that then your staying true to yourself and at the end of the day that's all that matters .

If your mean be mean if your kind be kind like attracts like at the end of the day. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried to, the fecking formatting removed it "

Replies in haiku

Should be the standard no thanks

Better than blocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners are there to make it easier to understand other people, so rejecting someone (you would think) would make it clear you don't fancy them.

You don't have to use manners if you don't want to, nobody is obligated to interact with anyone they don't want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say there is a right or wrong way but for me i would prefer to receive a polite no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried to, the fecking formatting removed it

Replies in haiku

Should be the standard no thanks

Better than blocking "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried to, the fecking formatting removed it

Replies in haiku

Should be the standard no thanks

Better than blocking

"

On fab I'm wasted

Underappreciated

I'm more than nice abs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get people asking me to block them,, not sure why I would do that,, when they haven't insulted me or been rude , just because I've said no thanks

So they don't contact you again and possibly cause annoyance."

Then they should block me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say you should always just send a polite message and let them know you aren't interested (as a guy) instead of ignoring. I can understand why women don't and I don't personally care.

If it's a face picture that put you off though maybe leave it until a message or two.

What's the difference between not answering someone you're not interested in or just blocking someone you're not interested in? You don't tell the person why you've blocked them so why should you tell them why you haven't replied to their message?"
pitstop the difference is manners if a guy sends a polite message it's polite to say not interested ,blocking is final and rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Manners are there to make it easier to understand other people, so rejecting someone (you would think) would make it clear you don't fancy them.

You don't have to use manners if you don't want to, nobody is obligated to interact with anyone they don't want to."

Agree

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By *ourgeMan
over a year ago

stourport nr kidderminster

.a quick no thanks .is best I think .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A brief no thanks from us normally. Unless the message is inappropriate in which case we ignore and block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Afraid I ignore or delete

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I always used to reply to everyone but it fostered inane chat too often, where they'd cling to the hope that they'd get a change of heart..

Now I reply to some. Blocking is helpful too.

Leave it to your preference, judgment and time availability. All are equally fine in Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they've taken the time and trouble to write nicely, then I'll do the same but with a polite decline...

If they've sent the usual disrespectful 3-word rubbish "How r u ?" etc - ignore, delete and probably block if I can be bothered...!

"

Same as me.

I try to be polite but if I get a shitty message than its delete and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Afraid I ignore or delete"
awww I would be so disappointed you have great breasts

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