FabSwingers.com forum: Is it wrong that i want to be wined & dined before being taken advantage of??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say so no!! They are out there, I'm yet to find one that is near enough to me though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not wrong if you like that. You're assumption is wrong though, most are here for an easy fuck with minimal effort involved.

I'm not personally into being bought if i wanna enjoy sex though, so this site works for me if guys put in some effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd expect that more of a dating site, to be honest.

And if you think men are "taking advantage" of you, then you might really be on the wrong site. Unless you see that as a good thing? Then I don't really know.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd wine and dine you anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe what you're looking for is a husband

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'd expect that more of a dating site, to be honest.

And if you think men are "taking advantage" of you, then you might really be on the wrong site. Unless you see that as a good thing? Then I don't really know.

-Courtney"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not wrong if you like that. You're assumption is wrong though, most are here for an easy fuck with minimal effort involved.

I'm not personally into being bought if i wanna enjoy sex though, so this site works for me if guys put in some effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most are here for just sex without the frills

On occasions guys will offer as they see it as the build up to the event

Personally I enjoy both.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

That's really something you should mention on your profile, because while there will be many men who want the same thing, most won't assume that is why you are here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you offer men?

Seems like you want them to make all the effort.

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

"Most are here for just sex without the frills

On occasions guys will offer as they see it as the build up to the event

Personally I enjoy both. "

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I think I'd expect that more of a dating site, to be honest.

And if you think men are "taking advantage" of you, then you might really be on the wrong site. Unless you see that as a good thing? Then I don't really know.

-Courtney"

The way it's written, it sounds like 'taking advantage' is meant as a positive thing rather than a negative.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I think this is wrong sort of site to expect that. But not out of the question.

The other version of me (Invictus) offer his patented boyfriend experience® which I'm reliably informed is an excellent service.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I'd take you for half a shandy and a bag of chips OP, cos you look well classy innit

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I think every woman has the right to be spoiled but whether it should be a pre-requisite to sex on a meet arrange through this site is another question; personally I would say that spoiling shouldn't be part of the deal, unless the guy wants of course.

Interested by your statement that a guy will be taking advantage of you - what are they taking advantage of?

Consent to having sex must be mutual; if advantage is taken then its all involved taking advantage of each other - therefore no need for any single person to be treated different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing wrong whatsoever in spending a lovely evening, winning and dining, think of it as extended foreplay if you will.

In today's society, though, I think the expectation of having it all served up on a plate for you by a "gentleman", is wrong, and that's why I prefer the Dutch method, where everyone's seen as being equal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I dont mean as in taking advantage of me in that way lol.

I meant before they satisfy me - take advantage of me sexually lol. Not that i mind meeting up for sex - But i wanna be made to feel sexy

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I would buy you a (small) bag of chips but I am a hopeless romantic.Not sure all the guys on here are though..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'd expect that more of a dating site, to be honest.

And if you think men are "taking advantage" of you, then you might really be on the wrong site. Unless you see that as a good thing? Then I don't really know.

-Courtney

The way it's written, it sounds like 'taking advantage' is meant as a positive thing rather than a negative."

Yeah, I think you're right. I guess the phrase rubs me the wrong way on a sex site, though.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man can wine and dine you and be a total flake as a man. You might get a lot of free steak and wine but you could get shit sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Taken advantage is definitely in a positive way by far a negative - i want to be treated like a princess and fucked like a porn star lol

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

It does happen, but not very often.......so good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had men insist on taking me for dinner before we have sex,it didn't make me feel sexy. I had acid reflux all evening that spoiled my night. You may have a stronger stomach than me

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By *udepainter2Man
over a year ago

clitheroe

There is nothing wrong at all if that is what you have put then you should be treated to a nice evening .some just want to get straight to the action some like the build up .i would be more than happy to treat you x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"A man can wine and dine you and be a total flake as a man. You might get a lot of free steak and wine but you could get shit sex. "

Does that involve anel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A man can wine and dine you and be a total flake as a man. You might get a lot of free steak and wine but you could get shit sex. "

Then again with all the flakes that are on this site ,chances are you will get shit sex anyway!

... so you might as well get wine and dinner out of it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hahah ooo i see - maybe i should change my wants then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A man can wine and dine you and be a total flake as a man. You might get a lot of free steak and wine but you could get shit sex.

Then again with all the flakes that are on this site ,chances are you will get shit sex anyway!

... so you might as well get wine and dinner out of it!

I prefer my food after sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hahah ooo i see - maybe i should change my wants then "

Or pick really carefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe what you're looking for is a husband"

??? what to wine and wine you? Get real! I bet most husbands don't bother with that either!

A little civil company and conversation adds to the experience its not a 'date' its just a prelude...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hahah ooo i see - maybe i should change my wants then "

Have you had any offers? I'm often asked if I want to go for food or drinks first on here.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

You have to be wined and dined to feel sexy?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

Don't ask me, society seems to frown if you ask for money, look startled if you ask for shopping but wink if you ask to be wined and dined.

In a modern, equal society, I've never quite been able to understand the differences, but it certainly goes on on here.

Personally we would never pay, nor ask for anything in exchange for meeting us.

But best of luck

Mr ddc

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

I'd have to say yea, you were wrong to make any assumptions about fab. What you're asking for sounds more like the stuff of pof.

Not wanting to sound nasty here but I get the impression that you treat sex as a commodity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe what you're looking for is a husband

??? what to wine and wine you? Get real! I bet most husbands don't bother with that either!

A little civil company and conversation adds to the experience its not a 'date' its just a prelude..."

And some men enjoy it too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I dont want a date for god sake - i just want a little chat to feel more at ease first - im happy with a few drinks rather than food. It just adds to the experience - even a few glasses of wine in a little bar.

Im not that confident about going into someones house/hotel room and getting down and dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are men who like to wine and dine women on this site ... A lot of the time this is offered as a first meet, or a social, to see how you both get on with each other... Obviously it's up to you as an individual to choose whether to take further and being made to feel sexy is all part of the build up to good sex....

However it could also be argued that sexiness is a state of mind and no amount of food or drink (especially drink) will change that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had men insist on taking me for dinner before we have sex,it didn't make me feel sexy. I had acid reflux all evening that spoiled my night. You may have a stronger stomach than me

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hahah ooo i see - maybe i should change my wants then

Or pick really carefully

I would be careful that the man may think he has bought you for the evening. He may want something in return you aren't willing to give. That sounds cynical I know but I'm thinking of worse case scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe what you're looking for is a husband

??? what to wine and wine you? Get real! I bet most husbands don't bother with that either!

A little civil company and conversation adds to the experience its not a 'date' its just a prelude...

And some men enjoy it too. "

Yes I know,

I'm just making a point for those whom ridicule those who do.. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The made to feel sexy will be after - im new to all this so i wanted to see what i can expect thats all just a little fun then i know not to ask for that sort of thing lol

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

"I dont want a date for god sake - i just want a little chat to feel more at ease first - im happy with a few drinks rather than food. It just adds to the experience - even a few glasses of wine in a little bar.

Im not that confident about going into someones house/hotel room and getting down and dirty "

That's cool there, yes most would be up got that for sure, I think your opening post didn't come across exactly how you intended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont mean as in taking advantage of me in that way lol.

I meant before they satisfy me - take advantage of me sexually lol. Not that i mind meeting up for sex - But i wanna be made to feel sexy "

Nice long full body massage first forget the drink and food nice bottle of red to enjoy together

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol i know - its come across completely wrong haha But anyway at least i know now - Thanks guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not that confident about going into someones house/hotel room and getting down and dirty "

Explain that when you message a man. Most ask me if I want a social meet first anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not wrong at all. I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont mean as in taking advantage of me in that way lol.

I meant before they satisfy me - take advantage of me sexually lol. Not that i mind meeting up for sex - But i wanna be made to feel sexy

Nice long full body massage first forget the drink and food nice bottle of red to enjoy together "

This is my preferred way of getting to know someone and feeling sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not wrong at all. I love it"

There you go. Straight from the horses mouth

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

So a social then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hahah ooo i see - maybe i should change my wants then

Or pick really carefully

You're right. But this happens in regular dating too. Even the assumptions part. And it goes back to my original point about this probably not being the right site for this as most (not all) of the men here are looking for sex and not a date. So the 'wine and dine' request may be seen as more of a transaction.

Its often complained about by single men in the forums, no?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The made to feel sexy will be after - im new to all this so i wanted to see what i can expect thats all just a little fun then i know not to ask for that sort of thing lol

Everyone's different, if you feel wining and dining adds to the occasion... Good for you... go girl! x

It's about how you want things to go... not how anyone else things its should go. Not everyone likes to fuck and run

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i think so - im new to all this x

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

"lol i know - its come across completely wrong haha But anyway at least i know now - Thanks guys

No bothers! Personally I'd like a few drinks and food, good chat and banter and a lot of flirty before any potential meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had that one time .a guy took me out for dinner and drinks then we went back to the hotel .had sex and he turned around next morning saying i was shite at everything was a waste of his time and money and demanded i payed half of everything he spent..

safe to say i got up and left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to meet and fuck. All the other stuff reminds me of dating which makes me feel sick now.

Nothing sexier than being treat like a complete slut.

For me anyway.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Tongue-in-check - no hate mail please.

If you're talking about old fashion values where the gentleman wins the lady by spoiling her, and the lady is the 'home maker'... As you can't accommodate , I'd expect you to pay for the hotel - a good one mind as it makes me feel horny

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"lol i know - its come across completely wrong haha But anyway at least i know now - Thanks guys

So a bag of chips and a blowjob is out of the equation then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont mean as in taking advantage of me in that way lol.

I meant before they satisfy me - take advantage of me sexually lol. Not that i mind meeting up for sex - But i wanna be made to feel sexy "

Do you want this as a first meet/social?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes this is exactly what i want - im not saying it wont possibly lead to more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not wrong at all. I love it

There you go. Straight from the horses mouth

Neighhhhh

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By *weet medicineWoman
over a year ago

Kesgrave

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes this is exactly what i want - im not saying it wont possibly lead to more "

What if you meet for this social and there is no attraction?

My point is.. You want to be wined and dined on a meet, but if you don't like them they have have spent a bit of money (meal and drinks) with nothing in return and may feel they are being used just for drinks and food.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

You should press reply + quote, then we'll know who you're talking to OP

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

"You should press reply + quote, then we'll know who you're talking to OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just as long as you expect a free meal. I always pay half or even all of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had that one time .a guy took me out for dinner and drinks then we went back to the hotel .had sex and he turned around next morning saying i was shite at everything was a waste of his time and money and demanded i payed half of everything he spent..

safe to say i got up and left "

Cheeky fooker

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

No, it's perfectly acceptable. I expect exactly the same myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had men insist on taking me for dinner before we have sex,it didn't make me feel sexy. I had acid reflux all evening that spoiled my night. You may have a stronger stomach than me

This made me spit oot my green tea...id probably be the same but I have to say I wouldn't meet for a meal a drink n chat yes but to me that's more of a date.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

safe to say i got up and left "

Wow, what a charmer!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes this is exactly what i want - im not saying it wont possibly lead to more

What if you meet for this social and there is no attraction?

No id happily pay half or even all of my own bill im not saying i want them to pay either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

Shame your so far away x

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??

No, it's perfectly acceptable. I expect exactly the same myself.

Me too I haven't found many that have been able to seduce me xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

It sounds more like a date. I am not sure why anyone needs wine and food to feel sexy. I am guessing the man pays...in which case, yes I think out of order.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??

No, it's perfectly acceptable. I expect exactly the same myself.

As you will be getting sex I think it will be you paying.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It sounds more like a date. I am not sure why anyone needs wine and food to feel sexy. I am guessing the man pays...in which case, yes I think out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder what the rules are with this one as it sounds like a sugar daddy arrangement where the guy pays it all?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??

No, it's perfectly acceptable. I expect exactly the same myself.

As you will be getting sex I think it will be you paying."

As per previous comments i have stated i would be happy to pay for myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wonder what the rules are with this one as it sounds like a sugar daddy arrangement where the guy pays it all?"

Again as i have stated in previous comments i am happy to pay for myself

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??

No, it's perfectly acceptable. I expect exactly the same myself.

As you will be getting sex I think it will be you paying.

As per previous comments i have stated i would be happy to pay for myself "

Yes so I see after it was mentioned. I still think it is more a date than a meeting of two minds for mutual fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

It's not wrong of you at all but perhaps put that in your profile. And realise that a lot of guys on fab think that writing a paragraph in reply to a message is making a lot of effort so what you prefer is exceptional for most of them!

Good luck though, you deserve it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder what the rules are with this one as it sounds like a sugar daddy arrangement where the guy pays it all?

Again as i have stated in previous comments i am happy to pay for myself "
Ah yes and that's good you do as well.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"...meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten..."

To me, this sounds too close to "buy me stuff first" for comfort.

If you want hearts and flowers, to be "dated" etc, I would suggest you are on the wrong site.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't assume anything. I expect manners and to be treated with respect. It's how I would behave towards someone I meet.

I'm happier meeting socially first but I don't need someone to buy me dinner to make me feel sexy. I don't need anyone to make me feel sexy, that comes from within.

If dinner was on the table I would expect to pay my way. Offering sex for dinner/drinks would leave me feeling a bit dirty and not in a good way.

I generally fuck my friends though so I don't have to worry about those kind of games. We eat if we're hungry.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

""...meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten..."

To me, this sounds too close to "buy me stuff first" for comfort.

I may have been wrong, but "spoil me rotten" doesn't sound like "paying my own way".

Subsequent posts just seemed like back-pedalling.

However, I'd be happy to apologise personally, over dinner, since the OP's paying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

Not wrong of you. But I wouldn't meet someone who was simply whoring herself for the price of a meal. I have higher standards than that. Is that wrong of me?

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I may possibly be cheaper and easier for a guy to pop down the local brothel and pay his money ...would be guaranteed results and certainly a lot quicker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of."

The 1950s called, they want their attitudes back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??

Not wrong of you. But I wouldn't meet someone who was simply whoring herself for the price of a meal. I have higher standards than that. Is that wrong of me? "

Again I'm not asking anyone here to pay for me lol,ill pay for myself. It's not whoring if your not buying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't want to be taken out for dinner...... And I wouldn't call it whoring myself out either.

However , I wouldn't say no if a guy offered to cook for me

Rule of thumb is just buy drinks and snacks , I'm not putting myself out more than that

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over a year ago

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

Absolutely nothing and in my opinion this approach leads to better sex 9 times out of 10

Controversial I know but from my own little corner of the internet true .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??

Not wrong of you. But I wouldn't meet someone who was simply whoring herself for the price of a meal. I have higher standards than that. Is that wrong of me?

Again I'm not asking anyone here to pay for me lol,ill pay for myself. It's not whoring if your not buying"

Just basing this on your initial post, saying you want a real man who will wine, dine and spoil you before he gets to fuck you.

If that's not what you meant, then maybe an alternative phrasing in your opening comment and thread title (asking whether this was wrong of you to request/require/demand/expect this sort of payment for sexual favours) in order to avoid confusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol "

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off."

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can I ask. ? If you meet the guy you obviously want sex as much as he does. So why does he have to wine and dine you to get you in the mood. Why not wine and dine him ?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I think I'd expect that more of a dating site, to be honest.

And if you think men are "taking advantage" of you, then you might really be on the wrong site. Unless you see that as a good thing? Then I don't really know.

-Courtney"

Why would you expect that I'm a real man wine and dining a women makes me feel like that turning up and dropping my trousers makes me feel like a tool a walking cock .no a man a object.

But each to there own why can't a swinging meet involve a four way meal in a restaurant or the hotels dinning hall before the the fun does it have to be so cold so impersonal as he's here get them off or she's here get them off .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"can I ask. ? If you meet the guy you obviously want sex as much as he does. So why does he have to wine and dine you to get you in the mood. Why not wine and dine him ?

If that's what he wanted I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes"

You're welcome.

It's hard to get across in text what you mean sometimes, especially in forums where there's pauses between replies and many people will read everything the way they understand it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes"

You maybe weren't to know this, but there are those on here who do make such demands in return for sex.

There's a massive difference between "let's go out for dinner and see where things go" and "take me out for dinner and spoil me and then I'll fuck you"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes

You maybe weren't to know this, but there are those on here who do make such demands in return for sex.

There's a massive difference between "let's go out for dinner and see where things go" and "take me out for dinner and spoil me and then I'll fuck you" "

Well I know now lol

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

OP I know exactly what you ment by taking advantage of you I _iewed it as you saying before he gets to take advantage of my hot sexy body and naughty mind in a positive way not that you were saying guys where taking advantage of you .

Thought that was plain as day myself but hay I'm a man what do I know .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes

You maybe weren't to know this, but there are those on here who do make such demands in return for sex.

There's a massive difference between "let's go out for dinner and see where things go" and "take me out for dinner and spoil me and then I'll fuck you"

Well I know now lol"

Well you'll have no problem finding men who would love to join you and meet you on those terms. x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

" does it have to be so cold so impersonal as he's here get them off or she's here get them off .

No. There are in between situations to the two you describe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I'd expect that more of a dating site, to be honest.

And if you think men are "taking advantage" of you, then you might really be on the wrong site. Unless you see that as a good thing? Then I don't really know.

-Courtney

Why would you expect that I'm a real man wine and dining a women makes me feel like that turning up and dropping my trousers makes me feel like a tool a walking cock .no a man a object.

It doesn't have to be cold at all and that isn't what I meant. I was just saying that it could be misconstrued in the context of a sex site...as others have noted above. But of course everyone can do as they please.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes

You maybe weren't to know this, but there are those on here who do make such demands in return for sex.

There's a massive difference between "let's go out for dinner and see where things go" and "take me out for dinner and spoil me and then I'll fuck you"

Well I know now lol

Well you'll have no problem finding men who would love to join you and meet you on those terms. x"

Lol thank you. Got my point across eventually. So basically what I want is to go for a few drinks and possibly some nibbles ( which I'm happy to pay my away for ) before being spoilt rotten ( massage, oral, finger fun ) before then being taking advantage of ( sexually ) and being shown what real men are made of . . . . Wow I need to be careful how I word things.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Yes this is exactly what i want - im not saying it wont possibly lead to more

What if you meet for this social and there is no attraction?

What do you mean nothing in return they had the company of a woman for the evening hopefully some inteligent conversation it maybe more expressive that spending a night in front of the box but is beats that hands down.

Dear god are we really saying you owe a guy sex if you meet him and he buys you a happy meal and a bag of chips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can I ask. ? If you meet the guy you obviously want sex as much as he does. So why does he have to wine and dine you to get you in the mood. Why not wine and dine him ?

If that's what he wanted I would"
nice one see yer at 7

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

nah nothing wrong with it everyone is different at the end of the day....me personally I'd like a relaxed social meet with some one first and get acquainted a bit better first then if all goes well take things further

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes

You maybe weren't to know this, but there are those on here who do make such demands in return for sex.

There's a massive difference between "let's go out for dinner and see where things go" and "take me out for dinner and spoil me and then I'll fuck you"

Well I know now lol

Well you'll have no problem finding men who would love to join you and meet you on those terms. x

Often things are taken quite literally because there are people on here who expect more than you suggested.

Social meets are very common and there's nothing wrong with wanting to have a chance to get to know someone and flirt a bit. It's all part of the build up. I can understand what you mean about wanting someone to make you feel sexy in that context. I still think most of it comes from you but spending time with someone who thinks you're sexy makes you feel even better.

Stick around though... we're a nice bunch really.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

IMO there is nothing wrong with being wined n dined if you are willing to split the cost. This is swinging not dating after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like a social meet first. It is nice to talk & get to know the person before anything sexual happens.

Saying that a recent meet we went straight to a hotel but we had chatted loads beforehand so it didn't seem wrong to go straight to some action

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

I would feel that you are asking me to pay for your time.

Even if I was to meet you from a dating site with dating in mind,I doubt I would wine and dine you .

More like a game of pool or darts, glass of and packet of crisps

I would get there early so you would not worn about. Me having to pay

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

I'd love that to happen to me! Offers via private mail please...

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By *ensualflingMan
over a year ago

Sometime just meeting for a good fuck is what is needed, however.....the idea of Spoiling someone treating them to a nice meal (I would prefer to cook) nice hot oil massage and lots of teasing before the completely submit them selves to me and allow me to use there body as I please is a huge turn on! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not that confident about going into someones house/hotel room and getting down and dirty "

Couldn't agree with you more,you can't beat a few drinks and a bit of crack first.Even hitting a club at some point during the night,it's what i've been used too for the last 20 odd years.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometime just meeting for a good fuck is what is needed, however.....the idea of Spoiling someone treating them to a nice meal (I would prefer to cook) nice hot oil massage and lots of teasing before the completely submit them selves to me and allow me to use there body as I please is a huge turn on! X"

Yes!!!! this is what i want!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im not that confident about going into someones house/hotel room and getting down and dirty

Couldn't agree with you more,you can't beat a few drinks and a bit of crack first.Even hitting a club at some point during the night,it's what i've been used too for the last 20 odd years."

Good i thought i was on my own with all this lol

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

Yes, buy your own dinner.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I like to cook for a man

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

do you open your purse at any times during this exciting opportunity for the man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

safe to say i got up and left "

Fooking hell

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I like to cook for a man

I only eat for a woman if they put out first.

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By *ensualflingMan
over a year ago

Let me know when you are free then!!

Yes!!!! this is what i want!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not that confident about going into someones house/hotel room and getting down and dirty

Couldn't agree with you more,you can't beat a few drinks and a bit of crack first.Even hitting a club at some point during the night,it's what i've been used too for the last 20 odd years.

Good i thought i was on my own with all this lol "

Do what's best for you,otherwise you're not gonna enjoy it anyway. I couldn't do the food bit though it's a bit too formal. Having a few sherbets though and building up a bit of chemistry,no harm in it is there !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"do you open your purse at any times during this exciting opportunity for the man"

If you read previous comments - its clearly states im happy to pay for myself

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

I've no objection to buying a girl dinner at a meet.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"do you open your purse at any times during this exciting opportunity for the man

If you read previous comments - its clearly states I'm happy to pay for myself "

good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Let me know when you are free then!!

Yes!!!! this is what i want!!!"

Indeed i shall xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let me know when you are free then!!

Yes!!!! this is what i want!!!

Indeed i shall xx"
no it's not! Where we going?

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

"Crack" in terms of a laugh is spelt "craic". You just suggested going out for a few drinks and hard drugs. Or was that what you meant?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mrs here I don't want no emotional crap or gifts neither do I want a massage to relax or to be made to feel special I have hubby for that I just want sex nothing more nothing less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Crack" in terms of a laugh is spelt "craic". You just suggested going out for a few drinks and hard drugs. Or was that what you meant?"
this is true I'm Irish and can verify crack is hard drugs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Crack" in terms of a laugh is spelt "craic". You just suggested going out for a few drinks and hard drugs. Or was that what you meant?"

Sometimes i feel like i need some crack when in the forums.

In England it's spelt either way, we don't use a lot of gaelic here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

we like to make an evening of it, share food, have a drink etc but we wouldn't want it to be on anything other than an equal footing.

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

If you really do need it, apparently Mozza can get you some - but only if you go out with him.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I really like the social side of things but a social can be anything from going for coffee to having something to eat, it depends on me and the other person,however your op sounded demanding, expecting a guy to pay for everything just because you've got a vagina.

If that's what you ment put it on your profile and good luck to you I'm sure some guys will, if that's not what you ment it needs some rewording

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Crack" in terms of a laugh is spelt "craic". You just suggested going out for a few drinks and hard drugs. Or was that what you meant?"

No it wasn't.....I'm open to suggestions though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you really do need it, apparently Mozza can get you some - but only if you go out with him.

Who me ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a saveloy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd feel a bit odd having a meal with someone from here as its more of a dating scenario for me. Some guys have offered but I've politely declined preferring to have just a drink and a chat although if it works for you it will probably work for others so good luck.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"What do you offer men?

Seems like you want them to make all the effort."

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"What do you offer men?

Seems like you want them to make all the effort.

I'm all for showing a woman a good time but all within reason.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"What do you offer men?

Seems like you want them to make all the effort.

this......

last time i checked i thought swinging was suppoose to be a two way effort.... so what are you doing to attract them.......

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Hmm, sounds wonderful to me too, maybe I'll change those filters again.....

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

For a first meet going for a meal to me is more like going on a date. Meeting for a drink and natter to see if you click is better. If you then start to meet on a regular basis say as a fb then meals out together can be fun with plenty of flirting going on.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"What do you offer men?

Seems like you want them to make all the effort."

Quite. Plenty of them about in today's dating world.

Spot them a mile off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes"

I interpreted your post to mean that you liked to be wined and dined. Nothing more. Nothing wrong I this at all. I expect regular meets to share so I pay one time, they pay the next. Nothing wrong at all in your post.

Don't let the professionally offended get you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

I don't mind all that as long as the finacial bit is 50/50. That way its clearly not money for services rendered.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"Yes this is exactly what i want - im not saying it wont possibly lead to more

What if you meet for this social and there is no attraction?

No id happily pay half or even all of my own bill im not saying i want them to pay either lol "

You did come across wrong, initially. Lol

Equality of sexes, that's as it should be. They can't have their cake and eat it, just as men can't, either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes as how can you have fun with a full tummy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??

I don't mind all that as long as the finacial bit is 50/50. That way its clearly not money for services rendered. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I don't want to be taken out for dinner...... And I wouldn't call it whoring myself out either.

However , I wouldn't say no if a guy offered to cook for me

Rule of thumb is just buy drinks and snacks , I'm not putting myself out more than that "

I've had men cook for me,it's quite an aphrodisiac watching them pour lemon juice over some lettuce or walk in the bedroom with a plate of sausages.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"Yes as how can you have fun with a full tummy.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"No I don't want to be taken out for dinner...... And I wouldn't call it whoring myself out either.

However , I wouldn't say no if a guy offered to cook for me

Rule of thumb is just buy drinks and snacks , I'm not putting myself out more than that

I've had men cook for me,it's quite an aphrodisiac watching them pour lemon juice over some lettuce or walk in the bedroom with a plate of sausages."

Were the sausages 'cut'?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I dont mean as in taking advantage of me in that way lol.

I meant before they satisfy me - take advantage of me sexually lol. Not that i mind meeting up for sex - But i wanna be made to feel sexy "

Why does being wined and dined make you feel sexy? I personally do think it's wrong to have expectations such as yours. If it happens that's a bonus but it shouldn't be mandatory.

Other than being present on this evening, what are you going to contribute? Will you be splitting the cost between the two of you? After all the end outcome is mutually beneficial, seems a bit one-sided if you expect him to pay for a nice meal out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes

Don't let the professionally offended get you down

No one is offended. Has she taken you up on your offer yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I don't want to be taken out for dinner...... And I wouldn't call it whoring myself out either.

However , I wouldn't say no if a guy offered to cook for me

Rule of thumb is just buy drinks and snacks , I'm not putting myself out more than that

I've had men cook for me,it's quite an aphrodisiac watching them pour lemon juice over some lettuce or walk in the bedroom with a plate of sausages.

Were the sausages 'cut'?

I only had the one sausage,didn't want to come across as greedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men like to pay for sex. Some women like men that do that.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??

No, it's perfectly acceptable. I expect exactly the same myself.

As you will be getting sex I think it will be you paying."

Sex?! I'm just after a free meal, preferably with steak or even duck involved. Anything I have to do afterwards isn't my main concern.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

This certainly got a debate going

I'd not want to meet anyone who expected me to spend money on them. I don't feel it is fair.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"I wonder what the rules are with this one as it sounds like a sugar daddy arrangement where the guy pays it all?

Again as i have stated in previous comments i am happy to pay for myself "

That's fine but are you willing to pay for my steak? That's the real meat of the issue and what I really want to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes

Don't let the professionally offended get you down

No one is offended. Has she taken you up on your offer yet?

Alas too far away my dear. If only

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes"

To be honest with you your doing a lot better than many on have done on a first post. And I've quite enjoyed reading it and making a few posts back. Never take anything said on here too much to heart. It's really just about having a bit of a laugh.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"And spoil me rotten I meant my sexual pleasure nothing more. This hasn't come across how I hoped lol

Yeah the OP is worded in a way which could be taken as you are placing a financial value on yourself in return for sex.

The more you post in the forums though the better you'll be at saying what you mean so don't let it put you off.

Thanks . . . My first post so I'm still learning the ropes

You maybe weren't to know this, but there are those on here who do make such demands in return for sex.

There's a massive difference between "let's go out for dinner and see where things go" and "take me out for dinner and spoil me and then I'll fuck you" "

But if she did I probably would!

he he

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

safe to say i got up and left "

That's pretty horrific

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

Spoil me, and real man in one sentence impressive, so basically real hire whores? "

Some people don't seem to want to meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

Spoil me, and real man in one sentence impressive, so basically real hire whores?

Some people don't seem to want to meet anyone.

From the rest of the thread it seems she meant otherwise so I'll try not to be so cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you offer men?

Seems like you want them to make all the effort.

Quite. Plenty of them about in today's dating world.

Spot them a mile off. "

To be fair to the OP, she has said she would pay half & it was more the case of wanting a social meet first with a drink, chat & flirting rather than a fuck and go meet.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I think we've successfully frightened her of now.

Where's the next forum victim?

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"So i joined fab in the assumption i would be able to meet guys that would wine and dine me, spoil me rotten before taking advantage and showing me what a real man is made of.

I want to be made to feel sexy and i want to be shaking with excitement whilst im laid down being shown just how sexy, hot and fuckable i am.

Is that so wrong of me??"

If that is a condition they have to meet before playing with you then, yes it's wrong.

That makes it a form of payment for sex.

If they wish to wine and dine you with no strings attached then, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Girl. You've hit the nail on the head. If you're made to feel sexy you give a better performance. High five.

Lady mffxxx

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

"Girl. You've hit the nail on the head. If you're made to feel sexy you give a better performance. High five.

Lady mffxxx"

So very true!! Kate usually texts pictures to meet while she's getting ready. Having the guys giving positive comments makes her enjoy it so much more. (Well if they said she looked shut I think the meet would be canceled. )

That said, we've not done the whole meal thing but if we did, we'd pay for everything. We hate discussing anything to do with money. So we always pay for rooms etc.

But the concept is fine - use the site how you want to.

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