FabSwingers.com forum: double standards

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why is it that as a single bloke I'm required send face pictures but single women and couples think its ok to just say I'll send them when we've talked more!! WTF!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

No one is required to do anything...be a devil and say to yourself...sod you, double standards, I am not sending you one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because it just is

I only send a face pic in return if I like the one that's sent to me, if not I don't bother but I do reply and say I'm not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol I know your not actually required but if you don't no one reads your message.... so damed if you do and damed if you don't ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we send a first message it has a face photo x if we ask and don't get we will just ssy thanks and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol that's the thing.... they have said they are interested and want to meet but want to talk more first... crackers isn't it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i know they can but its bolloks though...

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It's just a simple matter of supply and demand. The supply of single guys far out-weights the demand, creating the situation where couples and ladies can be as bolshy as they like because there's always another guy if you don't tick the boxes.

I'm a believer of exchanging face pics early on to ensure we're not wasting each others time. I honestly can't understand why every guy doesn't include their face-pic in the first message anyway?

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just look at it like another ring of burning fire to jump through before you get to your eventual goal. It's well worth the effort when you get to meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way to be successful on the site is to chill and let the bullshit flow right on by

There is a huge amount of chaff but when you get to the wheat its delicious.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"The best way to be successful on the site is to chill and let the bullshit flow right on by

There is a huge amount of chaff but when you get to the wheat its delicious.

Totally agree - wise words indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as my face is on my profile in quite a few photos, I would like one in the first message, it seems harsh but the way I look at it, this isn't a dating site and stuff, lets be honest, how many of us would really want to have sex with someone they didn't find attractive? If I'm going to be spending a few hours with someone staring at them it's all about the face for me first, you could have a sexy body and lush cock all you like but if your face isn't for me, then it's a 'no thanks' from me.

Some men aren't picky I know and just see my boobs and stuff and don't really care about my face but I do care!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"why is it that as a single bloke I'm required send face pictures but single women and couples think its ok to just say I'll send them when we've talked more!! WTF!"

its only a double standard if you adhere to it....

no one is holding a gun to your head making you do anything you don't feel is right!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

If it's one thing I've noticed about human psychology it's that people can quite easily hold contradictory ideas in their heads with ease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because the site is saturated with men who will fuck anything. So to them women and couples knows this so they play by their terms if they send a face pic or not lol.

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"why is it that as a single bloke I'm required send face pictures but single women and couples think its ok to just say I'll send them when we've talked more!! WTF!"

We always ask for face pic to be sent with the message, and if we are interested then we will send ours back, and we always enclose our face pic's when messaging others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So that they can decide if you're handsome enough for them to want to meet. As you're a single man you won't care what they look like. You'll be grateful they are even talking to you. Word of advice,don't give them anything to wank over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My face pic is on my profile ! I have replied to messages with no face pics but obviously if you're intending to meet you need to see who you're talking to! Physical attraction is as important to me as anything else x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Anyone can ask anything, its up to you whether you do it or not. Don't like these profiles then move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is it that as a single bloke I'm required send face pictures but single women and couples think its ok to just say I'll send them when we've talked more!! WTF!

its only a double standard if you adhere to it....

no one is holding a gun to your head making you do anything you don't feel is right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well as my face is on my profile in quite a few photos, I would like one in the first message, it seems harsh but the way I look at it, this isn't a dating site and stuff, lets be honest, how many of us would really want to have sex with someone they didn't find attractive? If I'm going to be spending a few hours with someone staring at them it's all about the face for me first, you could have a sexy body and lush cock all you like but if your face isn't for me, then it's a 'no thanks' from me.

Some men aren't picky I know and just see my boobs and stuff and don't really care about my face but I do care!!"

I did wonder why all my meets wanted to shag me doggy style only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men aren't picky I know and just see my boobs and stuff and don't really care about my face but I do care!!

I did wonder why all my meets wanted to shag me doggy style only

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Awwww pitstop ,I do like doggy though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men aren't picky I know and just see my boobs and stuff and don't really care about my face but I do care!!

I did wonder why all my meets wanted to shag me doggy style only

That explains a few things to me to!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is it that as a single bloke I'm required send face pictures but single women and couples think its ok to just say I'll send them when we've talked more!! WTF!"
look always include your face pic with every message and not one with a cock in your mouth the ladies have seen it all before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont insist on a face pic with a first message nor do I send one. I do ask not to be sent cock pics by way of introduction. Still get them though. Not with every message, thankfully.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Decide what your deal breakers are and then stick to them . If sending face pic right off is one of them then just don't do it ...simples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is it that as a single bloke I'm required send face pictures but single women and couples think its ok to just say I'll send them when we've talked more!! WTF!"

It's all about supply and demand, you're in a heavy majority so the minorities feel they can be more picky.

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

Unfortunately for the genuine guys, there are a lot of time wasters and chancers on here and we find it easier to avoid them by asking for a face pic early on. Once we have both seen the messages and agreed, we will then send one back. This may not be straight away if we're not together at the time. If the guy then gets pushy, we'll leave it.

That's not to say that there aren't couples and female time wasters too, but as stated, with the amount of single guys on here, we can afford to be choosy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supply and demand, buyers market... simples

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"why is it that as a single bloke I'm required send face pictures but single women and couples think its ok to just say I'll send them when we've talked more!! WTF!"

men do it because they want sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely send a pic in a first message, unless its asked for in the profile, even then I more than often forget.

I have face pics on my profile, so if my message sparks an interest they can be seen by looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just look at it like another ring of burning fire to jump through before you get to your eventual goal. It's well worth the effort when you get to meet someone.

Er I'll go with Rugby's answer I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make first contact a lot and will always attach a face pic as I think its only courteous to when you have none on your profile and it saves time as if they are not attracted to you, they probably won't reply which is preferable to endless massages only to find when you do eventually swap pics, there's no attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make first contact a lot and will always attach a face pic as I think its only courteous to when you have none on your profile and it saves time as if they are not attracted to you, they probably won't reply which is preferable to endless massages only to find when you do eventually swap pics, there's no attraction. "

Ooops, I'm obsessed with massages, I meant messages

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

Whether I send a pic or not is at my leisure. I make exceptions on a whim so if I'm comfortable doing so, I will. If I'm not then I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why is it that as a single bloke I'm required send face pictures but single women and couples think its ok to just say I'll send them when we've talked more!! WTF!"

If you initiate the conversation, they are right.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There are no rules, apart from treating others with complete respect.

Fab generally provides a tougher environment for single guys to get what they need compared to couples and single females.

We each need to decide what our objectives are and what we can do, so that we improve our chances of actually achieving them. There aren't double standards, merely that each of us will face different challenges and decisions. It's feasible that a single guy could be here, never message anyone or send photos, nor get meets. That would be his choice. We up our game, if we choose or not - and then live with the consequences. Using Fab is not mandatory - neither is visiting swinging clubs. At least at a club we won't be asked for photos, as we're visible to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have public face pics so if someone messages me I think they should send me a face pic with their first message.

It is very embarrassing to chat to someone for a while, get a face pic, and realise there is no chance in hell you want to fuck them, no matter how good the chat is.

There has to be a physical and mental connection for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the OP has now left the building!

Some guys can't accept that the ratio of men to everyone else makes it nigh on impossible to meet.

As they say, "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again!"

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"because it just is

I only send a face pic in return if I like the one that's sent to me, if not I don't bother but I do reply and say I'm not interested

? This

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