FabSwingers.com forum: so... just how do you see the site?

By *abio OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

just a comment from another user in another thread got the old hamster wheel in my head spinning....

"Ha ha. This is not match.com. It is a swinging/dogging/fuckiing site is it"

okay... so it isn't a dating site! but for me there is a big difference between what in essence is a "swinging site" and basically a "sex/fucking site".....

is this just me then? am i just splitting hairs so to speak...

how do you see the site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think this site is what ever you make it and for some folk, it has turned into match.com!

how a meet is progressed on here is between those involved and as long as it consensual i don't think anyone has a right to apply the right or wrong label

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For no strings sex

To socialise

To learn more about sexual behaviour

Find out what i like and dont like

Boost to my self esteem and confidence

Make friends

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

I'm with you on that one _abio. I think the social side is very much an integral part of swinging as the physical side of it.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I do not see the site as you had 'quoted' to you!

I see it as an oppertunity of getting to know new people, hopefully meeting people I like and most importantly I enjoy the social side as well, though not saying there are actually socials held up here...can live in hope though, but definately none of the above!!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

The one site out of all of those on the internet that I'm spending the most time on currently.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

All sites are what you make of them.I like sex,to socialise and make friends,so this place is ideal.If i just wanted random sex(not that there is anything wrong with random sex) i would simply go clubbing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs."

Im with _iew on this one

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Having experienced several site over the years I find it fantastic, without a comparative site to touch it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been on here 18 months fab has made me laugh its made me cry ,ive met some great people in person and on line ,...Its helped me out on days when i didnt just want my own company, so i never feel alone ,there are some fabulous characters on this site and some complete W**kers but above all FaB is FAB cos its FAB ...

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs."

Perfect description View

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive been on here 18 months fab has made me laugh its made me cry ,ive met some great people in person and on line ,...Its helped me out on days when i didnt just want my own company, so i never feel alone ,there are some fabulous characters on this site and some complete W**kers but above all FaB is FAB cos its FAB ...

ooh i should have said i have had the occasional sexual encounter too...which i beleive is the main aim of the site !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just a comment from another user in another thread got the old hamster wheel in my head spinning....

"Ha ha. This is not match.com. It is a swinging/dogging/fuckiing site is it"

okay... so it isn't a dating site! but for me there is a big difference between what in essence is a "swinging site" and basically a "sex/fucking site".....

is this just me then? am i just splitting hairs so to speak...

how do you see the site?"
you will only get out of this site what you want to put into it,nothing else

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By *abio OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs."

maybe it is me then...

I see it more as a swinging community where "Sex" just happens to be the common denominator... and if that happens then that is a bonus......

hence the "swinging site" rather than a "sex site" question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs.

maybe it is me then...

I see it more as a swinging community where "Sex" just happens to be the common denominator... and if that happens then that is a bonus......

hence the "swinging site" rather than a "sex site" question"

I think it sounds much better too swinging rather than sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh sugar, try again ...

A place to interact with "like-minded" people. Those who have minds we do not like we don't interact with ... simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ha ha. This is not match.com. It is a swinging/dogging/fuckiing site is it"

This comment has to be from a newbie. On the bright side perhaps this person is someone who has not had opportunities and is seeking to open up and perhaps will obtain a kind of education from interacting with more open minded people. We can only hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs."

Concur!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it also as a sex site but with benefits. Forums are great for meeting people and making friends but also I find a lot of useful information on them and I love other people's _iewpoints and experiences. I wouldnt like this site as much without the forums

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"I see it also as a sex site but with benefits. Forums are great for meeting people and making friends but also I find a lot of useful information on them and I love other people's _iewpoints and experiences. I wouldnt like this site as much without the forums

Agreed - I hardly ever use the chat room but it would be a huge loss if the forums weren't available.

I just wish they were a bit more user-friendly, like the vBulletin-based forums you get on other sites (not just swinging sites... on all forum sites).

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

D'oh, I meant to say "I hardly ever use the chat room so wouldn't be sad to see the back of it but it would be a huge loss if the forums weren't available".

My fingers are struggling to keep up with my brain tonight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs.

maybe it is me then...

I see it more as a swinging community where "Sex" just happens to be the common denominator... and if that happens then that is a bonus......

hence the "swinging site" rather than a "sex site" question"

I think we have to be real here, the overall majority of people on here ere probably motivated to join by sex or the enhancement of their sex life in some way, to many the friendships are the bonus. That balance may change for some after being on the site a while.

' Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs', that's probably about right, but I don't think it needs a label.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a contact site for people who are looking for sexual encounters to me. Some singles, some couples. I know a few people who have got together for more and that is good for them. Others just like to play the field. I don't see any reason to narrow what it can be used for though so if you want more than occasional fun from it then go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it is about helping to find people that enable me to do the things I want to do. I sort their fantasys and them mine..

I dont really do the social other than the forums, although I do have a few friends, but rarely socialise with meets. Bit of banter yes, but no friendly stuff really..

For me it is a way to meet for sex primarily...

If I wanted friendships in particular I have other places for that, but I do have a few that I talk to quite a bit via messages.

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs.

maybe it is me then...

I see it more as a swinging community where "Sex" just happens to be the common denominator... and if that happens then that is a bonus......

hence the "swinging site" rather than a "sex site" question

' Sex site with the benefit of friendships and laughs', that's probably about right, but I don't think it needs a label. "

I agree!

I didn't join this site to forge friendships but to get to meet lots of sexy men that play dirty!!

As these have not been one-off meets friendships have undoubtedly developed, something I didn't expect if truth be told.

I've had, and continue to have laughs with different people: people I wouldn't necessarily play with, but real characters who I wouldn't mind sharing a pint of Peroni or two with.

Sadly, I think I spend far too much time here, and it is manily because of the forums...long may they continue. Even the nutjobs are entertaining!!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"just a comment from another user in another thread got the old hamster wheel in my head spinning....

"Ha ha. This is not match.com. It is a swinging/dogging/fuckiing site is it"

okay... so it isn't a dating site! but for me there is a big difference between what in essence is a "swinging site" and basically a "sex/fucking site".....

is this just me then? am i just splitting hairs so to speak...

how do you see the site?"

We see it as a NSA sex site as that is what we are looking for. We are not looking for friends to socialise with outside of playing, to chat to on the phone outside of playing etc.

I know I know, we will be told off as swinging isn't supposed to be like that, but we make our own rules to suit us.

I do like the chat and forums to nose at but that has nothing to do with the whole NSA sex we are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as something new. Im here to try new things and meet new ppl. Im not here to fuck 100s of ppl.......Great sex with a sexy cpl thats why im here. 1 on 1 with a girlie would be good but thats harder than i thought.....gen actually bi women seem few and far between xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly, I think I spend far too much time here, and it is manily because of the forums...long may they continue. Even the nutjobs are entertaining!!!"

Your so right I also spend too much time on here, having a smartphone means that the forums are usually on in the background even when I'm not using the phone, it's becoming a habit. I do laugh at something in the forums most days. Very entertaining.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Personally I find it a bit bizzare when poeple rant and rave at each other on the forums on the 'one true swinging' theme....

...your not a proper swinger because you are married/single/go dogging/go bare back/eat shellfish/use text speech...

Use the site settings, think out your profile and use the block button and make the site what YOU want it to be.

Simple really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I feel same as you xx just looking to make friends here as some lovely people on fab xxx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Personally I find it a bit bizzare when poeple rant and rave at each other on the forums on the 'one true swinging' theme....

...your not a proper swinger because you are married/single/go dogging/go bare back/eat shellfish/use text speech...

Use the site settings, think out your profile and use the block button and make the site what YOU want it to be.

Simple really.

* nods *

Now go back to funny posts please, we don't normally expect sensible answers from you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yesterday I had the finger pointed and was told I was too physical sometimes. So I thought a bit about it and decided I should put love hearts all over my profile. Then I went and gave my head a shake and remembered I'm here for the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yesterday I had the finger pointed and was told I was too physical sometimes. So I thought a bit about it and decided I should put love hearts all over my profile. Then I went and gave my head a shake and remembered I'm here for the sex

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you could still put love hearts on profile .... saying your a lover of good sex ... I think love hearts are sweet. You have to be yourself on sites like this xx if you feel like love hearts you have them x jo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm primarily here to find compatible partners and arrange meetings with them where we engage in sexual activity together,,,,,,, however, I find the social aspects etc of being a site member are very enjoyable and extremely worthwhile fringe benefits,,,, but I'd still be here without them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We see it as a site to meet new people. Hopefully we will get to have some sexy fun with our new found friends as well. We love to be sociable. We don't however see it as a site for people to verbally abuse us.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

The reasons I came to this site and the reasons I stay are very different so I have 2 _iews!

I came here as a married man attempting to get extra-curricular sex that was it! Nothing more. But I soon realised when it came to the crunch and given the opportunity I wasn't cut out for infidelity, for one thing I don't want to hurt anyone and the second I simply don't have the cognitive capacity to cope with the life of an adultery LOL.

The reasons I stay are I enjoy the banter on the forum, I've made some great friends and so it was either be a 'non-meeting freak' or leave the site for good.

I like being a freak

So if I were to remove the fact I'm married and merged my two _iews it would be that this site facilitates 'friendships and fucking'.

So here's to the two F's! (purely from a married man none participating pocket fluff collecting stand point)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see this site as a way of keepin in contact along with email msn and text with people i have already met over the years

Having fun in the forums and generally get the feelin that im not the only perv out there lol xx

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We see it as a place to arrange NSA sexual fun. If we meet people we then make friends with then that is a bonus, the same applies at clubs and on other singers sites.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I usually see it on my laptop or pc but ocasionally on my iphone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IT is a great site ! i like the social side ,getting to meet new people who love sex ,and are not afraid to talk about it ,i have dated off here ,it never worked ,i do enjoy meeting sexily attired ladies either with there partners or alone ,i dont want a relationsip ,and this site is perfect for me , its a sexy site , FRANKIE XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use the site for sexy fun. I like to contribute to the forums.

If we stopped playing, I don't think I would stay on here just to talk though.

At the moment we are enjoying our time here. We've left the other sites we were on as this one gives us everything we are looking for at present

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By *abio OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I usually see it on my laptop or pc but ocasionally on my iphone

I have been waiting on that answer...

surprised it took that long!!!

anyway thank you for all the answers so far.. it is interesting to see the way people perceive the site from within... because we all know how it is perceived from the outside......

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"I usually see it on my laptop or pc but ocasionally on my iphone

I have been waiting on that answer...

surprised it took that long!!!

anyway thank you for all the answers so far.. it is interesting to see the way people perceive the site from within... because we all know how it is perceived from the outside......

always happy to obilge lol

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Personally I find it a bit bizzare when poeple rant and rave at each other on the forums on the 'one true swinging' theme....

...your not a proper swinger because you are married/single/go dogging/go bare back/eat shellfish/use text speech...

Use the site settings, think out your profile and use the block button and make the site what YOU want it to be.

Simple really.

* nods *

Now go back to funny posts please, we don't normally expect sensible answers from you !

I guess that demonstrates just how annoyed I'm getting with some of the troll like behaviour on here, especially that directed at new comers.

Signed,

Billgoat Gruff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loves new folk but i couldnt eat a whole one xx

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I'm primarily here to find compatible partners and arrange meetings with them where we engage in sexual activity together,,,,,,, however, I find the social aspects etc of being a site member are very enjoyable and extremely worthwhile fringe benefits,,,, but I'd still be here without them..

...don't forget knocking me and my coin pouch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just a comment from another user in another thread got the old hamster wheel in my head spinning....

"Ha ha. This is not match.com. It is a swinging/dogging/fuckiing site is it"

okay... so it isn't a dating site! but for me there is a big difference between what in essence is a "swinging site" and basically a "sex/fucking site".....

is this just me then? am i just splitting hairs so to speak...

how do you see the site?"

A lot more addictive that facebook, and a lot better as it doesnt have those bloody games on it lol

I've met some great people on here any totally enjoyed it, but i'm here to have fun and make friends. Luckily its worked out that way so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually see it on my laptop or pc but ocasionally on my iphone

I have been waiting on that answer...

surprised it took that long!!!

anyway thank you for all the answers so far.. it is interesting to see the way people perceive the site from within... because we all know how it is perceived from the outside......

I'm not sure it is percieved that much differently outside the site. There will always be a degree of intolerance and moralist out there, but I think most people expect these sites to be basically what they are.

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