FabSwingers.com forum: Courtesy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes"

That is one for the ladies. Why do you?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

god forbid no, if I got on any public transport I would need to sit and have a fixed stare ahead in case I got eye contact with the locals....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes

That is one for the ladies. Why do you?"

What???

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"god forbid no, if I got on any public transport I would need to sit and have a fixed stare ahead in case I got eye contact with the locals...."

What if someone was on crutches or there was an obviously heavily pregnant woman standing?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. Drummed into me from an early age. Old school gentleman and make no apologies for it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"god forbid no, if I got on any public transport I would need to sit and have a fixed stare ahead in case I got eye contact with the locals....

What if someone was on crutches or there was an obviously heavily pregnant woman standing?"

well, maybe

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?"

Always.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm a perfectly healthy fit adult. I don't expect anyone to give up a seat for me, and would give up my seat willingly for people who need it more.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I do and last time I looked i was a girl! The only time I don't give up my seat is if I am working the Guide dog puppy.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I'm a perfectly healthy fit adult. I don't expect anyone to give up a seat for me, and would give up my seat willingly for people who need it more. "

thank you

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No...

Because I never use public transport. However I open doors for ladies and would give up my seat in a waiting room (for example) if necessary.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"god forbid no, if I got on any public transport I would need to sit and have a fixed stare ahead in case I got eye contact with the locals....

What if someone was on crutches or there was an obviously heavily pregnant woman standing?"

Entirely different. If there is anyone in a difficult situation, I am sure most of us would be willing to sacrifice our comfort. I am posing the scenario where it is a perfectly adequate lady who is having to stand.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, every time, but I get responses varying from gratitude to abuse

But I wont stop going it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?"

Good Lord!

A lady would never take public transport!

(I used to, but now one has to be more careful. Besides, once you get to my age, the young women offer me theirs instead saying "ere, you go grandpa")

Mr ddc

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I would expect a healthy, fit male to offer me his seat. I would a;so certainly expect a child to stand up if adults needed a seat.

But if there was anyone with any form of fragility I would give them my seat straight away.

I tend not to use public transport but was on the Tube last weekend and noticed that men don't seem to give a shit any more

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'd be fine standing, I'd smile and say thankyou though I wouldn't be offended they had offered like some would

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"god forbid no, if I got on any public transport I would need to sit and have a fixed stare ahead in case I got eye contact with the locals....

What if someone was on crutches or there was an obviously heavily pregnant woman standing?"

Some don't care you're pregnant I can't even count how many times when I was heavily pregnant with my twins and wearing a very obvious bump support harmed and back brace to help me support the weight of the babies and I was left standing uncomfortably in agony only wishing I'd be at least offered a seat.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'm a perfectly healthy fit adult. I don't expect anyone to give up a seat for me, and would give up my seat willingly for people who need it more.

thank you

Yoy're welcome Granddad.

I also read today that standing on public transport burns more calories. I'll take anything I can towards hitting my goals.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Depends if she's a lady

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I would expect a healthy, fit male to offer me his seat. I would a;so certainly expect a child to stand up if adults needed a seat.

But if there was anyone with any form of fragility I would give them my seat straight away.

I tend not to use public transport but was on the Tube last weekend and noticed that men don't seem to give a shit any more

"
because they get abuse for doing it these days that's why they don't do it anymore

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I'm a perfectly healthy fit adult. I don't expect anyone to give up a seat for me, and would give up my seat willingly for people who need it more.

thank you

Yoy're welcome Granddad.

I also read today that standing on public transport burns more calories. I'll take anything I can towards hitting my goals.

to be fair, I got the bus to Dundee one morning last winter as my car is crap in the snow... I was stunned how territorial people were.... They were saying 'such and such sits there'

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would offer my seat to anyone I thought might enjoy having it more than me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would expect a healthy, fit male to offer me his seat. I would a;so certainly expect a child to stand up if adults needed a seat.

But if there was anyone with any form of fragility I would give them my seat straight away.

I tend not to use public transport but was on the Tube last weekend and noticed that men don't seem to give a shit any more

I am not sure that is entirely true. I recall being on the Tube not so long ago and at least three people offered their seats to a heavily pregnant lady.

But the question was about giving up your seat to a perfectly fit lady.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends how my day has been. 99% I don't sit on public transport if others need a seat, but that 1%, noone dares ask because my face has the number of f*@#s I give written across it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I would offer my seat to anyone I thought might enjoy having it more than me."

Always feels a bit weird sitting in a pre-warmed seat.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

People can be far too judgemental in situations like this. I suffer with a herniated disc which causes terrible pain in my lower back and right leg, but to look at me I would appear perfectly healthy. So should I give up my seat and stand in agony silently, or sit there and people think I'm ignorant and not a gentleman? Food for thought

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends how my day has been. 99% I don't sit on public transport if others need a seat, but that 1%, noone dares ask because my face has the number of f*@#s I give written across it"

But do you consider that a fit female needs your seat?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was heavily pregnant someone only ever gave their seat up for me once. It was in a fast rickety tram. i gave it up myself to an elderly woman with a stick and got tuts from all the passengers

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I often do. And last time I checked I'm a girl. I also thank the driver when I get off.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would offer my seat to anyone I thought might enjoy having it more than me.

Always feels a bit weird sitting in a pre-warmed seat."

That's the very reason why I don't use public toilets.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ighting17thMan
over a year ago

Bodmin

"Absolutely. Drummed into me from an early age. Old school gentleman and make no apologies for it."

I'm the same- I also let ladies ( especially with young children clearly making her life difficult) go before me at a shop checkout/counter

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends how my day has been. 99% I don't sit on public transport if others need a seat, but that 1%, noone dares ask because my face has the number of f*@#s I give written across it

But do you consider that a fit female needs your seat?"

Nope, on those days everyone except old biddies, pregnant women, and people on crutches can go away. And even then I'm reluctant in my thoughts

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I often do. And last time I checked I'm a girl. I also thank the driver when I get off.

You give up your seat to another able bodied female?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I would offer my seat to anyone I thought might enjoy having it more than me.

Always feels a bit weird sitting in a pre-warmed seat.

That's the very reason why I don't use public toilets."

Yeah, that too.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?"

Er no. Equality and all that.

Unless she was ancient or pregnant.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody ever gave up their seat for me when i was pregnant, and my kids were all whoppers so it was obvious i was pregnant.

After i'd had the baby it was a different story though and i got offers of help with my pram and my toddlers.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would offer my seat to anyone I thought might enjoy having it more than me.

Always feels a bit weird sitting in a pre-warmed seat."

Unless you've been freezing your arse off waiting

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends how my day has been. 99% I don't sit on public transport if others need a seat, but that 1%, noone dares ask because my face has the number of f*@#s I give written across it

But do you consider that a fit female needs your seat?

Nope, on those days everyone except old biddies, pregnant women, and people on crutches can go away. And even then I'm reluctant in my thoughts"

OK, reading the comment above that latter, mums or dads with kids. Because I have such a look, there's generally family sized spaces around me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?"

...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Yes, every time, but I get responses varying from gratitude to abuse

But I wont stop going it"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?

...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man"

Once again, folks, I am not asking about people less able. I am asking about able-bodied females.

I would hope that anyone with half a heart would give up their seat to someone who had a greater need so there is no point in suggesting that.

You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?"

No. You snooze, you lose.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?

No. You snooze, you lose.

"
I'd let you sit on my lap

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?

No. You snooze, you lose.

I really would not expect an able-bodied female to offer her seat to another able-bodied female. Would you expect an able-bodied male to offer you a seat?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?

No. You snooze, you lose.

I really would not expect an able-bodied female to offer her seat to another able-bodied female. Would you expect an able-bodied male to offer you a seat?"

Nope.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, every time, but I get responses varying from gratitude to abuse

But I wont stop going it"

You could say they could sit on your lap

Win/win

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer is Yes, unless it's the tube in London at rush hour and then it's every man/woman/dog for themselves

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

[Removed by poster at 27/09/15 18:30:54]

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?

No. You snooze, you lose.

I'd let you sit on my lap

Your legs wouldn't thank you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?

...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man

Once again, folks, I am not asking about people less able. I am asking about able-bodied females.

I would hope that anyone with half a heart would give up their seat to someone who had a greater need so there is no point in suggesting that.

You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?"

depends if I felt caged in as I don't like being too close to people so sometimes in the past yes even on a crowded train I have got up from my seat and stood some where else and let somebody take my seat.

as I have long legs and am not too fond off being sandwiched between people...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth would you? Chivalry gone mad.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never take the seat if offered. I'm 30 and healthy, there's no need. I'll be all over that shit as soon as I'm old enough though

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do . Its somthingbi have been brought up to do.i am quite happy to do so.

Its cause me to have some funny looks when I have been in London.

Its only right a fit healthy chap should stand and a lady sit

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

I always offer my seat to anybody that needs it more than me

some ive found to be stuborn and not taken the offer

but I always will get out of my seat for a lady or anyone that is older than I am

my children have also been brought up the same

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I would expect a healthy, fit male to offer me his seat. I would a;so certainly expect a child to stand up if adults needed a seat.

But if there was anyone with any form of fragility I would give them my seat straight away.

I tend not to use public transport but was on the Tube last weekend and noticed that men don't seem to give a shit any more

because they get abuse for doing it these days that's why they don't do it anymore"

Not from me, it seems wrong if that's the case

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll give my seat up for someone that clearly needs it more than me. Being female doesn;t meet that criteria

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't expect anyone to give up their seat but if someone offered and I was knackered I'd say thanks & take it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?

...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man

Once again, folks, I am not asking about people less able. I am asking about able-bodied females.

I would hope that anyone with half a heart would give up their seat to someone who had a greater need so there is no point in suggesting that.

You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?"

Not a chance. Equality, basically. Women are just as able to stand as I am.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its only right a fit healthy chap should stand and a lady sit

Why is it? Can you expand on this?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK, men. On a crowded train/bus/tube do you give up your seat to a lady who is having to stand?

...if the person is older/struggling etc then sure why not..does not matter to me if its a woman or man

Once again, folks, I am not asking about people less able. I am asking about able-bodied females.

I would hope that anyone with half a heart would give up their seat to someone who had a greater need so there is no point in suggesting that.

You are in a crowded train. An able-bodied female is standing. Do you offer her your seat?

Not a chance. Equality, basically. Women are just as able to stand as I am. "

So if there's one seat available who gets it ~ you or the missus?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i offer my seat to anybody if they need it - fem here and yes he would too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ountryfansCouple
over a year ago

huntingdon

I always give up a seat for a lady. Was brought up that way. There are too many people who just think of themselves. We took kids out of pushchairs who were old enough to sit on laps and folded up buggies and put in the luggage rack.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

No... I will hold doors open for ANYBODY and give up my seat to those who need it, but if you're perfectly able-bodied, simply having a vagina doesn't make you any less able to stand than a man...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paul does because he was brought up to be very gentlemanly and does treat woman as if they are "precious" ie opens doors, drops you close to the place you are going and then parks and he won't allow a woman to carry bags! I have argued with him so many times over this as I am miss independent but he eas brought up to look after woman

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pregnant, disabled or elderly only last 2 are any sex. equality and all that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

f**k 'em, equality all the way and if she was pregnant? just the same as the rest of the forumites.

" eeeee dirty bare backer, get away!!!!"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread