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Why women need to shout about sexual pleasure

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By *yrdwoman OP   Woman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Just posted this on another post and thought it could do with a wider audience.

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/womens-blog/2015/sep/24/women-sexual-pleasure-porn-sex?CMP=share_btn_tw

Some choice quotes:

Faced with harmful online porn and a hyper-sexualised media that equates ‘sexy’ with a submissive, heterosexual stereotype, it is vital that women find ways to discuss the reality of sex.

“Giving the direction ‘fingers inside me with clitoral stimulation’ seemed to cause as much confusion as telling him to look behind something to find the milk.”

...it could be argued that the advent of online pornography has turned back the clock on the sexual revolution, at least from a feminist perspective.

Sexual empowerment and feminism remain closely linked in a world in which women are expected to perform sexually but not necessarily to make their own demands.

The reason I posted this on the other post is because the lack of foreplay and the general lack of passion shown by some men during sex was a main feature of the OP, and I thought the above article was relevant. Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a really complex issue and ties in with attitudes towards gender and desire. The way society generally regards men as sexual beings and women as the gatekeepers of sex, who only exhibit desire in response to interest from a man. Women definitely need to start shouting about their needs, but first we need to convince the world that we do indeed have them.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

It's an interesting article, and while I think a lot depends on the sort of porn that is watched, it must be remembered that there are no Casanova Classes for men. We all learned by trial and error, and are a product of our previous sexual partners. If women in the past were happy to lie back and think of England rather than provide feedback, they end up with men who think "but all the other women loved it, what's wrong with you?" attitude.

Add to that the fact that some women like different things - sometimes total opposites, and those things can change from one week to the next, without effective communications, it's a recipe for disappointments, if not disasters

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to read this later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's an interesting article, and while I think a lot depends on the sort of porn that is watched, it must be remembered that there are no Casanova Classes for men. We all learned by trial and error, and are a product of our previous sexual partners. If women in the past were happy to lie back and think of England rather than provide feedback, they end up with men who think "but all the other women loved it, what's wrong with you?" attitude.

Add to that the fact that some women like different things - sometimes total opposites, and those things can change from one week to the next, without effective communications, it's a recipe for disappointments, if not disasters

Mr ddc"

Hit it right on the head Communication is the key and ladys today tbh fo have more of a say and some of us guys do listen to wants needs disslikes no two ladys are the same

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