FabSwingers.com forum: Need to rant....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry but I need to vent....

Been asked to socially meet twice today and on both occasions they wanted me to drive an hour each way to meet them in thier home town ...

One even had the cheek to say he could only spend an hour cos he was meeting is regular fb ..

Is it me just being picky or wouldn't it be fairer to meet halfway . But the guy who was gonna be meeting his fb then told me his fb wouldn't be meeting him again after today so would I like to be his new regular one....Probably have to drive an hour each way each week. ..

Am I just being silly??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask everyone travel to me.

Fab meets fit in around me, that's how it goes and if others can't fit my meets then it doesn't matter, i'll look for someone else.

Looks like you've found guys who can be choosy...

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By *ichardBarrowMan
over a year ago

grantham

You can drive to us, it will take a bit longer but think of the _iews. We will make you a cup of tea when your here?

Seriously, if you want to meet an hour drive should not really come into it but to only give you an hour is rude I think. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shock as guys can be picky too.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've visited blokes at theirs, although I wouldn't travel an hour each way unless I was going that way anyway.

The way I see it, if we expect them to travel then, unless there's a very good reason not to, we should expect to travel. But if they're going to be here anyway, well, may as well make the most of it.

Just do what you want to do. If they're worth the effort, go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don;t think you are being silly

Compromise is good and they both sound like they expected you to be doing everything. The guy with the FB in particular screams entitlement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like it when anyone expects me to do anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only want people within an hours drive due to this, but no you have the right to be picky and say no as being second choice. For us we don't drive(yet) so people would need to travel but we're willing for a social and we would travel in to see whoever for said social(an hours drive and an hour and a half's bis ride) what is it they say plenty more men in the bar

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don;t think you are being silly

Compromise is good and they both sound like they expected you to be doing everything. The guy with the FB in particular screams entitlement"

I don't mind driving but I think cos both of them wanted me to drive that distance just made me think!

But definitely to only have a time scale once I got there even for a social I thought was a bit rude as he'd be looking at his watch all the time. ...he probably would have an alarm set on his phone ...times up!! Lol

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

For an initial social meet, half way or mutually convenient location.

Anything else, they can run and jump.

And fitted into an hour? It's not a job inter_iew...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never travel to a meet. If the guy doesn't want to travel to me it's no problem. Someone else just as good will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are being choosy. You should be. I've travelled to go to meets because I wanted and was happy too. If your not happy to do so and they won't compromise then next profile it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For an initial social meet, half way or mutually convenient location.

Anything else, they can run and jump.

And fitted into an hour? It's not a job inter_iew...! "

Exactly I did feel like he was gonna inter_iew me for the new vacancy of fuck buddy. ..

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

if meeting a single lady I offer to meet somewhere she feels safe and comfortable, then if all goes well a halfway point in future. Unless one of us offers to accom obviously.

Does it depend how "hot" someone perceives themselves to be in relation to the prospective partner as to how far you might travel?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I get asked all sorts on here, doesn't mean I have to do any of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if meeting a single lady I offer to meet somewhere she feels safe and comfortable, then if all goes well a halfway point in future. Unless one of us offers to accom obviously.

Does it depend how "hot" someone perceives themselves to be in relation to the prospective partner as to how far you might travel? "

I wouldn't travel far for a first meet now. I don't want to spend hours on a train to spend half an hour sucking someone's cock before he cums and wants me to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if meeting a single lady I offer to meet somewhere she feels safe and comfortable, then if all goes well a halfway point in future. Unless one of us offers to accom obviously.

Does it depend how "hot" someone perceives themselves to be in relation to the prospective partner as to how far you might travel?

I wouldn't travel far for a first meet now. I don't want to spend hours on a train to spend half an hour sucking someone's cock before he cums and wants me to leave. "

Holy crap! That sounds awful!

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

I can understand not wanting to travel far for a social. I'd only consider socials in London and, possibly, just outside of London. If it was a meet then distance is not an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't travel far for a first meet now. I don't want to spend hours on a train to spend half an hour sucking someone's cock before he cums and wants me to leave. "

But you would spend half an hour sucking his cock then he could leave??

You sound ideal

Or,I Wouldn't make you leave after, you'd be making the tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 26/09/15 15:04:45]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to reply but really can't be fucking arsed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was going to reply but really can't be fucking arsed.

Lmao

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

"I was going to reply but really can't be fucking arsed.

That was good enough

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

just say no......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"just say no......"

I did...

And instead im just gonna go tesco and buy chocolate for evening at home. ..at least tesco is only 5 miles away lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"just say no......

I did...

And instead I'm just gonna go tesco and buy chocolate for evening at home. ..at least tesco is only 5 miles away lol

happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't travel far for a first meet now. I don't want to spend hours on a train to spend half an hour sucking someone's cock before he cums and wants me to leave.

But you would spend half an hour sucking his cock then he could leave??

You sound ideal

Or,I Wouldn't make you leave after, you'd be making the tea

You can't even make me a cup of tea for my efforts??

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Your nearest Tesco is 5 Miles away?

No wonder he wanted you to travel to him. Never overlook the value of civilization

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

"Sorry but I need to vent....

Been asked to socially meet twice today and on both occasions they wanted me to drive an hour each way to meet them in thier home town ...

One even had the cheek to say he could only spend an hour cos he was meeting is regular fb ..

Am I just being silly??"

Ditch both they seem to be only thinking of themselves and not you. I would never expect a woman to travel an hour to see me, plus she would have to be special for me to travel for an hour.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Sorry but I need to vent....

Been asked to socially meet twice today and on both occasions they wanted me to drive an hour each way to meet them in thier home town ...

One even had the cheek to say he could only spend an hour cos he was meeting is regular fb ..

Am I just being silly??"

It really is all about me! I pick where and when, if they can't make it...next!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And another today...

He said can I come over now (bearing in mind I don't accommodate ) so when I said I would always prefer a social meet first...his reply was. ..Bloody hell it's a sex site!!!!

I've replied and said swinging for me is as much about the social side as the sex. ..

What am I doing wrong??

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"And another today...

He said can I come over now (bearing in mind I don't accommodate ) so when I said I would always prefer a social meet first...his reply was. ..Bloody hell it's a sex site!!!!

I've replied and said swinging for me is as much about the social side as the sex. ..

What am I doing wrong??"

Block and do the searching..... Start your first message with what you are looking for

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Ps your profile smacks lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but I need to vent....

Been asked to socially meet twice today and on both occasions they wanted me to drive an hour each way to meet them in thier home town ...

One even had the cheek to say he could only spend an hour cos he was meeting is regular fb ..

Am I just being silly??"

The world revolves around me types, fuck 'em, but not literally.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Ps your profile smacks lazy "

I agree get rid of all the Sydney university shite and allow your personality shine through...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take control.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ps your profile smacks lazy

I agree get rid of all the Sydney university shite and allow your personality shine through..."

Thank you , yeah I think your right my profile needs a revamp

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Ps your profile smacks lazy

I agree get rid of all the Sydney university shite and allow your personality shine through...

Thank you , yeah I think your right my profile needs a revamp "

It does that Sydney university is a load of shite...your profile just needs a bit of tweaking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And another today...

He said can I come over now (bearing in mind I don't accommodate ) so when I said I would always prefer a social meet first...his reply was. ..Bloody hell it's a sex site!!!!

I've replied and said swinging for me is as much about the social side as the sex. ..

What am I doing wrong??

Block and do the searching..... Start your first message with what you are looking for"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is it about feet in this thread.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"And another today...

He said can I come over now (bearing in mind I don't accommodate ) so when I said I would always prefer a social meet first...his reply was. ..Bloody hell it's a sex site!!!!

I've replied and said swinging for me is as much about the social side as the sex. ..

What am I doing wrong??"

Engaging with people not seeking the same as you! Why answer? !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about feet in this thread.

I feel i need to get mine out...

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I think your profile is giving out the wrong message. Two thirds of it is about Sydney Uni ( which is bollocks anyway!) and there's only a couple of lines about yourself. If you want to meet quality men who won't treat you with a lack of respect, I suggest you say more about yourself and what you're looking for.

I'm sure you'll meet better men that way!

This isn't said to criticise you, just some friendly feedback. X

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Oops! Just saw some other people said the same thing...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think your profile is giving out the wrong message. Two thirds of it is about Sydney Uni ( which is bollocks anyway!) and there's only a couple of lines about yourself. If you want to meet quality men who won't treat you with a lack of respect, I suggest you say more about yourself and what you're looking for.

I'm sure you'll meet better men that way!

This isn't said to criticise you, just some friendly feedback. X"

Thank you I really do appreciate that and im going to revamp my profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like it when anyone expects me to do anything. "

I live my life by this mantra.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it about feet in this thread.

I feel i need to get mine out..."

I won't get mine out

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