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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Went on a first date last night and ended up back at mine, oops!

What's everyone's thoughts on sex on first dates? Does it make guys less interested? Do you doing it?

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went on a first date last night and ended up back at mine, oops!

What's everyone's thoughts on sex on first dates? Does it make guys less interested? Do you doing it?

Thanks x"

On here it's different so if I liked the guy, felt 100% comfortable around him and we met somewhere neutral first then yes I'd go back to his. In the vanilla world dating then no I wouldn't. Once met someone I really like and vice versa I made him wait a month for sex. Well that's only 4 dates later... one date per week so fair I think.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Went on a first date last night and ended up back at mine, oops!

What's everyone's thoughts on sex on first dates? Does it make guys less interested? Do you doing it?

Thanks x

On here it's different so if I liked the guy, felt 100% comfortable around him and we met somewhere neutral first then yes I'd go back to his. In the vanilla world dating then no I wouldn't. Once met someone I really like and vice versa I made him wait a month for sex. Well that's only 4 dates later... one date per week so fair I think. "

That's my rule to for dating in the vanilla world too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Went on a first date last night and ended up back at mine, oops!

What's everyone's thoughts on sex on first dates? Does it make guys less interested? Do you doing it?

Thanks x

On here it's different so if I liked the guy, felt 100% comfortable around him and we met somewhere neutral first then yes I'd go back to his. In the vanilla world dating then no I wouldn't. Once met someone I really like and vice versa I made him wait a month for sex. Well that's only 4 dates later... one date per week so fair I think.

That's my rule to for dating in the vanilla world too. "

Oh dear! I didn't set out to but these things just happen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went on a first date last night and ended up back at mine, oops!

What's everyone's thoughts on sex on first dates? Does it make guys less interested? Do you doing it?

Thanks x"
no doesn't bother me either way if chemistry is their its inevitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see the point in waiting for sex if you don't want to. All my relationships were 'just sex' that turned into something more.

I think if the guy is a player and just wants to fuck around then he'll bugger off to his next fuck anyway. But people who really like you will stick around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went on a first date last night and ended up back at mine, oops!

What's everyone's thoughts on sex on first dates? Does it make guys less interested? Do you doing it?

Thanks x

On here it's different so if I liked the guy, felt 100% comfortable around him and we met somewhere neutral first then yes I'd go back to his. In the vanilla world dating then no I wouldn't. Once met someone I really like and vice versa I made him wait a month for sex. Well that's only 4 dates later... one date per week so fair I think.

That's my rule to for dating in the vanilla world too.

Oh dear! I didn't set out to but these things just happen!"

Yes they do. Don't feel bad about it. Most of us on here have done it too. He later became my FWB. Only stopped because I rarely saw him. What's the point seeing someone who you don't actually get to see? He only lived 10 mins from me too. No worries because plenty more fish in the sea of Fab!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't see the point in waiting for sex if you don't want to. All my relationships were 'just sex' that turned into something more.

I think if the guy is a player and just wants to fuck around then he'll bugger off to his next fuck anyway. But people who really like you will stick around."

Fingers crossed! I really liked him but not heard from him yet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't see the point in waiting for sex if you don't want to. All my relationships were 'just sex' that turned into something more.

I think if the guy is a player and just wants to fuck around then he'll bugger off to his next fuck anyway. But people who really like you will stick around."

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

If you like each other...well you're both adults, so it's all good

Hope it all works out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is sex. Dating is getting to know a person first with possibility of sex at some point for me. Mind you I don't date anymore!

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER


"Went on a first date last night and ended up back at mine, oops!

What's everyone's thoughts on sex on first dates? Does it make guys less interested? Do you doing it?

Thanks x"

If the chemistry is there then I don't see a problem with it. I wouldn't think any worse of her either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't see the point in waiting for sex if you don't want to. All my relationships were 'just sex' that turned into something more.

I think if the guy is a player and just wants to fuck around then he'll bugger off to his next fuck anyway. But people who really like you will stick around.

Fingers crossed! I really liked him but not heard from him yet..."

Good luck.

I've fucked a lot of guys, not had that many relationships though. Never intended to either, just they wouldn't fuck off and i liked them hanging around eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went on a first date last night and ended up back at mine, oops!

What's everyone's thoughts on sex on first dates? Does it make guys less interested? Do you doing it?

Thanks x"

I swing because I like women who have sex on the first date, makes me more interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a date on Fab Swingers ? I thought it was about sex with others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just go with the flow and do what feels right at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To avoid sex on first date my friend never shaved her legs .then she was never tempted ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously though, at least if you do get into a relationship with them you know the sex will be good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it a date on Fab Swingers ? I thought it was about sex with others? "

It was a first date with someone outside of Fab world. Like a proper, looking for a boyfriend kind of first date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's done now chick you just gotta play it out or chalk it down as a lesson learnt xx

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire


"Don't see the point in waiting for sex if you don't want to. All my relationships were 'just sex' that turned into something more.

I think if the guy is a player and just wants to fuck around then he'll bugger off to his next fuck anyway. But people who really like you will stick around.

Fingers crossed! I really liked him but not heard from him yet..."

Phone works both ways. Give him a shout!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is sex. Dating is getting to know a person first with possibility of sex at some point for me. Mind you I don't date anymore!"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are no rules, just go with what feels right at the time.

I had loads of 'one night stands' (pretty much every friday and saturday night, with a few other nights thrown in here and there, from 15 to 28), Clare was one of them, we're together now and have been for 15 years, best years of my life, btw .

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Is it a date on Fab Swingers ? I thought it was about sex with others?

It was a first date with someone outside of Fab world. Like a proper, looking for a boyfriend kind of first date. "

Oooooo I always say go with the flow x

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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire by the Sea


"Fab is sex. Dating is getting to know a person first with possibility of sex at some point for me."

This for me, on the rare occasions I meet someone I want to date & have sex with

That said my ex of 4yrs and I, slept together at the end of a long first date, though I was much younger then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it a date on Fab Swingers ? I thought it was about sex with others?

It was a first date with someone outside of Fab world. Like a proper, looking for a boyfriend kind of first date. "

Cool well good luck and hope it turns out right for you both x

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

It seems no time at all since no sex on the first date meant no second date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I met somebody out side of swinging and went on a date with him I wouldn't have sex on the first date, I wouldn't want him to think I was easy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I met somebody out side of swinging and went on a date with him I wouldn't have sex on the first date, I wouldn't want him to think I was easy "

Well I'm screwed there then aren't I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To avoid sex on first date my friend never shaved her legs .then she was never tempted .."

I tried this with my bikini line on a second date a few weeks ago. It didn't work

I think if you like them & you want to then just go for it tbh! You only live once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't see the point in waiting for sex if you don't want to. All my relationships were 'just sex' that turned into something more.

I think if the guy is a player and just wants to fuck around then he'll bugger off to his next fuck anyway. But people who really like you will stick around."

Ab knows her shizz

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Proper dates away from fab with a view to a relationship then no I wouldn't sleep with them on the first date id be looking for other things first.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm on date number 6 with a guy and we haven't had sex and not even discussed it....he says he wants to wait for it to be special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm on date number 6 with a guy and we haven't had sex and not even discussed it....he says he wants to wait for it to be special "

Awww yay!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I'm on date number 6 with a guy and we haven't had sex and not even discussed it....he says he wants to wait for it to be special

Awww yay!! "

Lol thanks

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"I tried this with my bikini line on a second date a few weeks ago. It didn't work "

I think thats hilarious.

Good on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tried this with my bikini line on a second date a few weeks ago. It didn't work

I think thats hilarious.

Good on you.

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It also meant I didn't bother dealing with it before date 3

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