FabSwingers.com forum: With consent...

By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm a bit curious (read nosy)

about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.

How does that work exactly? I'm sure there are different angles to it, i.e. your partner is aware but doesn't want to know anything about it; or your partner wants you to see other people and hear all about it.

I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

*sits quietly in his greenhouse*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chucks a stone and smashes one of the windows

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

*blows a big, fat smoke ring at Pez*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christ! Im even jumping through hoops now! Lol

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Oi!! Get a room you two!!

I was asking a serious question don't you know!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Joe couldn't handle me! Haha

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha

Sounds like a challenge.

Mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have this dynamic.

It works for us. I'd go into some of the dynamics and rules but can't be bothered with the typing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha

Sounds like a challenge.

Mate. "

Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.

Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha

Sounds like a challenge.

Mate.

Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.

Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....

But... but... but you told me you loved me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have this dynamic.

It works for us. I'd go into some of the dynamics and rules but can't be bothered with the typing!"

I don't think they're really interested otherwise i would have responded too

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"*sits quietly in his greenhouse*"

Its a plant guv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha

Sounds like a challenge.

Mate.

Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.

Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....

But... but... but you told me you loved me!

Ahhh Joe, your always in my dreams... or was that nightmares?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha

Sounds like a challenge.

Mate.

Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.

Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....

But... but... but you told me you loved me!

Oooo you two timing slag. You've downgraded from wherherspoons art to pound land special manager buys.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha

Sounds like a challenge.

Mate.

Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.

Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....

But... but... but you told me you loved me!

Oooo you two timing slag. You've downgraded from wherherspoons art to pound land special manager buys. "

*tweaks Spirit X's nipple*

Bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi you pair, when your quite finished, Joe owes me an explanation as to why he's chosen you over me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Joe couldn't handle me! Haha

Sounds like a challenge.

Mate.

Nah, I don't dk challenges very well.

Although if it was a dare, or even a double dare.....

But... but... but you told me you loved me!

I love you Joe.

Mrs x

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Looks in and gets the fuck out again. Way to many flying handbags in here for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry DG we don't have this dynamic but I am interested to hear the responses from those who do.

Good question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oi you pair, when your quite finished, Joe owes me an explanation as to why he's chosen you over me!

We share a passion for gopher tuna and some men like cheese, go taste the dip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blade, pick yer fekkin bag up before you run away!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

LOLLING my arse off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blade, pick yer fekkin bag up before you run away! "

You dancing round it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont do dancin, just boozin and pervin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bit curious (read nosy)

about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.

I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.

I thought this was going another direction.

Personally, I think that anyone who knows but wants nothing to do with it is in denial and potentially needs to think about leaving unless the relationship is loving and both parties are happier this way. It's really hard to judge this as it tends to be dependant on circumstances, predispositions, and general ins and outs of relationship dynamic

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

My other half has a chap that she sees and has fun with, I have this. It works rather well.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Blade, pick yer fekkin bag up before you run away! "

Ooooowwwweerrrrrrrr bitchy bitchy

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I have this dynamic.

It works for us. I'd go into some of the dynamics and rules but can't be bothered with the typing!

I don't think they're really interested otherwise i would have responded too "

I am interested... that's kinda why I asked.

Hijacks happen all the time... just skip past them and share if you'd like to, I really would like to know more.

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I'm a bit curious (read nosy)

about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.

I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.

I thought this was going another direction.

That's kinda what I'd like to understand, what makes someone stay? I know sex isn't everything and you can have every other box ticked but it seems a huge compromise to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bit curious (read nosy)

about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.

I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.

I thought this was going another direction.

That's kinda what I'd like to understand, what makes someone stay? I know sex isn't everything and you can have every other box ticked but it seems a huge compromise to me."

Maybe we don't understand because we see sex as fundamental, whereas for some people it's optional, and for others impossible

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

We play as a couple, but I (him) have her full consent to play alone when we're apart (we don't live together). On the rare occasion I have the opportunity, I always check she's ok with it still, and she likes to hear about it when we're next together. Though she also has my consent to do likewise, she has no inclination to do so.

It works for us, we've been together 5 years and are totally open and honest with each other.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I play predomantly on my own, jay does stuff and we do stuff together but its mostly about me.

I have his full consent to do what I like, only rules we have is I tell him when I'm meeting, he trusts my judgement with men, afterwards he will say did you have a nice time and I will say yes, might make a general comments about the meet in general and that's it.

No jealousy, no problems

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I'm a bit curious (read nosy)

about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.

I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.

I thought this was going another direction.

That's kinda what I'd like to understand, what makes someone stay? I know sex isn't everything and you can have every other box ticked but it seems a huge compromise to me.

Maybe we don't understand because we see sex as fundamental, whereas for some people it's optional, and for others impossible"
or maybe you don't understand because you arnt in the relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically he doesnt want to know. It was a decision made after several million conversations about his lack of interest in sex. begrudgingly bi annual service for 10 of the last 11 years.

Truth be told i think he doesnt want to know because he is in denial. However i will stop when he starts having sex with me. Its not perfect but it works for us for now. other than the lack of sec my hubs s the perfect man so cant have everything, but im greedy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bit curious (read nosy)

about the dynamics of relationships when only one half of the couple is swinging.

I'm sure there are a load more scenarios but I'd be interested in hearing your experiences and the rules you have between you if you're happy to share.

I thought this was going another direction.

That's kinda what I'd like to understand, what makes someone stay? I know sex isn't everything and you can have every other box ticked but it seems a huge compromise to me.

Maybe we don't understand because we see sex as fundamental, whereas for some people it's optional, and for others impossibleor maybe you don't understand because you arnt in the relationship"

Touché madam

or maybe I was in relationships where sex was what kept us together longer than personalities allowed

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