FabSwingers.com forum: Can I ask why ?

By *rtemisia OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then they get funny when you give them an honest answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just block x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say it's because they're not my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even worse when they ask for a second chance after because they can change whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, never happened to me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

Can I ask why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ignore that question. If they get shitty, I report and block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just can't handle rejection!!

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Never been asked 'why' because we always give a genuine reason.

Never had to ask why, always assumed it's because they were concerned we'd out-gorgeous them

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

Usually I just say I'm not attracted to them.

Or if their profile has put me off then I'll tell them. The problem then is you end up practically rewriting a profile for someone......

Hmmmmmm, maybe I'm too nice lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't hate it.

It's a natural human reaction to a rejection - not just on here, but in many areas and walks of life.

If it bothers you that much, just block them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I always say 'you're too far away' even if they're in Hove.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always say 'you're too far away' even if they're in Hove. "

Me too! That's one of my stock replies. Not telling you my others. They can't be offended because it's not personal.

I always reply to first messages. No need to reply to any subsequent "why" messages.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe something they can't change like 'you're too tall' or 'you're too short' would be a politer way of declining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe something they can't change like 'you're too tall' or 'you're too short' would be a politer way of declining. "

"we're all the same lying down"

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

"I always say 'you're too far away' even if they're in Hove. "

Hove!! That's way to far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one of my profile rules. It's just so wimpy and off putting! Immediate block.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Because"

Is an acceptable answer

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I just refer them to someone I know, when they're in Brighton, but definitely not Hove.

Or put them to work on a gimp, to see how they get on.

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By *ony HardcockMan
over a year ago

Shepperton

"It's one of my profile rules. It's just so wimpy and off putting! Immediate block."

Why Kittymama?

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By *rtemisia OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

Can I ask why?

Because your willy has eyes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

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well its quite a polite retort but having said that you have to get back to having your ego massaged by the " beautiful people"

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

As I'm unrecognisable glammed up, I'm always tempted to reply with: I work with you/live near you/know your family and so on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe something they can't change like 'you're too tall' or 'you're too short' would be a politer way of declining.

"we're all the same lying down"

Pet hate. We're not! And even if we were, I'd still meet you vertically before we got horizontal.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

They are asking if they can ask. My answer is usually No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I'm unrecognisable glammed up, I'm always tempted to reply with: I work with you/live near you/know your family and so on....

That would end it for me

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe something they can't change like 'you're too tall' or 'you're too short' would be a politer way of declining.

"we're all the same lying down"

Pet hate. We're not! And even if we were, I'd still meet you vertically before we got horizontal. "

I know, just meant you can say anything as to why you don't wanna meet and someone will make excuses as to why you should meet them.

wanna make a topic about it but going to sleep in a minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe something they can't change like 'you're too tall' or 'you're too short' would be a politer way of declining.

"we're all the same lying down"

Pet hate. We're not! And even if we were, I'd still meet you vertically before we got horizontal.

I know, just meant you can say anything as to why you don't wanna meet and someone will make excuses as to why you should meet them.

wanna make a topic about it but going to sleep in a minute."

I know - was agreeing with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

I reply 'Please stop messaging'.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

Why are you asking?

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

"Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

"
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If I was to get a reply which very very rarely happens saying not interested etc I would never dream of asking why. I would understand that I'm not their type. Why ask that stupid question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's one of my profile rules. It's just so wimpy and off putting! Immediate block.

Why Kittymama?"

I see what you did there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe something they can't change like 'you're too tall' or 'you're too short' would be a politer way of declining.

"we're all the same lying down"

Pet hate. We're not! And even if we were, I'd still meet you vertically before we got horizontal.

I know, just meant you can say anything as to why you don't wanna meet and someone will make excuses as to why you should meet them.

wanna make a topic about it but going to sleep in a minute.

I know - was agreeing with you

I'm so tired, been up since 3am...ok, i get you now lol. Might as well have made that topic too.

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

""Because"

Is an acceptable answer"

"reasons"

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

I don't mind too much. If people ask why, I'll happily tell them as nicely as possible. Of the handful of couples who have asked, none have ever been rude.. I suspect that single guys may be a different story though.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a strange reaction from someone just after I'd joined FAB, made me glad I said I wasn't interested, soon met someone nice to cancel out the bad experience though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always say 'you're too far away' even if they're in Hove. "

I can come to you!

And when you say you don't accommodate they say I'll get a hotel and more often than not you don't hear from them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had this question not long a go on another site and it went like this

Can I ask why ?

Because you say you are VWE and Alice does not play with VWE guys (it does mention this in our profile )

I'm not that big

It says on your profile you are 9 inches

Well have not really measured myself so might be about 8

Still way to big sorry

Ok have just measured myself and I'm just under 6

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does not bother me but if they ask I give an honest answer

Not all like what they read but they asked

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"We had this question not long a go on another site and it went like this

Can I ask why ?

Because you say you are VWE and Alice does not play with VWE guys (it does mention this in our profile )

I'm not that big

It says on your profile you are 9 inches

Well have not really measured myself so might be about 8

Still way to big sorry

Ok have just measured myself and I'm just under 6

Chuckling to myself

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

"It does not bother me but if they ask I give an honest answer

Not all like what they read but they asked "

Serves them right

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

"We had this question not long a go on another site and it went like this

Can I ask why ?

Because you say you are VWE and Alice does not play with VWE guys (it does mention this in our profile )

I'm not that big

It says on your profile you are 9 inches

Well have not really measured myself so might be about 8

Still way to big sorry

Ok have just measured myself and I'm just under 6

Chuckling to myself

Yes and I bet in the end he probably was under 6 inches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok...I wont ask again...But...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not you it's me...."

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By *ighting17thMan
over a year ago

Bodmin

"Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

Yep. Certainly do hate that!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Since I've started saying 'thanks but I'm not meeting at the moment but have fun x' I haven't had anyone say anything rude or nasty.

I'm totally using that line if I start meeting again and I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe something they can't change like 'you're too tall' or 'you're too short' would be a politer way of declining.

"we're all the same lying down"

Pet hate. We're not! And even if we were, I'd still meet you vertically before we got horizontal.

I know, just meant you can say anything as to why you don't wanna meet and someone will make excuses as to why you should meet them.

wanna make a topic about it but going to sleep in a minute.

I know - was agreeing with you

I'm so tired, been up since 3am...ok, i get you now lol. Might as well have made that topic too."

Do it tomorrow anyway

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Usually I just say I'm not attracted to them.

Or if their profile has put me off then I'll tell them. The problem then is you end up practically rewriting a profile for someone......

Hmmmmmm, maybe I'm too nice lol

Ditto

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By *rtemisia OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Don't you just hate being asked this when you've politely declined someone?

If I was to get a reply which very very rarely happens saying not interested etc I would never dream of asking why. I would understand that I'm not their type. Why ask that stupid question"

Precisely. It's like oh mate, are you actually gonna make me say I don't fancy you...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only had it a couple of times and yes it got on my tits...

for about 5 seconds then I forgot all about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind it, but it's usually the start of message ping pong which really gets on my wick!!

At which point blooooooooock!

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