FabSwingers.com forum: SMILE.....ITS COSTS NOTHING

By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

What is with women at clubs and social meets?

Talk about cold stare down and hatchet face!! All Ive done is walked in the room!

I feel like saying don t worry hun I dont want you, but your man might.

I love swinging scene and met some great people but jeez some of the women need a slap on the back of the neck.

Been told I exude sexual energy. Really?

BO would be easier!

Any other women had similiar experiences.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Sounds like you had a rather unpleasant few minutes at a club? If you have a vivid imagination, like me, you can easily deliberately misinterpret 'haughty chill' for 'winsome yearning' - it makes for a much more pleasant evening.

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

My imagination is fine. And I certainly dont allow it to run wild!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Did you smile and speak to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is with women at clubs and social meets?

Talk about cold stare down and hatchet face!! All Ive done is walked in the room!

I feel like saying don t worry hun I dont want you, but your man might.

I love swinging scene and met some great people but jeez some of the women need a slap on the back of the neck.

Been told I exude sexual energy. Really?

BO would be easier!

Any other women had similiar experiences."

Did they actually do or say anything negative? Or just not give you the reaction you wanted/expected?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they were feeling nervous.

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Smile yes. Speak no. The'look' put paid to that.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Everyone in a club gave you a look?

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I dont expect anything from anyone. Except when everyone gets hot and horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you misinterpreted "the look"

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I can see I might end up being perceived as paranoid.

I am talking about a few women not the entire populus.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I can see I might end up being perceived as paranoid.

I am talking about a few women not the entire populus."

Oh, just sneer back. I do. A long slow look from feet to head and then a slow shaking of the head as I walk on by.

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

this is a million dollar smile and it weren't cheap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smiles and manners cost nothing what so ever but often make the world a better place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can see I might end up being perceived as paranoid.

I am talking about a few women not the entire populus."

I'm not sure I'd use the word paranoid to describe you, but there a few others that spring to mind if it's just a few women. Do you expect everyone to fawn over you?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've never been to a club, actually.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I give funny looks and sometimes I don't reliase I'm doing it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I give funny looks and sometimes I don't reliase I'm doing it

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do you practice pulling faces?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I give funny looks and sometimes I don't reliase I'm doing it

do you practice pulling faces? "

No it comes naturally with me...

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over a year ago

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hmmm.... do I expect everyone to fawn over me. Lets think. NO

But back to my original statement.

SMILE.....IT COSTS NOTHING.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I don't go for women so don't really notice if they smile or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm.... do I expect everyone to fawn over me. Lets think. NO

But back to my original statement.

SMILE.....IT COSTS NOTHING."

So to clarify, when you walk in to a room you expect everyone to acknowledge you?

I genuinely can't see the point you are offended by?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Hmmm.... do I expect everyone to fawn over me. Lets think. NO

But back to my original statement.

SMILE.....IT COSTS NOTHING.

So to clarify, when you walk in to a room you expect everyone to acknowledge you?

I genuinely can't see the point you are offended by?"
I can't see where she has said she's offended and I've read it twice, maybe I've overlooked it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm.... do I expect everyone to fawn over me. Lets think. NO

But back to my original statement.

SMILE.....IT COSTS NOTHING.

So to clarify, when you walk in to a room you expect everyone to acknowledge you?

I genuinely can't see the point you are offended by?I can't see where she has said she's offended and I've read it twice, maybe I've overlooked it"

Did you miss the tome of the opening post?

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

At the very beginning of, my ill fated thread it seems now, my question was asking if any women had any similiar experiences. This is the kind of thing which guys don t notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the very beginning of, my ill fated thread it seems now, my question was asking if any women had any similiar experiences. This is the kind of thing which guys don t notice."

Or maybe men (and most likely most women), are slightly more realistic and don't expect an entire club to acknowledge their arrival?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they were feeling nervous."

This

On 90% of the occasions I've been accused of being stuck up / up myself / bitchy it's because I was shy or felt uncomfortable. (The other 10% of the time I was just surrounded by tossers)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Hmmm.... do I expect everyone to fawn over me. Lets think. NO

But back to my original statement.

SMILE.....IT COSTS NOTHING.

So to clarify, when you walk in to a room you expect everyone to acknowledge you?

I genuinely can't see the point you are offended by?I can't see where she has said she's offended and I've read it twice, maybe I've overlooked it

Did you miss the tome of the opening post?

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I see someone complaining and moaning in don't see anything about being offended but this is obviously your "bit between your teeth" thread for tonight so I will let you get on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm.... do I expect everyone to fawn over me. Lets think. NO

But back to my original statement.

SMILE.....IT COSTS NOTHING.

So to clarify, when you walk in to a room you expect everyone to acknowledge you?

I genuinely can't see the point you are offended by?I can't see where she has said she's offended and I've read it twice, maybe I've overlooked it

Did you miss the tome of the opening post?

I see someone complaining and moaning in don't see anything about being offended but this is obviously your "bit between your teeth" thread for tonight so I will let you get on with it"

What?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I smile all the time, I don't wait to see if I am acknowledged appropriately before smiling

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"At the very beginning of, my ill fated thread it seems now, my question was asking if any women had any similiar experiences. This is the kind of thing which guys don t notice."

I did but can't keep my gob shut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we people watch when we are out and often comment on how miserable people look

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

At last someone who finally might be on my wavelength!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I think I sometimes have bitchy resting face and am unaware of it.

I would say though that in a vanilla environment, I'd be very careful of telling people to smile. No one knows what's going on in people's lives, and someone could have depression so being told to cheer up will only make them feel worse.

And yes, I know that's not this example, I'm just highlighting the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is with women at clubs and social meets?

Talk about cold stare down and hatchet face!! All Ive done is walked in the room!

I feel like saying don t worry hun I dont want you, but your man might.

I love swinging scene and met some great people but jeez some of the women need a slap on the back of the neck.

Been told I exude sexual energy. Really?

BO would be easier!

Any other women had similiar experiences.

Did they actually do or say anything negative? Or just not give you the reaction you wanted/expected?"

Negative; she said they gave her a cold stare, did you not read any of the post...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a happy / smiley lady at clubs and in everyday life !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I sometimes have bitchy resting face and am unaware of it.

And yes, I know that's not this example, I'm just highlighting the point "

Someone once told me to cheer up, I looked like I was going to a funeral...when I was on the train on the way to my nan's funeral.

It was so ridiculous it did actually cheer me up a bit

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hello happy smiley lady nice to meet you.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I find it bizarre that some people think it's ok to tell complete strangers what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello happy smiley lady nice to meet you.

And you too x

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Oh lord let me leave while I still can.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly a touch of resting bitch face? I know I'm guilty of this apparently 'the death stare look' is my neutral facial expression.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Oh lord let me leave while I still can....."
ha, you put a thread up especially a moany one, you soon learn that people react in different ways from the funny to the downright bizzare, anyway I'm a happy smiley person and have a friendly face

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My smile cost me a bloomin fortune in cosmetic dentistry, I try and smile a lot to get value out of it.

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It wasn t a moan purely an observation.

Or maybe a subtle gripe.

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By *eached OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

On a lighter note any(smiley) women up for some bi fun?

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