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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Was chatting to the new manager of our local Costa and he said that since he took over there have been complaints about him because he looks 'scruffy' now the guy always looks clean, smells nice, is really welcoming and friendly, excellent with the kids and has a clean ironed uniform on. Turned out that its because he has tattoos on his hands and long hair (which isn't messy either)

Whilst he was telling me this he said he was waiting for emails complaining about the new guy who is gay. I said surely you won't get emails about that he seems lovely. He said he wouldn't be surprised seeing as when the young black lad started 2 weeks ago he had a few complaints and people asking if it would be ok for then to request someone else serve them as they didn't want the black one touching their drinks!

Maybe im daft but I know some people still think that way but to actually ask that in a shop.. I was shocked!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you should move from your backward town

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Woah. Some seriously prejudiced people where you live!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was chatting to the new manager of our local Costa and he said that since he took over there have been complaints about him because he looks 'scruffy' now the guy always looks clean, smells nice, is really welcoming and friendly, excellent with the kids and has a clean ironed uniform on. Turned out that its because he has tattoos on his hands and long hair (which isn't messy either)

Whilst he was telling me this he said he was waiting for emails complaining about the new guy who is gay. I said surely you won't get emails about that he seems lovely. He said he wouldn't be surprised seeing as when the young black lad started 2 weeks ago he had a few complaints and people asking if it would be ok for then to request someone else serve them as they didn't want the black one touching their drinks!

Maybe im daft but I know some people still think that way but to actually ask that in a shop.. I was shocked!!"
so am I completely shocked did the manager actually implement any of these things ,I would actually have thrown the customers out

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong


"Was chatting to the new manager of our local Costa and he said that since he took over there have been complaints about him because he looks 'scruffy' now the guy always looks clean, smells nice, is really welcoming and friendly, excellent with the kids and has a clean ironed uniform on. Turned out that its because he has tattoos on his hands and long hair (which isn't messy either)

Whilst he was telling me this he said he was waiting for emails complaining about the new guy who is gay. I said surely you won't get emails about that he seems lovely. He said he wouldn't be surprised seeing as when the young black lad started 2 weeks ago he had a few complaints and people asking if it would be ok for then to request someone else serve them as they didn't want the black one touching their drinks!

Maybe im daft but I know some people still think that way but to actually ask that in a shop.. I was shocked!!"

That is disgusting - these people should be banned or public ally named and shamed ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you live in a time zone stuck in the past, I can't believe people act like that, maybe odd person yes but to go to those levels and complain it's 2015 everyone should be able to get on and be civil

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

just personal prefrence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really angers me that people are still so small minded, ignorant and just plain nasty.

I've a similar issue at work one of our tech guys has Dyspraxia. He stutters a bit on the phone at times. He is very knowledgeable and polite and always helping people out. However I've had one client refuse to deal with him because she said 'She couldn't be bothered to wait while he stutters half his words out'

She was allowed to say this to our other engineers but I wasn't allowed to talk to her about her attitude.

Sometimes I hate people

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"Maybe you should move from your backward town "

I know a lot of people still think of tattoos as dirty etc. wherever you go.

Tbh ive lived here all my life and ive got 2 close friends that are black and ive never encountered any racism when ive been with them and they've never told me of any situations either.

Ive never thought of my town as backward.

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"Was chatting to the new manager of our local Costa and he said that since he took over there have been complaints about him because he looks 'scruffy' now the guy always looks clean, smells nice, is really welcoming and friendly, excellent with the kids and has a clean ironed uniform on. Turned out that its because he has tattoos on his hands and long hair (which isn't messy either)

Whilst he was telling me this he said he was waiting for emails complaining about the new guy who is gay. I said surely you won't get emails about that he seems lovely. He said he wouldn't be surprised seeing as when the young black lad started 2 weeks ago he had a few complaints and people asking if it would be ok for then to request someone else serve them as they didn't want the black one touching their drinks!

Maybe im daft but I know some people still think that way but to actually ask that in a shop.. I was shocked!!so am I completely shocked did the manager actually implement any of these things ,I would actually have thrown the customers out "

He told them that if they didn't like it to drink their coffee elsewhere

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We had that in the pub trade had a nice young blacklad from catering collage working part time people complained to head office saying nasty things but the complaints were all with out names and addresses

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"It really angers me that people are still so small minded, ignorant and just plain nasty.

I've a similar issue at work one of our tech guys has Dyspraxia. He stutters a bit on the phone at times. He is very knowledgeable and polite and always helping people out. However I've had one client refuse to deal with him because she said 'She couldn't be bothered to wait while he stutters half his words out'

She was allowed to say this to our other engineers but I wasn't allowed to talk to her about her attitude.

Sometimes I hate people "
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There's a guy with a really bad stutter that comes into my work. I just wait and let him get it out in his own time. I was told once thst finishing words etc for them can make it worse. Everyone else just has to wait till he's done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit similar to some couples on here thinking single guys shouldn't be allowed to be swingers really! Just sayin........

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Omg, I'm shocked that people are so ignorant and offensive!

Ukip want to keep some people out of the UK. I think we need a party that deports many people - the bigots - who are currently here, though I'd hate them to be imposed on anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had thousands of years to come to terms with living with other humans. I can't see it ever getting better.

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"Do you live in a time zone stuck in the past, I can't believe people act like that, maybe odd person yes but to go to those levels and complain it's 2015 everyone should be able to get on and be civil "

He didn't say how many exactly but it was more than one! Bet they didn't sign off the emails with their names tho so he can't identify them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's intriguing how much it's _iewed as 'personal choice' versus 'customer is always right'. I guess they're not doing anything blatantly illegal, they will perhaps hide behind corporate employment laws. Interesting dilemma though, shocking it isn't, but unfair for sure - small minded idiots...

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"Bit similar to some couples on here thinking single guys shouldn't be allowed to be swingers really! Just sayin........ "

Not really.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

nothing surprises me..... it's humans we are speaking about

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It would be illegal - thank goodness - for him to deploy or recruit his staff differently.

Consider writing to the store and congratulating them on the manager's and staffs' presentation and service skills. At least there'll be at least one opposing piece of evidence in contrast to the prejudiced swivel eyed lots' hate mongering.

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"Was chatting to the new manager of our local Costa and he said that since he took over there have been complaints about him because he looks 'scruffy' now the guy always looks clean, smells nice, is really welcoming and friendly, excellent with the kids and has a clean ironed uniform on. Turned out that its because he has tattoos on his hands and long hair (which isn't messy either)

Whilst he was telling me this he said he was waiting for emails complaining about the new guy who is gay. I said surely you won't get emails about that he seems lovely. He said he wouldn't be surprised seeing as when the young black lad started 2 weeks ago he had a few complaints and people asking if it would be ok for then to request someone else serve them as they didn't want the black one touching their drinks!

Maybe im daft but I know some people still think that way but to actually ask that in a shop.. I was shocked!!

That is disgusting - these people should be banned or public ally named and shamed ??"

I'm assuming the emails weren't signed etc. so he can't know who it is or would of told them not to come in.

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"It would be illegal - thank goodness - for him to deploy or recruit his staff differently.

Consider writing to the store and congratulating them on the manager's and staffs' presentation and service skills. At least there'll be at least one opposing piece of evidence in contrast to the prejudiced swivel eyed lots' hate mongering."

It's funny you should say that, I work serving the public and it's very rare we get a complaint but you can guarantee that if we do head office is on the phone within minutes of them recieving the complaint! We get loads of comments every day from people we have been serving for years so one decided to send a lovely email about how helpful and friendly we are and so on. Did we ever hear about that?? Nope!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I doubt any black, tattooed, gay person reading this will be gobsmacked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Publicly shame them backwards inbreds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Publicly shame them backwards inbreds "
hehe inbreds are we talking deliverance here ? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you should move from your backward town "

Haha exactly this!

I had to work in Kent for a while in a little town, proper inbreds

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"Maybe you should move from your backward town

Haha exactly this!

I had to work in Kent for a while in a little town, proper inbreds"

Where was that?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Just because you wear a suit it doesn't mean you're important" Chumbawamba

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Maybe you should move from your backward town

Haha exactly this!

I had to work in Kent for a while in a little town, proper inbreds"

hmmm.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


""Just because you wear a suit it doesn't mean you're important" Chumbawamba "

Damn! I'll take mine back to the charity shop then

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

My son has tattoes on his hands and neck, in my opinion the worst thing he did, he's never told me he's been judged.

I think your within your rights to ask anyone to leave your establishment and I would politely ask them to take their custom elsewhere.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I often wonder how people who object to black hands touching their coffee would cope if they were seriously injured and a black doctor turned up or a gay paramedic or a nurse with a tattoo.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


""Just because you wear a suit it doesn't mean you're important" Chumbawamba

Damn! I'll take mine back to the charity shop then "

The Salvation Army have a Café in Derby, fancy a cake

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I often wonder how people who object to black hands touching their coffee would cope if they were seriously injured and a black doctor turned up or a gay paramedic or a nurse with a tattoo."
fucking ridiculous, how the hell do they actually survive in society

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


""Just because you wear a suit it doesn't mean you're important" Chumbawamba

Damn! I'll take mine back to the charity shop then

The Salvation Army have a Café in Derby, fancy a cake "

You know I ALWAYS fancy a cake

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I often wonder how people who object to black hands touching their coffee would cope if they were seriously injured and a black doctor turned up or a gay paramedic or a nurse with a tattoo.fucking ridiculous, how the hell do they actually survive in society "

I remember somebody telling me she reached out to stop an elderly woman from stumbling on a bus and she said "get your black hands off me".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you should move from your backward town

Haha exactly this!

I had to work in Kent for a while in a little town, proper inbreds

Where was that? "

I don't want to say lol.... Not far from hastings though

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I often wonder how people who object to black hands touching their coffee would cope if they were seriously injured and a black doctor turned up or a gay paramedic or a nurse with a tattoo.fucking ridiculous, how the hell do they actually survive in society

I remember somebody telling me she reached out to stop an elderly woman from stumbling on a bus and she said "get your black hands off me". "
it amazes me, funny think happened to me once I met someone just in general and was chatting another time we where chatting and something came up about them being black I honestly hadn't noticed they where black

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A barbers near me had a black guy in there for a while. I would always let someone queue jump if it was my turn in his chair so i could have a different barber. He was SHIT at cutting hair! Nothing to do with race! And yes, he was sacked.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I often wonder how people who object to black hands touching their coffee would cope if they were seriously injured and a black doctor turned up or a gay paramedic or a nurse with a tattoo.fucking ridiculous, how the hell do they actually survive in society

I remember somebody telling me she reached out to stop an elderly woman from stumbling on a bus and she said "get your black hands off me". it amazes me, funny think happened to me once I met someone just in general and was chatting another time we where chatting and something came up about them being black I honestly hadn't noticed they where black "

I think I mentioned before that a black colleague and I accidentally picked up each other's photo id and wore them all day. Not one person noticed

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I often wonder how people who object to black hands touching their coffee would cope if they were seriously injured and a black doctor turned up or a gay paramedic or a nurse with a tattoo.fucking ridiculous, how the hell do they actually survive in society

I remember somebody telling me she reached out to stop an elderly woman from stumbling on a bus and she said "get your black hands off me". it amazes me, funny think happened to me once I met someone just in general and was chatting another time we where chatting and something came up about them being black I honestly hadn't noticed they where black

I think I mentioned before that a black colleague and I accidentally picked up each other's photo id and wore them all day. Not one person noticed "
yes, you said the other day wonder how long before someone would of noticed

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It nearly 20 years since I had a job teaching City corporates that people with tattoos, different haircuts and skin colour could still have skills and do a decent job. Their complaint back then was that their customers wouldn't like it. My answer was that people with tattoos, different hair and skin colour might become their customers if they see people like themselves in different roles.

It's really saddened me to read the OP but it hasn't exactly surprised me. I have had situations where people have avoided my handshake but then shook the hand of my white colleagues. Colour must be as catching as the Ghey.

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By *eedelightsWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't get shocked easily , so glad I don't live in Kent wow

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge


"I often wonder how people who object to black hands touching their coffee would cope if they were seriously injured and a black doctor turned up or a gay paramedic or a nurse with a tattoo.fucking ridiculous, how the hell do they actually survive in society "
by being nicey nicey and on message pc in public but the moment they are alone or with like minded folk the bigotry and ignorence will come out .

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


""Just because you wear a suit it doesn't mean you're important" Chumbawamba

Damn! I'll take mine back to the charity shop then

The Salvation Army have a Café in Derby, fancy a cake

You know I ALWAYS fancy a cake "

Get yer sexy arse on the Status thread then, there's cake for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't they realise the coffee is probably Kenyan?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I often wonder how people who object to black hands touching their coffee would cope if they were seriously injured and a black doctor turned up or a gay paramedic or a nurse with a tattoo.fucking ridiculous, how the hell do they actually survive in society

I remember somebody telling me she reached out to stop an elderly woman from stumbling on a bus and she said "get your black hands off me". it amazes me, funny think happened to me once I met someone just in general and was chatting another time we where chatting and something came up about them being black I honestly hadn't noticed they where black

I think I mentioned before that a black colleague and I accidentally picked up each other's photo id and wore them all day. Not one person noticed yes, you said the other day wonder how long before someone would of noticed"

I don't know but it's slightly worrying because we wear them for security reasons

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


""Just because you wear a suit it doesn't mean you're important" Chumbawamba

Damn! I'll take mine back to the charity shop then

The Salvation Army have a Café in Derby, fancy a cake

You know I ALWAYS fancy a cake

Get yer sexy arse on the Status thread then, there's cake for everyone "

Ooo Mr Winger!

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"Maybe you should move from your backward town

Haha exactly this!

I had to work in Kent for a while in a little town, proper inbreds

Where was that?

I don't want to say lol.... Not far from hastings though "

It would need to be a different county to Hastings. What with that being in East Sussex and all...

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"I don't get shocked easily , so glad I don't live in Kent wow "

There's over 1.5 million people in kent and this was a couple of people, certainly not common behaviour where j live like I said further up which is why I was surprised. Ive heard many more comments when ive been in other parts of the country and know my friends have been treated badly elsewhere but not locally.

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By *eedelightsWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't get shocked easily , so glad I don't live in Kent wow

There's over 1.5 million people in kent and this was a couple of people, certainly not common behaviour where j live like I said further up which is why I was surprised. Ive heard many more comments when ive been in other parts of the country and know my friends have been treated badly elsewhere but not locally. "

It can happen anywhere but I am always amazed that this stuff still goes on , no I am not stupid, just hopeful that it didn't go on

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Good grief!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get shocked easily , so glad I don't live in Kent wow "

This was my thought Even Oop North we've moved on.

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By *ildt123Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Jeez where do you live

A small town called 1926???

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't get shocked easily , so glad I don't live in Kent wow

This was my thought Even Oop North we've moved on. "

I don't think you can judge a whole county by a couple of Costa customers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probably people that read the Sun and watch xfacter

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"I don't get shocked easily , so glad I don't live in Kent wow

This was my thought Even Oop North we've moved on. "

Actually some of the worst comments ive heard were when ive been up North.

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By *eachedCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

FFS we re in the 21st Century and people are still in this ignoramus mindset!!!!

You know the good thing about being dead us that everyone is finally equal!!!

Theres no pecking order when your in your grave.

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By *eedelightsWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't get shocked easily , so glad I don't live in Kent wow

This was my thought Even Oop North we've moved on.

I don't think you can judge a whole county by a couple of Costa customers."

Again this is not what I am doing at all

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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"I don't get shocked easily , so glad I don't live in Kent wow

This was my thought Even Oop North we've moved on.

I don't think you can judge a whole county by a couple of Costa customers."

That's why I was shocked. In 36 years that's the only time I've heard of anything like that locally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are racist, bigoted people in all parts of the country, not just Kent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get shocked easily , so glad I don't live in Kent wow

This was my thought Even Oop North we've moved on.

Actually some of the worst comments ive heard were when ive been up North. "

I was being a bit facetious tbh, not trying to start a North vs South argument. Every area can have small minded idiots but I've never seen or heard anything like that where I've lived. I've always lived in cities though so maybe it's more of a small town/village mentality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you should move from your backward town

Haha exactly this!

I had to work in Kent for a while in a little town, proper inbreds

Where was that?

I don't want to say lol.... Not far from hastings though

It would need to be a different county to Hastings. What with that being in East Sussex and all... "

Cheeky, I can inbox you where but definitely Kent, it's about 25 mins from hastings just I don't know surrounding areas. Everyone knows everyone there and if I say the town name, it could back to me saying there all inbreds lol

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