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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt? "

I think those who lie forget their script when they're pised!!

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt?

I think those who lie forget their script when they're pised!!

That's what I'm afraid of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dirtshyy gurl a luv u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I speak the truth and thats why I don't get pissed anymore.

In fact I don't need a drink these days it just a bit calmer

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Someone said something to me tonight and it's properly upset me. I don't think I deserved it yet I can't help wondering if it's what he really thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt? "

In my case it's not about speaking the truth when I've had a few it's more about me saying stuff that ought to stay in my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone said something to me tonight and it's properly upset me. I don't think I deserved it yet I can't help wondering if it's what he really thinks.

I dont know the situation obviously. My advice is call them out on it tomorrow when they are sober.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone said something to me tonight and it's properly upset me. I don't think I deserved it yet I can't help wondering if it's what he really thinks.

oops sorry to hear!-

though sometime a d*unken rash thought jumps into a full blown thing...

best idea is wait till sober time..

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It sobered me up pretty quickly. Now I'm wondering how I'm meant to go into work tomorrow.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

I always think when someone is d*unk, their inhibitions are gone , and you get the ' real them ' ... When sober, societies/ life restrictions can come into play ....

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Ps.... Once Sober they then blame the drink ... Or pretend to forget all! ( just my observations )

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I always think when someone is d*unk, their inhibitions are gone , and you get the ' real them ' ... When sober, societies/ life restrictions can come into play ....

Yeah that's pretty much what I think too. Sobering thought all round really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D*unk people have caused themselves brain damage by intoxifying their body.

I have no doubt brain damaged people have the ability to function.

People talk shit when they're d*unk, they're boring, they think they're something they aren't, they lie and talk shit. I don't believe they tap into their subconscious and become a real them, they become an arsehole, a human being with impaired function.

Someone who's pissed all the time changes, they become a fake them all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They might well have spoken their 'truth', but it's some incoherent version of truth seen through a mangled fucked up brain, if that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They might well have spoken their 'truth', but it's some incoherent version of truth seen through a mangled fucked up brain, if that helps."

Very much agree. People also think they are invincible when under the influence and I think I'm a pornstar

Although people may say bits of the truth it will never come out right or how they really mean it as their brain isn't functioning properly. I would take it with a pinch of salt and ask them to explain when they have a clear head.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

When I'm d*unk I spout utter bollox then fall asleep, as for others, I have absolutely no idea. I think we all talk shit really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The saying is "D*unk Man speaks Sober words"

But I'm pretty sure We've all said things after to much drink that We actually didn't mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"D*unk people have caused themselves brain damage by intoxifying their body.

I have no doubt brain damaged people have the ability to function.

Someone who's pissed all the time changes, they become a fake them all the time."

I don't always agree with you, today it's a

from me.

I lived with someone who was a functioning alcoholic. You've hit the nail bang on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"D*unk people have caused themselves brain damage by intoxifying their body.

I have no doubt brain damaged people have the ability to function.

Someone who's pissed all the time changes, they become a fake them all the time.

I don't always agree with you, today it's a

from me.

I lived with someone who was a functioning alcoholic. You've hit the nail bang on."

I've been brought up by a pisshead, used to be one myself, had kids with one. I'm heavily biased towards alcohol and it's effects as a negative. Just thought i'd mention that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are more likely to tell the truth when they are d*unk as their guard is down

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt? "

I have to be careful as it lowers by inhibitions - no matter how d*unk I am I would never say anything to hurt anyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ps.... Once Sober they then blame the drink ... Or pretend to forget all! ( just my observations )

This is true I agree. Truth comes out when d*unk but once sober, forget all that shit I said

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It's an interesting one....

At a work Xmas party I had a lot to drink..far to much really. An intern acussed me at looking at her tits....umm pissed up, I said yes I was, they are nice and your ass is pretty nice also and crooked my neck to double check....

....which in the swinging world would be hey ho....but in work environment not professional...I worried all weekend

Let's say Monday morning I did walk up and apologise for d*unken comment...she did laugh it off thank goodness....tbh she said it was fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are more likely to tell the truth when they are d*unk as their guard is down "

True, but if I'm a happy d*unk I get over enthusiastic and tell people I love them when really I don't! (Can be a tad awkward with an ex)

And if I'm maudlin I start rambling on about missing an ex from years ago. Which is utter bollox. So it's best not to trust a thing I say when pished!

Don't worry dirty, they were probably talking out their arse!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Sometimes people tell the truth when d*unk, sometimes they get carried away with an idea and just keep going with it whether or not it's true or accurate just because they can't hold any other thoughts in their addled brain than that one.

D*unk people often repeat rumour and supposition as absolute truths too - how many d*unken conspiracy theories have you heard? And laughed at because they're ridiculous but the d*unk is adamant. Just because it's about you or people you know doesn't mean it's true or accurate anymore than the theory about Prince Phillip having Diana's car run off the road in Paris that the d*unk came out with last time they had too many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone said something to me tonight and it's properly upset me. I don't think I deserved it yet I can't help wondering if it's what he really thinks.

See if he mentions it/ how he reacts next time you see him. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"D*unk people have caused themselves brain damage by intoxifying their body.

I have no doubt brain damaged people have the ability to function.

Someone who's pissed all the time changes, they become a fake them all the time."

I am not sure that is true of everyone that has a few too many to be honest. Well certainly not of me and my friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sobered me up pretty quickly. Now I'm wondering how I'm meant to go into work tomorrow.

Just be your normal self they will be wondering how to act you shouldnt you didnt say anything...

If they meant it they may avoid you.if they didnt they may avoid you till they work up the balls to apologise.

If they dont say anything by 3 go and see them xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"D*unk people have caused themselves brain damage by intoxifying their body.

I have no doubt brain damaged people have the ability to function.

Someone who's pissed all the time changes, they become a fake them all the time.

I am not sure that is true of everyone that has a few too many to be honest. Well certainly not of me and my friends.

I'd probably find you boring when d*unk which i why i avoid people who drink, but i am heavily biased towards the negatives of alcohol also yes so might not be true of everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"D*unk people have caused themselves brain damage by intoxifying their body.

I have no doubt brain damaged people have the ability to function.

Someone who's pissed all the time changes, they become a fake them all the time.

I am not sure that is true of everyone that has a few too many to be honest. Well certainly not of me and my friends.

I'd probably find you boring when d*unk which i why i avoid people who drink, but i am heavily biased towards the negatives of alcohol also yes so might not be true of everyone."

I wouldn't call myself boring ! Sounds like you are talking about the more extreme drinkers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone said something to me tonight and it's properly upset me. I don't think I deserved it yet I can't help wondering if it's what he really thinks.

I dont know the situation obviously. My advice is call them out on it tomorrow when they are sober.

good advice

I don't know what your friend is like normally and the context of how it was said. can you see any other meaning to his words or where he might be coming from?

I don't think people always tell the truth when they're d*unk, depending on how much they've had the thought process can get somewhat muddled.

Chin up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was married to an alcoholic for 18 yrs he used to come out with some really horrible things when he was druck and although I know he didn't mean them even now after his death over 7 yrs ago the words still hurt and still effect me today,so yes although you should take what a druck says with a pinch of salt ....it's not always an easy thing to do ......sorry little bit too much first thing in the morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt? "

People say all sorts when they are d*unk. Usually its harmless but someone I know once said something when d*unk, that caused a bit of trouble.

Last year I was drinking rather a lot of wine, nearly a bottle a night. I had a few issues going on. Over it now though, getting d*unk isnt worth it and I dont do it anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"D*unk people have caused themselves brain damage by intoxifying their body.

I have no doubt brain damaged people have the ability to function.

Someone who's pissed all the time changes, they become a fake them all the time.

I am not sure that is true of everyone that has a few too many to be honest. Well certainly not of me and my friends.

I'd probably find you boring when d*unk which i why i avoid people who drink, but i am heavily biased towards the negatives of alcohol also yes so might not be true of everyone.

I wouldn't call myself boring ! Sounds like you are talking about the more extreme drinkers. "

It's just my opinion. Nothing personal. Like i said i avoid people who drink, my best mate is an alcoholic and i avoid her at times. I like her loads when she's sober.

I'm heavily biased and don't want to change that as it benefits me not to, my opinion is more about me than anyone else.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"People are more likely to tell the truth when they are d*unk as their guard is down "

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt? "

I personally think yes to the speaking truth especially if they blame the drink on what they said

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By *ildt123Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

D*unk people don't always say what they really think. There are lots of random and disconnected ideas in our minds and we filter them and organise them with rational thought and internal debate and dialogue. When people are pissed the filter is bust and all sorts of crap escapes. It's not a true view on how they think BUT it's not a legitimate reason to upset people either, when the person is sober tell them.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"D*unk people don't always say what they really think. There are lots of random and disconnected ideas in our minds and we filter them and organise them with rational thought and internal debate and dialogue. When people are pissed the filter is bust and all sorts of crap escapes. It's not a true view on how they think BUT it's not a legitimate reason to upset people either, when the person is sober tell them."

Surely this is contradictory....if they use filters when sober then it must mean they think it normally and the filters don't work when d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say they speak the truth, more like they speak their minds - sometimes this could be the truth, other times it's just and ill-conceived line of thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say they speak the truth, more like they speak their minds - sometimes this could be the truth, other times it's just and ill-conceived line of thought."

Very succintly put i think thats what a few are trying to say but atruggling to explain

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

A lot of truth can come out from someone d*unk and a lot of nasty lies as well

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Booze.... Truth juice

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Thanks for your input, appreciate your thoughts. I think it was more the language used that upset me. It was a colleague rather than a friend, I don't have friends who would speak to me that way.

I'm just going to let it go but it adds another dimension to the respect I had for him that's dwindling out of the door.

On the plus side it's Friday and I think I may cure my hangover with a big fat glass of wine.

(I'm a silly d*unk, I talk nonsense and laugh. I don't get so d*unk that I lose my filter, I don't have a filter in the first place. I'm not mean or nasty and I would never call any of my colleagues 'a stupid cunt' when I was d*unk or sober.)

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

WTF happened? I wouldn't let that go and I'd probably report the incident to management. A woman at my place got dismissed as she had a d*unken rant at another member of staff and called them some really horrible names...I wouldn't put up with that shit I don't care if they were d*unk or not.

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"WTF happened? I wouldn't let that go and I'd probably report the incident to management. A woman at my place got dismissed as she had a d*unken rant at another member of staff and called them some really horrible names...I wouldn't put up with that shit I don't care if they were d*unk or not. "

He is management. There's nowhere to go with it. I've spoken to someone else this morning so at least they're aware. Unfortunately no-one else was in earshot of the conversation. It just made me feel shite. I'll get over it. Shouldn't have to but there's not much else for it. I'll stick with being antisocial in future.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Well....I would make a note of it...and have a word with him and said you found it in appropriate....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They might well have spoken their 'truth', but it's some incoherent version of truth seen through a mangled fucked up brain, if that helps."

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"D*unk people have caused themselves brain damage by intoxifying their body.

I have no doubt brain damaged people have the ability to function.

Someone who's pissed all the time changes, they become a fake them all the time."

But I'm boring and talk shit even when I'm sober.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt? "

Bit of both really, pissheads are usually divs who don't have any bottle (

) until they've had a few. Then they go too far because their inhibitions have gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"D*unk people have caused themselves brain damage by intoxifying their body.

I have no doubt brain damaged people have the ability to function.

Someone who's pissed all the time changes, they become a fake them all the time.

But I'm boring and talk shit even when I'm sober.

That's ok. I tolerate it from sober people. Like i said it's for me i do this, to protect myself and nothing to do with the other person.

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By *ack LondonMan
over a year ago

London

In vino Veritas.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Well he sounds like a proper cunt I don't go out with people from work drinking as it is just more drama than it's worth.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt? "

Personally I wouldn't give it too much thought. He may well be feeling bad about saying whatever he said himself.

Especially when someone being d*unk is involved I often think 'least said, soonest mended'.

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Update... a week later someone told him what he said and he's just been up to my office to apologise. He apparently has no recollection of the conversation and was suitably mortified. I was gracious and accepted his apology.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Update... a week later someone told him what he said and he's just been up to my office to apologise. He apparently has no recollection of the conversation and was suitably mortified. I was gracious and accepted his apology.

Is he taking you out for a drink to apologize

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Glad it ended well (ish), but getting down to the real nitty-gritty gossip:

Do you know who else at your workplace is on fab, read this thread and told him?

Time to start dropping "that'll be fab" into team-meetings methinks

Mr ddc

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By *irtyGirl OP Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Is he taking you out for a drink to apologize

No... I'm a bit choosy who I drink with. I suspect it'll be a while before he's out on the piss again!

"Glad it ended well (ish), but getting down to the real nitty-gritty gossip:

Do you know who else at your workplace is on fab, read this thread and told him?

Time to start dropping "that'll be fab" into team-meetings methinks

Mr ddc"

I told the right people in the office. None of them are here and if they are they should get back to work and stop pissing around on the forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I plan to get off my face tonight

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I plan to get off my face tonight "

{opens betting on which forumite will be the first to reply "you're welcome to get onto mine"}

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I plan to get off my face tonight

{opens betting on which forumite will be the first to reply "you're welcome to get onto mine"}

Mr ddc"

Well, if she wants to sit on the dock of the bay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I plan to get off my face tonight

{opens betting on which forumite will be the first to reply "you're welcome to get onto mine"}

Mr ddc"

No one did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think that people have the urge to speak the truth when they're d*unk or would you take something that was said under the influence with a pinch of salt? "

I'll get abusive in a minute

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I plan to get off my face tonight

{opens betting on which forumite will be the first to reply "you're welcome to get onto mine"}

Mr ddc

No one did. "

I think that technically means it's a rollover for next week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been getting d*unk in Bournemouth with 50 odd green party members for three days!!

Tonight we all agreed that Aussies don't make good speakers!

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