FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications

By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Why is it that people don't leave a verification..even after you have done them a good review of your meeting ?

Why do they use the same excuse that they are busy, but yet they still find time to make plans for another meet ?

I think it just makes a person feel shirty about the whole experience and question themselves, we're they not good

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Some people are just inconsiderate. There's nothing you can do about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid the answer may not be one you'd like to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't leave a verification..even after you have done them a good review of your meeting ?

Why do they use the same excuse that they are busy, but yet they still find time to make plans for another meet ?

I think it just makes a person feel shirty about the whole experience and question themselves, we're they not good

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some people don't like verification ,I don't I see them as notches and only have them because some women won't talk unless you do x

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Block them so your very no longer shows for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just inconsiderate one of my meets begged for an affair but has never returned a veri xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are just inconsiderate one of my meets begged for an affair but has never returned a veri xx"
begged for an affair vara? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found the ones who ask for a veri often don't leave one, they're collecting veris and i think they'd fuck anything tbh just so they have a long list of veris.

Tell them you'll do them one after they've done yours, if it bothers you that much.

If people piss you about on meeting idk what that means but don't take anything to heart on here. There's plenty of liars, fakes, flakes, and bullshitters, just use them to figure out how to avoid other people like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are just inconsiderate one of my meets begged for an affair but has never returned a veri xxbegged for an affair vara? X

litterally lol he was a little odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney"
Courtney very constructive criticism and a beautiful profile pic to boot

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Some people are just inconsiderate. There's nothing you can do about that."

Just plain ignorant to be honest...shouldn't be like that though x

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I'm afraid the answer may not be one you'd like to hear."

In what way ? because all my meets have been good in fact I've re-met a few afterwards

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I shouldn't worry about it. As long as you are verified by someone, you'll be ok.

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Why is it that people don't leave a verification..even after you have done them a good review of your meeting ?

Why do they use the same excuse that they are busy, but yet they still find time to make plans for another meet ?

I think it just makes a person feel shirty about the whole experience and question themselves, we're they not good

some people don't like verification ,I don't I see them as notches and only have them because some women won't talk unless you do x

I quite understand that, but who this is aimed at? moaned on our meet that the last one had not left a verification and he couldn't understand why

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Block them so your very no longer shows for them

Oh I have done lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I occasionally have the veri chat, get it out in the open ~ "are we doing the veri thing, would you like one....."

I do think if you like the veri enough to display it, it's only fair you reciprocate.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Are veris really that important?

Is a good meet not enough? Does the 'goodness' of the meet need to be shared with the rest of the site else the meet itself becomes less of a good time?

If a lack of a veri causes so much angst then maybe asking up front if one will be left is advisable so you can avoid meeting anyone who says they may not leave one.

If a single guy had asked the question I suspect he'd have been hauled over the coals by now and told to get over it.

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney"

I was just asking why people do it, it did bother at first but since blocking him I know I won't send a verification before a meet sends first ( I don't I was shit, but I was kind to him..because he was crap !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't leave a verification..even after you have done them a good review of your meeting ?

Why do they use the same excuse that they are busy, but yet they still find time to make plans for another meet ?

I think it just makes a person feel shirty about the whole experience and question themselves, we're they not good

some people don't like verification ,I don't I see them as notches and only have them because some women won't talk unless you do x

I personally would rather not have them after every meet. I don't need to show how many people I have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block them so your very no longer shows for them

Ooh good advice, I didn't realise that happened when you block!

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I occasionally have the veri chat, get it out in the open ~ "are we doing the veri thing, would you like one....."

I do think if you like the veri enough to display it, it's only fair you reciprocate.

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it really going to make any difference to your time on here if he doesn't leave you a verification?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why is it that people don't leave a verification..even after you have done them a good review of your meeting ?

Why do they use the same excuse that they are busy, but yet they still find time to make plans for another meet ?

I think it just makes a person feel shirty about the whole experience and question themselves, we're they not good

Do you feel that if you give a good verification that you should get a good one in return or a truthful one? Of course that might be the same thing but if your meet felt that he couldn't write what he thought you wanted to see would you rather no verification or a bad one?

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By *xploringusCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I occasionally have the veri chat, get it out in the open ~ "are we doing the veri thing, would you like one....."

I do think if you like the veri enough to display it, it's only fair you reciprocate.

Agree with this. We don't seek veris but if someone is kind enough to provide one or particularly wanted one then we would always reciprocate/provide one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Thank you everyone for your input over this chat...

Hope you all have a fun Thursday xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

Think you got your own answer here. If it was shit for you then it'll have been shit for him too. He probably didn't know how to be nice back. I know i never bother to verify mets i didn't enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get really worked up about veris. I've had guys veri me then get mad when i won't veri them. If i didn't have fun then why should i? If you don't wannt the meet to show your veri then you can block him.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

So basically then if you verify a person we can't believe it or are you trying to score a point off this unfortunate guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not read to much into it if I were you, its more a reflection on them for not doing it than you for not receiving one. There is nowt as queer as folk after all.

Like another poster pointed out if you have the chat then say you will veri your next meet once they have been so kind to veri you.

Good luck OP I hope the next meet does not leave such a poor after taste for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

Think you got your own answer here. If it was shit for you then it'll have been shit for him too. He probably didn't know how to be nice back. I know i never bother to verify mets i didn't enjoy."

I think this answers the question, really.

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Why is it that people don't leave a verification..even after you have done them a good review of your meeting ?

Why do they use the same excuse that they are busy, but yet they still find time to make plans for another meet ?

I think it just makes a person feel shirty about the whole experience and question themselves, we're they not good

Well all my meets in the past have been good, granted some have left fab now. But he shouldn't of moaned about people doing exactly what he did to me and if he felt that he did not have a good time then why did he not private message me saying so..because I would not of verified him ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block them so your very no longer shows for them

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Ooh good advice, I didn't realise that happened when you block!

me neither, thank you...

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

Not scoring no points

-Courtney

So basically then if you verify a person we can't believe it or are you trying to score a point off this unfortunate guy?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

So basically then if you verify a person we can't believe it or are you trying to score a point off this unfortunate guy?"

Exactly why I take verifications with a pinch of salt. People being nice isn't necessarily being truthful

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why is it that people don't leave a verification..even after you have done them a good review of your meeting ?

Why do they use the same excuse that they are busy, but yet they still find time to make plans for another meet ?

I think it just makes a person feel shirty about the whole experience and question themselves, we're they not good

No idea I didn't realise the verification system was on a tit for that basis.

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet.

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

Think you got your own answer here. If it was shit for you then it'll have been shit for him too. He probably didn't know how to be nice back. I know i never bother to verify mets i didn't enjoy."

I know that my sexual skills are always on form, but I couldn't feel him at times and even though this happen I still did him a good review ( I didn't have to )

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I would not read to much into it if I were you, its more a reflection on them for not doing it than you for not receiving one. There is nowt as queer as folk after all.

Like another poster pointed out if you have the chat then say you will veri your next meet once they have been so kind to veri you.

Good luck OP I hope the next meet does not leave such a poor after taste for you"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

So basically then if you verify a person we can't believe it or are you trying to score a point off this unfortunate guy?

Exactly why I take verifications with a pinch of salt. People being nice isn't necessarily being truthful "

Which is why i just don't veri a bad meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just assumed there was so much to say about me or they couldn't put it into words. Bless em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm afraid the answer may not be one you'd like to hear.

In what way ? because all my meets have been good in fact I've re-met a few afterwards "

I would not presume to judge your meets, how could I? The only person who can make a judgement has chosen not to verify you. They're either rude, forgot, are playing with you or didn't enjoy themselves.

If a guy had started this thread the tone of the responses would have been very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't leave a verification..even after you have done them a good review of your meeting ?

Why do they use the same excuse that they are busy, but yet they still find time to make plans for another meet ?

I think it just makes a person feel shirty about the whole experience and question themselves, we're they not good

some people don't like verification ,I don't I see them as notches and only have them because some women won't talk unless you do x

I quite understand that, but who this is aimed at? moaned on our meet that the last one had not left a verification and he couldn't understand why "
oh well that's a whole other story now he was and is a hypocrite veris are more for women though ,I like to take people as I find them you can tell very little about a person from endless text messages or write ups from other people ,we all have different tastes and opinions of that person

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet. "

I've not had 16 veri's, I've actually met s few people over again..don't point the finger at me, I was just asking people their opinion on this subject !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh....To veri or not to veri?.....at the end of the day you met, you had a good time. Why is a verification that important? I certainly wouldn't be getting my knickers in a twist over something of little importance. Chill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet.

I've not had 16 veri's, I've actually met s few people over again..don't point the finger at me, I was just asking people their opinion on this subject !"

You might want to look at your veris....

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I just assumed there was so much to say about me or they couldn't put it into words. Bless em

Haha love, thanks I don't feel this has gone from a topic for discussion to a lynching mob xx

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

"16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet.

I've not had 16 veri's, I've actually met s few people over again..don't point the finger at me, I was just asking people their opinion on this subject !"

...... and theres your answer

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

So basically then if you verify a person we can't believe it or are you trying to score a point off this unfortunate guy?

Exactly why I take verifications with a pinch of salt. People being nice isn't necessarily being truthful

Which is why i just don't veri a bad meet. "

And neither do if it is s bad experience, but after his plea for not receiving from the last one and our meet not being so good, I just didn't have the heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet. "

we had loads in a much smaller timeframe, just after joining the site 18months ago.

Realised it looked a bit slack, so don't really bother with them anymore.

We don't discuss veri's with meets, don't want to display any or even the summary.

They're fun but more hassle than they're worth. We've had past meets throw their toys from the pram over them. They have no substance, don't prove or disprove anything whatsoever.

If any potential meets ask to see any, we display them for them then hide again.

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Meh....To veri or not to veri?.....at the end of the day you met, you had a good time. Why is a verification that important? I certainly wouldn't be getting my knickers in a twist over something of little importance. Chill. "

I am not now, I was simply asking people their views on this matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I take verifications with a pinch of salt. People being nice isn't necessarily being truthful

Which is why i just don't veri a bad meet. "

1) A verification is just that! proof that the person is who they say they are, genuine, safe, sane, ...

2) unfortunately more often than not they are used to prove someone is physically or sexually satisfactory...

3) Unfortunately 2) doesn't always prove they are a 'nice' person or even a half decent human being...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just assumed there was so much to say about me or they couldn't put it into words. Bless em

Haha love, thanks I don't feel this has gone from a topic for discussion to a lynching mob xx"

I don't think its a lynching mob...that tends to be saved for single guy threads....

I think there is just a general disdain for verifications on the forums.

-Courtney

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don't write veris based on sexual performance. What I want to know is did they turn up, on time, presentable, did they look like their pics and fit everything they say in their profile. Were they capable of having a decent conversation (nothing taxing, just being able to chat and not launch straight into sex talk or babble about their ex - both of which have happened to me).

The sex stuff is very individual so knowing that you did it five times in an hour and she gushed all over the kitchen table is of no interest to me.

Oh, an OP: you have no idea what your partners experience of the encounter was, perhaps they didn't really enjoy it, perhaps they are aware that you didn't and don't know how to.respond to your veri after their experience of the meet.

Verifications are optional, they are a gift. And like all gifts they should be freely given with no expectations in return - a gift that has to have something in return in bartering and a form of transaction.

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet.

I've not had 16 veri's, I've actually met s few people over again..don't point the finger at me, I was just asking people their opinion on this subject !

You might want to look at your veris...."

Why what is wrong with my veri's? Like I said before a few that I had met have left...this is not to have a dig but to pass a view over the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

So you left a false veri?

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet.

I've not had 16 veri's, I've actually met s few people over again..don't point the finger at me, I was just asking people their opinion on this subject !

...... and theres your answer

Where is my answer...what are you trying to say, it's not have a go at me but then again your fucking perfect !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet.

I've not had 16 veri's, I've actually met s few people over again..don't point the finger at me, I was just asking people their opinion on this subject !

You might want to look at your veris....

Why what is wrong with my veri's? Like I said before a few that I had met have left...this is not to have a dig but to pass a view over the subject "

I don't care how many veris you've had in what length of time, i'm just saying that your veris are from 16 different people. It says so on your profile. That's all! No judgement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

Think you got your own answer here. If it was shit for you then it'll have been shit for him too. He probably didn't know how to be nice back. I know i never bother to verify mets i didn't enjoy.

I know that my sexual skills are always on form, but I couldn't feel him at times and even though this happen I still did him a good review ( I didn't have to ) "

I'm not criticising your skills, most guys won't enjoy fucking someone who isn't enjoying it.

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By *es-sMan
over a year ago

Rugby

"Are veris really that important?

Is a good meet not enough? Does the 'goodness' of the meet need to be shared with the rest of the site else the meet itself becomes less of a good time?

If a lack of a veri causes so much angst then maybe asking up front if one will be left is advisable so you can avoid meeting anyone who says they may not leave one.

If a single guy had asked the question I suspect he'd have been hauled over the coals by now and told to get over it.

A"
I think they are because some will not meet non verified people

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet.

we had loads in a much smaller timeframe, just after joining the site 18months ago.

Realised it looked a bit slack, so don't really bother with them anymore.

We don't discuss veri's with meets, don't want to display any or even the summary.

They're fun but more hassle than they're worth. We've had past meets throw their toys from the pram over them. They have no substance, don't prove or disprove anything whatsoever.

If any potential meets ask to see any, we display them for them then hide again. "

Thank you for your input and now only have four, was going to hide them but thoughtt no need. Some people in here are getting aggitated over this subject and it was not aimed at that, now I feel everyone has gone from giving an opinion to pointing the finger at me..this is not what I wanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't leave a verification..even after you have done them a good review of your meeting ?

Why do they use the same excuse that they are busy, but yet they still find time to make plans for another meet ?

I think it just makes a person feel shirty about the whole experience and question themselves, we're they not good

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I would message you privately about it but your age filter won't let me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. Don't let this thread get to you in a negative way and effect your day.

It just sounds like you gave this guy a sympathy verification but he chose not to do the same with you.

You and him simply didn't click and that's no reflection on how good he is or how wonderful you are to other people.

Put it behind you and enjoy your day.

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I brought up this subject to read others opinions on this matter and at first it went from advice to pointing the finger and down right rude, now I remember why I don't visit the forum because a obvious subject can go from being simple to nasty..

Thank you all for you input ( sorry if my replies came back nasty but I have to defend myself ) obviously quite a lot of you have the same view over the matter , I would say you are the veterans on fab..has I'm still more or less a newbie, things like this I will question...the guy in this subject that I block on fab had my number and when I blocked him, he texted me this morning asking why I've blocked him..when I said why..he said that he does not send veri's but wants the ladies to send him theirs

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

Think you got your own answer here. If it was shit for you then it'll have been shit for him too. He probably didn't know how to be nice back. I know i never bother to verify mets i didn't enjoy.

I know that my sexual skills are always on form, but I couldn't feel him at times and even though this happen I still did him a good review ( I didn't have to ) "

I really hope the poor guy doesn't read the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"16 veris in six months. perhaps they dont want to break the internet.

we had loads in a much smaller timeframe, just after joining the site 18months ago.

Realised it looked a bit slack, so don't really bother with them anymore.

We don't discuss veri's with meets, don't want to display any or even the summary.

They're fun but more hassle than they're worth. We've had past meets throw their toys from the pram over them. They have no substance, don't prove or disprove anything whatsoever.

If any potential meets ask to see any, we display them for them then hide again.

That's the forums for you

Try not to take any perceived criticism as personal, veri's are always a moot point and I think a lot of people have had a chord struck with this thread and are projecting x

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

-Courtney

Think you got your own answer here. If it was shit for you then it'll have been shit for him too. He probably didn't know how to be nice back. I know i never bother to verify mets i didn't enjoy.

I know that my sexual skills are always on form, but I couldn't feel him at times and even though this happen I still did him a good review ( I didn't have to ) "

I hope he doesn't use the forum after your scathing review above.

You know it is possible to veri someone without telling lies.

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By *ady Salford OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"**shrugs shoulders**

It could be that they didn't like you. It could be that they are inconsiderate. Does it bother you enough to not meet them again? If not, let it go, if yes, then don't meet them.

Simple, really

I really hope he does...then he may think again about moaning and then doing the exact same himself

-Courtney

Think you got your own answer here. If it was shit for you then it'll have been shit for him too. He probably didn't know how to be nice back. I know i never bother to verify mets i didn't enjoy.

I know that my sexual skills are always on form, but I couldn't feel him at times and even though this happen I still did him a good review ( I didn't have to )

I really hope the poor guy doesn't read the forum

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I brought up this subject to read others opinions on this matter and at first it went from advice to pointing the finger and down right rude, now I remember why I don't visit the forum because a obvious subject can go from being simple to nasty..

We all choose how we're going to use the site and there's no right or wrong way just different ways.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I think you may have left him a polite vari ... because he wasn't anything special ... us girls are kinder than men .... hes either forgotten .... or he justs collects varis ... so unless you contact him to remind him to leave you a vari

...which I guess your not desperate for .... then id just block .... so your vari doesnt stay on his "list " ..

On to the next OP ... and good luck .......men are like buses .. their will be another one along in a minute ..... and if your lucky .. two at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just assumed there was so much to say about me or they couldn't put it into words. Bless em

Haha love, thanks I don't feel this has gone from a topic for discussion to a lynching mob xx

I don't think its a lynching mob...that tends to be saved for single guy threads....

I think there is just a general disdain for verifications on the forums.

-Courtney"

I think it's more how the poster interacts then anything else as there can be a general disdain for a lot of topics....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are 100% with the op on this one .

It is bad form to receive a veri and then refuse to reciprocate . No one says you have to leave a good one , or even say any more than met this person on the said date .

But to receive one and display it and then not do one back is rude and disrespectful .

As for how many veris someone has in whatever space of time , that's not relevant to this thread .

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Without being rude maybe the person doesn't want others to see they have met you?

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Agree with the OP here...sadly rude people exist everywhere, even Fab.

And...now sounding really old....manners aren't what they used to be...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are 100% with the op on this one .

It is bad form to receive a veri and then refuse to reciprocate . No one says you have to leave a good one , or even say any more than met this person on the said date .

But to receive one and display it and then not do one back is rude and disrespectful .

As for how many veris someone has in whatever space of time , that's not relevant to this thread ."

^^^ Great reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are 100% with the op on this one .

It is bad form to receive a veri and then refuse to reciprocate . No one says you have to leave a good one , or even say any more than met this person on the said date .

But to receive one and display it and then not do one back is rude and disrespectful .

As for how many veris someone has in whatever space of time , that's not relevant to this thread ."

100% agree

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

"We are 100% with the op on this one .

It is bad form to receive a veri and then refuse to reciprocate . No one says you have to leave a good one , or even say any more than met this person on the said date .

But to receive one and display it and then not do one back is rude and disrespectful .

As for how many veris someone has in whatever space of time , that's not relevant to this thread ."

it is relevant that lots of people are leaving veries. thats the whole point of the op's complaint. nobody was suggesting anything other.

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

"We are 100% with the op on this one .

It is bad form to receive a veri and then refuse to reciprocate . No one says you have to leave a good one , or even say any more than met this person on the said date .

But to receive one and display it and then not do one back is rude and disrespectful .

As for how many veris someone has in whatever space of time , that's not relevant to this thread ."

My thoughts exactly. The wife has had a few meets now where she has left a veri afterwards and still not received one back, even though they've had time to display theirs.

No repeat meets for those ignorant lot.

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

"We are 100% with the op on this one .

It is bad form to receive a veri and then refuse to reciprocate . No one says you have to leave a good one , or even say any more than met this person on the said date .

But to receive one and display it and then not do one back is rude and disrespectful .

As for how many veris someone has in whatever space of time , that's not relevant to this thread .

100% agree

you agree that people should veri people there not happy with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are 100% with the op on this one .

It is bad form to receive a veri and then refuse to reciprocate . No one says you have to leave a good one , or even say any more than met this person on the said date .

But to receive one and display it and then not do one back is rude and disrespectful .

As for how many veris someone has in whatever space of time , that's not relevant to this thread .

100% agree

you agree that people should veri people there not happy with? "

I know i don't verify crap meets but i probably should just to prove the person turned up as planned.

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

"We are 100% with the op on this one .

It is bad form to receive a veri and then refuse to reciprocate . No one says you have to leave a good one , or even say any more than met this person on the said date .

But to receive one and display it and then not do one back is rude and disrespectful .

As for how many veris someone has in whatever space of time , that's not relevant to this thread .

100% agree

you agree that people should veri people there not happy with?

I know i don't verify crap meets but i probably should just to prove the person turned up as planned."

nooooo! if fred west turns up bang on time, clean shaven with a box of chocolates it's not proper to veri

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over a year ago

"We are 100% with the op on this one .

It is bad form to receive a veri and then refuse to reciprocate . No one says you have to leave a good one , or even say any more than met this person on the said date .

But to receive one and display it and then not do one back is rude and disrespectful .

As for how many veris someone has in whatever space of time , that's not relevant to this thread .

100% agree

you agree that people should veri people there not happy with?

I know i don't verify crap meets but i probably should just to prove the person turned up as planned.

nooooo! if fred west turns up bang on time, clean shaven with a box of chocolates it's not proper to veri

Idk, the main reason i dn't verify guys is because they were selfish in bed or had lied on their profile. Obviously i'd never verify the liars but if they turned up as arranged, idk yeah i'm not changing my mind they were crap and i don't want anyone to think i recommended them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Has verification suddenly become compulsory?

Is it really so important and how would people feel if they received the following for instance

"I know x verified me in glowing terms but they must have been at a different meet to me. The sex was crap and I left feeling very disappointed"

Better than no verification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has verification suddenly become compulsory?

Is it really so important and how would people feel if they received the following for instance

"I know x verified me in glowing terms but they must have been at a different meet to me. The sex was crap and I left feeling very disappointed"

Better than no verification?"
I would be honoured to have that veri cut and paste will you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Has verification suddenly become compulsory?

Is it really so important and how would people feel if they received the following for instance

"I know x verified me in glowing terms but they must have been at a different meet to me. The sex was crap and I left feeling very disappointed"

Better than no verification?I would be honoured to have that veri cut and paste will you

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