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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To know that someone cares because of their actions, even if they bottle up emotions so much that they can't say it out loud?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Wot?

Spit it out woman!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wot?

Spit it out woman!"

I usually swallow though!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"Wot?

Spit it out woman!"

No swallow it, it's sexier

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

I'd much rather that than a partner who kept saying they loved me but never really showed it. Been there and it's horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd much rather that than a partner who kept saying they loved me but never really showed it. Been there and it's horrible. "

Actions speak louder than words.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

It's not enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To know that someone cares because of their actions, even if they bottle up emotions so much that they can't say it out loud? "

See my ex is going through something similar with our best friend, they both love each other, but she never acknowledges it (apart from once which is how he knows) she will never say it out loud again for various reasons and keeps everything close to her chest, but it's the little things she does that shows how much she cares and loves him; I've told him just to be patient and it will happen x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"To know that someone cares because of their actions, even if they bottle up emotions so much that they can't say it out loud?

See my ex is going through something similar with our best friend, they both love each other, but she never acknowledges it (apart from once which is how he knows) she will never say it out loud again for various reasons and keeps everything close to her chest, but it's the little things she does that shows how much she cares and loves him; I've told him just to be patient and it will happen x"

That situation would drive me nuts I'd probably think fuck that and move on but that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To know that someone cares because of their actions, even if they bottle up emotions so much that they can't say it out loud?

See my ex is going through something similar with our best friend, they both love each other, but she never acknowledges it (apart from once which is how he knows) she will never say it out loud again for various reasons and keeps everything close to her chest, but it's the little things she does that shows how much she cares and loves him; I've told him just to be patient and it will happen x

That situation would drive me nuts I'd probably think fuck that and move on but that's just me. "

It does bring him down quite a bit tbh, but they are so good together and would make a great couple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd much rather that than a partner who kept saying they loved me but never really showed it. Been there and it's horrible.

Actions speak louder than words. "

Both my exes pretty much beat that out of me. I would say it but it would never be returned or I was told 'it doesn't mean anything' when finishing a phone conversation. I now have real problems dropping that L bomb with anyone except my daughter..

But I keep telling people, pay attention to what I do...that will show the truth

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"To know that someone cares because of their actions, even if they bottle up emotions so much that they can't say it out loud?

See my ex is going through something similar with our best friend, they both love each other, but she never acknowledges it (apart from once which is how he knows) she will never say it out loud again for various reasons and keeps everything close to her chest, but it's the little things she does that shows how much she cares and loves him; I've told him just to be patient and it will happen x

That situation would drive me nuts I'd probably think fuck that and move on but that's just me.

It does bring him down quite a bit tbh, but they are so good together and would make a great couple x"

But sometimes the right person, wrong place and wrong time come into play and the right time may never come, but it's his business so not here to pass judgement.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"To know that someone cares because of their actions, even if they bottle up emotions so much that they can't say it out loud? "

Yes..

if you know they care by deed, look or a reassuring arm around the shoulder then between you both that is fine for now..

they may in time 'open up' verbally, till then go with the flow..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd always say actions speak louder than words... And words are easily said... X that said... It's nice to hear certain words from the people you care for x

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk


"I'd always say actions speak louder than words... And words are easily said... X that said... It's nice to hear certain words from the people you care for x "

Pretty much this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show I care by doing stuff or buying gifts for people, find it difficult articulating things like that. Luckily, everyone understands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it isn't enough, it should be but people have different ways of showing love and feeling they received it.

If someone shows love in a way different from the way you need to get it back then you will feel unloved, despite that not being true.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Words are not enough and someone's behaviour must match their words for me.

If someone cares, they always care - however tough it is for them. And caring will drive them to need to know how you will fully feel cared for, in the ways that you need to be.

Don't be short changed, you're worth more than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Next.

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

Some of us blokes don't really like talking about feelings.

Doing nice and thoughtful things is fine but talk about how we "feel"? Errrr....can't we talk about something else instead?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"To know that someone cares because of their actions, even if they bottle up emotions so much that they can't say it out loud? "

Yes.....

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd much rather that than a partner who kept saying they loved me but never really showed it. Been there and it's horrible.

Actions speak louder than words. "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need words,words are throw away retorts.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Actions speak louder than words. "

^ This, it's on ma profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person. Some people need big gestures and constant reaffirmation from others. Some of us are happy just to know that people care in their own special way.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

No. Because actions can be mis-read.

Is this the guy you describe as your FB? I'd be worried you're looking for different things.

(But I may be just feeling a little poignant/impotent having come from Maebabe's thread)

Hope I'm wrong HQ.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Because actions can be mis-read.

Is this the guy you describe as your FB? I'd be worried you're looking for different things.

(But I may be just feeling a little poignant/impotent having come from Maebabe's thread)

Hope I'm wrong HQ.

Mr ddc"

Its easier to lie with words than actions. Thats why human interaction is so important, you can see if there is a mismatch

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


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Mr ddc

Its easier to lie with words than actions. Thats why human interaction is so important, you can see if there is a mismatch"

True, which is why I feel you need both. When someone asks about encouraging their other half into swinging, we tell them to talk about it. How much more so when concerned with affairs of the heart instead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person some people need to be told things some people know without being told.x

Trust yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actions are what show the truth, people have said they love me, but their actions have said different.

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By *rab74Man
over a year ago

Huntingdon

I'd rather it was the other way around. When "I love you" is just words you say, fuck that shit. And especially not being told you're the love of their life when they can't even be civil or honest themselves. Love isn't just about how you feel, it's about how you make a relationship with them.

Yes, the words are important. But they're nothing without actually walking the walk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would need both at some point in a relationship.

Actions would be preferable over words but I wouldn't like to be with someone who bottled up their emotions to the point they couldn't express themselves to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those that say actions speak louder than words, it's hard living with someone who doesn't communicate their feelings. We aren't all mind readers and sometimes things can be festering for a while, while on the surface all seems calm and well. Then you have a situation that may have been avoided if only something was mentioned earlier.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Actions speak louder than words.

^ This, it's on ma profile "

It's on my arm! Lol

A

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not good at showing emotions. I'm an emotion vintner

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