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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a good judge of character so I rarely change my mind about someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've really changed my mind about anyone, but I haven't got a particularly fixed _iew about most people on here to start with anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like. "

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Nah... my instincts are usually bang on. Occasionally there are people I'm not sure about but as time passes and I read more, it turns out my first instinct was right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I've really changed my mind about anyone, but I haven't got a particularly fixed _iew about most people on here to start with anyway. "

Same here. Most people i take them as i don't really know them.

There's a fair few guys i wasn't keen on when i first joined the site but i like them more now and even met one that i had blocked.

Most of my regular meets i go off them eventually once i get to know them better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm normally quite astute at judging people I meet face to face - it's more difficult on an Internet forum as you can't see the body language and tone of voice that someone's written words are posted in (I have been misinterpreted many times and I'm sure I've misinterpreted others many times too).

I think the longer I've been here has cemented some perceptions I have but I'll always reserve full judgement on people until we've met face to face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a poser this one..... Some flowers blossom, others wilt away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows "

Do I win s prize if I can guess ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've changed my mind on a few people mostly for the better but one or two I.was so wrong about but that's life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows

Do I win s prize if I can guess ..."

Oh you know who it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was referring to people that i chat to with a _iew to possibly meeting rather than people on the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm normally quite astute at judging people I meet face to face - it's more difficult on an Internet forum as you can't see the body language and tone of voice that someone's written words are posted in (I have been misinterpreted many times and I'm sure I've misinterpreted others many times too).

I think the longer I've been here has cemented some perceptions I have but I'll always reserve full judgement on people until we've met face to face "

Agree with yer Dan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows "

Haha i too have one person i bet its the same one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we're talking about here as in the forums then my 1st impression of someone is usually pretty accurate.

If they happen to change my mind its usually for the worse.

If we're talking about chatting with a _iew to meeting up then yes my intial impression has been changed a few times once I have got to 'know' them better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm normally quite astute at judging people I meet face to face - it's more difficult on an Internet forum as you can't see the body language and tone of voice that someone's written words are posted in (I have been misinterpreted many times and I'm sure I've misinterpreted others many times too).

I think the longer I've been here has cemented some perceptions I have but I'll always reserve full judgement on people until we've met face to face

Agree with yer Dan."

See, right from day 1 I knew you was a good lad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was referring to people that i chat to with a _iew to possibly meeting rather than people on the forum"

The people I chat too regularly I like, if I don't like em I dont chat. I dont think there's any that I've changed my opinion of over time.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I've changed my mind on a few people mostly for the better but one or two I.was so wrong about but that's life "

I'm the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm normally quite astute at judging people I meet face to face - it's more difficult on an Internet forum as you can't see the body language and tone of voice that someone's written words are posted in (I have been misinterpreted many times and I'm sure I've misinterpreted others many times too).

I think the longer I've been here has cemented some perceptions I have but I'll always reserve full judgement on people until we've met face to face

Agree with yer Dan.

See, right from day 1 I knew you was a good lad! "

Bro hugs matey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows

Do I win s prize if I can guess ..."

Can I win a prize for never having a scooby doo when it comes to stuff like this....^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is one guy in the forums I initially really didn't like. I've now realized how wrong I was and enjoy his posts.

But for the most part, I think I generally haven't changed opinion of most people on the forums.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are usually right - one or two people we have changed our minds over once we played with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ahhh forum people - not met many but the ones i have have been just like i expected them to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say our profile is usually the first impression we give,,,,

So if a profile fails to capture my interest I won't risk wasting my time looking for hidden depths ....

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I like to think I'm a good judge of character

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It depends, if I chat to someone I'm planning on meeting I tend to get to like them more and I've never changed my _iew negatively to anyone I've met.

Some people in the forums I like just by what they post, some people I've set my mind that there right twats and wouldn't even want to meet them socially to find out if I'd have my _iew changed.

Some people come across one way in the forum but are completly different when you chat to them privately.

My best friend on here who has also become a best friend in real life I couldn't fucking stand her and she couldn't stand me, yet soon as we met we clicked.

Also although people tell alot about themselves on here there's a lot they don't tell as well.

One person though I'm disappointed with as I liked them but the more I got to know them the more their true colours where revealed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows "

Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

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I change my mind all the time. Always new information out there.

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

Maybe I don't think deeply enough but I've never really formed too much of an impression of anyone from forum posts....except one.

I find that our _iews are almost polar opposites. I don't dislike them, and don't respond to their posts with my contrary opinions, but when I'm reading a thread when I see their profile pic I just know what they've posted will make me shake my head, think "really?", then grin at the fact that we are all individuals and not the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows

Sorry. "

Haha, sorry my dear but it's not you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like to have a fixed opinion about people in the forums as it's never a true representation of who we really are. Self-editing is a wonderful thing! And I've met people from here who are nothing like their forum persona in real life, including someone several of you are alluding to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like to have a fixed opinion about people in the forums as it's never a true representation of who we really are. Self-editing is a wonderful thing! And I've met people from here who are nothing like their forum persona in real life, including someone several of you are alluding to."

Who are people alluding to? I feel like I've been left out on a secret I'm so bad at discerning subtext...

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows "

I'll get my coat.....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't like to have a fixed opinion about people in the forums as it's never a true representation of who we really are. Self-editing is a wonderful thing! And I've met people from here who are nothing like their forum persona in real life, including someone several of you are alluding to.

Who are people alluding to? I feel like I've been left out on a secret I'm so bad at discerning subtext...

-Courtney"
I was thinking that I can't see anyone alluding to anyone, think I'm out the secret society as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like to have a fixed opinion about people in the forums as it's never a true representation of who we really are. Self-editing is a wonderful thing! And I've met people from here who are nothing like their forum persona in real life, including someone several of you are alluding to.

Who are people alluding to? I feel like I've been left out on a secret I'm so bad at discerning subtext...

-CourtneyI was thinking that I can't see anyone alluding to anyone, think I'm out the secret society as well"

Oh God Maybe it's one of us

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By *ack LondonMan
over a year ago

London

You never get a second chance to make a first impression!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of people I've warmed to over time, far more I've come to realise aren't quite all they pretend to be but it's all the nature of the site and relative anonymity of the internet as aside from that I am extremely confident in my judgement of character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows

I'll get my coat..... "
not you either lovely!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't like to have a fixed opinion about people in the forums as it's never a true representation of who we really are. Self-editing is a wonderful thing! And I've met people from here who are nothing like their forum persona in real life, including someone several of you are alluding to.

Who are people alluding to? I feel like I've been left out on a secret I'm so bad at discerning subtext...

-CourtneyI was thinking that I can't see anyone alluding to anyone, think I'm out the secret society as well

Oh God Maybe it's one of us "
it must be me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows

I'll get my coat.....

not you either lovely!"

Sends hug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like to have a fixed opinion about people in the forums as it's never a true representation of who we really are. Self-editing is a wonderful thing! And I've met people from here who are nothing like their forum persona in real life, including someone several of you are alluding to.

Who are people alluding to? I feel like I've been left out on a secret I'm so bad at discerning subtext...

-CourtneyI was thinking that I can't see anyone alluding to anyone, think I'm out the secret society as well

Oh God Maybe it's one of us it must be me "

Well, I didn't want to say anything outright, but...you know how it is

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't like to have a fixed opinion about people in the forums as it's never a true representation of who we really are. Self-editing is a wonderful thing! And I've met people from here who are nothing like their forum persona in real life, including someone several of you are alluding to.

Who are people alluding to? I feel like I've been left out on a secret I'm so bad at discerning subtext...

-CourtneyI was thinking that I can't see anyone alluding to anyone, think I'm out the secret society as well

Oh God Maybe it's one of us it must be me

Well, I didn't want to say anything outright, but...you know how it is

"
well at least your honest and I no longer have to draw my own conclusions its fact

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

I can't believe I know who it is...I'm normally totally out of the loop!

As for me, yes my impressions of some people have changed over time, both on the forum and others I chat to privately. I think that's natural as the more people say the more they reveal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like to have a fixed opinion about people in the forums as it's never a true representation of who we really are. Self-editing is a wonderful thing! And I've met people from here who are nothing like their forum persona in real life, including someone several of you are alluding to."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha, that's just called being stubborn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pigeonhole people or make assessments on their characters on here or form opinions of people. There are some people who are true to form and never waver but most,like me,chop and change the way they write. I'd love to know what people think of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't pigeonhole people or make assessments on their characters on here or form opinions of people. There are some people who are true to form and never waver but most,like me,chop and change the way they write. I'd love to know what people think of me "

I think everyones posts change depending on there mood but your still being who you are. im like that most of the time im jolly and just giggle. occassionally though i get my cape on and have a debate.

Not a lot offends me but i hate to see othes being picked on when its not deserved.

There are people who purposely act like *beeps out profanity* just for a reaction. If there different in real life...Hmmm i have to wonder if thats just cause they cant get away with it that freely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't pigeonhole people or make assessments on their characters on here or form opinions of people. There are some people who are true to form and never waver but most,like me,chop and change the way they write. I'd love to know what people think of me "

i think you call them how you see them whether thats the popular opnion or not it doesnt matter. I like that

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Some I like some I don't like some have formed an opioin of me, however made two good friends(real life ones as well) from the forums so I can't be half bad...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like to have a fixed opinion about people in the forums as it's never a true representation of who we really are. Self-editing is a wonderful thing! And I've met people from here who are nothing like their forum persona in real life, including someone several of you are alluding to."
I agree you can't really tell what anyone's like until you meet them text messages can be misinterpreted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not chatted to anyone long enough to make am informed opinion.

I try not to judge anyone on what they say on a forum like this. Its tomorrows chip paper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having opinions on people I'm never likely to meet seems a waste of energy. I take the good, bad and the ridiculous as nothing but banter. It's just a game and not one to be taken seriously.

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By *ony HardcockMan
over a year ago

Shepperton


"Yes a couple thoughof people i intially wasnt keen on i now really like.

I'm the same.

There's only one person I really do not like & the more they post, the more my dislike grows "

Sorry OP I will leave x

I do find people on fab really nice love the forums and the muppets you can just skip over or block

And I don't like to judge unless I have reason too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having opinions on people I'm never likely to meet seems a waste of energy. I take the good, bad and the ridiculous as nothing but banter. It's just a game and not one to be taken seriously."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having opinions on people I'm never likely to meet seems a waste of energy. I take the good, bad and the ridiculous as nothing but banter. It's just a game and not one to be taken seriously."

I'm glad some of you ladies think that way

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Having opinions on people I'm never likely to meet seems a waste of energy. I take the good, bad and the ridiculous as nothing but banter. It's just a game and not one to be taken seriously."

It is a waste of energy, however some live for some form of drama in their lives

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Having opinions on people I'm never likely to meet seems a waste of energy. I take the good, bad and the ridiculous as nothing but banter. It's just a game and not one to be taken seriously."

this..

with the caveat that some offensive opinions will provoke a response..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree its never to be taken seriously but i think are always bound to have an impression of what you think someones like based on things they say even if you accept it might not be right...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having opinions on people I'm never likely to meet seems a waste of energy. I take the good, bad and the ridiculous as nothing but banter. It's just a game and not one to be taken seriously.

It is a waste of energy, however some live for some form of drama in their lives "
yes I agree I have a constant mood always happy always joking but that doesn't always go down well hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't judge people from their forum posts. Its just banter. One particular poster who everyone has been talking about I've been chatting to for weeks and I still like and will meet him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't judge people from their forum posts. Its just banter. One particular poster who everyone has been talking about I've been chatting to for weeks and I still like and will meet him "

Banter?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I don't judge people from their forum posts. Its just banter. One particular poster who everyone has been talking about I've been chatting to for weeks and I still like and will meet him "

Change everyone to some people some don't give others a second thought once they press the log out button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a good judge of character so I rarely change my mind about someone. "

Same here an verifications appear to confirm that of some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to know who this is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to know who this is lol"

But what if it's you?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't judge people from their forum posts. Its just banter. One particular poster who everyone has been talking about I've been chatting to for weeks and I still like and will meet him "
good for you, but I still have no idea how you can tell from this thread who people are talking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone was talking about the same guy, fyi. I wasn't

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's turned into a right knitting circle of gossip in here.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't really like threads that turn into a witch-hunt.

I get an impression of people from their forum posts. It's my impression. I'm happy to keep it to myself. I ignore those I don't want to interact with cause I think sniping or throwing in digs is a bit childish and it lowers the tone of the forum... and not in a good way!

I don't think it's fair or right to give a little smidgen of info and have people guessing as to who you like or don't like. Makes me cringe a bit if I'm honest.

We're all different. People who are arseholes usually manage to show themselves up all by themselves. I don't need other people to point out those people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ego wants it to be me. My cock is saying something different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really like threads that turn into a witch-hunt.

I get an impression of people from their forum posts. It's my impression. I'm happy to keep it to myself. I ignore those I don't want to interact with cause I think sniping or throwing in digs is a bit childish and it lowers the tone of the forum... and not in a good way!

I don't think it's fair or right to give a little smidgen of info and have people guessing as to who you like or don't like. Makes me cringe a bit if I'm honest.

We're all different. People who are arseholes usually manage to show themselves up all by themselves. I don't need other people to point out those people.

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I agree. Although I don't think the thread was meant as a witch hunt. And I do believe not everyone is referring to the same people or person. It just seems that way, I guess.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really like threads that turn into a witch-hunt.

I get an impression of people from their forum posts. It's my impression. I'm happy to keep it to myself. I ignore those I don't want to interact with cause I think sniping or throwing in digs is a bit childish and it lowers the tone of the forum... and not in a good way!

I don't think it's fair or right to give a little smidgen of info and have people guessing as to who you like or don't like. Makes me cringe a bit if I'm honest.

We're all different. People who are arseholes usually manage to show themselves up all by themselves. I don't need other people to point out those people.

I agree. Although I don't think the thread was meant as a witch hunt. And I do believe not everyone is referring to the same people or person. It just seems that way, I guess.

-Courtney"

I kind of hope it's me now.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I don't really like threads that turn into a witch-hunt.

I get an impression of people from their forum posts. It's my impression. I'm happy to keep it to myself. I ignore those I don't want to interact with cause I think sniping or throwing in digs is a bit childish and it lowers the tone of the forum... and not in a good way!

I don't think it's fair or right to give a little smidgen of info and have people guessing as to who you like or don't like. Makes me cringe a bit if I'm honest.

We're all different. People who are arseholes usually manage to show themselves up all by themselves. I don't need other people to point out those people.

I agree. Although I don't think the thread was meant as a witch hunt. And I do believe not everyone is referring to the same people or person. It just seems that way, I guess.

-Courtney"

Oh I know... I didn't read it that way to start with but the last few posts made me think about it in those terms. It's like people on bookface who give half a story... I hate that too!

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

I used to always see these irritating, look at me style status posts from one particular lady, that used to appear in our local updates. I always had the impression she was, on the one hand a bit of a cock hungry slut and on the other an attention seeking annoying buffoon. Quite often i'd send her a flippant or sarky message, not unpleasant, just kind of like subtle digs. She'd nearly always reply, with a cheery message back. Then one day we get a message from her saying that as we have been exchanging messages for so long, we should probably meet....so we did, turns out she's really rather lovely and has kinda become our main squeeze on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK OK!

You can all just dismount from your high horses (white knights too) and turn round and trudge on home!

Nothing to see here!!

I know it was me and I don't care!!!

Will wave my big bum in the air!!

So there!!!

*disclaimer- If it was me oops but then I pretty sure not!

**And to answer the OP usually my instincts about a person off here are about right- first impressions count for little- time sorts everything out on that score

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really like threads that turn into a witch-hunt.

I get an impression of people from their forum posts. It's my impression. I'm happy to keep it to myself. I ignore those I don't want to interact with cause I think sniping or throwing in digs is a bit childish and it lowers the tone of the forum... and not in a good way!

I don't think it's fair or right to give a little smidgen of info and have people guessing as to who you like or don't like. Makes me cringe a bit if I'm honest.

We're all different. People who are arseholes usually manage to show themselves up all by themselves. I don't need other people to point out those people.

I agree. Although I don't think the thread was meant as a witch hunt. And I do believe not everyone is referring to the same people or person. It just seems that way, I guess.

-Courtney

I kind of hope it's me now."

I would tell you if it was you but I can't recognize who you are from your silhouette and hidden profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really like threads that turn into a witch-hunt.

I get an impression of people from their forum posts. It's my impression. I'm happy to keep it to myself. I ignore those I don't want to interact with cause I think sniping or throwing in digs is a bit childish and it lowers the tone of the forum... and not in a good way!

I don't think it's fair or right to give a little smidgen of info and have people guessing as to who you like or don't like. Makes me cringe a bit if I'm honest.

We're all different. People who are arseholes usually manage to show themselves up all by themselves. I don't need other people to point out those people.

I agree. Although I don't think the thread was meant as a witch hunt. And I do believe not everyone is referring to the same people or person. It just seems that way, I guess.

-Courtney

Oh I know... I didn't read it that way to start with but the last few posts made me think about it in those terms. It's like people on bookface who give half a story... I hate that too! "
hehe hey nobody knows who it is you could guess forever and be wrong its like the telephone ringing you missing the call and you look in missed calls and no number left drives you round bend wondering who it is x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"OK OK!

You can all just dismount from your high horses (white knights too) and turn round and trudge on home!

Nothing to see here!!

I know it was me and I don't care!!!

Will wave my big bum in the air!!

So there!!!

*disclaimer- If it was me oops but then I pretty sure not!

**And to answer the OP usually my instincts about a person off here are about right- first impressions count for little- time sorts everything out on that score "

Well I cant of had that much of an impression you forgot who I was when you returned sob sob

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"OK OK!

You can all just dismount from your high horses (white knights too) and turn round and trudge on home!

Nothing to see here!!

I know it was me and I don't care!!!

Will wave my big bum in the air!!

So there!!!

*disclaimer- If it was me oops but then I pretty sure not!

**And to answer the OP usually my instincts about a person off here are about right- first impressions count for little- time sorts everything out on that score "

*falls off donkey*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The passage of time and getting to know someone always reveals more of them, both light and dark. They lose the initial fairy tale appearance, but their real beauty and warts become more apparent.

I may initially create a good impression but eventually you'll spot the arsehole within. Alternatively you might at first see the arsehole but given time and patience you may discover the beauty within as well.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found. "

I wish my intuition was as accurate. My perception of others is continually being updated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think people take me for who I am, I'm always polite, respectful, and some say I'm a funny person.

Although I think some people judge me differently, I will always be the same person, nothing less, nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person. "

It's me isn't it?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person.

It's me isn't it?! "

Yes.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person.

It's me isn't it?!

Yes."

Hurrah! Is there a prize? What do you usually win Lib?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found.

I wish my intuition was as accurate. My perception of others is continually being updated"

Perceptions, yes, they are just normal conscious impressions, based on the information we are shown. But if I 'see' something a bit deeper in someone, I am usually proved right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found. "

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK OK!

You can all just dismount from your high horses (white knights too) and turn round and trudge on home!

Nothing to see here!!

I know it was me and I don't care!!!

Will wave my big bum in the air!!

So there!!!

*disclaimer- If it was me oops but then I pretty sure not!

**And to answer the OP usually my instincts about a person off here are about right- first impressions count for little- time sorts everything out on that score

Well I cant of had that much of an impression you forgot who I was when you returned sob sob "

No fair!! You changed your name And avatar!!!

And you were my first female snog- won't forget that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person.

It's me isn't it?! "

Haha no to be fair the person i meant knows who they are as for who anyone else means i have no idea x

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found.

I wish my intuition was as accurate. My perception of others is continually being updated

Perceptions, yes, they are just normal conscious impressions, based on the information we are shown. But if I 'see' something a bit deeper in someone, I am usually proved right. "

often see under the surface, a natural tendency..yes i trust myself, i don't have expectations of outcome though..things move and change, so do people, so its a snapshot moment each time, unless we are talking patterns and predictability.. i don't assume to know someone unless i have met them a few times..i just accept what is in front of me, generally

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person.

It's me isn't it?! "

Didn't want to tell you but yes

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

With me I can be a twat on forums and in real life.....

I suppose my veris say I am a polite nice guy but I do talk a lot about football and traveling in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found.

I wish my intuition was as accurate. My perception of others is continually being updated

Perceptions, yes, they are just normal conscious impressions, based on the information we are shown. But if I 'see' something a bit deeper in someone, I am usually proved right.

often see under the surface, a natural tendency..yes i trust myself, i don't have expectations of outcome though..things move and change, so do people, so its a snapshot moment each time, unless we are talking patterns and predictability.. i don't assume to know someone unless i have met them a few times..i just accept what is in front of me, generally

."

I have known people for decades but still don't know them. I believe there is always something fresh to see. I also think people learn and change, so I tend to look beyond particular foibles. I have recently had to update my perception of my sister for the better, although I have known her most of my life

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found.

I wish my intuition was as accurate. My perception of others is continually being updated

Perceptions, yes, they are just normal conscious impressions, based on the information we are shown. But if I 'see' something a bit deeper in someone, I am usually proved right.

often see under the surface, a natural tendency..yes i trust myself, i don't have expectations of outcome though..things move and change, so do people, so its a snapshot moment each time, unless we are talking patterns and predictability.. i don't assume to know someone unless i have met them a few times..i just accept what is in front of me, generally

.

I have known people for decades but still don't know them. I believe there is always something fresh to see. I also think people learn and change, so I tend to look beyond particular foibles. I have recently had to update my perception of my sister for the better, although I have known her most of my life "

yes, i meant know them in the most superficial of ways.. no one will ever know me completely, its a complete waste of time, trying to find out what makes me tick...fluid like a river, ever changing, running a course or two through life xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person.

It's me isn't it?!

Yes.

Hurrah! Is there a prize? What do you usually win Lib? "

A 48 hour ban when I tell everyone what I really think of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found.

I wish my intuition was as accurate. My perception of others is continually being updated

Perceptions, yes, they are just normal conscious impressions, based on the information we are shown. But if I 'see' something a bit deeper in someone, I am usually proved right.

often see under the surface, a natural tendency..yes i trust myself, i don't have expectations of outcome though..things move and change, so do people, so its a snapshot moment each time, unless we are talking patterns and predictability.. i don't assume to know someone unless i have met them a few times..i just accept what is in front of me, generally

.

I have known people for decades but still don't know them. I believe there is always something fresh to see. I also think people learn and change, so I tend to look beyond particular foibles. I have recently had to update my perception of my sister for the better, although I have known her most of my life

yes, i meant know them in the most superficial of ways.. no one will ever know me completely, its a complete waste of time, trying to find out what makes me tick...fluid like a river, ever changing, running a course or two through life xx"

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person.

It's me isn't it?!

Yes.

Hurrah! Is there a prize? What do you usually win Lib?

A 48 hour ban when I tell everyone what I really think of them."

Oh... I've never been banned before.

I think you can keep your prize.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't met anyone from these forums but in the past I've had people thinking I'm a cunt but then after a while think I'm alright. Might not be everyone's cup of tea but you'll always get honesty from me and know where you stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person.

It's me isn't it?!

Yes.

Hurrah! Is there a prize? What do you usually win Lib?

A 48 hour ban when I tell everyone what I really think of them."

O God

I'm afraid of what you'd say about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont think its a witch hunt people just wondered if me and miss were talking about the same person.

It's me isn't it?!

Yes.

Hurrah! Is there a prize? What do you usually win Lib?

A 48 hour ban when I tell everyone what I really think of them.

Oh... I've never been banned before.

I think you can keep your prize. "
hey it's a woman has to be ,let's vote

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found.

I wish my intuition was as accurate. My perception of others is continually being updated

Perceptions, yes, they are just normal conscious impressions, based on the information we are shown. But if I 'see' something a bit deeper in someone, I am usually proved right.

often see under the surface, a natural tendency..yes i trust myself, i don't have expectations of outcome though..things move and change, so do people, so its a snapshot moment each time, unless we are talking patterns and predictability.. i don't assume to know someone unless i have met them a few times..i just accept what is in front of me, generally

."

Absolutely yes. 'Knowing' is a very full word, I would never presume to think I knew all of someone, even someone I spent a lot of time trying to understand. Life proves that is night impossible.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found.

I wish my intuition was as accurate. My perception of others is continually being updated

Perceptions, yes, they are just normal conscious impressions, based on the information we are shown. But if I 'see' something a bit deeper in someone, I am usually proved right.

often see under the surface, a natural tendency..yes i trust myself, i don't have expectations of outcome though..things move and change, so do people, so its a snapshot moment each time, unless we are talking patterns and predictability.. i don't assume to know someone unless i have met them a few times..i just accept what is in front of me, generally

.

I have known people for decades but still don't know them. I believe there is always something fresh to see. I also think people learn and change, so I tend to look beyond particular foibles. I have recently had to update my perception of my sister for the better, although I have known her most of my life "

Indeed - but I am talking about a specific insight, usually about one aspect of someone. If that is a true intuition from the spirit it is reliable in my experience.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I don't give it much thought until/unless something impacts upon me and I get an intuition about someone. Those are very rarely wrong I have found.

I wish my intuition was as accurate. My perception of others is continually being updated

Perceptions, yes, they are just normal conscious impressions, based on the information we are shown. But if I 'see' something a bit deeper in someone, I am usually proved right.

often see under the surface, a natural tendency..yes i trust myself, i don't have expectations of outcome though..things move and change, so do people, so its a snapshot moment each time, unless we are talking patterns and predictability.. i don't assume to know someone unless i have met them a few times..i just accept what is in front of me, generally

.

I have known people for decades but still don't know them. I believe there is always something fresh to see. I also think people learn and change, so I tend to look beyond particular foibles. I have recently had to update my perception of my sister for the better, although I have known her most of my life

Indeed - but I am talking about a specific insight, usually about one aspect of someone. If that is a true intuition from the spirit it is reliable in my experience."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't judge people from their forum posts. Its just banter. One particular poster who everyone has been talking about I've been chatting to for weeks and I still like and will meet him "

Who?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

mostly mine are correct but I have changed as i have been wrong in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't judge people from their forum posts. Its just banter. One particular poster who everyone has been talking about I've been chatting to for weeks and I still like and will meet him good for you, but I still have no idea how you can tell from this thread who people are talking about"

Who are we supposed to be talking about? I'm stumped,I thought it was a general discussion about forming opinions of people.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't judge people from their forum posts. Its just banter. One particular poster who everyone has been talking about I've been chatting to for weeks and I still like and will meet him good for you, but I still have no idea how you can tell from this thread who people are talking about

Who are we supposed to be talking about? I'm stumped,I thought it was a general discussion about forming opinions of people."
so did I, I've been told whom they assume is being talked about but I can't see any evidence on this thread to support that

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.

Oscar View.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When putting people into categories we must remember that there are different aspects to everyone's personal identity.

From forum posts we get how we react to certain topics,how serious we are,how easily we are aggravated and how reactionary we are,how kind we can be etc. In real life I am nothing like my writings on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.

Oscar View.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

"

I'd say there are a lot of people who lie and play you to get in your pants...

when really there's no need to lie at all... as someone will always have their pants down ready...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!!! When I met said person and spent a while chatting. It totally changed my mind of how I thought of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't really think naming actual people is a good idea.

We all mean various people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

I'd say there are a lot of people who lie and play you to get in your pants...

when really there's no need to lie at all... as someone will always have their pants down ready..."

I don't think the problem is necessarily people lying. Sometimes yes. But in my case I simply read the person wrong. Sometimes our own understanding is what is off, not anything the other person did.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My problem is that I'm generally a positive person and try to see the best in everyone. Then I get disappointed when I get to know them better.

On rare occasions I actively dislike someone immediately.

Once I dislike someone ( or think they are annoying / a dick) I never change my mind.

Not been on Fab long enough to work out whether I'm any different here. So far all of my experiences have been positive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

I'd say there are a lot of people who lie and play you to get in your pants...

when really there's no need to lie at all... as someone will always have their pants down ready...

I don't think the problem is necessarily people lying. Sometimes yes. But in my case I simply read the person wrong. Sometimes our own understanding is what is off, not anything the other person did.

-Courtney"

That is such a good point. Once we perceive someone in a certain way it's difficult to change your _iew. Everything they do and say is evidence to support that. We helpfully overlook evidence that doesn't support that _iew.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

I'd say there are a lot of people who lie and play you to get in your pants...

when really there's no need to lie at all... as someone will always have their pants down ready...

I don't think the problem is necessarily people lying. Sometimes yes. But in my case I simply read the person wrong. Sometimes our own understanding is what is off, not anything the other person did.

-Courtney

That is such a good point. Once we perceive someone in a certain way it's difficult to change your _iew. Everything they do and say is evidence to support that. We helpfully overlook evidence that doesn't support that _iew."
I'm happy to change my mind admit I'm wrong about people if I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

I'd say there are a lot of people who lie and play you to get in your pants...

when really there's no need to lie at all... as someone will always have their pants down ready...

I don't think the problem is necessarily people lying. Sometimes yes. But in my case I simply read the person wrong. Sometimes our own understanding is what is off, not anything the other person did.

-Courtney

That is such a good point. Once we perceive someone in a certain way it's difficult to change your _iew. Everything they do and say is evidence to support that. We helpfully overlook evidence that doesn't support that _iew.I'm happy to change my mind admit I'm wrong about people if I am"

Me too. In fact, that's what I did. I just mean that it wasn't necessarily the other person lying that formed my negative opinion. It was more my own understanding of their posts. It was me, and my opinions on their posts, not necessarily the other person. I guess you could say I was reading with a bias, if that makes sense?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really think naming actual people is a good idea.

We all mean various people."

I was gonna say that Mosher bloke is a wrong 'un but I won't now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

I'd say there are a lot of people who lie and play you to get in your pants...

when really there's no need to lie at all... as someone will always have their pants down ready...

I don't think the problem is necessarily people lying. Sometimes yes. But in my case I simply read the person wrong. Sometimes our own understanding is what is off, not anything the other person did.

-Courtney

That is such a good point. Once we perceive someone in a certain way it's difficult to change your _iew. Everything they do and say is evidence to support that. We helpfully overlook evidence that doesn't support that _iew.I'm happy to change my mind admit I'm wrong about people if I am

Me too. In fact, that's what I did. I just mean that it wasn't necessarily the other person lying that formed my negative opinion. It was more my own understanding of their posts. It was me, and my opinions on their posts, not necessarily the other person. I guess you could say I was reading with a bias, if that makes sense?

-Courtney"

That makes perfect sense to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

I'd say there are a lot of people who lie and play you to get in your pants...

when really there's no need to lie at all... as someone will always have their pants down ready...

I don't think the problem is necessarily people lying. Sometimes yes. But in my case I simply read the person wrong. Sometimes our own understanding is what is off, not anything the other person did.

-Courtney

That is such a good point. Once we perceive someone in a certain way it's difficult to change your _iew. Everything they do and say is evidence to support that. We helpfully overlook evidence that doesn't support that _iew."

Thats the usual way but you can change anything your concious of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My problem is that I'm generally a positive person and try to see the best in everyone. Then I get disappointed when I get to know them better.

On rare occasions I actively dislike someone immediately.

Once I dislike someone ( or think they are annoying / a dick) I never change my mind.

Not been on Fab long enough to work out whether I'm any different here. So far all of my experiences have been positive!"

Thats why I'm usually more of a dick on here. The people that believe I am having never actually spoken to, or met me aren't bright enough to see that actually I'm not. Helps me sort the wheat from the chaff. I'm here to meet a few switched on people maybe, not the whole site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

I'd say there are a lot of people who lie and play you to get in your pants...

when really there's no need to lie at all... as someone will always have their pants down ready...

I don't think the problem is necessarily people lying. Sometimes yes. But in my case I simply read the person wrong. Sometimes our own understanding is what is off, not anything the other person did.

-Courtney

That is such a good point. Once we perceive someone in a certain way it's difficult to change your _iew. Everything they do and say is evidence to support that. We helpfully overlook evidence that doesn't support that _iew.

Thats the usual way but you can change anything your concious of "
doesn't make any sense to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really think naming actual people is a good idea.

We all mean various people.

I was gonna say that Mosher bloke is a wrong 'un but I won't now. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people ive met, my instinct has been right about them, in a good way. But I have made one or two mistakes too along the way, so I just didnt meet them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm good at telling what people are like and always chat in the rooms and see them on cam before a meet so that give you some idea about them.

But some times people look a lot different in person and act differently too.

Trying to get an impression about what some ones like from there profile isn't that easy especially if the profile is written like a cryptic crossword like some of the women's profiles on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

"
I always reserve judgement until I meet also a telephone call is a great judge of a person and how you will get on with them and wether conversation will flow x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about."

I think with threads like these for some the paranoia sets in...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

I think with threads like these for some the paranoia sets in... "

Yeah that's why i mentioned it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about."

Its ok i know your madly and deeply in love with me its that lancs attraction gene dont fight it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I change my mind about people all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm a good judge of character until I'm proved wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm a good judge of character until I'm proved wrong

"
how often are you wrong though am I a nice guy for example ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to forget people to easily to remember if my opinion has changed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

I think with threads like these for some the paranoia sets in... "
I think most people who've looked at this thread have thought I wonder if it's me

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

I think with threads like these for some the paranoia sets in... I think most people who've looked at this thread have thought I wonder if it's me "

Haha to be fair I haven't, I come on the forums for a bit of a laugh and try and not offend anyone along the way. We are not all going to be liked by everyone and that's fine after all it's just a forum on a sex site with people I may never meet in my life why should we worry about what complete strangers think about us I more worry about not hurting, upsetting or offending those that are in my life currently.

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple
over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

Most of the forum people that we have met have turned out to be as we expected them to be, don't tend to form an opinion based on text alone. We have met some great people and become really good friends with a few, so can't be that bad of a place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

Its ok i know your madly and deeply in love with me its that lancs attraction gene dont fight it "

Shh. I asked you not to tell anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

Its ok i know your madly and deeply in love with me its that lancs attraction gene dont fight it

Shh. I asked you not to tell anyone. "

Oh dear im not getting a shag now am i?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

Its ok i know your madly and deeply in love with me its that lancs attraction gene dont fight it

Shh. I asked you not to tell anyone.

Oh dear im not getting a shag now am i? "

No.

And i'm not going to video it and put it on the internet either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

I think with threads like these for some the paranoia sets in... I think most people who've looked at this thread have thought I wonder if it's me

Haha to be fair I haven't, I come on the forums for a bit of a laugh and try and not offend anyone along the way. We are not all going to be liked by everyone and that's fine after all it's just a forum on a sex site with people I may never meet in my life why should we worry about what complete strangers think about us I more worry about not hurting, upsetting or offending those that are in my life currently. "
hey I am the same and although I'm nice all the time and treat people as I like to be treated I don't try to live up to their expectation of me xx

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Would you say your first impression of someone on here has been correct or have you found yourself changing your opinion of people for either the better or worse?

"

I'm a pretty good judge of character. After just a little while of reading various peoples forum posts I can usually tell if they're my kind of person or not. You can certainly tell if someone is a total arsehole. My impression of those people will rarely change.

There are a handful of forum regulars I like and think I could get on really well with. But to be honest, at the end of the day until you meet someone face to face you never really know. Some people you just click with and some you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

Its ok i know your madly and deeply in love with me its that lancs attraction gene dont fight it

Shh. I asked you not to tell anyone.

Oh dear im not getting a shag now am i?

No.

And i'm not going to video it and put it on the internet either. "

Booooooo *thunbs down*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking about it there are a few people in the forums i've changed my opinion about. They don't know though and it's nothing to get paranoid about.

Its ok i know your madly and deeply in love with me its that lancs attraction gene dont fight it

Shh. I asked you not to tell anyone.

Oh dear im not getting a shag now am i?

No.

And i'm not going to video it and put it on the internet either.

Booooooo *thunbs down* "

Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to forget people to easily to remember if my opinion has changed "

Nice to know I'm not the only one with a terrible memory

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I was thinking about this thread today whilst I walking along the beach and chilling.

So well done OP for raising the subject as not many threads have me thinking about them,

I was contemplating if I truly cared if I gave off the right impression and I guess I do to a degree, but I was more perplexed that if I gave a negative first impression did I care enough to want to change it. The answer I kept on coming back to was No, I don't. That in turn, that had me thinking was I wrong to not want to change negative perceptions and I keep coming back to No, it wasn't

but good food for thought

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over a year ago


"I was thinking about this thread today whilst I walking along the beach and chilling.

So well done OP for raising the subject as not many threads have me thinking about them,

I was contemplating if I truly cared if I gave off the right impression and I guess I do to a degree, but I was more perplexed that if I gave a negative first impression did I care enough to want to change it. The answer I kept on coming back to was No, I don't. That in turn, that had me thinking was I wrong to not want to change negative perceptions and I keep coming back to No, it wasn't

but good food for thought "

What if someone misunderstood something you said? Would you want them to know what you really meant?

(If people have a negative impression because that's their opinion, I think that's one thing. But if they have a negative impression because they misunderstood I think that's different.

If you explain and they still have a negative impression... that's another thing.

Hope that makes sense.)

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I was thinking about this thread today whilst I walking along the beach and chilling.

So well done OP for raising the subject as not many threads have me thinking about them,

I was contemplating if I truly cared if I gave off the right impression and I guess I do to a degree, but I was more perplexed that if I gave a negative first impression did I care enough to want to change it. The answer I kept on coming back to was No, I don't. That in turn, that had me thinking was I wrong to not want to change negative perceptions and I keep coming back to No, it wasn't

but good food for thought

What if someone misunderstood something you said? Would you want them to know what you really meant?

(If people have a negative impression because that's their opinion, I think that's one thing. But if they have a negative impression because they misunderstood I think that's different.

If you explain and they still have a negative impression... that's another thing.

Hope that makes sense.) "

good point, but how would I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was thinking about this thread today whilst I walking along the beach and chilling.

So well done OP for raising the subject as not many threads have me thinking about them,

I was contemplating if I truly cared if I gave off the right impression and I guess I do to a degree, but I was more perplexed that if I gave a negative first impression did I care enough to want to change it. The answer I kept on coming back to was No, I don't. That in turn, that had me thinking was I wrong to not want to change negative perceptions and I keep coming back to No, it wasn't

but good food for thought

What if someone misunderstood something you said? Would you want them to know what you really meant?

(If people have a negative impression because that's their opinion, I think that's one thing. But if they have a negative impression because they misunderstood I think that's different.

If you explain and they still have a negative impression... that's another thing.

Hope that makes sense.)

good point, but how would I know"

Well if it was on the forum and it was clear they misunderstood what you said/ your intention behind it.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I was thinking about this thread today whilst I walking along the beach and chilling.

So well done OP for raising the subject as not many threads have me thinking about them,

I was contemplating if I truly cared if I gave off the right impression and I guess I do to a degree, but I was more perplexed that if I gave a negative first impression did I care enough to want to change it. The answer I kept on coming back to was No, I don't. That in turn, that had me thinking was I wrong to not want to change negative perceptions and I keep coming back to No, it wasn't

but good food for thought

What if someone misunderstood something you said? Would you want them to know what you really meant?

(If people have a negative impression because that's their opinion, I think that's one thing. But if they have a negative impression because they misunderstood I think that's different.

If you explain and they still have a negative impression... that's another thing.

Hope that makes sense.)

good point, but how would I know

Well if it was on the forum and it was clear they misunderstood what you said/ your intention behind it. "

let me ponder that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was thinking about this thread today whilst I walking along the beach and chilling.

So well done OP for raising the subject as not many threads have me thinking about them,

I was contemplating if I truly cared if I gave off the right impression and I guess I do to a degree, but I was more perplexed that if I gave a negative first impression did I care enough to want to change it. The answer I kept on coming back to was No, I don't. That in turn, that had me thinking was I wrong to not want to change negative perceptions and I keep coming back to No, it wasn't

but good food for thought "

I'm flattered that it gave you of all people something to think about.

I honestly wish I had the inner peace & self assurance that you seem to possess.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I was thinking about this thread today whilst I walking along the beach and chilling.

So well done OP for raising the subject as not many threads have me thinking about them,

I was contemplating if I truly cared if I gave off the right impression and I guess I do to a degree, but I was more perplexed that if I gave a negative first impression did I care enough to want to change it. The answer I kept on coming back to was No, I don't. That in turn, that had me thinking was I wrong to not want to change negative perceptions and I keep coming back to No, it wasn't

but good food for thought

I'm flattered that it gave you of all people something to think about.

I honestly wish I had the inner peace & self assurance that you seem to possess."

and it was a genuine compliment as it has got me thinking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was thinking about this thread today whilst I walking along the beach and chilling.

So well done OP for raising the subject as not many threads have me thinking about them,

I was contemplating if I truly cared if I gave off the right impression and I guess I do to a degree, but I was more perplexed that if I gave a negative first impression did I care enough to want to change it. The answer I kept on coming back to was No, I don't. That in turn, that had me thinking was I wrong to not want to change negative perceptions and I keep coming back to No, it wasn't

but good food for thought

I'm flattered that it gave you of all people something to think about.

I honestly wish I had the inner peace & self assurance that you seem to possess.

and it was a genuine compliment as it has got me thinking "

Thank you xx

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