FabSwingers.com forum: bored of the kinky stuff?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else ever get a bit bored of the seeming need to be always doing something kinky or different .

I've done a lot of weird stuff but lately I kinda just want some "nornal" sex and cuddles.

What you think burnt out on it all or the crushing loneliness off being single long term finally getting to me :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else ever get a bit bored of the seeming need to be always doing something kinky or different .

I've done a lot of weird stuff but lately I kinda just want some "nornal" sex and cuddles.

What you think burnt out on it all or the crushing loneliness off being single long term finally getting to me :p"

Its nice to have a mix of both.

Saturday night we were at a club, having the most sexy 4somes. Yesterday morning, we cuddled up and had lazy Sunday morning sex. Both were great

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do what I like, whether it's a bit of kink or a bit of vanilla I wouldn't do something in was bored with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really get bored of it because I have loads of meaningful, "normal" sex with Marc. The kinky stuff is the icing on the cake.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else ever get a bit bored of the seeming need to be always doing something kinky or different .

I've done a lot of weird stuff but lately I kinda just want some "nornal" sex and cuddles.

What you think burnt out on it all or the crushing loneliness off being single long term finally getting to me :p"

I think it is about finding the delicate balance between kinky (unusual and varied) and vanilla: too much of one and not of the other will lead to a decline in some need or want somewhere, no?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't really get bored of it because I have loads of meaningful, "normal" sex with Marc. The kinky stuff is the icing on the cake.

-Courtney"

Well lend me Marc then :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd settle for either at the moment

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

You might say that, OP, but I couldn't possible comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really get bored of it because I have loads of meaningful, "normal" sex with Marc. The kinky stuff is the icing on the cake.

-Courtney

Well lend me Marc then :p"

Haha! Not really his style, but there's a first for everything...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... Morning ... Don't know Bruv , though reading between the lines of your last paragraph there , maybe you need more of bond with ya play partners?

I mean to say a play partner your a bit more seriouse about?

I really don't know mate .....

Maybe it's this grey Monday .. I got to say there seems to be a lot of ... Melancholy about the threads today

But I don't think there is any pressure to play one way or another... Play how you like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"... Morning ... Don't know Bruv , though reading between the lines of your last paragraph there , maybe you need more of bond with ya play partners?

I mean to say a play partner your a bit more seriouse about?

I really don't know mate .....

Maybe it's this grey Monday .. I got to say there seems to be a lot of ... Melancholy about the threads today

But I don't think there is any pressure to play one way or another... Play how you like

I do tend to have more one offs these days and see less of my old fwb.

I think part of it is I'm a little tired of everything having to be a "performance", suppose I miss sex just being sex because we want to rather than it having to be fulfilling some fantasy or other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Morning ... Don't know Bruv , though reading between the lines of your last paragraph there , maybe you need more of bond with ya play partners?

I mean to say a play partner your a bit more seriouse about?

I really don't know mate .....

Maybe it's this grey Monday .. I got to say there seems to be a lot of ... Melancholy about the threads today

But I don't think there is any pressure to play one way or another... Play how you like

Excuse me; reading that back, I seem a little be over familiar 'bruv' .

I'm taking it all back apart from the bit that says

'Play how ya like' ... Yeaaaa boi, ' do watcha like'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"... Morning ... Don't know Bruv , though reading between the lines of your last paragraph there , maybe you need more of bond with ya play partners?

I mean to say a play partner your a bit more seriouse about?

I really don't know mate .....

Maybe it's this grey Monday .. I got to say there seems to be a lot of ... Melancholy about the threads today

But I don't think there is any pressure to play one way or another... Play how you like

Excuse me; reading that back, I seem a little be over familiar 'bruv' .

I'm taking it all back apart from the bit that says

'Play how ya like' ... Yeaaaa boi, ' do watcha like'

Haha it's fine nice top hat BTW lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Anyone else ever get a bit bored of the seeming need to be always doing something kinky or different .

I've done a lot of weird stuff but lately I kinda just want some "nornal" sex and cuddles.

What you think burnt out on it all or the crushing loneliness off being single long term finally getting to me :p"

Learn crochet or macrame instead or do what I do and watch porn and have a wank.

Most of my sex is probably considered quite normal anyway if 3sums are normal.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Haha it's fine nice top hat BTW lol"

It's a bowler, unless I'm very much mistaken

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have.

I'm over it for the moment.

However I appear to be over sex altogether.

My mojo fucked off after the last poor attempt.

I need someone who's gonna get into my mind to make me want to do any of that stuff.

I'm not even missing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything would do right now!

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I think part of it is I'm a little tired of everything having to be a "performance", suppose I miss sex just being sex because we want to rather than it having to be fulfilling some fantasy or other.

Hah..you make it sound like work. A vacation should be good for you....

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"... Morning ... Don't know Bruv , though reading between the lines of your last paragraph there , maybe you need more of bond with ya play partners?

I mean to say a play partner your a bit more seriouse about?

I really don't know mate .....

Maybe it's this grey Monday .. I got to say there seems to be a lot of ... Melancholy about the threads today

But I don't think there is any pressure to play one way or another... Play how you like

I do tend to have more one offs these days and see less of my old fwb.

I think part of it is I'm a little tired of everything having to be a "performance", suppose I miss sex just being sex because we want to rather than it having to be fulfilling some fantasy or other.

i call it 'accessory syndrome'...look for a few meets with just attention being on you and one other, you'll feel much better afterwards hopefully you can intersperse them with the one offs and enjoy both again xx much love s xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have.

I'm over it for the moment.

However I appear to be over sex altogether.

My mojo fucked off after the last poor attempt.

I need someone who's gonna get into my mind to make me want to do any of that stuff.

I'm not even missing it.

Exactly this

The last fwb I had was the most perfect match sexually. Since then it all seems like a let down.

I need someone to really want to get into my head and understand how I tick. That kind of understanding is the one that drives me wild

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

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I think part of it is I'm a little tired of everything having to be a "performance", suppose I miss sex just being sex because we want to rather than it having to be fulfilling some fantasy or other.

Yup, part of my 'damage' if you like is that I cannot stand anything fictitious or fake, any kind of performance or pretense.....I just know I have no desire to go there.

Sexy bodies are enjoyable in and of themselves, but it always was the sensuality of connection that tripped my trigger, the awareness, the aliveness.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I have.

I'm over it for the moment.

However I appear to be over sex altogether.

My mojo fucked off after the last poor attempt.

I need someone who's gonna get into my mind to make me want to do any of that stuff.

I'm not even missing it.

Exactly this

The last fwb I had was the most perfect match sexually. Since then it all seems like a let down.

I need someone to really want to get into my head and understand how I tick. That kind of understanding is the one that drives me wild

Yup, I love to know and be known.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I like having more than one fwb. I chilled with one last night and I'm going to be doing some bad things with another this afternoon. Gotta mix it up or I get bored. Find someone you can do everything with

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

My FB is great as sometimes we just kiss and cuddle and it's great to have that closeness, other times we go all out and use all the playthings we have and get really kinky, it's never planned, we just go with what's right at the time, people you are in tune with are hard to find sometimes but worth hanging onto when you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mix it up a bit go in with a open mind and just go with the flow, i think if you try plan things too much i can make things a bit mechanical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even want sex right now. I just want to be held tight and kissed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even want sex right now. I just want to be held tight and kissed."

Sometimes that is just perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Sexy bodies are enjoyable in and of themselves, but it always was the sensuality of connection that tripped my trigger, the awareness, the aliveness."

This, most definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't even want sex right now. I just want to be held tight and kissed.

Sometimes that is just perfect

I might set up fab snugglers. ..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

'bored of the seeming need to be always doing something kinky or different'

If it's not your interest then there's no 'need' to always be doing something kinky or different.

I don't follow a crowd sourced expectations list, I follow my lust and intuitive thoughts on what's needed, as well as who would be the best partners to help me achieve this.

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