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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've recently hidden all my veris for two reasons. To stop men I turn down criticizing my meets Ie saying why won't you meet me I'm better looking than xyz and you met him. And also to stop guys I ignore messaging my meets asking me to get in touch.

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just show the veri summary

I think it's a bit different for guys. We don't get so many stalkers, and we've more of a need to prove we're genuine decent people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just show the veri summary

I think it's a bit different for guys. We don't get so many stalkers, and we've more of a need to prove we're genuine decent people "

Yep that's what I've opted for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently hid mine for the same reason. Some odd messages.

It's a shame that some people feel the need to intrude by messaging people about meets they have had etc but that's life I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I recently hid mine for the same reason. Some odd messages.

It's a shame that some people feel the need to intrude by messaging people about meets they have had etc but that's life I guess.

"

Unfortunately so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined fab a few yrs ago, I too had the same problems which was really annoying.

However, my attitude now is that because I love reading other people's veris, i should display mine.

The people who get their knickers in a twist over my veris aren't worth meeting in my opinion.

If they're not going to play cool and chilled on here, then chances are they wouldn't play cool and chilled on a meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, men really do that? Message to say I'm better than that other guy you met? Egotistical twats! I do despair some times ... nothing quite like a bruised male ego hey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its completely up to you, I show a few of mine some others have gone as people come.and go from the site.

Its a tad different for us chaps , we don't get as many messages as you ladies and I know from friends a lot are awful messages.

Do what makes you feel good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I first joined fab a few yrs ago, I too had the same problems which was really annoying.

However, my attitude now is that because I love reading other people's veris, i should display mine.

The people who get their knickers in a twist over my veris aren't worth meeting in my opinion.

If they're not going to play cool and chilled on here, then chances are they wouldn't play cool and chilled on a meet! "

So true! Although it doesn't just affect me but my verified meets too

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I show most of mine. Some repeat meets I don't bother showing the older one.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

We've had, oh so you'll do bi play with them but not us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do despair sometimes. I still think many people should have a solo session before they message anyone.

I am sure there are a lot of keyboard sexgods on here...too much porn and not enough human interaction.

Life would be so much easier without massive egos and machismo.

Relax, smile and be nice. Just remember, unlike Ashley Madison, its real people on profiles. If you treat them as you would in person your Fab experience could be much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only ever show one or two but recently hid them all for a time and some pics due to an idiot that decided it was good to message people we had met and try and piss folk off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im tempted to do the same ive started getting a few saying im better, im bigger etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow, men really do that? Message to say I'm better than that other guy you met? Egotistical twats! I do despair some times ... nothing quite like a bruised male ego hey? "

Yup, it's only men with egos, pride and issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's upto you OP, don't let others attitudes on here put you off.

If you want to show Veri's show a few if you don't, just show the summary.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I've recently hidden all my veris for two reasons. To stop men I turn down criticizing my meets Ie saying why won't you meet me I'm better looking than xyz and you met him. And also to stop guys I ignore messaging my meets asking me to get in touch.

Thoughts?"

It's never happened to me (or anyone I've met, to my knowledge) but if it does my veris will get hidden. No-one needs another element of hassle on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've recently hidden all my veris for two reasons. To stop men I turn down criticizing my meets Ie saying why won't you meet me I'm better looking than xyz and you met him. And also to stop guys I ignore messaging my meets asking me to get in touch.

Thoughts?"
hide it shows you have veris and to be honest why does a guy need to see them they don't read your profile so why would they read them ,I never do and you are gorgeous any man not wanting to meet you because of your veris needs an appointment at the priory xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've recently hidden all my veris for two reasons. To stop men I turn down criticizing my meets Ie saying why won't you meet me I'm better looking than xyz and you met him. And also to stop guys I ignore messaging my meets asking me to get in touch.

Thoughts?

It's never happened to me (or anyone I've met, to my knowledge) but if it does my veris will get hidden. No-one needs another element of hassle on here."

It's never happened to me either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refuse to hide mine. If people don't like them.. Well though titty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I refuse to hide mine. If people don't like them.. Well though titty "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've recently hidden all my veris for two reasons. To stop men I turn down criticizing my meets Ie saying why won't you meet me I'm better looking than xyz and you met him. And also to stop guys I ignore messaging my meets asking me to get in touch.

Thoughts?"

Men actually say this about other guys you've met!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I've recently hidden all my veris for two reasons. To stop men I turn down criticizing my meets Ie saying why won't you meet me I'm better looking than xyz and you met him. And also to stop guys I ignore messaging my meets asking me to get in touch.

Thoughts?

It's never happened to me (or anyone I've met, to my knowledge) but if it does my veris will get hidden. No-one needs another element of hassle on here."

Never heard of this before either. You'd have to be pretty desperate to behave that way though wouldn't you? Which part of that do they think is attractive? It's far from flattering when people cannot accept that no means no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've recently hidden all my veris for two reasons. To stop men I turn down criticizing my meets Ie saying why won't you meet me I'm better looking than xyz and you met him. And also to stop guys I ignore messaging my meets asking me to get in touch.

Thoughts?hide it shows you have veris and to be honest why does a guy need to see them they don't read your profile so why would they read them ,I never do and you are gorgeous any man not wanting to meet you because of your veris needs an appointment at the priory xx"

Thankyou! A well written and well thought out reply like always

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im tempted to do the same ive started getting a few saying im better, im bigger etc "

I figure I'll keep the summary and hide the veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People's verifications don't really matter to me. As long as they're verified by meeting then I couldn't care who they've met.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I've recently hidden all my veris for two reasons. To stop men I turn down criticizing my meets Ie saying why won't you meet me I'm better looking than xyz and you met him. And also to stop guys I ignore messaging my meets asking me to get in touch.

Thoughts?"

I've had the first but the latter is bizarre!!

I politely turned down one guy saying he was not my type, and he came back with 'Why not,I think I look very like X who you met?'

For some reason that freaked me out a bit - indicative of a very narrow mindset I reckon!

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


" I too had the same problems which was really annoying.

However, my attitude now is that because I love reading other people's veris, i should display mine.

The people who get their knickers in a twist over my veris aren't worth meeting in my opinion.

If they're not going to play cool and chilled on here, then chances are they wouldn't play cool and chilled on a meet! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I too had the same problems which was really annoying.

However, my attitude now is that because I love reading other people's veris, i should display mine.

The people who get their knickers in a twist over my veris aren't worth meeting in my opinion.

If they're not going to play cool and chilled on here, then chances are they wouldn't play cool and chilled on a meet!

"
exactly anyone who throws their toys out the pram in forums should be looked at with trepidation and scorned even if they look like Angelina jolie

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

I find most veris to be more or less all the same

"Great person, don't miss the chance if you got it, looking forward to the next time"

Do people ever give bad veris?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this as well. Why on earth grown men feel the need to chastise me over what they see as attractiveness of my previous meets? Its bizarre.

I've had someone post a thread about me in Wales forum asking me to unblock them as I'd talked to them in the gym.

I only talked to said person because I could hear said group of guys talking about my boobs and Kboy. Oh so clever...

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