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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's happening ... I have realised that my parents have reached that stage where it is my turn to look after them.

Their health worsens by the year, they are becoming less and less mobile and they are slowly relinquishing the independence they have so proudly held for years.

The other tell tale sign is they give less of a fuck about what they on an almost weekly basis. 'PC' is no longer on the agenda :D

As sad as it is to witness and experience though, it will be an honour to make sure that they are afforded all the love and support and care they themselves have provided over the years. It is certainly not a duty.

Sorry if I am tonights mood sucker, I just came over all melancholic.

As you were

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Feel for you - you need a lot of strength. We care for one elderly parent and the sibling who does nothing is the bane of our lives ... that is heart-breaking.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm very fortunate my mum is still really fit and healthy, but you can tell my stepdad has been getting older the last couple of years, he has a bad hip and his walking is really bad now and my partner is getting older but not that noticeable except his bloody hearing but I only live round the corner from my mum so it will be fine

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't want to consider that prospect so I feel for you. My folks are kicking 75 and are currently cycling up mountains in Mallorca. They ski, they dot around the country with their bikes in the campervan and they are generally on the go all the time.

When they find themselves unable to be so active it'll be a disaster.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I remember very vividly realising one week that the roles had changed when they were off back-packing around Turkey whilst they were in their 70s and I didnt know exactly where they were - payback for all the times they worried about me being off on my travels....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's happening ... I have realised that my parents have reached that stage where it is my turn to look after them.

Their health worsens by the year, they are becoming less and less mobile and they are slowly relinquishing the independence they have so proudly held for years.

The other tell tale sign is they give less of a fuck about what they on an almost weekly basis. 'PC' is no longer on the agenda :D

As sad as it is to witness and experience though, it will be an honour to make sure that they are afforded all the love and support and care they themselves have provided over the years. It is certainly not a duty.

Sorry if I am tonights mood sucker, I just came over all melancholic.

As you were

"

Absolutely understand where you're coming from. It's tough but as you say no hardship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's happening ... I have realised that my parents have reached that stage where it is my turn to look after them.

Their health worsens by the year, they are becoming less and less mobile and they are slowly relinquishing the independence they have so proudly held for years.

The other tell tale sign is they give less of a fuck about what they on an almost weekly basis. 'PC' is no longer on the agenda :D

As sad as it is to witness and experience though, it will be an honour to make sure that they are afforded all the love and support and care they themselves have provided over the years. It is certainly not a duty.

Sorry if I am tonights mood sucker, I just came over all melancholic.

As you were

"

I see caring for my parents in the future being the least I could possibly do for them. They taught me how to use a spoon, helping them in their later years is a no brainer.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's happening ... I have realised that my parents have reached that stage where it is my turn to look after them.

Their health worsens by the year, they are becoming less and less mobile and they are slowly relinquishing the independence they have so proudly held for years.

The other tell tale sign is they give less of a fuck about what they on an almost weekly basis. 'PC' is no longer on the agenda :D

As sad as it is to witness and experience though, it will be an honour to make sure that they are afforded all the love and support and care they themselves have provided over the years. It is certainly not a duty.

Sorry if I am tonights mood sucker, I just came over all melancholic.

As you were

I see caring for my parents in the future being the least I could possibly do for them. They taught me how to use a spoon, helping them in their later years is a no brainer."

That's how I see it and the op too but it is a very difficult process for all concerned. Accepting the reversal of the roles is hard often especially for the father.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I remember very vividly realising one week that the roles had changed when they were off back-packing around Turkey whilst they were in their 70s and I didnt know exactly where they were - payback for all the times they worried about me being off on my travels...."

Haha!! Exactly this!!

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

I watched my mother go through this with my grandmother who has alzheimers, so for my mother not only have the roles reversed, they've almost come full circle, down to the spoon feeding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's happening ... I have realised that my parents have reached that stage where it is my turn to look after them.

Their health worsens by the year, they are becoming less and less mobile and they are slowly relinquishing the independence they have so proudly held for years.

The other tell tale sign is they give less of a fuck about what they on an almost weekly basis. 'PC' is no longer on the agenda :D

As sad as it is to witness and experience though, it will be an honour to make sure that they are afforded all the love and support and care they themselves have provided over the years. It is certainly not a duty.

Sorry if I am tonights mood sucker, I just came over all melancholic.

As you were

"

Clearly, the light of humanity shines within you

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