FabSwingers.com forum: Is money attractive?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not writing with any agenda here, as I can already anticipate plenty of answers to the effect of looks and personality are far more important (and I agree), but I'm curious as to how people perceive those with a big bank balance?

I mean, would a persons wealth affect your attraction to them? The chance to enjoy security and luxury by being in a relationship, who would honestly say it DOESN'T appeal to them in some way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money doesn't appeal to us in any way, we've seen the dark side to being money obsessed and would choose happiness, health and penniless over the alternative hell we've witnessed.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I grew up in a wealthy community and we did not have any money as a family. My parents were the equivalent of servants for the super rich. I don't like what it brings and it reminds me of how some people really struggle. That being said, my son is in an extremely highly paid career and we will all be benefitting from it soon ... we have already agreed, as a family, that the money will be going to charity, once we have a house of our own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So true money can ruin people sometimes.

We would pick happiness and health over wealth.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Money as such doesn't attract me, but having enough to do fun stuff together, is important to me, just little things like going for a meal where you don't have to worry whose paying.

Little treats for each other, I wouldn't be attracted to someone who wasn't able to pay there own way.

But if I was in a relationship and someone either lost their job or all their money then that wouldn't bother me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No....

Money is not attractive...

Nor are people who think it is a means to entice you in.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If someone didn't work then yes, I would not be interested, if they worked in a low paid job and enjoyed it? Wouldn't bother me in the slightest

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

Money can't buy you happiness but its more comfortable to cry in a Mercedes than a Fiesta

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

" The chance to enjoy security and luxury by being in a relationship, who would honestly say it DOESN'T appeal to them in some way?"

Not in any way whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Money can't buy you happiness but its more comfortable to cry in a Mercedes than a Fiesta"

Whats wrong with a fiesta?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I'd go into a relationship with somebody I didn't really love because there where rich, let's be honest it wouldnt last, you maybe able to put on a show for a while in order to get money but how long could you really keep it up for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't get into a serious relationship with someone who is under a mountain of debt, has bailiffs chasing them etc.

just a bit of a twist on the first post.

Would I find someone attractive based solely on wealth - probably not. But what i would find attractive would be the success that they've (potentially) had to get there.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

When money goes out the window love goes out the door

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

if I had a choice of two partners and every single thing about them was the same except one was very wealthy and one wasn't, I'd choose the wealthy one.

If i loved somebody wealth wouldn't put me off them any more than poverty would.

Money in itself isn't attractive although I wonder how Bernie Ecclestones girlfriends feel about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Money can't buy you happiness but its more comfortable to cry in a Mercedes than a Fiesta

Whats wrong with a fiesta?

I like the 1.0 Eco boost, it's a quirky little pocket rocket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When money goes out the window love goes out the door"
total crock of shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather have no money as I am than be surrounded by fake friends after one thing they tend to come out the woodwork when money is involved not always mind but if I had money to burn I'd like to think I could still be the cheeky perv that I am now only with a better view

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When money goes out the window love goes out the door"

Well that makes sense as they can then pick it up out the garden

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have my own.

Not that I'm rich I hasten to add but money has no bearing on my relationships.

I obviously have double standards cause I wouldn't waste time with someone who is too lazy to get off their arse and earn their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money doesn't talk, it swears.

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By *lligator3Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"I'm not writing with any agenda here, as I can already anticipate plenty of answers to the effect of looks and personality are far more important (and I agree), but I'm curious as to how people perceive those with a big bank balance?

I mean, would a persons wealth affect your attraction to them? The chance to enjoy security and luxury by being in a relationship, who would honestly say it DOESN'T appeal to them in some way?"

I see so many questions like these raised in here in vain...they are either blinding obvious or ones that go on an on without ever being able to get to an answer (because there may not be man answer!)....but good luck, I hope you get what you need from this thread mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need money to live. A healthy bank balance in my honest opinion does bring a certain security which can only lead to well being.

But I wouldn't judge someone by it.

I work, always have done. All I had saved up has just been wiped out by a divorce. I've got my wages in my account and that's it. But I'll build myself back up and enjoy the fruits of my labour.

A prospective partner with no money at all wouldn't bother me because I have some. But if I didn't work and not have money then personally I'd be unhappy and stressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So true money can ruin people sometimes.

We would pick happiness and health over wealth.

Agree with this...but would love to have the full set...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Money as such doesn't attract me, but having enough to do fun stuff together, is important to me, just little things like going for a meal where you don't have to worry whose paying.

Little treats for each other, I wouldn't be attracted to someone who wasn't able to pay there own way.

But if I was in a relationship and someone either lost their job or all their money then that wouldn't bother me"

This to a degree. My children rarely ask me for money so I think I'd struggle financially supporting another adult. If Ben lost his business the dynamics of the relationship would change, and not in a good way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its only as attractive as the person that has it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no interest in money, or how much people earn. It just doesn't feature in whether I'm attracted to someone or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe not the money but having some forms of equality of careers/prospects is a factor.

I had a quick look on pof a while back and nearly every woman is in low paid dead end empoyment, doing a college course that will lead to low paid dead end employment or unemployed.

It's not so much that they don't have money (ny longest partner was unemployed for nearly the whole time I knew them) it's just it can be wearing when you're the one paying for everything all the time or thinking "it would be great to go and do x, but I couldn't afford to pay for two of us" if you both earn similar or wave similar protects at least you can then do a lot more things together/the relationship is more equal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Money holds no attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the money that attracts me to a man,it's how he has earned it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe not the money but having some forms of equality of careers/prospects is a factor.

I had a quick look on pof a while back and nearly every woman is in low paid dead end empoyment, doing a college course that will lead to low paid dead end employment or unemployed.

As a poor person I can afford not to think like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd feel slightly inadequate with somebody who earned a lot more than I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe not the money but having some forms of equality of careers/prospects is a factor.

I had a quick look on pof a while back and nearly every woman is in low paid dead end empoyment, doing a college course that will lead to low paid dead end employment or unemployed.

I'd want someone equal. I wouldn't want to be the one paying or the one paid for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean, would a persons wealth affect your attraction to them? The chance to enjoy security and luxury by being in a relationship, who would honestly say it DOESN'T appeal to them in some way?"

Actually I might find it intimidating- not read the other replies yet, but in terms of swinging it shouldn't really matter? Afterall its not exactly Pretty Woman, is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it would.

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By *ust MonicaWoman
over a year ago

CAMBRIDGESHIRE

"its only as attractive as the person that has it is"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And here comes all the lies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe not the money but having some forms of equality of careers/prospects is a factor.

I had a quick look on pof a while back and nearly every woman is in low paid dead end empoyment, doing a college course that will lead to low paid dead end employment or unemployed.

I'd want someone equal. I wouldn't want to be the one paying or the one paid for. "

Having been both when I was the one being paid for it was always funny when the waitress hands me the card machine etc and I have to sheepishly point at my partner lol.

It was interesting though we found

Man and woman together =bill/machine always gets offered to the man

Two men on a date = card machine handed to the most "manly/butch " man of the two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And here comes all the lies "
how do you come to that conclusion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And here comes all the lies how do you come to that conclusion?"

Cause nearly everyone says "oh money means nothing to me" when asked as it's seen as dickish to say it is a factor for you.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"And here comes all the lies "

I never tell lies!

Except maybe to my parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always been the major breadwinner in my partnerships with the exception of one.

In that case she did have money, she just spent that (and mine) quicker than it came in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Financial stability is attractive. Being able to spend money on treats is attractive. I don't know if I could be with somebody relationship wise who earned a lot less than me. I like to be on at least an equal footing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And here comes all the lies how do you come to that conclusion?

Cause nearly everyone says "oh money means nothing to me" when asked as it's seen as dickish to say it is a factor for you.

I'm not lying.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"If someone didn't work then yes, I would not be interested, if they worked in a low paid job and enjoyed it? Wouldn't bother me in the slightest

I'm just quoting my own quote in answer to the everyone lies response, I would prefer someone on equal standing or earned more as has been reported, men tend to earn more even if in the same post....so are people really equal?

But yes money does bring more opportunities but I support myself and have done since the age of 17, wouldn't we all want the high life if we could have it?

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I am all about the balance and I don't mean bank balance. So long as I earn in the same region as my man, I am happy as I am a 50/50 kinda gal but if someone earns more than twice my salary I would feel inferior and vice versa. It is all about being someone's equal. 2 halves of a whole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a very interesting thought this one. Seeing what I have in life..near fifty years...of an ordinary life as it were...I would say that money makes little difference to who I would choose. ..as most people say here. My problem is that it is not born out in real life. Seen so many women...new cars..big house..etc...living with unattractive dull men....but have the money. So I conclude that for many women. ..I say women. ..not to be sexist...just that men are still mainly the big earners.. .but plenty women marry for security. ..money and class....yes class...and not for love. ..!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I am more poor than Greece right now, so if anybody is attracted to me it's not my bank balance for sure!

I get guys all the time say 'ill get us a hotel' I always decline, I don't like the idea of someone spending there money like that or buying me dinner and stuff, just doesn't feel right, don't get me wrong it's nice they want to but i couldn't in all honesty let a guy pay for the whole night.

Money isn't attractive to me, as long as they treated me with respect that's more attractive to me x

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

"Money can't buy you happiness but its more comfortable to cry in a Mercedes than a Fiesta

Whats wrong with a fiesta?

Lol, nothing at all wrong with it, drove many a fiesta over the years!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We've been dirt poor and fairly well off, I know what I prefer. Being really hard up isn't fun or romantic it's tough, it causes problems and wears you down.

Money is neither attractive or unattractive but people and situations are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And here comes all the lies how do you come to that conclusion?

Cause nearly everyone says "oh money means nothing to me" when asked as it's seen as dickish to say it is a factor for you.

I'm not lying."

Congrats.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Maybe not the money but having some forms of equality of careers/prospects is a factor.

I had a quick look on pof a while back and nearly every woman is in low paid dead end empoyment, doing a college course that will lead to low paid dead end employment or unemployed.

I'd want someone equal. I wouldn't want to be the one paying or the one paid for.

Having been both when I was the one being paid for it was always funny when the waitress hands me the card machine etc and I have to sheepishly point at my partner lol.

It was interesting though we found

Man and woman together =bill/machine always gets offered to the man

Two men on a date = card machine handed to the most "manly/butch " man of the two"
strange I don't find that, I find it gets handed to the one who asks for the bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money is money one day you are rich second can be skint. Must remember we all ar humans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe not the money but having some forms of equality of careers/prospects is a factor.

I had a quick look on pof a while back and nearly every woman is in low paid dead end empoyment, doing a college course that will lead to low paid dead end employment or unemployed.

I'd want someone equal. I wouldn't want to be the one paying or the one paid for.

Having been both when I was the one being paid for it was always funny when the waitress hands me the card machine etc and I have to sheepishly point at my partner lol.

It was interesting though we found

Man and woman together =bill/machine always gets offered to the man

Two men on a date = card machine handed to the most "manly/butch " man of the twostrange I don't find that, I find it gets handed to the one who asks for the bill"

He usually asked for the bill and I nearly always got handed it lol.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"It's a very interesting thought this one. Seeing what I have in life..near fifty years...of an ordinary life as it were...I would say that money makes little difference to who I would choose. ..as most people say here. My problem is that it is not born out in real life. Seen so many women...new cars..big house..etc...living with unattractive dull men....but have the money. So I conclude that for many women. ..I say women. ..not to be sexist...just that men are still mainly the big earners.. .but plenty women marry for security. ..money and class....yes class...and not for love. ..!"

I think this cuts both ways with men marrying for something too - have no idea what it is and I am not a woman who has married for money. I am in a stable well paid job but because I have always rented, have no assets. BC is in an extremely well-paid industry, has a house, but his earnings fluctuate wildly, depending on the work - so one of us is always bailing the other out and we share as all that we have is ours. Neither of us fight about money and when we have nothing, we eat noodles until my next pay check comes in ... its about the person and what they do with their money too.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Maybe not the money but having some forms of equality of careers/prospects is a factor.

I had a quick look on pof a while back and nearly every woman is in low paid dead end empoyment, doing a college course that will lead to low paid dead end employment or unemployed.

I'd want someone equal. I wouldn't want to be the one paying or the one paid for.

Having been both when I was the one being paid for it was always funny when the waitress hands me the card machine etc and I have to sheepishly point at my partner lol.

It was interesting though we found

Man and woman together =bill/machine always gets offered to the man

Two men on a date = card machine handed to the most "manly/butch " man of the twostrange I don't find that, I find it gets handed to the one who asks for the bill

He usually asked for the bill and I nearly always got handed it lol."

I always get handed the bill when we are out together - I must be the macho one in the relationship ....her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll run out of money chasing women but you'll never run out of women chasing money

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over a year ago

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

"so what first attracted you to the millionaire paul daniels?"

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

I mean, would a persons wealth affect your attraction to them? The chance to enjoy security and luxury by being in a relationship, who would honestly say it DOESN'T appeal to them in some way?"
. It depends how people use what money that they have and their attitudes towards other people . Correctly handled and with the right attitude , money should give someone a degree of confidence and security , and all other factors being equal the individual concerned may be more desirable . The key factor is a persons attitude .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A nice expensive aftershave on a well groomed man is more appealing than the smell of Tesco's own brand body spray on a track suit and trainers man.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"A nice expensive aftershave on a well groomed man is more appealing than the smell of Tesco's own brand body spray on a track suit and trainers man. "

This is very true!!

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By *lligator3Man
over a year ago

Dundee

"Money is money one day you are rich second can be skint. Must remember we all ar humans

I'm always forgetting I'm human...I think I'm cat some days, would explain when I fell off my bed I failed to naturally land on my feet....I'm human!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it comes to having sex with someone,I don't need to know how much money they earn or have.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"A nice expensive aftershave on a well groomed man is more appealing than the smell of Tesco's own brand body spray on a track suit and trainers man. "
. Excellent analogy.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"A nice expensive aftershave on a well groomed man is more appealing than the smell of Tesco's own brand body spray on a track suit and trainers man. "
if I liked the smell of someone's aftershave I wouldn't be able to tell if it was expensive or not by the smell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know that someone would be more attractive to me as a result of their bank balance but if someone didn't seem to have any earning potential I think that would make them less attractive to me. Purely because I know the kind of life I want to live and it involves us both being relatively equal partners in it.

But of course, if I already loved someone and then their circumstances changed that would be totally different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A nice expensive aftershave on a well groomed man is more appealing than the smell of Tesco's own brand body spray on a track suit and trainers man. if I liked the smell of someone's aftershave I wouldn't be able to tell if it was expensive or not by the smell"

You can't tell the difference between deodorant and aftershave? Lynx or Creed?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You can't tell the difference between deodorant and aftershave? Lynx or Creed? "
but there the extremes,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't tell the difference between deodorant and aftershave? Lynx or Creed? "

Ah but you can by the line of women following when there wearing Lynx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You can't tell the difference between deodorant and aftershave? Lynx or Creed?

Ah but you can by the line of women following when there wearing Lynx

"
I quite like lynx,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't tell the difference between deodorant and aftershave? Lynx or Creed? but there the extremes, "

Avon cologne and Paco Rabanne then? We're talking about men with no money compared to men with a lot aren't we,not Mr Average? Or am I on the wrong track lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as an aside I was listening to a radio programme mainly on pensions but one of the panelists indicated to be financial comfortable you needed to

Have savings in excess of £100k

A pension fund of more than £300k

Be mortgage free that is owning your home.

Is that bar to high?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't tell the difference between deodorant and aftershave? Lynx or Creed?

Ah but you can by the line of women following when there wearing Lynx

I quite like lynx,"

I can't stand it. It reminds me of sweaty teenagers. I prefer proper deodorant to body sprays.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You can't tell the difference between deodorant and aftershave? Lynx or Creed? but there the extremes,

Avon cologne and Paco Rabanne then? We're talking about men with no money compared to men with a lot aren't we,not Mr Average? Or am I on the wrong track lol"
no your on the right track, its when you said an expensive aftershave and I genuinely wouldn't be able to tell if it was expensive or not if I liked the smell of it, to me if something smells nice it smells nice,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just as an aside I was listening to a radio programme mainly on pensions but one of the panelists indicated to be financial comfortable you needed to

Have savings in excess of £100k

A pension fund of more than £300k

Be mortgage free that is owning your home.

Is that bar to high?"

Who was the person who said that?

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

My last relationship ended because of money... Or rather my ex repeatedly saying money was no object. Expensive flowers, never letting me pay for meals.. He even said I could have his expensive car.. It was just constant.. Might sound ideal for some woman but I just wanted him to tone it down a bit..\

I was a bit confused though then when he denied paternity of his child ( which was proven through a DNA) why he had a problem paying maintenance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just as an aside I was listening to a radio programme mainly on pensions but one of the panelists indicated to be financial comfortable you needed to

Have savings in excess of £100k

A pension fund of more than £300k

Be mortgage free that is owning your home.

Is that bar to high?

Who was the person who said that? "
I don't recall the name of the panellist but the programme was money box life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My last relationship ended because of money... Or rather my ex repeatedly saying money was no object. Expensive flowers, never letting me pay for meals.. He even said I could have his expensive car.. It was just constant.. Might sound ideal for some woman but I just wanted him to tone it down a bit..\

I was a bit confused though then when he denied paternity of his child ( which was proven through a DNA) why he had a problem paying maintenance! "

I hope you made him pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't tell the difference between deodorant and aftershave? Lynx or Creed? but there the extremes,

Avon cologne and Paco Rabanne then? We're talking about men with no money compared to men with a lot aren't we,not Mr Average? Or am I on the wrong track lolno your on the right track, its when you said an expensive aftershave and I genuinely wouldn't be able to tell if it was expensive or not if I liked the smell of it, to me if something smells nice it smells nice, "

I get you now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just as an aside I was listening to a radio programme mainly on pensions but one of the panelists indicated to be financial comfortable you needed to

Have savings in excess of £100k

A pension fund of more than £300k

Be mortgage free that is owning your home.

Is that bar to high?

Who was the person who said that? I don't recall the name of the panellist but the programme was money box life"

I wonder how many people retire under those circumstances

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over a year ago

Only my experience but I find arrogance comes with money and a big turn off for me x

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Just as an aside I was listening to a radio programme mainly on pensions but one of the panelists indicated to be financial comfortable you needed to

Have savings in excess of £100k

A pension fund of more than £300k

Be mortgage free that is owning your home.

Is that bar to high?"
. I would say it is too low . To have a decent pension , your fund would need to be nearer one million pounds . Invested in stocks and shares that would equate to an annual income of. £35000..

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"Only my experience but I find arrogance comes with money and a big turn off for me x"

Restaurants i go to are full of arrogant bastards and their arm candy seems to like it.

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over a year ago

"Just as an aside I was listening to a radio programme mainly on pensions but one of the panelists indicated to be financial comfortable you needed to

Have savings in excess of £100k

A pension fund of more than £300k

Be mortgage free that is owning your home.

Is that bar to high?. I would say it is too low . To have a decent pension , your fund would need to be nearer one million pounds . Invested in stocks and shares that would equate to an annual income of. £35000.."

Tax free ?

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over a year ago

"Only my experience but I find arrogance comes with money and a big turn off for me x

Restaurants i go to are full of arrogant bastards and their arm candy seems to like it.

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sounds a little green eyed monsterish

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It doesn't attract me to a man, or anyone else for that matter.

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By *otlerCouple
over a year ago

Newbury

"Only my experience but I find arrogance comes with money and a big turn off for me x

Restaurants i go to are full of arrogant bastards and their arm candy seems to like it.Yea,but are you glad you not them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was parked in York yesterday and a very attractive, very well presented, classy dressed lady pulled up next to me in her Range Rover Vogue. Obviously appeared comfortable in wealth and I thought WOW! WOW! WOW!

Then to the left, a woman arrived back at clapped out rust bucket car. Obviously just been to the lidl gym as she was wearing badly fitted grey tracky bottoms that showed the crack of her big arse with a t-shirt that was 4 sizes too small

It was a tough decision but it was the Range Rover woman I smiled at and it was reciprocated. she of course could've had a horrible personality whilst Lidl gym woman may have been lovely but Range Rover woman is now firmly in my lustful mind.

Moral of this story, don't wear tracky bottoms if you're going shopping!

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"Was parked in York yesterday and a very attractive, very well presented, classy dressed lady pulled up next to me in her Range Rover Vogue. Obviously appeared comfortable in wealth and I thought WOW! WOW! WOW!

Moral of this story, don't wear tracky bottoms if you're going shopping!

Lidl and large

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One more card and it's twenty two

Unlucky for him again

He never had respect for money it's true

That's why he never wins

That's why he never ever has enough

To treat his lady right

He just pushes her away in a huff

And says 'Money don't matter to night'

Money don't matter to night

It sure didn't matter yesterday

Just when you think you've got more than enough

That's when it all up and flies away

That's when you find out that you're better off

Makin' sure your soul's alright

'Cause money didn't matter yesterday,

And it sure don't matter to night

Look, here's a cool investment

They're tellin' him he just can't lose

So he goes off and tries to find a partner

But all he finds are users (users)

All he finds are snakes in ever color

Every nationality and size

Seems like the only thing he can do

Is just roll his eyes, and say that

Money don't matter to night (don't matter)

It sure didn't matter yesterday

Just when you think you've got more than enough

That's when it all up and flies away

That's when you find out that you're better off

Makin' sure your soul's alright (soul's alright)

'Cause money didn't matter yesterday, (don't matter)

And it sure don't matter to night

(ooh-wee-ooh, don't matter)

(it don't matter to night, no)

Hey now, maybe we can find a good reason

To send a child off to war

So what if we're controllin' all the oil,

Is it worth a child dying for? (is it worth it?)

If long life is what we all live for

Then long life will come to pass

Anything is better than the picture of the child

In a cloud of gas

And you think you got it bad

Money don't matter to night (no, don't matter)

It sure didn't matter yesterday (yesterday)

Just when you think you've got more than enough

That's when it all up and flies away (flies away, flies away)

That's when you find out that you're better off

Makin' sure your soul's alright (make certain that your soul's alright)

'Cause money didn't matter yesterday,

It sure don't matter to night

Money don't matter to night

It sure didn't matter yesterday (yesterday, yesterday)

Just when you think you've got more than enough

That's when it all up and flies away (flies away, flies away)

That's when you find out that you're better off

Makin' sure your soul's alright

Money didn't matter yesterday,

And it sure don't matter to night

Courtesy of his Royal Purpleness

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By *ildt123Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Power influence and money must be attractive, you only have to look at premiership footballers. Would they all have such attractive model types wives if they were on minimum wage? Peter Crouch's famous quote sums it up, what would you be if you weren't a footballer? " a virgin!"

Sad in a way

Having said that just because you become rich doesn't mean you have to become a knob. I know a guy who, through his own hard work and talent has just got millions and he just one of the lads

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Money offers false security, it can be gone in an instant.

You can't take it with you, either.

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over a year ago

I wouldn't choose someone just because they had money, but it would be nice not to have to worry about money.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Money offers false security, it can be gone in an instant.

You can't take it with you, either. "
. However if it is properly managed it will be there for ever and give you security throughout your life . How can it be gone in an instant unless you take an unnecessary risk?.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Just as an aside I was listening to a radio programme mainly on pensions but one of the panelists indicated to be financial comfortable you needed to

Have savings in excess of £100k

A pension fund of more than £300k

Be mortgage free that is owning your home.

Tax free ?

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Only my experience but I find arrogance comes with money and a big turn off for me x

Restaurants i go to are full of arrogant bastards and their arm candy seems to like it.

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. Maybe you are going to the wrong type of restaurants . Why would those who go to restaurants be arrogant ?. Most people just sit down in a restaurant to enjoy a meal.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Money offers false security, it can be gone in an instant.

You can't take it with you, either. . However if it is properly managed it will be there for ever and give you security throughout your life . How can it be gone in an instant unless you take an unnecessary risk?. "

There are plenty of situations where people have been bankrupted through legal proceedings etc.

Or; you could die.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Only my experience but I find arrogance comes with money and a big turn off for me x

Restaurants i go to are full of arrogant bastards and their arm candy seems to like it.

]. Maybe you are going to the wrong type of restaurants . Why would those who go to restaurants be arrogant ?. Most people just sit down in a restaurant to enjoy a meal. "

Plenty go to restaurants/clubs/bars/shops to be seen going there...

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over a year ago

"And here comes all the lies how do you come to that conclusion?"

because those who have no money pretend it's not important and those that do try to justify why they have it.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Money offers false security, it can be gone in an instant.

There are plenty of situations where people have been bankrupted through legal proceedings etc.

Or; you could die. "
. That is in a very small number of cases though. If you are dead , it would not make any difference anyway.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Someone's life circumstances could come into the equation with a long term relationship but money itself or someone having it isn't attractive to me.

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over a year ago

"And here comes all the lies how do you come to that conclusion?

because those who have no money pretend it's not important and those that do try to justify why they have it. "
well we don't have much and can categorically state it's not important to us. Feel free to call us liars if you like but you'd be way wrong.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"And here comes all the lies

how do you come to that conclusion?

because those who have no money pretend it's not important and those that do try to justify why they have it. "

That wasn't the question though.

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over a year ago

Money isn't attractive on its own, but a certain amount of disposable income is necessary if you want to travel, book hotels, buy toys...

But also, you're going to be attracted more to someone with some common interests, so there may be a bit of an income element to attraction when you are first chatting to someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be nice if Queenie smiled more on tennas

and rubbed her fungaz on twentys"

and wave her wad on fiftys

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over a year ago

"And here comes all the lies how do you come to that conclusion?

because those who have no money pretend it's not important and those that do try to justify why they have it. "

I've had the piss taken out of me by some mates because I've done pretty well for myself, apparently what's the point in working hard, it's cooler to be skint at least then you can blame the government for your shit choices

Or so that's how it appears from some people I know

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By *otlerCouple
over a year ago

Newbury

How many of you played the lotto this evening?

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over a year ago

"How many of you played the lotto this evening?"

I can visualise the stats: I can't play the lottery...

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Money offers false security, it can be gone in an instant.

There are plenty of situations where people have been bankrupted through legal proceedings etc.

Or; you could die. "

The trick is to die with the most toys. I intend to.

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over a year ago

"How many of you played the lotto this evening?"

I never bought lottery ticket until about 6months ago when a syndicate started at work, once you're in one of those you daren't leave!

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"How many of you played the lotto this evening?"
. I am afraid not . You are more likely to die within the next fourteen minutes than to win.

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over a year ago

"How many of you played the lotto this evening?"

I was going to say something intelligent and witty but then I got completely distracted by your gorgeous avatar

Now... where was I? Yes money is attractive... just so long as you can part it from the people who have it lol

Just kidding... but not about _otler's mesmerising boobies

When are they on view to the public?

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"And here comes all the lies how do you come to that conclusion?

because those who have no money pretend it's not important and those that do try to justify why they have it.

Or so that's how it appears from some people I know "
. I prefer to work hard , have money and be in control of my life . Whilst money does not necessarily make you happy , I can see few merits in having none .

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By *otlerCouple
over a year ago

Newbury

"How many of you played the lotto this evening?

I never bought lottery ticket until about 6months ago when a syndicate started at work, once you're in one of those you daren't leave!

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yea sure ,just looking at the comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many of you played the lotto this evening?"

If I win the lottery the money is mine. Totally different to the OP's question which involves someone else having the money.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Maybe not the money but having some forms of equality of careers/prospects is a factor.

I had a quick look on pof a while back and nearly every woman is in low paid dead end empoyment, doing a college course that will lead to low paid dead end employment or unemployed.

Well put and sums up what I mean: the dynamics would change if the burden was placed on one person.

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By *ark074Man
over a year ago

nottingham

"And here comes all the lies

I never tell lies!

Except maybe to my parents.

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over a year ago

I'm very comfortable, I don't need to work but work part time just to fend off boredom and for the social aspect of interacting with my colleagues turned friends.

To me money is essential, I like nice things, nice places and nice food but I'm not a free money machine. I expect someone to pay their own way at first and then further down the line once I establish they arnt in it to be a WAG then I'll be more generous.

Money doesn't buy you happyness in itself but it buys me a whole lot of other things instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

money = freedom, no money = lack of freedom, money wins every time for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll say one name " Bernie Ecclestone"

Rest my case my lord

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By *oughandCurvyCouple
over a year ago

galway

Op do you mean in general or on fab? Because on fab it's irrelevant, a person's bank balance isn't going to make one bit of a difference to me in the bedroom! As for in general money can't buy love!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Money as such doesn't attract me, but having enough to do fun stuff together, is important to me, just little things like going for a meal where you don't have to worry whose paying.

Little treats for each other, I wouldn't be attracted to someone who wasn't able to pay there own way.

But if I was in a relationship and someone either lost their job or all their money then that wouldn't bother me"

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"money = freedom, no money = lack of freedom, money wins every time for me"
. Nicely expressed and concise . My thoughts exactly .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll say one name " Bernie Ecclestone"

Rest my case my lord "

Reminds me of Mrs Merton saying to Debbie McGee. "So what is it that attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?"

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I just about manage on my own with 2 growing boys - yes I get maintenance from their dad, tax credits (which I hate having to claim but need) & child benefit.

I work full time in a job I love. I'm not greatly paid but it has other benefits such as flexi time & a good pension.

I've never been happier. I don't need anyone else's money - I'd rather have their time & attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money can't buy you love but it sure does get you a nice watch, car and house

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

"Money can't buy you love but it sure does get you a nice watch, car and house

lol the saying money can't buy happiness but I'd rather be crying in a merc than on a push bike!

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By *uicylucy76Woman
over a year ago

thornton cleveleys

"Money can't buy you love but it sure does get you a nice watch, car and house

lol the saying money can't buy happiness but I'd rather be crying in a merc than on a push bike!"

Like not lol! Hate that abbreviation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Money can't buy you happiness but it can buy you a better class of misery "

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

""Money can't buy you happiness but it can buy you a better class of misery ""

For those who say money can't buy happiness are shopping in the wrong places!

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over a year ago

I grew up in a city with some of the highest income inequality in the world. I know it isn't necessarily "right," but I find that someone having a lot of money can actually be a turn-off for me. It signals, correctly or incorrectly, that they have loads of money while others are poor and need help.

Having said that I already know it isn't the case for most people with money, but it's an instinctive reaction I find hard to shake. That doesn't mean I am attracted to men because they are poor. I like men who can support themselves. I just don't like seeing the Benz in the driveway.

-Courtney

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Money can't buy you happiness but its more comfortable to cry in a Mercedes than a Fiesta

Whats wrong with a fiesta?

I like the 1.0 Eco boost, it's a quirky little pocket rocket.

It is too, handles a dream!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"money = freedom, no money = lack of freedom, money wins every time for me"

Yup. I'm not IMPRESSED by money, but I know what it is to live for months in winter with no hot water, heating, or proper cooking facility, and I don't ever want to go there again.

Besides, I like pretty, fluffy, flowery and posh things!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do quite fancy the 20 euro note...

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over a year ago

Dunno, i want to say money would make someone more attractive coz they can spoil you and buy you everything you want but can't afford, but when i was younger i went out with wealthy guys and got treated like their property, "well i bought you this so why can't we have sex" that kind of thing.

The guys on here who've paid for hotels seemed nice, but they knew they were getting sex regardless.

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