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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok without drawing too much attention to myself, I am very curious to find out what puts a couple off messages from single guys, I know it's an individual thing who we like and don't like, But is there one single thing that is a massive no no? Or maybe it can be a combination of things?? Pictures, Veris, grammar, the message itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing specific as such, although if not accompanied by a face pic, then the chance of a response is slim indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages solely made out to the female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok without drawing too much attention to myself, I am very curious to find out what puts a couple off messages from single guys, I know it's an individual thing who we like and don't like, But is there one single thing that is a massive no no? Or maybe it can be a combination of things?? Pictures, Veris, grammar, the message itself.

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Pictures, grammar, spelling and approach.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

what puts us off might be the very thing that attracts somebody else. Try to appeal to everyone and you end up appealing to nobody.

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

When they do not read the profile, we have in there for single guys not to contact us as we would go searching when we feel the need for a single guy, but the amount of guys that send a message and get it deleted and they get blocked is un real, so they could possibly be a good contender but for their incompetence to read the profile they get blocked never to be even thought of again so they loose out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do try my best to approach every message sent differently based on what they ask in the profile!! It confuses me I suppose when I don't get a reply. Which makes me curious as to what box did I not tick. So I suppose i'm looking for some supportive critical feed back from them lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not reading,or blatantly ignoring what we have put on our profile.

If someone can't be arsed reading our profile why should we be arsed furnishing them with a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do try my best to approach every message sent differently based on what they ask in the profile!! It confuses me I suppose when I don't get a reply. Which makes me curious as to what box did I not tick. So I suppose i'm looking for some supportive critical feed back from them lol."

Difficult one. If you don't tick the boxes, it is unlikely that you will receive any feedback (and if it did happen, it is not likely to be supportive).

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I do try my best to approach every message sent differently based on what they ask in the profile!! It confuses me I suppose when I don't get a reply. Which makes me curious as to what box did I not tick. So I suppose i'm looking for some supportive critical feed back from them lol."

You will never know what box you didn't tick I'm afraid. It could be simply that you aren't their type, that isn't a personal thing. The traditional advice is to go to socials to make a personal connection and I wouldn't argue with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Address them both. Not just the woman.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Send them a message asking why they didn't reply to your first one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they don't read the profile. And when they can't spell or seemingly hold a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock pics, don't read the profile(which BTW is every male that messages us as we say on our profile that we will contact single males when we are looking for one), bang on about how great they are, ask do ya wanna fuck in the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What puts us off is the lack of acknowledgment that there's 2 of us here not just Mrs N, also the very high % of messages that think because we reply to a compliment that we're interested, along with those that think by simply messaging 'wanna meet me' with no introduction, photo, or profile to read will get them anywhere other than filed under B1N.

The biggest tip I'll give single fellas (excluding the successful ones) is to make your first impression a good one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cock pics, don't read the profile(which BTW is every male that messages us as we say on our profile that we will contact single males when we are looking for one), bang on about how great they are, ask do ya wanna fuck in the first message"
oh and lie about their sexuality

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