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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are women offended if a there picture is called stunning not on here but other sites, after the storm of the lawyer charlotte in the linkedin sexism row

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think there's a time and a place. That wasn't it.

I think she has gone ott with the whole media storm. She was absolutely right, it was inappropriate but he knew that already as he stated so in the first message.

LinkedIn is a professional site for professional people looking for work contacts. It's not Facebook and shouldn't be treated as such.

I understand the feminist point, he had no business commenting on her photo. However, she could have dealt with it herself without the help of the media.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the guy who said it, is a bit of dick......... But I also think the female is a dick for reacting in what appears to be a very calculated self serving attempt at raising her own profile at the expense of silly man who should have known better ...

She was interviewed on radio yesterday and her motives were embarrassingly obvious.....

Offended my arse....total fake,,,

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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He should have been more professional....She was OTT.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with dirty girl she should have dealt with it her self not go running to the media but then her name and profile has probably been raised by doing that and people will probably be scrolling through her Twitter/Facebook posts to see if she's hypocritical and made comments on hunky guys.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"He should have been more professional....She was OTT."

Although I do think it sad that people can't give a compliment when it comes to work place situations.

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I agree with dirty girl she should have dealt with it her self not go running to the media but then her name and profile has probably been raised by doing that and people will probably be scrolling through her Twitter/Facebook posts to see if she's hypocritical and made comments on hunky guys."

I don't think she has done herself any favours though, she is discussing a private situation when her line of work is about discretion.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think wrong place but I do think she went OTT he was simply paying her a compliment but I don't think he thought it through...

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

I think it's easy to see her reaction as OTT, but it's also perfectly understandable.

She is clearly committed to highlighting the inequalities that women workers face, and in the Old Boys Network of the law courts it's probably more pronounced than most.

When a perfect example happens to her of exactly the kind of ill-considered comment that unthinkingly objectifies women in a professional setting, of the sort that probably happens a million times a day and is similarly brushed off, it's only natural that she would want to publicise it.

There are probably more than a few men and women thinking about how their words and actions may be misinterpreted in the workplace, which is surely a good thing, regardless of any other motivations she may have had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there's a time and a place. That wasn't it.

I think she has gone ott with the whole media storm. She was absolutely right, it was inappropriate but he knew that already as he stated so in the first message.

LinkedIn is a professional site for professional people looking for work contacts. It's not Facebook and shouldn't be treated as such.

I understand the feminist point, he had no business commenting on her photo. However, she could have dealt with it herself without the help of the media. "

You've already said it better than I could!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I think the guy who said it, is a bit of dick......... But I also think the female is a dick for reacting in what appears to be a very calculated self serving attempt at raising her own profile at the expense of silly man who should have known better ...

She was interviewed on radio yesterday and her motives were embarrassingly obvious.....

Offended my arse....total fake,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's been caught out doing the same today. Karma and credibility gone to make an issue in one swoop.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"She's been caught out doing the same today. Karma and credibility gone to make an issue in one swoop. "

Really? What a fail!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"She's been caught out doing the same today. Karma and credibility gone to make an issue in one swoop. "
what she done?

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I think there's a time and a place. That wasn't it.

I think she has gone ott with the whole media storm. She was absolutely right, it was inappropriate but he knew that already as he stated so in the first message.

LinkedIn is a professional site for professional people looking for work contacts. It's not Facebook and shouldn't be treated as such.

I understand the feminist point, he had no business commenting on her photo. However, she could have dealt with it herself without the help of the media. "

What you said.

I am not sure it is such a feminist issue as It is widely seen that women comment on pics of men too.

The issue here as the place he chose to make a remark. It was not the time or the place and he made a silly error.

However I have a work photo on our work intranet site and I have had people of both genders comment on it positively and negatively.

This media shitstorm is a vast overreaction and the idea that something as ultimately trivial as this should ruin someone's career is a degree of Puritanism which I really hope we do not take on board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's been caught out doing the same today. Karma and credibility gone to make an issue in one swoop. what she done?"

It's in the Newspaper she has apparently commented in a more ribald fashion on Social Media over pictures of good looking men.

It's all ridiculous to be honest.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"She's been caught out doing the same today. Karma and credibility gone to make an issue in one swoop. what she done?

It's in the Newspaper she has apparently commented in a more ribald fashion on Social Media over pictures of good looking men.

It's all ridiculous to be honest. "

I think ridiculous is correct.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"She's been caught out doing the same today. Karma and credibility gone to make an issue in one swoop. what she done?

It's in the Newspaper she has apparently commented in a more ribald fashion on Social Media over pictures of good looking men.

It's all ridiculous to be honest. "
oh I'm sure the feminists will dismiss and find an excuse for that

imsaid on a thread yesterday some of them don't do themselves any favours, prime example and laughable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a stupid women this is.

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

it depends who contacted who and were abouts he was. the coment was out of place in a business setting but she is a troll.

the ageism should be the biggest story of the day.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"What a stupid women this is. "

Woman.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"She's been caught out doing the same today. Karma and credibility gone to make an issue in one swoop. what she done?

It's in the Newspaper she has apparently commented in a more ribald fashion on Social Media over pictures of good looking men.

It's all ridiculous to be honest. oh I'm sure the feminists will dismiss and find an excuse for that

imsaid on a thread yesterday some of them don't do themselves any favours, prime example and laughable"

It is usually around that men do it much more than women so it is ok, or that men have been in a dominant position in society therefore it is worse when a man does it.

No double standards. None.

Everyone in this story has cocked up.

A pertinent question would be why has it made so many headlines?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt if full equality could ever happen so some will always complain about inequality and sexism. Women can be just as sexist at times. I often hear woman making comments about men that if reversed they'd have a damn good moan about...

I think 'Stunning' is fine, so long as the context is right and fair.If I said "She was a damned good business woman and stunning too" that would be OK I think, but if I said "Bob was a great manager, Tim a great salesman, oh! and Jane was stunning"....naaa.. Not right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's completely gone over the top and probably delayed her career by a few years.

The linked in picture I saw of her, she was made up, hair done, lippy on. Isn't that actually trying to make herself more attractive, better looking, more presentable ? If so expect compliments.

Linked in of course isn't the place for flirting really but it does happen on there from both sexes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it depends who contacted who and were abouts he was. the coment was out of place in a business setting but she is a troll.

the ageism should be the biggest story of the day. "

She connected with him first! She's never met the guy but decided to connect with him as it could be good for her career.

I pity her partner, talk about high maintenance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't bother me at all x

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

"She's completely gone over the top and probably delayed her career by a few years.

The linked in picture I saw of her, she was made up, hair done, lippy on. Isn't that actually trying to make herself more attractive, better looking, more presentable ? If so expect compliments.

Linked in of course isn't the place for flirting really but it does happen on there from both sexes

no such thing as bad publicity she,ll be at a top human rights practice or on big brother before the year is out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's completely gone over the top and probably delayed her career by a few years.

The linked in picture I saw of her, she was made up, hair done, lippy on. Isn't that actually trying to make herself more attractive, better looking, more presentable ? If so expect compliments.

Linked in of course isn't the place for flirting really but it does happen on there from both sexes

no such thing as bad publicity she,ll be at a top human rights practice or on big brother before the year is out. "

If her professional ability reflects her inability to sound competent and sincere during the radio interview I heard ... I'd be guessing it'll be Big Brother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a stupid women this is.

Woman.

Noted for future use

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"She's completely gone over the top and probably delayed her career by a few years.

The linked in picture I saw of her, she was made up, hair done, lippy on. Isn't that actually trying to make herself more attractive, better looking, more presentable ? If so expect compliments.

Linked in of course isn't the place for flirting really but it does happen on there from both sexes

no such thing as bad publicity she,ll be at a top human rights practice or on big brother before the year is out.

If her professional ability reflects her inability to sound competent and sincere during the radio interview I heard ... I'd be guessing it'll be Big Brother

She's done herself no favours. Rightly or wrongly, the old school boys world that she's in will not take kindly to her course of action.

Roll on Friday have taken the piss and she's Glamourous Solicitor of the week. With an apology for commenting on her looks. Made me chuckle.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

For me what she did was wrong, making a private message public is wrong, you could say paying a compliment on a professional website it not quite the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for as inappropriate as he was for making that comment where he did - shes as much so for going full tilt on the having a go back at him -

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree there is a time and place for it , if she was getting pestered from the guy yes make it public and shame him but all he did wss say stunning pic and mabye comment on her cv too and not just highlighting her pic .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People choose to take comments, however it suits them.

Hunky guy comments = compliment.

Fugly guy comments = sexual harrassment.

Agree there's a time & place for everything tho. Not a good idea to say anything personal to anyone, in workplace.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I don't think she handled this well at all, however I also find it annoying that the fact that she was groomed (made up/hair done) has been commented on that she must want compliments. It's just another way of saying "she's asking for it".

For many women in business, and especially roles in private law/accountancy/other professions, the dress code for women is to be groomed. Just as it for men to be in a clean smart suit, with a tie, polished shoes and a decent shirt.

He prefaced his comment saying he knows it's politically incorrect and then back-tracked by saying that all he was complimenting was the photography.

Paying someone you know in your own organisation a compliment is a very different thing to sending it as first message in a professional setting.

For those criticising her contacting him first for professional connections - that's the point of LinkedIn. You get pages of people it suggests you contact for your professional network. Making the first move involves nothing more than clicking on the "connect" option on the picture the site has sent you.

She is going to find it difficult to move on professionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if she's on fab I'm calling her a hot slut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion she is not that stunning?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Frankly I'm stunned!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get comments on my fb from random strangers fancying me, i'm married now though (on facebook) and it's stopped. I know it's a social media but i found it weird and never appreciated it.

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