FabSwingers.com forum: Affairs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

she wanted to join the site for "a bit of fun" turns out she meant an affair!!! Anyone else as naive???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you have a couples profile tho?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres alot just looking for an affair in here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why? She's not on here (to my knowledge) x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

People lie...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres alot just looking for an affair in here"

just this very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why? She's not on here (to my knowledge) x"

I thought you said she came on here for a bit of fun.....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Why? She's not on here (to my knowledge) x"

But you just said she wanted to join the site. *is confused now*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it confusing thread day today??

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm probably being pedantic, but the last time I looked you are not being charged per word on here, so why are so many threads of late being posted so sceptically that I have no bloody idea what it is the OP actually means?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Meeting as a couple doesn't when only I have access to the account but when you come home to find another guy with her!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Meeting as a couple doesn't when only I have access to the account but when you come home to find another guy with her!"

Not nice, but least you know now.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So? She was looking for fun, it's just not the whole truth. No naivity at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm probably being pedantic, but the last time I looked you are not being charged per word on here, so why are so many threads of late being posted so sceptically that I have no bloody idea what it is the OP actually means?

That's all part of the fun, People making random comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meeting as a couple doesn't when only I have access to the account but when you come home to find another guy with her!"

So you can meet people on your own but she's not allowed to? That doesn't seem very fair!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this one of those circular arguments?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So only you had access to the account? Which means its not really a couples profile, and if only you had access how did she find a man? This is more and more confusing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She didn't meet him on here people!!!! Why do people read between the lines???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The idea was (her idea) that I'd find the individual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did your wife know about the women who left veris for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She was there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She didn't meet him on here people!!!! Why do people read between the lines???"

Because we're confused!

So you knew she was looking for fun?

She found 'fun' elsewhere & that's turned into more?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Exactly! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah ok, so she wanted you to come on here and find a man to join you both for some extra fun? But instead while you were looking she sorted it out herself?

Now did she just want to have sex with him without your knowledge? Or were they waiting for you to get home?

Theirs one is not very nice and I feel sorry for you, the 2nd option is maybe just miss communication and you both need to sit down and decide what you both want out of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She was there!"

Then why is there no mention of her?

On a side note, would you have been less bothered if you'd found her with another woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She was there!"

Fair enough, just the veris only mentioned you so I wasn't sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There was never a mention of a man! She said I had to find a woman and she had a fantasy of us with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she wanted to join the site for "a bit of fun" turns out she meant an affair!!! Anyone else as naive???"
many couples who swing end up splitting up in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was never a mention of a man! She said I had to find a woman and she had a fantasy of us with her"

OP hit the reply & quote button so we know who you are replying too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe after a year of waiting for you to find one for her she found someone herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was never a mention of a man! She said I had to find a woman and she had a fantasy of us with her"

So did she join in with these women then because your veris sound like it was just you with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meeting as a couple doesn't when only I have access to the account but when you come home to find another guy with her!"

Is this a recent thing? Says you've had your single profile awhile.

Also, how come only you had access? Was she not interested in using the joint profile or something?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"She didn't meet him on here people!!!! Why do people read between the lines???"

Erm, I'd hazard it's because your posts are lacking in information thereby making us work to understand what you're trying to convey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really confused. He was her fb, they were looking for a lady to join them, she was looking for fun and she found it? Hooray for her (I think, I'm not sure!)

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"There was never a mention of a man! She said I had to find a woman and she had a fantasy of us with her

So did she join in with these women then because your veris sound like it was just you with them."

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

This is just getting more bizzare, can the OP please be more clear on what the original objective was compared to the outcome?

Also please quote.....it helps!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I'm really confused. He was her fb, they were looking for a lady to join them, she was looking for fun and she found it? Hooray for her (I think, I'm not sure!)"

But she's having an affair... possibly with a woman but not one from here.

Confused? You will be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm... What?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm really confused. He was her fb, they were looking for a lady to join them, she was looking for fun and she found it? Hooray for her (I think, I'm not sure!)

But she's having an affair... possibly with a woman but not one from here.

Confused? You will be.

Nooo, the affair was with a man. He was searching for a woman but he didn't find one so she went and found a man instead. Or that's what I got from it!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Is it your wife?

Is it an affair or just NSA?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it your wife?

Is it an affair or just NSA?"
Wife!!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Erm... What? "

There's this man, see? He's got a single profile but it's for him and his wife, geddit? He's the only with access to the account. He finds the women for him and his wife (doing better than single men in general then). It's her idea but he handles everything. With me so far?

He comes home, she's having an affair, possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm confused. She's not on here but you're looking for a woman to join you as a couple from a single male profile yet your veris only refer to you. If you're having solo meets despite stating you're only looking for someone to join you and your wife why be upset if she's doing the same thing?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Is it your wife?

Is it an affair or just NSA? Wife!!"

OP is your location an actual place or a state of being?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair, possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

I thought he found her with a bloke...

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Bloody confused!!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair, possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

I thought he found her with a bloke...

Ah yes, "another guy".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like I'm on the krypton factor

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"She was there!

Fair enough, just the veris only mentioned you so I wasn't sure."

He didn't ask for his profile to be discussed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see the UNLOS God calling this one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair,

possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

I thought he found her with a bloke...

Spot on!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair, possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

I thought he found her with a bloke...

Ah yes, "another guy"."

Another guy? So she's got two on the go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair, possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

In next week's episode of Soap....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair,

possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

I thought he found her with a bloke...

Spot on!!!!!!"

Yay ~ what do I win for guessing?!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Try talking to her about it. Maybe an mff would be on the cards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She didn't meet him on here people!!!! Why do people read between the lines???"

because the previous statements very ambiguous ... not entirely sure where this thread was meant to go once you started it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So is she not allowed to meet people on her own? Are you allowed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps the affair was a bit of fun? Just guessing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the answer Geoff Hurst in the 1966 World Cup?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair,

possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

I thought he found her with a bloke...

Spot on!!!!!!

Yay ~ what do I win for guessing?!

If only I'd read from bottom up rather than top down I wouldn't have wasted 5 minutes of my life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also have to ask ...

if this is something that is actually an issue between you both; why air it all over the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair,

possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

I thought he found her with a bloke...

Spot on!!!!!!

Yay ~ what do I win for guessing?!

And psychology doctorate I should think.

This has to be one of the most confusing threads I've ever read, and all because the OP couldn't be bothered spelling out what he was seeking comments on!!

I've got a headache

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she wanted to join the site for "a bit of fun" turns out she meant an affair!!! Anyone else as naive???"

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she wanted to join the site for "a bit of fun" turns out she meant an affair!!! Anyone else as naive???

No."

No here too. We play together and stay together

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Im sorry to hear that it hasn't worked out the way you thought it would OP.

I suggest you might need to take some time away from the site and spend some quality time communicating with your wife. Communication is absolutely vital to a healthy swinging relationship. Talk to her about how you feel, how you feel as though she has crossed a boundary. Explain why you had set that boundary, and why it was important to you.

I hope you two manage to short things out and get back on track, either with monogamy or non-monogamy. Its important to remember that swinging can improve a great relationship, rather than fix a broken one.

Good luck

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

When your statement has been typed up and you have signed it we will bring you a cup of tea in your cell.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Is the answer Geoff Hurst in the 1966 World Cup? "

No stop being silly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow some of you lot are bloody harsh...poor bloke is broken cos he's caught his wife with another bloke and the piss is being drained from him at an alarming rate...chin up fella, hope you can sort things out with your missus. Like CC said above, talking to her might get you through it x good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair, possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

In next week's episode of Soap...."

Oh hell on earth, I'd forgotten all about Soap. Pure comedy gold.

I wonder if it's available on dvd....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she kill JR?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is the answer Geoff Hurst in the 1966 World Cup?

No stop being silly

Then i know the answer...its losing in extra time to Germany in 1970 worldcup

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By *urvyemmaWoman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

This guy has just caught his wife cheating on him.

Geez harsh you lot!

Hope you ok OP x

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"This guy has just caught his wife cheating on him.

Geez harsh you lot!

Hope you ok OP x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got a headache now

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Bloody confused!!"

My head hurts!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Erm... What?

He comes home, she's having an affair,

possibly with a woman, right? Now he wants to know why? as he doesn't know.

I think.

I thought he found her with a bloke...

Spot on!!!!!!

Yay ~ what do I win for guessing?!

And psychology doctorate I should think.

This has to be one of the most confusing threads I've ever read, and all because the OP couldn't be bothered spelling out what he was seeking comments on!!

I've got a headache

Mine started a minute into the thread but curiosity has kept me reading...it's like an Agatha Christie novel with all the red herrings!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"This guy has just caught his wife cheating on him.

Geez harsh you lot!

Hope you ok OP x"

Probably found his profile on here and thought what's sauce for the goose...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blimey if ever a cryptic thread it's definitely this one

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