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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello , this is my first post on the forum, and a question is put to all members , especially women !

My new (older) female friend loves our sex life , though she says she has never reached orgasm for many years .

She has a vibrator , and has retired to the bedroom to play with herself after some steamy text sessions with myself .Either with myself or the vibrator she can only get to the verge of climax , and never manages to burst the bubble !

We have tried games , introduced her to bondage , dressing up .

Is there anyone who has any ideas on how to get my lady over that final hurdle ?

All (serious)answers appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like a mental block to me but that is just a wild guess.

Maybe shift the focus from trying to achieve the orgasm and concentrate on just enjoying what feels good. Hard to say really without knowing all the ins and outs (pardon the pun).

Not much help really am I. Welcome to the forums by the way.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has she tried a magic wand ? Mixed opinions about them from the ladies on here usually. Some say they are amazing and others that it makes them feel numb.

It works for me. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for replying . Yes we have discussed it being a mental thing maybe something from her past marriage . We have talked about her soaking my face , watersports ,loosening inhibitions with g&Ts a vast array of other things to try and find the block . so maybe perseverance is the only way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's something that's persisted for a while maybe counciling will help

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Each female is different.

One thing guaranteed to NOT enable me to cum is alcohol (I also know a few females the same)

Also with the wand (yes I have one and think it is great) On my own, I find I hold back as can be too intense, when I cum with a partner I have no control (they are in charge) and can be very good and intense (as long as no alcohol is involved)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She has not had a male for nearly 20 years , and only played with vibrator occasionally before I came along . says she has never touched herself , always with vibrator

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

It probably sounds stupid, but she needs to relax, clear her mind and it will come (damn the puns!)

I didn't achieve my first orgasm until I was 22 and rarely orgasm through penetrative sex alone, often needing clitoral stimulation as well as mind stimulation.

Tell her to stop concentrating on achieving it, it will happen when she least expects it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

tried with , and without alcohol , she tired on her own with no booze involved

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She loves the sex , in fact , initiates it as soon as I get to her house . we have tried long foreplay , quickies .

Tells me she is so happy with what we do , now I think problem is mine in wanting to get her there , more than she needs to !! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have been looking at ann summers and going to try a new style vibe , for internal as well as clitoral .

She enjoys very much some anal (finger) if that is significant ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also has she had a check up at the docs to make sure it's nothing physical.

If she can't make herself cum nothing you try to do will change that

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