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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We don't like being rude and always reply to message's but can't seem to get the message across that we aren't interested . How does everyone else reply when they get messages from people that don't interest them

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

The Doors | People Are Strange

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sq9oR9x171w

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We have a line in our profile that says no reply means no thank you, if we do reply with a no thanks and they respond asking why or trying to change our mind we block.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

If they have sent a decent message (not just, Fancy a fuck) then I will reply saying they are not for me and wishing them well. Otherwise I just delete the message.

The one liners can be read without opening them.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think a popular one is like yours op, coupled with a block - to prevent repetition or comeback.

Some will forget who they've messaged and you'll cycle through the process, unless blocks are used, as harsh as it may appear. Others don't like what they hear and become troublesome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for that , just taken me back to my teenage years and watching The lost boys

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think we maybe adding that to our profile .

Thanks so much

Saffie x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Think we maybe adding that to our profile .

Thanks so much

Saffie x"

Welcome. Also if you click on reply+quote under the post you're replying to, we'll know who you're answering

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks hunni really appreciate the message .

Saffie x

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Thanks for that , just taken me back to my teenage years and watching The lost boys "

D'you know what? That made me think of the Lost Boys too...

the lost boys to the shock of miss louise

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgRVsn1aKL8

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"We don't like being rude and always reply to message's but can't seem to get the message across that we aren't interested . How does everyone else reply when they get messages from people that don't interest them "

Just delete and block if they become persistent and annoying after you already turned them down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think we maybe adding that to our profile .

Thanks so much

Saffie x

Welcome. Also if you click on reply+quote under the post you're replying to, we'll know who you're answering "

I'm a dick lol x

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'd tell you what I do with pests but I suspect there would be trouble

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We don't like being rude and always reply to message's but can't seem to get the message across that we aren't interested . How does everyone else reply when they get messages from people that don't interest them

Just delete and block if they become persistent and annoying after you already turned them down. "

Thank you x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Think we maybe adding that to our profile .

Thanks so much

Saffie x

Welcome. Also if you click on reply+quote under the post you're replying to, we'll know who you're answering

I'm a dick lol x"

No you aren't .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd tell you what I do with pests but I suspect there would be trouble "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think we maybe adding that to our profile .

Thanks so much

Saffie x

Welcome. Also if you click on reply+quote under the post you're replying to, we'll know who you're answering

I'm a dick lol x

No you aren't . "

Thanks I'm wetting myself here as you can tell not done this before

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Think we maybe adding that to our profile .

Thanks so much

Saffie x

Welcome. Also if you click on reply+quote under the post you're replying to, we'll know who you're answering

I'm a dick lol x

No you aren't .

Thanks I'm wetting myself here as you can tell not done this before "

There's a first time for everything .

You'll soon get the hang of it.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

*Delete*.

If any further messages follow, *block*.

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By *xploringusCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

For us it depends on the message received. If it's more than a quick one liner and the sender has gone to the effort of looking at our profile then we'll respond. Assuming it's someone who doesn't interest us we'll thank them for their mail and wish them luck.

One liners we ignore.

Repeat mailers who don't get the message we block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have a similar line at the end of our profile - but we do send a sorry not for us but happy swinging kind of message - most say thanks but if we get a comeback we just block - the more they go on the more we know we made right choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't like being rude and always reply to message's but can't seem to get the message across that we aren't interested . How does everyone else reply when they get messages from people that don't interest them "
harsh as it seems your only option is to block their are a lot of very abrupt people on here women as much as men ,women are so because of the amount of message traffic which feeds their egos disproportionate to their looks and personality ,men by virtue of the frustration of endless messaging with no replies or success so just block people who aren't coming across in a way that suits your purpose ,it doesn't always work because the more persistent start another profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually reply to the first message with a polite no thanks.

If they reply with anything other than "ok, no worries" or similar I just delete or if they become abusive I'll block and report them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No or ignore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean. "thanks but no thanks" or "sorry not for me" tends to be my reply. But they usually respond with "that's ok your my type, want to meet" or whatever variation of not getting it.

I currenlty have 13 in my inbox like that. I dont like to block if thr havent done anything wrong but they just keep messaging no matter how much i ignore and dont open the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for that , just taken me back to my teenage years and watching The lost boys

D'you know what? That made me think of the Lost Boys too...

the lost boys to the shock of miss louise

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgRVsn1aKL8"

When vampires were 'proper' vampires and weren't vegetarian and sparkly in sunlight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually reply to the first message with a polite no thanks.

If they reply with anything other than "ok, no worries" or similar I just delete or if they become abusive I'll block and report them."

Same. Very rarely get rude mail that I have to report though.

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By *CoastFunMan
over a year ago

Southampron

I get messages from men. I just send back a polite, 'thanks but sorry I'm not interested in men. Have fun!'

Never had any abuse back, occasionally get a 'well if you change your mind' reply but I just delete that.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

I tend not to bother sending initial messages any more - when you've seen one "no thanks" you've seen them all. Still, on the extremely rare occasions when I do, I always send a quick message to those polite enough to reply thanking them for taking the time to say "no thanks" and wish them a happy life - it's possible one or two might see that as pestering but hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't like being rude and always reply to message's but can't seem to get the message across that we aren't interested . How does everyone else reply when they get messages from people that don't interest them "

I just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey it's nice that you reply

I put on my message that if they don't reply then...I get the message its possible that the message gets overlooked as I guess you ladies get LOADSSS of mssgs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't like being rude and always reply to message's but can't seem to get the message across that we aren't interested . How does everyone else reply when they get messages from people that don't interest them "

Depends on the message. Usually ill say im flattered but looking for something different, but ocasionally and rarely just a delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no good way to say no thanks to single men on here so i dont bother anymore. Just block and move on. No matter what you say they will always have a "But...." reply in an attempt to convince you they're the best guy you'd ever meet. It gets really tiresome really quickly so hit the block and have a smile instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey it's nice that you reply

I put on my message that if they don't reply then...I get the message its possible that the message gets overlooked as I guess you ladies get LOADSSS of mssgs "

For me it's not that I get loads of messages, but if someone I've never spoken to is sending me a message asking for a fuck (only ever get random out-of-the-blue requests from couples and fellas) then they have obviously not taken the time to read my very very short profile. So, I just delete.

If you multiply that to the volume of messages that ladies get, they have to delete en masse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No thanks, or not interested, thanks for the message, work for me. Anyone who comes back with a 'but why' gets deleted or blocked.

Mmmmm Keifer Sunderland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

previously, on 24

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do try to be courteous and say thanks but no thanks and all the best in your search (where men are concerned). Often find that they appreciate the reply but i ignore anyone that gets pushy after I try and be polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I message someone and they're not interested, I appreciate a 'no thank you'. I think not replying at all is personally rude. However if they then get pushy or asking why, blocking is fair.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I try and send a 'thanks for your message but....' type message unless it's a FAF type then I don't bother as clearly they haven't bothered to read my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I message someone and they're not interested, I appreciate a 'no thank you'. I think not replying at all is personally rude. However if they then get pushy or asking why, blocking is fair. "
just this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me, thanks. Happy swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone's good enough to say "no thanks" I thank them and move on. Why would someone ask "why?". Sounds like fragile ego. Wrong site if you have a fragile ego!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I message someone and they're not interested, I appreciate a 'no thank you'. I think not replying at all is personally rude. However if they then get pushy or asking why, blocking is fair. just this "

Try managing my inbox for a day and replying "No thanks" to every guy that hasn't read my profile and even the ones that have. It's not rudeness that stops me replying. It's time and energy and experience of the abuse on here that stops me. It's easy to say you'd reply to every message when you get 1 or 2 a day. Try doing thatv for 150 plus.

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport


"I think a popular one is like yours op, coupled with a block - to prevent repetition or comeback.

Some will forget who they've messaged and you'll cycle through the process, unless blocks are used, as harsh as it may appear. Others don't like what they hear and become troublesome. "

I agree to this I've blocked lots of people and have it on my profile to block me if not interested I think it's a tool to stop unwanted messages/wasting each other's time as much as it is to avoid the loons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they ask why, say " because you hit every branch when you fell out of the ugly tree, you have a penis similar to that of a small rodent, you have the personality of a paving slab and the IQ of a cheeseplant"

Works for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"*Delete*.

If any further messages follow, *block*. "

Thank guys xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For us it depends on the message received. If it's more than a quick one liner and the sender has gone to the effort of looking at our profile then we'll respond. Assuming it's someone who doesn't interest us we'll thank them for their mail and wish them luck.

One liners we ignore.

Thank you for the advice

Saffie

Repeat mailers who don't get the message we block."

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me....I don't tend to get mails - I blocked single guys to stop a certain amount

If I get someone that comes up to me in a club and they are not what I am looking for then a thanks but no thanks usually works

If I get a no reply or a thanks but no thanks I get the message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We don't like being rude and always reply to message's but can't seem to get the message across that we aren't interested . How does everyone else reply when they get messages from people that don't interest them harsh as it seems your only option is to block their are a lot of very abrupt people on here women as much as men ,women are so because of the amount of message traffic which feeds their egos disproportionate to their looks and personality ,men by virtue of the frustration of endless messaging with no replies or success so just block people who aren't coming across in a way that suits your purpose ,it doesn't always work because the more persistent start another profile "

Cheers for that hunni x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I did tell a guy he was ugly once, in don't know why I didn't block him as I usually do but after I said no thanks he kept saying its because he's ugly, I was diplomatic but he kept going on about being cause he's ugly so in the end I just said yes you are ugly and then blocked him

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"We don't like being rude and always reply to message's but can't seem to get the message across that we aren't interested . How does everyone else reply when they get messages from people that don't interest them "

I simply say...'thankyou but you are not quite what I am looking for...or you are not quite my type'...hard to be more honest but also diplomatic than that.

I am never offended and actually greatful for at least receiving this kind of reply...much better than just being deleted..

btw...you would not get that kind of reply from me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we have a similar line at the end of our profile - but we do send a sorry not for us but happy swinging kind of message - most say thanks but if we get a comeback we just block - the more they go on the more we know we made right choice "

Yes I've tried the nice approach but they keep sending so think it will be blocked so don't get anymore . Many thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually reply to the first message with a polite no thanks.

If they reply with anything other than "ok, no worries" or similar I just delete or if they become abusive I'll block and report them."

Thank you

Saffie x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No or ignore"

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know what you mean. "thanks but no thanks" or "sorry not for me" tends to be my reply. But they usually respond with "that's ok your my type, want to meet" or whatever variation of not getting it.

I currenlty have 13 in my inbox like that. I dont like to block if thr havent done anything wrong but they just keep messaging no matter how much i ignore and dont open the messages "

We have a few like that unfortunately

Thanks for the response xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for that , just taken me back to my teenage years and watching The lost boys

D'you know what? That made me think of the Lost Boys too...

the lost boys to the shock of miss louise

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgRVsn1aKL8

When vampires were 'proper' vampires and weren't vegetarian and sparkly in sunlight!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get messages from men. I just send back a polite, 'thanks but sorry I'm not interested in men. Have fun!'

Never had any abuse back, occasionally get a 'well if you change your mind' reply but I just delete that."

Hehe never say never but yes delete when they don't get the hint

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing


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Try managing my inbox for a day and replying "No thanks" to every guy that hasn't read my profile and even the ones that have. It's not rudeness that stops me replying. It's time and energy and experience of the abuse on here that stops me. It's easy to say you'd reply to every message when you get 1 or 2 a day. Try doing thatv for 150 plus."

I guess a load of guys, myself included, would love you even without the cowgirl hat, lol. No wonder you get so many messages per day despite the dire warnings on your profile It's a case of dick ruling the brain?

Have fun and enjoy life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I think people need to get a sense of perspective. I delete probably 90% of the messages I get which I'm not interested in. If it's a really nice message or seems like they could have spent a lot of time on it I'll send a nice thanks but no thanks type reply. Maybe this comes across as abrupt to the 90% but it's not like I'm punching them in the face.

When I'm messaging people I'd rather they just delete so I know the score, what's the point in an inbox full of messages telling me people aren't interested?

However I'm sure a lot of those who get deleted think I'm one of those women who has had my ego overinflated disproportionally to my looks, and I'm just rude.

But honestly, I really really really can't be arsed to sit and reply to them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't like being rude and always reply to message's but can't seem to get the message across that we aren't interested . How does everyone else reply when they get messages from people that don't interest them "

Exactly as the header of this thread x

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"However I'm sure a lot of those who get deleted think I'm one of those women who has had my ego overinflated disproportionally to my looks"

I really detest that comment (I know you're only quoting it). The insinuation that any "ugly" woman having preferences or standards clearly suffers from an over-inflated ego and should be grateful for any offer of a fuck we can get, as clearly our standards must drop outside of Fab where other's can see how "Hunchback Of Notré Dame" we clearly are.

Usually made by butt-hurt guys who thought they were doing us a favour by punching below their weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"However I'm sure a lot of those who get deleted think I'm one of those women who has had my ego overinflated disproportionally to my looks

I really detest that comment (I know you're only quoting it). The insinuation that any "ugly" woman having preferences or standards clearly suffers from an over-inflated ego and should be grateful for any offer of a fuck we can get, as clearly our standards must drop outside of Fab where other's can see how "Hunchback Of Notré Dame" we clearly are.

Usually made by butt-hurt guys who thought they were doing us a favour by punching below their weight. "

Me too, that's why it jumped out from the posts I'd skimmed through. It always smacks of bitterness as much as anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if I get a reply saying no thanks the courtesy of a reply even if it is to say no is appreciated.

Others who delete with out a reply, well I can take a hint and don't bother them again.

Some however don't respond and also don't delete my message and that confuses my little peanut brain, are they interested are they not.

In that case I tend to send another message stating if I don't receive a reply then I don't pester them again, I would hate to think people thought I was a pest.

I will always show manners and a degree of class, why get nasty with folk who are not interested it achieves nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No thanks, or not interested, thanks for the message, work for me. Anyone who comes back with a 'but why' gets deleted or blocked.

Mmmmm Keifer Sunderland "

Errrr the frog brothers were , soooo obviously the eye candy in that film duh!

oh and love the new profile pic .

Seems I ever only get one fancy a fuck message once a month from a local ts, just making sure I've not changed my mind. But they are local and give me smile when she passes the shop , so I'm happy to smile along.... I'm pretty sure I've never sent a ' I want to meet you' message they sound pretty pointless if I do write it's only people from here and I usually make the message closed ended so a reply isn't necessary .

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

If the person is reasonable they will accept it. When I get such a rejection (quite often as it happens) I usually respond with "Thanks for the reply, good luck in finding what you're looking for." or words to that effect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow guys thanks for all your responses I've never written a forum post before and really enjoyed reading all your messages

Saffie xx

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I would normally reply with "no, thanks - looking for different things" which is intended to put an end to the conversation and usually it does. If people then want to know what it is I am looking for, I find this a tad irritating because I am not looking for people who are trying to find out what I want in order to present themselves as that! So I tend not to reply.

When I get messages from married/ attached guys (sadly still a fair few) I no longer reply unless the original message is about something other than watning to meet.

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