FabSwingers.com forum: As a child did you get everything you wanted

By *weetguy33 OP Man
over a year ago

some where near you

I was very spoiled.

But didn't get everything.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

No my parents did not have a lot they worked full time as well but got the most important thing from them love that was better than any thing they could buy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No but I certainly got everything I needed.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No, my sister always got more and better.....

offs, years of counselling and it's still there

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

No but we were loved, fed and looked after..

never really wanted a Johnny 7 anyway..

without it turning into a 'you were lucky' sketch times were much harder financially for our parents than we have had it ..

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

Can't complain wish I could go back in time tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No my parents did not have a lot they worked full time as well but got the most important thing from them love that was better than any thing they could buy"
my parents provided for me but I didn't get love as a parent I gave love though

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Never spoiled but didn't really want anything either....still don't as I'm not materialistic.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No but we were loved, fed and looked after..

never really wanted a Johnny 7 anyway..

without it turning into a 'you were lucky' sketch times were much harder financially for our parents than we have had it ..

Truth!

There were four of us and the youngest had much more and better "stuff" than the oldest (me) but we were equally loved which is the main thing. I wasn't allowed to watch Cross Roads though which has scarred me for life

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"No but I certainly got everything I needed."

can't actually remember wanting anything as a child, we had gifts at birthdays and Christmas and a skipping rope or colouring books in the holidays.

There was one thing I craved, but as I need er asked for it noone knew.

It was a set of Russian dolls, I was a out 43 when I got them

I did have a new bike when I was 10 for no reason, we always had second hand pass me downs like everyone I found out after it was because I'd grown out of the hand me downs and was "grownup" enough to have my own bike.

Kids get so bloody much given them these days ( I'm guilty of it as well) that I don't think things seem so special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got love from both my parents and that is more important than anything.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

No, my dad worked 2 or 3 jobs & my parents divorced when I was 7. At 12 I went to live with my dad (stepdad was in RAF & posted abroad).

I was well loved & very happy though. I learnt to appreciate everything I had & how hard my parents worked to provide.

I was told to get a part time job on my 16th birthday & am very good at juggling my money. My job ensures I am very careful too.

I do spoil my boys though (I happily go without) & need to cut back a bit but they do their fair share round the house & don't have pocket money.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"No, my sister always got more and better.....

offs, years of counselling and it's still there

Haha, I never got the pony either

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"No but we were loved, fed and looked after..

never really wanted a Johnny 7 anyway..

without it turning into a 'you were lucky' sketch times were much harder financially for our parents than we have had it ..

Truth!

same ish dynamic, though we were 5 and would agree that the youngest due to times changing etc had a bit more but it was ok..

they deserve a pat on the back for not letting you watch it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Near enough, but didn't really want for much anyway. I was a bit of a tom boy so always wanted to be out and about playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no - money was always tight - we lived through all those strikes and the factory dad worked in were a partof all that - no strike pay and he chose to leave a foremans job to collect money for an insurance round - months later strikes over he went back but had lost his position after working there for many years previous - never did me any harm though and my kids have never had loads either - now theyre grown up they say its taught the the value of money and the things that matter more - so all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Grew up below the poverty line, but I don't remember feeling deprived of anything particularly. What I really wanted was to not be afraid of my parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fairly spoiled.

Becoming a penniless adult was a harsh reality for me.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"No, my sister always got more and better.....

offs, years of counselling and it's still there

View, same here, but had other issues too. *hugs*

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I don't remember feeling hard done to but I do have 2 parents who loved my sister and I a lot and still do, they are still together after 38 years and I couldn't of asked for lovelier parents. So that'll do me x

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

No I didn't. I was clothed,fed and watered though with a roof over my head. Did I feel huge amounts of love,not especially...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I got loving,caring parents and siblings. A safe,clean,warm home and food. I didn't ask for anything,I waited to see what I got. I was very happy with everything I received.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I was very spoiled.

But didn't get everything. "

Same here! My parents made sure we had a good life but also that we knew that some things were worked hard for. For example.....a pony!! I am so jealous of my nephew who has a free loan of one now lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

No, we didn't always get everything we needed either.

We were clean, fed, had shoes and, mostly had a roof over our head (albeit a hostel for a while).

It still rankles that, along with the rest of me, my feet stopped growing when I was about 11 and the shoes I had then were the the only ones for the next three and half years until I was earning my own money.

My parents have done what they can to make up for us not having things as children by being generous to us as adults.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No and still don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i always wanted goldie horn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister was born with low oxygen levels and has something called global delay, she's 34 and has the mental capacity of a 6 year old. Growing up meant lots of trips to her speech/art/music therapy sessions. I don't think my childhood suffered because of this though, although I wasn't spoilt I never needed anything either, although I did feel very under pressure not to put a foot wrong anywhere as I felt my parents had enough to deal with

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By *es-sMan
over a year ago

Rugby

No I did not as another poster said my sister of five years older she did but as I was adopted I came to accept the inevitable and got on with it

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By *es-sMan
over a year ago

Rugby

"No i always wanted goldie horn"
Me too snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NO asked for anything was in care from baby till I was 18 in them days it was crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything I wanted? No. My father was blue collar. So things were what they were.

He did put me through college, though, which is something to be thankful for in the US.

-Courtney

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I think at the time I pretty much got everything I wanted. In hindsight though I'm not so sure I got everything I needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because there was four of us and money was tight. But what I got I apprecated and looked after it. But I will be the first to admit that I have always spoilt my daughter. I wouldn't say Iv given her everything she wanted but given her most things

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By *appyguy17Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

9 kids in our family...dad an alcoholic.....

It was a war....left home at 16...x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I think at the time I pretty much got everything I wanted. In hindsight though I'm not so sure I got everything I needed."

I see that more often than I would like. Sometimes what is really needed is to say no or to just stop buying stuff and spend time with the child.

Memories of experiences stick with us. Memories of things that can be easily replaced do not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. My family was quite poor. But occasionally you'd get a big gift that made it even more special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was very spoiled.

But didn't get everything. "

No. Did anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents had 4 kids and a mortgage, so no we didn't get anything much really. I'm not materialistic because of it.

My dad was abusive and my mum was depressed, i never felt loved but i can see now that they probably loved us the only way they could. Still don't speak to them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got nothing i wanted.

Life was awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted a Leopard and a Wolf, but had to make do with plastic ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but I was lucky that I lived in various countries as a child so experienced different cultures from a young age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant remember not having what I needed...but going back then all most kids wanted was a bike and a few other small items (fishing rod.,.football)..unlike now where kids have lots of choices and tend to want all of them, often based upon peer pressure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My sister was born with low oxygen levels and has something called global delay, she's 34 and has the mental capacity of a 6 year old. Growing up meant lots of trips to her speech/art/music therapy sessions. I don't think my childhood suffered because of this though, although I wasn't spoilt I never needed anything either, although I did feel very under pressure not to put a foot wrong anywhere as I felt my parents had enough to deal with "

My son has global developmental delay due to being a breach birth, I can relate to your parents, but his brother is severely autistic, speaking with other parents, they tell me how difficult it is for the siblings, quite a lot has been researched in this area these days. Siblings can get forgotten because they aren't as challenging. Hug to you.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

I didn't get everything I wanted...and I didn't care. I grew up realising that nice things come and go, as does money.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I think at the time I pretty much got everything I wanted. In hindsight though I'm not so sure I got everything I needed.

I see that more often than I would like. Sometimes what is really needed is to say no or to just stop buying stuff and spend time with the child.

Memories of experiences stick with us. Memories of things that can be easily replaced do not.

I think all the really key important things we need when we're growing up never cost money. Material things don't mean a lot at the end of the day. I got plenty of love, especially from my mother but other things I really needed I never got. Annoyingly it has most definitely effected me as an adult as well. It's steered me in a direction as I grew up that I shouldn't have had to take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

posts like these are very humbling - my daughter has an incurable but manageable illness and she always sees the people who are worse off than her -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

posts like these are very humbling - my daughter has an incurable but manageable illness and she always sees the people who are worse off than her - "

I never felt like I went without, in fact coming from a not particularly nice area of South East London we were fairly comfortable compared to my young friends standards. I've never looked back in sadness at my childhood, but perhaps maybe with a longing to push myself a bit more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No my parents did not have a lot they worked full time as well but got the most important thing from them love that was better than any thing they could buy"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grew up knowing that if i wanted something then i had to get it myself !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I didn't.

I remember getting secondhand Lego technical sets for Christmas, but that never bothered me at all. I still got the Lego set I wanted, the fact that the box was battered I never seemed to care.

The only time I got what I wanted, was when I started cycling. Then it was more out of necessity than anything else.

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