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What is wrong with you people??! How are you supposed to know who everyone is? And the joy of stealing/swapping badges at the end of the night?
I have a tin full of my own and other people's badges. You should always have them in my view, takes a massive amount of pressure off when you can walk up to someone you've spoken to online without having to be introduced, you can launch into being friends as you are online without needing any more ice breakers.
It's hard enough for new people. My first social was seriously daunting. Inject some fun. You're never too old for munch badges.
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"Nope It'd give the other party the option of spotting me first and pissin off home before I see them " Hide it under your jacket and flash it at them when they're too close to do a runner. | |||
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"Does any one think having a username badge/ sticker on at social meets would help. Not everyone surely is so confident /outgoing and able to approach a couple or group at these events. We have been to a few now and find because everyone seems to know each other which in turn makes us feel like outsiders and shy. We are not that confident yet in going up to a group or couple to introduce ourselves to them. If usernames tags were worn then it would be possible and maybe easier to look them up after and read their profile and send a message. Also by having a username tag on people could see whether those people had looked / winked at you previously or you them. Would like to hear what your thoughts are - Would you be willing to wear a username sticker?" A few socials I've been too have had name tags given out. I remember one club having coloured arrows you could stick on . Up dom Down sub Sideways switch Red not playing Green playing | |||
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"I think badges would be a great idea. Only been to one social & far from there being too many single men it was full of cliquey couples. Not friendly at all." People do tend to stay in groups I agree and it can feel very exclusive. Name badges aren't really going to change that though, I don't know what will. | |||
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"Nope It'd give the other party the option of spotting me first and pissin off home before I see them Hide it under your jacket and flash it at them when they're too close to do a runner. "But what should he do with the badge?  | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google. "You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you? | |||
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"There's no munch badges at a group social?
What is wrong with you people??! How are you supposed to know who everyone is? And the joy of stealing/swapping badges at the end of the night?
I have a tin full of my own and other people's badges. You should always have them in my view, takes a massive amount of pressure off when you can walk up to someone you've spoken to online without having to be introduced, you can launch into being friends as you are online without needing any more ice breakers.
It's hard enough for new people. My first social was seriously daunting. Inject some fun. You're never too old for munch badges.
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"Nope It'd give the other party the option of spotting me first and pissin off home before I see them Hide it under your jacket and flash it at them when they're too close to do a runner.
But what should he do with the badge? "
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"Does any one think having a username badge/ sticker on at social meets would help. Not everyone surely is so confident /outgoing and able to approach a couple or group at these events. We have been to a few now and find because everyone seems to know each other which in turn makes us feel like outsiders and shy. We are not that confident yet in going up to a group or couple to introduce ourselves to them. If usernames tags were worn then it would ibe possible and maybe easier to look them up after and read their profile and send a message. Also by having a username tag on people could see whether those people had looked / winked at you previously or you them. Would like to hear what your thoughts are - Would you be willing to wear a username sticker?" hehe are you talking about in a club where people could be naked lol x  | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google. "Try doing it in a vanilla boozer with my name! | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?"Yep | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
Try doing it in a vanilla boozer with my name! "Challenge accepted. | |||
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You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?"Google will still find your forum posts as they have your username but they're not your profile page. The forums are searchable by Google. | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
Try doing it in a vanilla boozer with my name!
Challenge accepted. "
Photographic evidence required!
Most of the socials I went to (I was a bit of a munch whore) were in private venues so it was easy to wear badges without drawing too much attention. Most of the venues knew we were swingers so they weren't surprised by random rude names. | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?
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You're brave then "I have removed it from Google searches but it still throws up any mention of you in the forums. | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?
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You're brave then
I have removed it from Google searches but it still throws up any mention of you in the forums. "
That's why I love my name. You'd be there for days trying to find me. | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?
Yep
You're brave then
I have removed it from Google searches but it still throws up any mention of you in the forums.
That's why I love my name. You'd be there for days trying to find me. "Yes it pays to have a name like yours......in more ways than one | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?
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You're brave then
I have removed it from Google searches but it still throws up any mention of you in the forums. "I've just searched my name & phew, no mention of me at all | |||
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"Not in clubs - in organised social meets. Everyone there is there to meet other like minded people - it would make life so much more easier for the less outgoing amongst us." Would you feel more able to approach someone with a name badge? At any social gathering I think more outgoing people should try and include those who appear a little shy. | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?
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You're brave then
I have removed it from Google searches but it still throws up any mention of you in the forums.
That's why I love my name. You'd be there for days trying to find me.
Yes it pays to have a name like yours......in more ways than one "I can get paid for it?! No-one told me that!!
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?
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You're brave then
I have removed it from Google searches but it still throws up any mention of you in the forums.
I've just searched my name & phew, no mention of me at all "That's because your name throws up a lot of results. If we ever choose another name it's going to be something like Mr and Mrs Smith | |||
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"We used to attend a social in a pub there was no way I would have had our username displayed for the regulars to see, rush home and put in Google.
You do know you can take yourself off Google searches don't you?
Yep
You're brave then
I have removed it from Google searches but it still throws up any mention of you in the forums.
That's why I love my name. You'd be there for days trying to find me.
Yes it pays to have a name like yours......in more ways than one
I can get paid for it?!
No-one told me that!!
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"Not in clubs - in organised social meets. Everyone there is there to meet other like minded people - it would make life so much more easier for the less outgoing amongst us. Would you feel more able to approach someone with a name badge? At any social gathering I think more outgoing people should try and include those who appear a little shy." A decent organiser who gives a shit about whether people have a good time should really rope people in for hand holding. Things were so much more inclusive when I did socials. The whole point is so we all met new people and making newbies feel like they don't belong or it's awkward to talk to people is not conducive to having more sex. We were all pretty outgoing and just got stuck in. The build up to a munch was just as much fun as the actual event. People need to feel welcome and not like rabbits in headlights. | |||
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"Not in clubs - in organised social meets. Everyone there is there to meet other like minded people - it would make life so much more easier for the less outgoing amongst us. Would you feel more able to approach someone with a name badge? At any social gathering I think more outgoing people should try and include those who appear a little shy. A decent organiser who gives a shit about whether people have a good time should really rope people in for hand holding. Things were so much more inclusive when I did socials. The whole point is so we all met new people and making newbies feel like they don't belong or it's awkward to talk to people is not conducive to having more sex. We were all pretty outgoing and just got stuck in. The build up to a munch was just as much fun as the actual event. People need to feel welcome and not like rabbits in headlights. " Methinks you need to organise another social. | |||
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"Would love to go to a club or social but being a single male it puts me off not knowing anyone and from what I've read about these events it can be lonely for a single male. Anything that helps would be useful" I would have loved more single men at the social I went to, lots more  | |||
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"Not in clubs - in organised social meets. Everyone there is there to meet other like minded people - it would make life so much more easier for the less outgoing amongst us. Would you feel more able to approach someone with a name badge? At any social gathering I think more outgoing people should try and include those who appear a little shy. A decent organiser who gives a shit about whether people have a good time should really rope people in for hand holding. Things were so much more inclusive when I did socials. The whole point is so we all met new people and making newbies feel like they don't belong or it's awkward to talk to people is not conducive to having more sex. We were all pretty outgoing and just got stuck in. The build up to a munch was just as much fun as the actual event. People need to feel welcome and not like rabbits in headlights. Methinks you need to organise another social. "
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" Would you feel more able to approach someone with a name badge? At any social gathering I think more outgoing people should try and include those who appear a little shy." Badges give everyone an equal icebreaker - I can walk up to anyone in the room, reassure them that I AM looking at their tits first, then read the badge. It's even better with stickers, as they gradually peel off, women threaten to "wax" men with them, or people pat them back down etc. Shy people need all the help we can get.... | |||
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" Would you feel more able to approach someone with a name badge? At any social gathering I think more outgoing people should try and include those who appear a little shy. Badges give everyone an equal icebreaker - I can walk up to anyone in the room, reassure them that I AM looking at their tits first, then read the badge. It's even better with stickers, as they gradually peel off, women threaten to "wax" men with them, or people pat them back down etc. Shy people need all the help we can get...." Yes we need all the help we can get | |||
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"think i might do this sticker thing at my birthday party and the social gathering in novemebr at Jaydees, i always wonder why it wasn't offered..would new/ shy/ nervous people mind, if we also put a symbol on the sticker showing that they are nervous rather than aloof people.. i am very sociable, but i find myself not saying hello to those who are really quiet, as i'm not sure if im intruding on their personal space or not. this is where i am shy x" I don't think there's any need to add symbols, that just alienates further. It's like sticking L plates on... we all had to start somewhere. You don't need to lose the art of conversation just because it's a sex thing. We can all talk, you don't have to want to/not want to have sex with someone to have a conversation. The key is the word 'social' and so long as everyone respects everyone else then there's no reason everyone can't wear a badge and be on a level playing field, so to speak. | |||
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"think i might do this sticker thing at my birthday party and the social gathering in novemebr at Jaydees, i always wonder why it wasn't offered..would new/ shy/ nervous people mind, if we also put a symbol on the sticker showing that they are nervous rather than aloof people.. i am very sociable, but i find myself not saying hello to those who are really quiet, as i'm not sure if im intruding on their personal space or not. this is where i am shy x I don't think there's any need to add symbols, that just alienates further. It's like sticking L plates on... we all had to start somewhere. You don't need to lose the art of conversation just because it's a sex thing. We can all talk, you don't have to want to/not want to have sex with someone to have a conversation. The key is the word 'social' and so long as everyone respects everyone else then there's no reason everyone can't wear a badge and be on a level playing field, so to speak. "that's a totally different perspective from the one i had..interesting..id use the sticker symbol to include people, not exclude them, but maybe that's my nature.. im looking for a sign that people want to talk, rather than be left alone...i wasn't talking about playing..thats a whole different topic, as far as i was concerned. i suppose the willingness to wear a sticker could be seen as an indication of willingness to be spoken to though..maybe that's just it..huh? x thanks dirty girl x | |||
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" that's a totally different perspective from the one i had..interesting..id use the sticker symbol to include people, not exclude them, but maybe that's my nature.. im looking for a sign that people want to talk, rather than be left alone...i wasn't talking about playing..thats a whole different topic, as far as i was concerned. i suppose the willingness to wear a sticker could be seen as an indication of willingness to be spoken to though..maybe that's just it..huh? x thanks dirty girl x" I kinda think if people go to a social then that means they want to meet others of a like mind. I figure you can tell from quite a short conversation as to whether someone is chatty or shy or generally just not interested in talking to you. I'm pretty gregarious for someone who's normally quite antisocial so I have no issues in having a chat with strangers to make them feel welcome. I guess I'm better as a host than a guest cause I often feel like a spare part at a party but if I have a job to do or a role to play I'm much more comfortable. If you're organising a social and you know there are first timers then find someone you know already who is quite outgoing and ask them to introduce new people to others. It makes a massive difference when someone makes an effort to include everyone as it can appear quite cliquey when the regulars know each other. Newcomers are in the 'clique' before the know it with the right introductions. | |||
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"Another thing that's a pretty good way to make people mingle is to have cards with famous partners on them. Give everyone a card when the arrive... i.e. Fred Flintstone to a single bloke and Wilma Flintstone to a single girl and tell them to go find each other. There's nothing sexual in it, there's no pressure but you need to speak to lots of people to find the person who matches you. It's probably not necessary for a night in a club where's there's play going on but it can be a bit of nonsense fun for a social gathering. It gives people something to do that's a bit of fun, an opening into a conversation and it doesn't take all night. It throws everyone out of their comfort zone with the people they know and you never know who you'll speak to along the way that you might not have done otherwise. Simple but effective. "I like that idea. I don't like party games because I'm an antisocial old bat but that sounds good. I'd do that. | |||
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"Badges? Seriously?? What an absolutely childish idea. What you going to suggest next, crayons on the table for doing some colouring in?" Not everyone has your... erm... confidence? | |||
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"Badges? Seriously?? What an absolutely childish idea. What you going to suggest next, crayons on the table for doing some colouring in? Not everyone has your... erm... confidence? "It's not about confidence I just wouldn't want to be treated like a child. Gold star for good behaviour? | |||
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""Adult colouring" is quite popular, I believe. Good idea!" How about twister but with paint instead? | |||
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"Badges? Seriously?? What an absolutely childish idea. What you going to suggest next, crayons on the table for doing some colouring in? Not everyone has your... erm... confidence?
It's not about confidence I just wouldn't want to be treated like a child. Gold star for good behaviour?"I never viewed it as childish. I was shitting myself to go to my first social. Excited but shitting it nonetheless. I printed off the list of people who were going and I made it my mission to go and meet everyone. I did just that and had the best time. At that time it was very much forum based and I didn't want to miss anyone that I'd spoken to on the forums. It's way easier to go up to a total stranger when they're wearing a name badge and introduce yourself. It seems very serious these days and I'm a great believer in a little bit of nonsense. If I make someone new feel a little bit more at ease by introducing myself and other people I know, then that makes me happy. I've met a whole load of people I'd never have been brave enough to talk to if they were all sat round in closed groups. I hear what you're saying, we're not kids but not everyone is socially able. It's nice to be nice and if you throw in a little bit of nonsense it makes it a much more relaxed atmosphere. | |||
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"Badges? Seriously?? What an absolutely childish idea. What you going to suggest next, crayons on the table for doing some colouring in? Not everyone has your... erm... confidence?
It's not about confidence I just wouldn't want to be treated like a child. Gold star for good behaviour?"you should never attend a conference or work for any major company that requires you to wear a badge then. My place want me to carry around a card with mine and the companies name on it, it's silly really, I mean you forget where you work one time and they never let you forget it. | |||
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" It seems very serious these days and I'm a great believer in a little bit of nonsense." So true, I've actually found any group event, from night out with friends to swinger social to bdsm munch is made instantly more fun by turning up in my fluffy wolf hat He's an awesome ice breaker people come up and stroke him or make a joke about it and it's an easy icebreaker. It goes from "hmm what do I say to this total stranger who I know nothing about" to "hey look at the guy in the wolf hat I can talk about that I'd nothing else" | |||
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"There's no munch badges at a group social?
What is wrong with you people??! How are you supposed to know who everyone is? And the joy of stealing/swapping badges at the end of the night?
I have a tin full of my own and other people's badges. You should always have them in my view, takes a massive amount of pressure off when you can walk up to someone you've spoken to online without having to be introduced, you can launch into being friends as you are online without needing any more ice breakers.
It's hard enough for new people. My first social was seriously daunting. Inject some fun. You're never too old for munch badges.
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the badges thing is interesting.. and i love them in a way, all the different socials i went to, all the different badges...
i actually have my own LED badge at home now where i can but my own messages into it... its lush...
at the york social, rather than the names they went with numbers on a list and then people could put the names to numbers....
me being the rebel... i stuck it on my head... and put "?" on it.... it made people come over to me and find out who i was...(like i don't bloody stick out a mile at socials.... have to keep the "quota" up)
when i was hosting social the one thing people were wery off was having the name on a badgeif it was rude.... to which my answer to that was always "if you are proud enough to have it as a username... then you should be proud enough to wear a badge with that name on it!"
I did relent after putting them thru the ringer....
but it is a nice way of putting names to faces and breaks the ice a lot quicker than socials where you don't... because as much as you don't like admitting it... walking across to strangers is hard!!! | |||
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I wholeheartedly agree with the badge/nametag idea. At last week's social, I had absolutely no clue who anyone was.
As someone who's socially awkward and ridiculously shy, name tags wouldve made things a helluva lot easier. Saves confusion, when you you are looking for a specific person. Lets face it - profile pics don't always give any clues! | |||
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"Not in clubs - in organised social meets. Everyone there is there to meet other like minded people - it would make life so much more easier for the less outgoing amongst us. Would you feel more able to approach someone with a name badge? At any social gathering I think more outgoing people should try and include those who appear a little shy." This would be good yes | |||
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"I never have done and never will wear a name badge - unless it's someone else's." Well obviously I'd make you a badge that said 'Contrary Mary' on it! | |||
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"I never have done and never will wear a name badge - unless it's someone else's. Well obviously I'd make you a badge that said 'Contrary Mary' on it! "The last name badge I wore was that of Lord Lowistoll, when I swiped it as he left a reception at the Supreme Court... thusly armed I rejoined the fray. | |||
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"I never have done and never will wear a name badge - unless it's someone else's. Well obviously I'd make you a badge that said 'Contrary Mary' on it!
The last name badge I wore was that of Lord Lowistoll, when I swiped it as he left a reception at the Supreme Court... thusly armed I rejoined the fray.
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