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Forgive and forget

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By *ohnaron OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Is it possible?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Depend on who and what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I forgive a lot but forget fuck all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depend on who and what it is

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mostly I can move on. But not always .. depends on the misdemeanour ...

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Sadly I can hold a grudge for a long time so it's difficult for me to forgive & forget

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area


"I forgive a lot but forget fuck all"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something is either bad enough that I no longer talk to a person or it's not that bad and it's all forgotten.

It's sad, but there really isn't a middle ground with me.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most things you should forgive and forget about yeah else you'll feel like shit.

You don't have to, and i personally feel you shouldn't, forgive anyone who caused damage to your psyche or sense of identity. But do forget about them, they are shit.

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By *uppy ConquerorMan
over a year ago

dundee

Life's to short not to

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I think the forgiven is the easier part. Forgetting is hard, you never forget but you can move on.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If someone pisses me off I just eipe them out my life never to be thought of again.

Noone I care about has ever pissed me off enough for me to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on what it is you need to forgive. Some things are unforgivable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgive maybe...

Forget never!

No matter how much you need to or want to. After time memories fade, but time and again they will surface.

Its not how or what you forget it how you deal with what you remember...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't forget then you can't forgive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everything is forgivable or forgettable. Putting it to the back of your mind is advisable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life's to short not to"

So very true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally yes. Life is short and hating and falling out with people is not the best way to live it.

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By *ohnaron OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Forgive maybe...

Forget never!

No matter how much you need to or want to. After time memories fade, but time and again they will surface.

Its not how or what you forget it how you deal with what you remember... "

Gosh that is profound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally yes. Life is short and hating and falling out with people is not the best way to live it. "

I love your mindset x

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

dont feel the need to forgive people..they did stuff its their concern not mine and if they were being themselves..just shows who they are, why would i feel the need to forgive that..doesnt make sense..

most things i forget, mostly cos things are unimportant and life is too short, if it gets too much i just slip out of their lives and leave it behind. i prefer not to forget the lovely things that have happened to me, sometimes they don't end well, but i dont dwell on that bit.. my hurt is mine alone, not for others to worry about

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Yeah, I forgive & forget. I can guarantee there will always be someone else to come along and piss me off later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do we learn if we forget what happens along the way ?

We live and learn .

From our experiences we learn how to find a way to cope in adversity . And how to find the things in life we enjoy .

If we simply forget everything that affects us in an adverse way , what's to stop us making the same mistakes over and over again ?

So no , I don't forget any shit that comes my way , but it doesn't stop me from enjoying new experiences . I am just a bit more wary as past episodes which may highlight my personal vulnerability happened to help me realise that making the same mistakes again could be costly .

And as for forgiving , well that totally depends on what I am forgiving . Certain things , yes . Others not a chance .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't necessarily have to hate. You can not forgive someone and not hate them. You can not forget something and not let it eat at you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

afraid at 53 i still cant do either.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I can forgive, but never forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget about forgiving and learn to live with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to forgive people... and sometimes I forget too... but if it was something really bad, that doesn't mean I stay friends or let it happen again. I forgive... and then I move on. Forgiveness is part of the letting go... part of making sure they have no power over you imo

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I just forget these days, so don't think there's anything to forgive.

Overall, it depends on the person. I can forgive and forget but may not have much more to do with someone, if they've not moved on or learned etc.

Grudges etc aren't healthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always possible to forgive . You have to let go if things , its good for you as well as the other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we talking in in our real lives or on here in the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you forget to forgive

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if they add something to my life, then depending on who and what... Yes mostly.

if they don't, they ain't that important enough to care about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always better to try to forgive, for your own sake. That doesn't have to mean you let someone back in your life, just that you move on from whatever has happened and don't let it taint the rest of your life.

I'm rubbish at forgetting though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgive but never forget...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Sadly I can hold a grudge for a long time so it's difficult for me to forgive & forget "

Omitting the "sadly"...this!

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