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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

my new girlfriend found pics on my computer with me with other guys, no face pictures but i have told her its not me, can pictures get onto your computer without you putting them in documents

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

LOL

Oh dear.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'd just 'fess up, if I were you.

It'll save soooo much trouble in the long run.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes I know oh dear, cock deep up my arse too

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By *CoastFunMan
over a year ago

Southampron

Yes, if you've looked at images online they'll be stored in a history folder. Sometimes images can end up in temp directories too.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Yes, if you've looked at images online they'll be stored in a history folder. Sometimes images can end up in temp directories too."

Not in the documents folder though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did she say

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By *MP3Man
over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either tell her you like cock, or you were looking at pics and you saved them.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

So no thoughts about how you are lying and deceiving your girlfriend then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

she asked me what are these pictures, I said do not know, and she said its you getting fucked by another guy, I told her not to be silly, I know she does not believe me. Well pictures were in sample music folder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're fucked, literally and figuratively !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I should of been honest right from the start I know but once start seeing somebody I do not want to put her off by telling her i like cock too, tricky situation

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"she asked me what are these pictures, I said do not know, and she said its you getting fucked by another guy, I told her not to be silly, I know she does not believe me. Well pictures were in sample music folder"

Oh dear.

I'm sure she's not dumb... seriously... if you were to come clean about your sexuality how do you think she would react?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I should of been honest right from the start I know but once start seeing somebody I do not want to put her off by telling her i like cock too, tricky situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

not sure how she would react if tell her my sexuality to be honest, she is not very adventorous at all

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"she asked me what are these pictures, I said do not know, and she said its you getting fucked by another guy, I told her not to be silly, I know she does not believe me. Well pictures were in sample music folder"

They could not have got there accidentally.

You could try blaming a computer virus for sticking them there. Very flimsy but it's the only potential explanation I can think of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not sure how she would react if tell her my sexuality to be honest, she is not very adventorous at all"

Did you want to discuss your relationship with your gf or find an answer to your OP?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"not sure how she would react if tell her my sexuality to be honest, she is not very adventorous at all"

How do you see your future together? If it's long term do you think you can live with concealing one part of your sexuality from her? I know many people do but it must cause huge anxiety.

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By *rish_And_BlondieCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool and Ireland

You have to remember the world we live in, even my 80 year old Nana has an iPad and is entirely computer literate. She won't be daft trust me. If I was you say they're not pics of you...but you find you're getting turned on by watching male porn and saving pics for fantasy wanks... See how she is... Broach it gently and easily and then if she completely overreacts and thinks it's awful then you need to take a step back and rethin why you're with her, who would want to be with someone they couldn't fully be themselves with for life? Rach xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well its early days but i know your right if long term needs discussing, do not want her to think i am a liar seems I insisted it was not me , need a good explanation why they are there

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

She will know. Women aren't as dumb as we like to think...

This is part of you and you can't run from it.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Why not just be honest. How bad can that be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is the best policy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics only got into the music folder due to a subconscious need for your gf to find them, or some very careless computer usage.

She has already caught you, may as well tell her all the damage is either done or his is your first step on a new adventure.

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

a friend downloaded "the worlds best blow job" onto my phone. it was an anerican porn star getting sucked.

my then gf went mad, absolutely convinced it was me. I had to look twice myself.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"well its early days but i know your right if long term needs discussing, do not want her to think i am a liar seems I insisted it was not me , need a good explanation why they are there"

Come clean. She already knows you've lied to her. Unless you tell her the truth she'll always suspect and will not trust you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well its a bit late to be in denial now isnt it . If you think a woman your sleeping with regularly wont recognise your cock or your arse in a vid , your sadly mistaken ! of course she will ! your best bet now is to tell her you were experimenting at the time , and didnt think it was important to tell her about it , assuming you dont have a time and date stamp on the vid / vids . Just open the discussion and see what she says , but to be honest with you , most women will be hurt and upset with this kind of revalation , especially if she not very adventurous . Best of luck trying to convince her its not you , but i suppose its a good sign that she hasnt flipped a lid and is at least talking to you .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would like to think she got turned on by my sexuality but I really do not think she would

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By *hazkiandCouple
over a year ago

crawley

She knows your lying and if she wasn't just abit curious she would be long gone! Try talking to her she could be more adventurus than you think shaz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id just fess up its too late now

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Would like to think she got turned on by my sexuality but I really do not think she would"

Well, if she can't at least accept it, the relationship is unlikely to go anywhere. You're not right for each other and it will only end in tears if that's the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The longer you keep lying, the worse you make it. If someone cannot accept you as you are, then they are not right for you.

Trust and communication - without them you have nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well she found them last night, she not going really mad but she not spoke to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor GF. I'd do her a huge favour and just dump her because you clearly don't give a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her if she wants to try an mmf with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lies are worse than anything you could have ever done. The trust has gone right there in your relationship and unless you tell the the truth and try to rectify lying to her then things will only get worse.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Poor GF. I'd do her a huge favour and just dump her because you clearly don't give a fuck. "

This is a little unfair.

OP is posting in good faith... and you should walk a mile in someone's shoe...

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By *hazkiandCouple
over a year ago

crawley


"well she found them last night, she not going really mad but she not spoke to me"

She's processing what she saw and thinking about how to deal with it,be honest now don't leave it to long! Shaz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have asked her a few weeks ago if she would like a mmf but she told me never and she feels sick at the thought

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Poor GF. I'd do her a huge favour and just dump her because you clearly don't give a fuck.

This is a little unfair.

OP is posting in good faith... and you should walk a mile in someone's shoe..."

...because you'll have their shoes and a good head start

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes I am wondering what she is really thinking, only time will tell I guess

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington


"Ask her if she wants to try an mmf with you."

like a boss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor GF. I'd do her a huge favour and just dump her because you clearly don't give a fuck.

This is a little unfair.

OP is posting in good faith... and you should walk a mile in someone's shoe..."

Not unfair at all. And know you're making him sound hard done by....poor poor OP. Walk a mile in his shoes? He's hardly living the toughest life is he?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well she found them last night, she not going really mad but she not spoke to me"

Its a huge shock if she thought you were straight. Doesnt mean shes not open to play. You need to be up front. It gets much more conplicated down the line...

Imagine it gets serious and you have to ask permission to play later down the line thats not an easy conversation trust me and not fair to her if you already know what you want.

I only wish i knew this was for me years ago as its been hard on my hubby telling him these things after almost 11 years...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell her the truth now, she might just understand and accept it. Lying to her is a sure fire way of getting yourself dumped.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes I know its going to be harder longer I leave it to tell her, have tryed to stop my urge for cock but easier said than done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes I know its going to be harder longer I leave it to tell her, have tryed to stop my urge for cock but easier said than done. "

Of you cant stop the urge then you have no choice but to tell her. Yes ypu might lose her but thats her choice to make im afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes I know its going to be harder longer I leave it to tell her, have tryed to stop my urge for cock but easier said than done. "

We can't change who we are mate. You have to tell her and accept her decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't stay in a relationship where you can't be true to yourself.

It's not fair to your girlfriend or you.

You'll just make both of yourselves unhappy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dump her and move on pal. Obviously do it in a way that she doesn't want to kill herself, or you for that matter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess lots of people on here have been in same situation, bisexual and in straight relationship or wanting to swing and partner does not know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes I know its going to be harder longer I leave it to tell her, have tryed to stop my urge for cock but easier said than done. "

Well then in the most politest way. Ditch the GF. Or let her ditch you when she finds out the truth.

Does she not know that your Bi? Or on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess lots of people on here have been in same situation, bisexual and in straight relationship or wanting to swing and partner does not know"

Loads who are open about it and those that arent so open about it. No ones perfect but i bet some are jealous cause they have a lot more to lose..

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Tell her you're looking for a pet and did a search for a cockatoo, but your spelling isn't great and you got a cock or two instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

no she does not know i am bi or on fab, I know I am a twat for still coming on here but its so hard to stop

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

hope you bagged up dude.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry.."

Gosh, you're rather mean!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell her you're looking for a pet and did a search for a cockatoo, but your spelling isn't great and you got a cock or two instead "

That made me laugh

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

It's an old cliché but you need to accept yourself before others can accept you.

I can't pretend to know your situation but maybe the woman you're with isn't the person for you, right now?

Sounds like you need to get your head clear first...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind - the longer you leave and lie to her, the more she will feel deceived when she eventually finds out - and she will find out!

But, as others have said, she probably already knows and the silence is her way of seeing how you react to her reaction - e.g. will you fess up?

At the end of the day, you are what you are and if she is not the same, then the future would be very rocky. Best option is come clean (no pun intended) then talk - its the only way you will find out for sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have never dated guys or kissed them its just for fun, I have not cheated since been with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its 2015 but their is still a stigma attached to men sleeping with men. Not sure if it easier or more difficult to explain you are bi to someone (rather than gay). I'd be inclined to say it is more difficult in some respects.

Some of these comments are bang out of order.Explaining your sexuality to someone is not necessarily easy. I have engaged in activities with men before but I would never date or kiss a man.What does that make me? God knows.

I don't want to to turn this into a bi or not bi debate but people should recognise it is difficult enough coming to terms with your own sexuality. To then explain this to another person is even more difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her your a cock addict and can't stop then. Let her decide if you're worth the tears and pain if and when she realises she loved/loves you.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry..

Gosh, you're rather mean! "

Why is it mean? Sometimes the best thing for someone to do is to take a reality check?

Consider if the post came from a guy who had slept with a woman and his gf had found pictures - he would be hung drawn and quartered in here for being a cheat. The same rules apply, whether you are straight, bi, or gay - honesty is best, particularly being honest with yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no she does not know i am bi or on fab, I know I am a twat for still coming on here but its so hard to stop"

twat is putting it mildly, if it was me your feet wouldn't hit the floor as you exited the building. what a terrible, horrible lie to tell. clearly the idea doesn't bode well with her. tell the truth and let her know what youre really like. then she can make her mind up if she wants you or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes its 2015 but their is still a stigma attached to men sleeping with men. Not sure if it easier or more difficult to explain you are bi to someone (rather than gay). I'd be inclined to say it is more difficult in some respects.

Some of these comments are bang out of order.Explaining your sexuality to someone is not necessarily easy. I have engaged in activities with men before but I would never date or kiss a man.What does that make me? God knows.

I don't want to to turn this into a bi or not bi debate but people should recognise it is difficult enough coming to terms with your own sexuality. To then explain this to another person is even more difficult.

"

Very, very good post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My phone is connected to my pc. I had to unsynch the pic share option. I've accidentally put things in different folders when moving stuff from my usb to my laptop. If it wasn't deliberate it can happen by accident. Where should they have been?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry..

Gosh, you're rather mean! "

Yeah a real meany

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no she does not know i am bi or on fab, I know I am a twat for still coming on here but its so hard to stop

twat is putting it mildly, if it was me your feet wouldn't hit the floor as you exited the building. what a terrible, horrible lie to tell. clearly the idea doesn't bode well with her. tell the truth and let her know what youre really like. then she can make her mind up if she wants you or not."

Terrible? Horrible?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My phone is connected to my pc. I had to unsynch the pic share option. I've accidentally put things in different folders when moving stuff from my usb to my laptop. If it wasn't deliberate it can happen by accident. Where should they have been?"

I did not know they were still on my computer, wish had deleted them

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

Infidelity is a lie in itself, but for me the bigger lie is when your meant to be with someone you love and trust, and there the last to know.

If she's the one, tell her the truth (with paper flowers round it)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry..

Gosh, you're rather mean!

Yeah a real meany "

The OP has commented he hasn't cheated on her. Accepting this for one moment, and I appreciate that might seem naive , then what is your issue? The failure to tell her he is bi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no she does not know i am bi or on fab, I know I am a twat for still coming on here but its so hard to stop

twat is putting it mildly, if it was me your feet wouldn't hit the floor as you exited the building. what a terrible, horrible lie to tell. clearly the idea doesn't bode well with her. tell the truth and let her know what youre really like. then she can make her mind up if she wants you or not."

He has said he hasn't done it behind her back ( I assumed, yes I'll admit when I'm wrong, that he had been, joys of Internet communication). He just has to come clean about his lifestyle....I personally wouldn't want to have to deal with this. Good fucking job I just love cock eh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

[MORAL OUTRAGE IN PROGRESS]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not sure how she would react if tell her my sexuality to be honest, she is not very adventorous at all"

Get her a strap on , a false moustache and a lumberjack uniform and everyone's happy

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby


"Would like to think she got turned on by my sexuality but I really do not think she would"
like the Person just said on the post just before This one "she is at least talking to you" if thats any saviour for the long Term, right from the start you should Have told her you were bi, but more than This you,ve been unfaithful to her, thats the part you need to worry about, thou it all Seems a bit late now you realise at Least you did wrong, there,s no easy Way round it long term and even if you Do tell her will she be able to trust you again, by not being open enough with one another from the start of your relationship with her you have landed yourself in this mess, but apart from that you have got to ask yourself if those photo,s were not found in the first place by your girlfriend would you have carried on in denial of telling her or keeping your secret to yourself because after all your only here because they were found, its all about being true to yourself and anyone your with as in any relationship.. GOOD LUCK..

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry.."

He didn't say the photos are from a time since he has been dating her. In fact he's just clarified that he hasn't been with anyone since dating her. You just made assumptions.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Nuke it from orbit; it's the only way to be sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry..

Gosh, you're rather mean!

Yeah a real meany

The OP has commented he hasn't cheated on her. Accepting this for one moment, and I appreciate that might seem naive , then what is your issue? The failure to tell her he is bi?"

That he wants to think of all other excuses as to why those pics are there. And my presuming he's cheating comes from the fact that he has a profile here....whilst he talks about his GF. Fair enough he hasn't a recent verification saying he's met but that means nothing. And people, we can all agree that we get to know more of a situation as it is talked about.

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners


"not sure how she would react if tell her my sexuality to be honest, she is not very adventorous at all

Get her a strap on , a false moustache and a lumberjack uniform and everyone's happy "

hahahhaa

Plan A: fess up

Plan B: tell her your friend synced his phone to the PC meaning everything on his phone got transferred.

Plan C( the moral highground): your a douche... i hope your cock falls off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry..

He didn't say the photos are from a time since he has been dating her. In fact he's just clarified that he hasn't been with anyone since dating her. You just made assumptions."

Did you not read the previous posts before typing out this one?.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What he did before he met his girlfriend really is none of her business.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Did you not read the previous posts before typing out this one?..... "

Quadcumquae, as they probably never said in ancient Rome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some points I'd like to address.

He hasn't cheated on her with anyone.

She shouldn't have been snooping.

His previous sexual activity is none of her business whoever it was with.

That's what I would say to myself if I meet a new man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?"

This!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?"

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fess up get it out in the open starting a relationship of on grounds of lies isn't gonna work and hiding the fact you like cock isn't gonna work unless yer happy not to be with a guy whilst with her or are you gonna have more lies do what makes you both happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get I'm a bisexual tattooed on your forehead. Saves any misunderstandings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I really do hope it works out, for you both or on your Todd. Life is hard and complicated enough hey! And everyone deserves to be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you not read the previous posts before typing out this one?.....

Quadcumquae, as they probably never said in ancient Rome.

"

Oh Joe!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I really do hope it works out, for you both or on your Todd. Life is hard and complicated enough hey! And everyone deserves to be happy "

thankyou, thats what life is all about being happy to need to make the right choices on the way

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south


"I'd just 'fess up, if I were you.

It'll save soooo much trouble in the long run. "

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Did you not read the previous posts before typing out this one?.....

Quadcumquae, as they probably never said in ancient Rome.

Oh Joe! "

* Hey Joe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXwMrBb2x1Q

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I should of been honest right from the start I know but once start seeing somebody I do not want to put her off by telling her i like cock too, tricky situation"

Being honest.........I'm guessing she doesn't know you're on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you not read the previous posts before typing out this one?.....

Quadcumquae, as they probably never said in ancient Rome.

Oh Joe!

* Hey Joe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXwMrBb2x1Q

"

Interesting track

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Did you not read the previous posts before typing out this one?.....

Quadcumquae, as they probably never said in ancient Rome.

Oh Joe!

* Hey Joe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXwMrBb2x1Q

Interesting track "

As is this...

Peggy Lee - He's a tramp

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IwR4JewmdWU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

He has said he hasn't done it behind her back ( I assumed, yes I'll admit when I'm wrong, that he had been, joys of Internet communication). He just has to come clean about his lifestyle....I personally wouldn't want to have to deal with this. Good fucking job I just love cock eh! "

Apparently so does OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never dated guys or kissed them its just for fun, I have not cheated since been with her"

If you havent cheated then im a lot less bothered but you should still be honest...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"well she found them last night, she not going really mad but she not spoke to me"

Well speaking as a lady that means your in deep shit, Dick knows I'm really pissed off if I don't speak to him.Just be honest it's much better for you and her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't aimed at anyone individually, but for those suggesting he should have told her from the start, Is it now the case that when we meet a new partner we have to list every sexual activity that we have undertaken in private prior to the new relationship?

Lets face it, we have all done stuff in private that we would not want to discuss. Not because we didn't like it but because the world is a judgmental place.

The OP is, it would seem, a closet bi. I mean know offence by this but he does not date guys. He has not cheated on her. None of us can speculate to whether he would or not. This therefore leaves us with a man who has has sex with another man in the past and not said so from the start. Cut him some slack please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you not read the previous posts before typing out this one?.....

Quadcumquae, as they probably never said in ancient Rome.

Oh Joe!

* Hey Joe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXwMrBb2x1Q

Interesting track

As is this...

Peggy Lee - He's a tramp

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IwR4JewmdWU"

It is indeed....

Can't believe you think I'm a meany

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby


"Get I'm a bisexual tattooed on your forehead. Saves any misunderstandings "
Or skinhead..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

This isn't aimed at anyone individually, but for those suggesting he should have told her from the start, Is it now the case that when we meet a new partner we have to list every sexual activity that we have undertaken in private prior to the new relationship?

Lets face it, we have all done stuff in private that we would not want to discuss. Not because we didn't like it but because the world is a judgmental place.

The OP is, it would seem, a closet bi. I mean know offence by this but he does not date guys. He has not cheated on her. None of us can speculate to whether he would or not. This therefore leaves us with a man who has has sex with another man in the past and not said so from the start. Cut him some slack please. "

I'd want to know if my boyfriend was Bi, especially active (I now know OP is not! all of it is just my preference) Just my opinion. And if it were myself that was Bi I would say so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry this has happened to you OP. But since she has found the pics, perhaps at this point, as others have said, honesty is best? If you haven't cheated on her, then it sounds like you've done the right thing so far. Why mess it up by lying?

Best of luck.

-Courtney

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

He may not have been seeing guys so far whilst he's been with her, but he's openly admitted that he will probably want to at some point, my advice would be to fess up about your past, and see how that goes, then decide if you are going to tell her about wanting more cock, or cheat on her when the urge comes again.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"my new girlfriend found pics on my computer with me with other guys, no face pictures but i have told her its not me, can pictures get onto your computer without you putting them in documents"

If you think you have a future with your girlfriend. I'd fess up and be honest...

Who knows, it might be something that appeals to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are gonna tell her the truth now, and i think you should coz she's pretty much knows you're lying to her and isn't speaking to you because she doesn't wanna hear your lies...then firstly think about why you lied in the first place and explain why you lied. I think that'll be better than just coming out with the fact that you lied, if she knows why you lied then she'll be able to understand you more.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"my new girlfriend found pics on my computer with me with other guys, no face pictures but i have told her its not me, can pictures get onto your computer without you putting them in documents"

What was she doing snooping on your computer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking from experience I would sit her down and tell the truth, my ex wife found out about me being bi after many months of our relationship when i got a message from a male couple I used to play with but not heard from over a year, I'd even removed them from my contact list but the gist of the text was pretty obvious so I had to confess . Although we got through that situation then she did admit that if she had known that when we met she would not have started a relationship with me!! I would point out that we are now split because after many years of not being interested in meeting men the urge came back!!

Therefore you need to explain to your gf the truth about your sexuality as she may feel the same way as my ex, it may bite you on the bum badly in the future if you don't!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a man went through my private property and confronted me with pics I would show him the door. I wouldn't feel the need to defend myself. If I wasn't going to be faithful to someone I wouldn't start a relationship in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be worse you could accidentally send nude pics to a work colleague!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Tell her you like cock and would she like to watch.....

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Did she any other cocks she knew apart from yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did she any other cocks she knew apart from yours"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Poor GF. I'd do her a huge favour and just dump her because you clearly don't give a fuck.

This is a little unfair.

OP is posting in good faith... and you should walk a mile in someone's shoe..."

I agree with her. This relationship is unlikely to lead anywhere so why drag it out. The fact he's on here asking is testament to that!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry..

Gosh, you're rather mean! "

I don't think she is.

Whenever you post on an open forum you should expect differing views. She's giving hers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was me, wouldn't be bothered about the pics, its the fact you are on a swinging site looking for sex whilst dating a woman who thinks she is in a monogamous relationship.

She can look at your internet history, search for a user name or search for images using tineye or Google image search that will be the killer

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"What he did before he met his girlfriend really is none of her business."

I'd agree 100% if he wasn't on here with a view to continue what he'd done before exposing her to potential risks too.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks."

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it."

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to be a man and not an ass and fess up!

Answer all questions she throws at you honestly, then if you think it's worth the attempt to save your relationship reassure her as best you can...

emotional attachment is totally separate from sexual activity if you can convince her as such you may stand a chance...

Its up to her then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're fucked, literally and figuratively !"

So funny it's brilliant - you couldn't make this up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my new girlfriend found pics on my computer with me with other guys, no face pictures but i have told her its not me, can pictures get onto your computer without you putting them in documents"
,,surely you should have realised,, new girlfriend,, first chance she gets will search your computer more thoroughly than the F.B.I.,there's only one way to go and that's your separate ways,, she's suspicious, you've lied,, sounds like a great relationship in the making,,

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my new girlfriend found pics on my computer with me with other guys, no face pictures but i have told her its not me, can pictures get onto your computer without you putting them in documents"

Dump the psycho bitch now , next thing you know she will be following you around

Hasn't she heard of privacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess lots of people on here have been in same situation, bisexual and in straight relationship or wanting to swing and partner does not know"

All my relationships were with me trying to banish my feelings for men from my mind.

I was never happy and I never explored those feelings except for once when I was single and d*unk.

When I came clean and told my partner that I thought I was bi she embraced it. She has helped me explore. Swinging with me. I know I'm very fortunate.

The biggest difference for me is no longer hiding my sexuality. Many of my friends now know. I've not had a bad reaction yet. My mother knows.

I've yet to tell my kids but I will when the time feels right.

She's caught you out. I think the best you can do is be honest. Perhaps not to the point of admitting to cheating on her with guys.

If you come clean and admit that in the past you have had sex with men she will either accept it and you can talk about it or she will simply leave.

If you leave it, or continue to deny it you are unlikely to have a happy outcome. She already knows. If you treat her like a fool she can stay and resent it and not trust you or leave and think you're an arse.

Make today the chance to open up and be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me."

What if you find no evidence and are caught going through someone's private property?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me.

What if you find no evidence and are caught going through someone's private property? "

Single , psycho , bunny boiler, dumped , crazy

Take your pick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess lots of people on here have been in same situation, bisexual and in straight relationship or wanting to swing and partner does not know

All my relationships were with me trying to banish my feelings for men from my mind.

I was never happy and I never explored those feelings except for once when I was single and d*unk.

When I came clean and told my partner that I thought I was bi she embraced it. She has helped me explore. Swinging with me. I know I'm very fortunate.

The biggest difference for me is no longer hiding my sexuality. Many of my friends now know. I've not had a bad reaction yet. My mother knows.

I've yet to tell my kids but I will when the time feels right.

She's caught you out. I think the best you can do is be honest. Perhaps not to the point of admitting to cheating on her with guys.

If you come clean and admit that in the past you have had sex with men she will either accept it and you can talk about it or she will simply leave.

If you leave it, or continue to deny it you are unlikely to have a happy outcome. She already knows. If you treat her like a fool she can stay and resent it and not trust you or leave and think you're an arse.

Make today the chance to open up and be happy. "

Took the words right out of my mouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops. Would you like them back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oops. Would you like them back? "

Please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me.

What if you find no evidence and are caught going through someone's private property? "

That's never happened. People never get suspicious without a reason. Lies make you doubt yourself that's all and you never get the truth from a liar either and have to find it yourself. It's not unreasonable to expect the truth from someone you're investing yourself in and if they won't give it to me to allow me make my own choices then i will find it out for myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oops. Would you like them back?

Please "

I'll email them across to you. Apologies. I just saw them and thought I'd put them out there for all to see as they seemed so fitting for this ongoing conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me.

What if you find no evidence and are caught going through someone's private property?

That's never happened. People never get suspicious without a reason. Lies make you doubt yourself that's all and you never get the truth from a liar either and have to find it yourself. It's not unreasonable to expect the truth from someone you're investing yourself in and if they won't give it to me to allow me make my own choices then i will find it out for myself."

Paranoid people get suspicious without any reason. You still don't have any right to go through people's private property

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me.

What if you find no evidence and are caught going through someone's private property?

That's never happened. People never get suspicious without a reason. Lies make you doubt yourself that's all and you never get the truth from a liar either and have to find it yourself. It's not unreasonable to expect the truth from someone you're investing yourself in and if they won't give it to me to allow me make my own choices then i will find it out for myself.

Paranoid people get suspicious without any reason. You still don't have any right to go through people's private property "

I'm not paranoid. I don't get suspicious without reason. I don't care if i have the right or not, i get the result i wanted and it enables me to stop investing myself in people who don't deserve me or my time.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me."

Who's trying to shame you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me.

Who's trying to shame you?

"

Poor choice of words then and my mistake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me.

What if you find no evidence and are caught going through someone's private property?

That's never happened. People never get suspicious without a reason. Lies make you doubt yourself that's all and you never get the truth from a liar either and have to find it yourself. It's not unreasonable to expect the truth from someone you're investing yourself in and if they won't give it to me to allow me make my own choices then i will find it out for myself.

Paranoid people get suspicious without any reason. You still don't have any right to go through people's private property

I'm not paranoid. I don't get suspicious without reason. I don't care if i have the right or not, i get the result i wanted and it enables me to stop investing myself in people who don't deserve me or my time."

You won't mind when someone does it to you then. As for being paranoid,I was making a point that paranoid people make false accusations and become suspicious over nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To get back to OP how shockable are these pictures other than you having sex with another man? Suggest you fess up otherwise she's going to be thinking the worse and come off fab and any other sites before she checks your history. It will go one of 2 ways dumped or accepted but as others have said you can't change being bisexual however lying to someone doesn't just hurt them but yourself as well.

As for the invasion of privacy she might not have been snooping but found them by accident. Think the invasion of privacy probably is a debate to be had on another thread imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I didn't initially notice you said 'new' girlfriend.

If she's new into you're life then now is surely the ideal time to come clean?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"my new girlfriend found pics on my computer with me with other guys, no face pictures but i have told her its not me, can pictures get onto your computer without you putting them in documents,,surely you should have realised,, new girlfriend,, first chance she gets will search your computer more thoroughly than the F.B.I.,there's only one way to go and that's your separate ways,, she's suspicious, you've lied,, sounds like a great relationship in the making,, "

My other half moved in with me. Not once have I gone through any of his things, would never cross my mind!

Not all of us overstep boundaries, nosey, insecure or paranoid, just so you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me.

What if you find no evidence and are caught going through someone's private property?

That's never happened. People never get suspicious without a reason. Lies make you doubt yourself that's all and you never get the truth from a liar either and have to find it yourself. It's not unreasonable to expect the truth from someone you're investing yourself in and if they won't give it to me to allow me make my own choices then i will find it out for myself.

Paranoid people get suspicious without any reason. You still don't have any right to go through people's private property

I'm not paranoid. I don't get suspicious without reason. I don't care if i have the right or not, i get the result i wanted and it enables me to stop investing myself in people who don't deserve me or my time.

You won't mind when someone does it to you then. As for being paranoid,I was making a point that paranoid people make false accusations and become suspicious over nothing. "

An ex (who cheated on me loads, denied it every time but eventually his mates told me about it and few other people) used to follow me all the time if i went out without him. I didn't even notice he was doing it, my friends used to tell me. Nope i didn't care if he was acting weird, it just added up to more reasons why i should just get rid. His own poor behaviour used to cause him to paranoid. If you're wondering why i didn't just get rid anyway, i was young, very naive, and didn't have much experience of mentally ill people before i met him.

It wouldn't bother me if someone was in my stuff no, what would bother me is they don't trust me because i know liars don't trust other people very easily, probably because they know how easy it is to lie. I'm very open, not easily shamed, and i don't lie to anyone i care about exactly because i care about them and don't wanna mess with their head. I don't actually lie tbh, am a bit weird like that and find social situations uncomfortable because of it and hate to be asked questions that i know will lead to an offensive answer. My best mate helps me out by butting into conversations a fair bit.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"What was she doing looking on your computer in the first place?

Isn't that an invasion of your privacy?

Probably already suspicious. I've done the same when i've been suspicious, started looking for evidence. Every time my suspicions were right. One thing i do know about liars is you have to find out the truth for yourself, they won't give it to you. Then i walk away and leave them to it, i don't need their headfucks.

Something I'd never do: snoop. If I have suspicions I walk away and leave them to it.

Yeah that's up to you. I personally already feel like my heads been messed up when someone lies to me so i seek the truth and i feel better for finding it, it comfirms i wasn't imagining things. I've been in abusive relationships and need to do this. Call it snooping if you want but my need to find the truth overrides any form of trying to shame me.

What if you find no evidence and are caught going through someone's private property?

That's never happened. People never get suspicious without a reason. Lies make you doubt yourself that's all and you never get the truth from a liar either and have to find it yourself. It's not unreasonable to expect the truth from someone you're investing yourself in and if they won't give it to me to allow me make my own choices then i will find it out for myself.

Paranoid people get suspicious without any reason. You still don't have any right to go through people's private property "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would look odd to have no face pics tho on pics as she might think its you and wonder why.

When you go naked with her, she will know as the rest of body pics are there, hope the guy used condoms lol. At least you don't need to tell her you are bi, if it turns out to be you.

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By *lligator3Man
over a year ago

Dundee

Sounds like she knows your lying and is considering her own next step.

You know she'll recognise your ass do ya???...if not the way you were flustered by it will tell her the truth too.

Just need to bite the bullet, tell her what you like (including liking her) an that's you free from it all. Least she'll understand your initial lie an will be able to trust you again...as friends maybe but you never know your luck mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP does your new girlfriend know you're on a swinging site stating - 'bi male looking for filthy fun, i am very filthy minded and up for anything , very submissive and unshockable, i love to please'? Great start to a relationship do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not totally twat like. I do get that it must be difficult with Bi sexuality but fucking behind her back? I think that's just really sad sorry..

Gosh, you're rather mean!

I don't think she is.

Whenever you post on an open forum you should expect differing views. She's giving hers."

Thank you! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"she asked me what are these pictures, I said do not know, and she said its you getting fucked by another guy, I told her not to be silly, I know she does not believe me. Well pictures were in sample music folder"

take it she hasn't seen your arse before then ;o)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I should of been honest right from the start I know but once start seeing somebody I do not want to put her off by telling her i like cock too, tricky situation"

What's her number...I like pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to remember the world we live in, even my 80 year old Nana has an iPad and is entirely computer literate. She won't be daft trust me. If I was you say they're not pics of you...but you find you're getting turned on by watching male porn and saving pics for fantasy wanks... See how she is... Broach it gently and easily and then if she completely overreacts and thinks it's awful then you need to take a step back and rethin why you're with her, who would want to be with someone they couldn't fully be themselves with for life? Rach xx"

Well said rach, just what I was thinking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP does your new girlfriend know you're on a swinging site stating - 'bi male looking for filthy fun, i am very filthy minded and up for anything , very submissive and unshockable, i love to please'? Great start to a relationship do you think? "

To be fair the bloke probably had this profile up before meeting the girl!

Telling a vanilla you like cock is going to be a delicate conversation!

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