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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show them, nothing to hide from them

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

You only really need them to prove youre real or to give people a flavour of the thinngs you like to do.

If you enjoy clubs other club goers will understand why you have that number.

Do what you feel is right and forget what anyone else thinks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you want to do?

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some? "

Its just someones opinion we all have different views you do what you want its your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you can't win lol.

Any single guys without veri's are labelled time wasters or fakes, yet when you get to clubs and mingle you've got too many!

Well at least you're genuine, if people don't like it my advice is move on and ignore them.

Use your profile how YOU want it! 11 veri's in 4 months is not excessive (less than 3 a month especially if you meet at clubs is not extreme at all)

Keep doing what you're doing and did what others think!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some? "

You're profile do what you like with it. Don't know why you'd need to ask.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

You don't have to show them all, you can select which ones you want to show, so perhaps show a select few that confirms you meet in clubs or in private too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am, also shows I am genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show what you want, hide the summary that tells people how many verifications you have.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am, also shows I am genuine.

"

People could say that you are genuine it doesn't necessarily mean that you are...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some? "

Who cares what people think! Iv said it time and time again... Do what makes YOU happy. Fuck everyone else.

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Show what you want, hide the summary that tells people how many verifications you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am, also shows I am genuine.

"

Show them then. I had a look and they're nice veris, i'd be proud to show them tbh.

I don't think you have an excessive amount either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some? "

And you really don't have to explain yourself. I.e "most of them are club meets"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are for proving you are who you say you are, reliable, likeable etc. and not some psychotic bully or worse. Some people rely on them to make up a picture of what they already believe f you. Others couldn't give two hoots about what others think or say about you.

For me it's the safety aspect, they reinforce that others have met you, like you and that you are reasonably sane...

I pick and choose what to display...

a couple of my veri's are a little too graphic for my liking

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

You can just show the verification summary to show that you do meet.

If you're worried the number is too high, hide the summary but display a few (maybe 4 or 5 or whatever number you think is suitable).

It's your profile, do as you please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am, also shows I am genuine.

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Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am, also shows I am genuine.

Show them then. I had a look and they're nice veris, i'd be proud to show them tbh.

I don't think you have an excessive amount either."

Ahh thanks the people I meet at the club I go to are all friendly, and don't expect play every time I go there.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

You are damned if you do and damned if you don't on here, no verifications people think you are fake or a time wasters too many and you are a hussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am"

This is precisely the point. It's your profile and should reflect you, not someone else. Those who don't agree with it are not the people you want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some? "
slut

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are damned if you do and damned if you don't on here, no verifications people think you are fake or a time wasters too many and you are a hussy"

This os exactly what im getting at, I have 11 veris but not all of them are from playing.

I don't want to come across as someone who will fuck anything and everything, I like social meetings too

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"You are damned if you do and damned if you don't on here, no verifications people think you are fake or a time wasters too many and you are a hussy

This os exactly what im getting at, I have 11 veris but not all of them are from playing.

I don't want to come across as someone who will fuck anything and everything, I like social meetings too "

I probably have 3 from meets where I have had sex with them, the rest are from socials etc. The reason I don't show all my veri's is because I like to keep who I have met to myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that those that matter won't mind, and those that mind don't matter x

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some?

Who cares what people think! Iv said it time and time again... Do what makes YOU happy. Fuck everyone else. "

Very important that. Fab rule number one. Fuck what everyone else might think. Do whatever YOU feel is right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sod it, will keep them all on show, nothing to hide from my meetings

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some?

Who cares what people think! Iv said it time and time again... Do what makes YOU happy. Fuck everyone else. "

Why I never understand why people feel they need validation from others, especially strangers on here. We will NEVER please everybody, but we can please ourselves. In doing so you'll find others of similar ilk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think too many was a turn off but now I realise I'd much prefer to know someones genuine.

Show and be proud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that those that matter won't mind, and those that mind don't matter x"
I think if it mattered I wouldn't mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am

This is precisely the point. It's your profile and should reflect you, not someone else. Those who don't agree with it are not the people you want to meet. "

Well said

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You know what is so funny about this thread, you had a go at a new single guy the other day for not using the search function and bringing up repeat threads.

I have absolutley no problem with repeat threads, but don't have a go at someone doing the same as you do and he was a newbie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not quite the same thing, this is a personal question, not something that has been asked a dozen times by me.

As they say, can't please everyone all of the time eh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am

This is precisely the point. It's your profile and should reflect you, not someone else. Those who don't agree with it are not the people you want to meet.

I disagree what are veris for they are meant to make the next person that contemplates meeting you feel safer I really don't see how they do that each and every person has a different view of the next what one likes another doesn't and then theirs the reliability of verifications bearing in mind its easy to open an email and create a profile sorry nothing beats a real social meet in a public place and even then do you really know

Well said "

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

We always show. It's easier for yourself to play yourself up in your profile but when someone leaves a verification they add their view of you. It's hard to describe yourselves so makes sense to use verifications as another reflection of who you are.

Also, nothing to hide and nothing to lose by showing them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we show our verification summary we get the typical vitriolic stuff from the high and mighty ' quality over quantity ' brigade , so we don't show it .

What we do is show a selection of veris which pretty much show who and what we are , and what people may expect from meeting us .

At one point , a few months ago we were quite upset at some of the comments aimed at us , then we realised its our profile and we shouldn't let the haters get us down . We compromised , and we really don't care for those who wish to judge us .

And that sums it up op - find what works best for you and let the haters hate . There will be plenty more that will see you for you and not judge you . And they are the type you will enjoy meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we show our verification summary we get the typical vitriolic stuff from the high and mighty ' quality over quantity ' brigade , so we don't show it .

What we do is show a selection of veris which pretty much show who and what we are , and what people may expect from meeting us .

At one point , a few months ago we were quite upset at some of the comments aimed at us , then we realised its our profile and we shouldn't let the haters get us down . We compromised , and we really don't care for those who wish to judge us .

And that sums it up op - find what works best for you and let the haters hate . There will be plenty more that will see you for you and not judge you . And they are the type you will enjoy meeting "

It's not easy at times I know but really, don't let any anonymous strangers behind a keyboard on an Internet forum upset you!

Let the haters hate and in the meantime enjoy your orgasms and sex with those that do want to meet

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'd ask myself why I cared what other people thought of how I ran my profile.

This is about fun. The only time I'd change my profile was if it wasn't working for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" There will be plenty more that will see you for you and not judge you . And they are the type you will enjoy meeting "

Thank you

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Not quite the same thing, this is a personal question, not something that has been asked a dozen times by me.

As they say, can't please everyone all of the time eh. "

In fairness it has been asked before

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My profile says a lot about me, I may not be to everyone's liking, but I can't change the way I am.

The verifications I have show exactly who I am, nothing to hide and above all im a friendly person, or so im told anyway!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am, also shows I am genuine.

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Keep them displayed then...

You will never please everyone so why bother trying.

We run our profile how we want to, not to please others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I like to show them, it shows what sort of person I am, also shows I am genuine.

Keep them displayed then...

You will never please everyone so why bother trying.

We run our profile how we want to, not to please others. "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd ask myself why I cared what other people thought of how I ran my profile.

This is about fun. The only time I'd change my profile was if it wasn't working for me"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some?

Who cares what people think! Iv said it time and time again... Do what makes YOU happy. Fuck everyone else. "

Literally.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Show a selection some of the time, then all of them at others. The right people won't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To show or not to show?

Reason im asking this, I have been told I have too many for a single male that's only been here for 4 months.

Most of mine are from club meets, so what's the genera opinion here, show them all or hide some? "

Can't win if you show them, cantering if you hide them. Personally I'd show them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't win not cantering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

380 of my veri's have left the site. I keep the other 16,846 veris hidden.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"380 of my veri's have left the site. I keep the other 16,846 veris hidden. "

Pfft! Is that all you have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"380 of my veri's have left the site. I keep the other 16,846 veris hidden.

Pfft! Is that all you have? "

I've been too busy to meet lately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some want you display them to prove your real or some will say you have to many....... Catch 22 I suppose. If someone criticises your profile tell them to do one........ Followed by a colourful insult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"380 of my veri's have left the site. I keep the other 16,846 veris hidden. "

Platinum Membership allows you to list them alphabetically

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