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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not me, don't you dare look at me

My question is thus, why is attention seeking so frowned upon?

Especially where someones not denying it. For example why have a pop in a kiss avoid thread? etc

Are we not here to attract attention from the opposite sex/ same sex/ both sexes (delete as appropriate)....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a difference between subtle suggestive attention seeking and some of the rather cheese threads. Though let's face it none has to read or respond to those threads;we can just ignore them !

I've no idea if they work but I imagine the sympathy one's don't achieve much? "No one contacts me" etc.

Everyone gets noticed if they participate on the forum...its up to you on the type of attention you get.

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners

catch 22...

i can give my usual energetic answer or i can just sit here and nod lol

Energetically whenever you interact someone you give away some of your energy ( this is the reason you feel drained around some people i mentioned before)... so people who go out seeking attention are basically out to suck the energy out of people.

On the other hand we are a social species due to thinking part of ourselves meaning every interaction is a form of exchange... so i guess people who cry about attention seekers, have double standards. then again some people don't mind attention if its positively inclined... good or bad is irrelevant at the end of the day one person wants energy the other gives it or doesn't... and this is why you'll often hear love and hate are the same thing. Trick is knowing how to reclaim said energy and be able to redeploy it in a manner and witht he intent you wish... would hate to get stuck in limbo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some threads such as help with profile though...

to me that's just good marketing..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe...as long as you're thick skinned !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe...as long as you're thick skinned !"

Haha bless em there obviously not x

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I never read those kiss..suck..marry..avoid..punch in the face threads because to me... They are just attention seeking.

9/10 times they are guys who have been here 1 week and put no effort into there profile just wanting a whinge about not getting there leg over.

Harsh but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP, I wasn't paying attention. What was the question

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners


"I never read those kiss..suck..marry..avoid..punch in the face threads because to me... They are just attention seeking.

9/10 times they are guys who have been here 1 week and put no effort into there profile just wanting a whinge about not getting there leg over.

Harsh but true."

kiss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry OP, I wasn't paying attention. What was the question "

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"I never read those kiss..suck..marry..avoid..punch in the face threads because to me... They are just attention seeking.

9/10 times they are guys who have been here 1 week and put no effort into there profile just wanting a whinge about not getting there leg over.

Harsh but true.

kiss "

Haha... I wasnt askingggggg.

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners


"I never read those kiss..suck..marry..avoid..punch in the face threads because to me... They are just attention seeking.

9/10 times they are guys who have been here 1 week and put no effort into there profile just wanting a whinge about not getting there leg over.

Harsh but true.

kiss

Haha... I wasnt askingggggg. "

hehe tough you got one anyway and i caught you smiling... the sun just got a bit brighter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never read those kiss..suck..marry..avoid..punch in the face threads because to me... They are just attention seeking.

9/10 times they are guys who have been here 1 week and put no effort into there profile just wanting a whinge about not getting there leg over.

Harsh but true."

Got to love those. ...everyone trying to time it so there isn't a bloke above ...who's actually had a shag as a result of one of those threads !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a look at me thread. We all have to advertise in one way of another I suppose.

To the OP, I looked...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never read those kiss..suck..marry..avoid..punch in the face threads because to me... They are just attention seeking.

9/10 times they are guys who have been here 1 week and put no effort into there profile just wanting a whinge about not getting there leg over.

Harsh but true.

Got to love those. ...everyone trying to time it so there isn't a bloke above ...who's actually had a shag as a result of one of those threads ! "

I like em I get as many shags as avoids though so makes me smile for 10 seconds

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Not me, don't you dare look at me

My question is thus, why is attention seeking so frowned upon?

Especially where someones not denying it. For example why have a pop in a kiss avoid thread? etc

Are we not here to attract attention from the opposite sex/ same sex/ both sexes (delete as appropriate)...."

[deleted opposite sex/same sex]

I am with you on this; answering on a thread sometimes also falls into 'attention seeking'; so what?

My profile here is to seek attention too; and if that fails, then I am hoping that the photograps will

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with a look at me thread. We all have to advertise in one way of another I suppose.

To the OP, I looked... "

Damn my invisibility cloak fails again... haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 second shag ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not me, don't you dare look at me

My question is thus, why is attention seeking so frowned upon?

Especially where someones not denying it. For example why have a pop in a kiss avoid thread? etc

Are we not here to attract attention from the opposite sex/ same sex/ both sexes (delete as appropriate)....

[deleted opposite sex/same sex]

I am with you on this; answering on a thread sometimes also falls into 'attention seeking'; so what?

My profile here is to seek attention too; and if that fails, then I am hoping that the photograps will "

High five to you! This is what I mean, some just comment and say your seeking attention and nothing else. Well so are they by commenting surely?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not me, don't you dare look at me

My question is thus, why is attention seeking so frowned upon?

Especially where someones not denying it. For example why have a pop in a kiss avoid thread? etc

Are we not here to attract attention from the opposite sex/ same sex/ both sexes (delete as appropriate)...."

We are all seeking attention , that's why we are here. Not just the forumites but with our profiles.

They are an advertisement for who we are and what we are looking for. It's just like those messages in the seeking pages in news papers.

Its always great to get a fab . I know you ladies get far more attention than us chaps . Some of it unwelcome I know.

Its always lovely to feel your pictures or profile are appreciated. Its an ego boost even for those who say it doesn't bother them.

As for our threads yes some are just look at me . You all know them , mostly blokes , "what's wrong with (insert body or profile here)

As humans on a basic lever we all seek approval and attention , it hard wired into us .

As for you OP , I may just have another peek at your profile , lol

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"Not me, don't you dare look at me

My question is thus, why is attention seeking so frowned upon?

Especially where someones not denying it. For example why have a pop in a kiss avoid thread? etc

Are we not here to attract attention from the opposite sex/ same sex/ both sexes (delete as appropriate)....

We are all seeking attention , that's why we are here. Not just the forumites but with our profiles.

They are an advertisement for who we are and what we are looking for. It's just like those messages in the seeking pages in news papers.

Its always great to get a fab . I know you ladies get far more attention than us chaps . Some of it unwelcome I know.

Its always lovely to feel your pictures or profile are appreciated. Its an ego boost even for those who say it doesn't bother them.

As for our threads yes some are just look at me . You all know them , mostly blokes , "what's wrong with (insert body or profile here)

As humans on a basic lever we all seek approval and attention , it hard wired into us .

As for you OP , I may just have another peek at your profile , lol

"

Put that ass away and stop attention seeking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now now taff don't say you need to swat up after all the yabbering we do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry Vara, I'm still per..........I mean researching your imagery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not me, don't you dare look at me

My question is thus, why is attention seeking so frowned upon?

Especially where someones not denying it. For example why have a pop in a kiss avoid thread? etc

Are we not here to attract attention from the opposite sex/ same sex/ both sexes (delete as appropriate)....

[deleted opposite sex/same sex]

I am with you on this; answering on a thread sometimes also falls into 'attention seeking'; so what?

My profile here is to seek attention too; and if that fails, then I am hoping that the photograps will

High five to you! This is what I mean, some just comment and say your seeking attention and nothing else. Well so are they by commenting surely?! "

I think it's hilarious when people do this. They want attention and approval for public scathing of other attention seekers There are quite a few who need to feel superior.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry Vara, I'm still per..........I mean researching your imagery. "

Hahaha research away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at me. Look at me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every thread and post is seeking some kind of attention ....we wouldn't post otherwise would we

(Waves hands ...shakes boobs and smiles)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is all about attention seeking in one way or another. The whole idea of your profile is to attract attention.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I think it's hilarious when people do this. They want attention and approval for public scathing of other attention seekers There are quite a few who need to feel superior."

Yes I've noticed the regular scathers. How high their horses must be! My Betsy is only a Shetland pony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every thread and post is seeking some kind of attention ....we wouldn't post otherwise would we

(Waves hands ...shakes boobs and smiles) "
Not always...sometimes were just engaging in conversation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every thread and post is seeking some kind of attention ....we wouldn't post otherwise would we

(Waves hands ...shakes boobs and smiles) "

Hypnotized by zoya, please all continue without me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every thread and post is seeking some kind of attention ....we wouldn't post otherwise would we

(Waves hands ...shakes boobs and smiles) Not always...sometimes were just engaging in conversation? "

So why have a profile and a pic...just be a statement or a comment then???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every thread and post is seeking some kind of attention ....we wouldn't post otherwise would we

(Waves hands ...shakes boobs and smiles)

Hypnotized by zoya, please all continue without me "

Behave yourself woman and get back to the thread

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Not me, don't you dare look at me

My question is thus, why is attention seeking so frowned upon?

Especially where someones not denying it. For example why have a pop in a kiss avoid thread? etc

Are we not here to attract attention from the opposite sex/ same sex/ both sexes (delete as appropriate)...."

No idea. If someone asks for advice on how to get meets they're told to make themselves stand out from the crowd. If they try to make themselves stand out from the crowd by means of a thread they're called attention seekers. Damned if you do and damned if you don't unless you're a good looking woman or one of the Faberati.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now now taff don't say you need to swat up after all the yabbering we do? "

Chuckle ,, I like to be thorough in my research lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To quote Ron Burgundy... Hey everyone! Come and see how good I look!

Click me click me! Oh meee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the faberati? should I join it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the majority of threads are look at me and i have absolutely no problem with that... if they catch my eye I always look!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think the threads where peopke have to name others they like are a bit cringe worthy at times because some take great offence in not being named...we all attention seek to an extent by our profiles there is nothing wrong with attention seeking if it's done in a positive fashion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not me, don't you dare look at me

My question is thus, why is attention seeking so frowned upon?

Especially where someones not denying it. For example why have a pop in a kiss avoid thread? etc

Are we not here to attract attention from the opposite sex/ same sex/ both sexes (delete as appropriate)....

No idea. If someone asks for advice on how to get meets they're told to make themselves stand out from the crowd. If they try to make themselves stand out from the crowd by means of a thread they're called attention seekers. Damned if you do and damned if you don't unless you're a good looking woman or one of the Faberati. "

Exactly this! OK I'm ready to get hung drawn and quartered for this. Men get such a hard time!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What's the faberati? should I join it ?"

Fab celebs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every thread and post is seeking some kind of attention ....we wouldn't post otherwise would we

(Waves hands ...shakes boobs and smiles)

Hypnotized by zoya, please all continue without me

Behave yourself woman and get back to the thread "

Lol well said , I will do they hypnotic trance thing with Zoya and you can join us later lol , now go look after your. Thread ....giggle mmm Zoya look in to my eyes , not around my eyes in to my eyes lol ha ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every thread and post is seeking some kind of attention ....we wouldn't post otherwise would we

(Waves hands ...shakes boobs and smiles)

Hypnotized by zoya, please all continue without me

Behave yourself woman and get back to the thread "
Can I play with them and answer over your shoulder?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Not me, don't you dare look at me

My question is thus, why is attention seeking so frowned upon?

Especially where someones not denying it. For example why have a pop in a kiss avoid thread? etc

Are we not here to attract attention from the opposite sex/ same sex/ both sexes (delete as appropriate)....

No idea. If someone asks for advice on how to get meets they're told to make themselves stand out from the crowd. If they try to make themselves stand out from the crowd by means of a thread they're called attention seekers. Damned if you do and damned if you don't unless you're a good looking woman or one of the Faberati.

Exactly this! OK I'm ready to get hung drawn and quartered for this. Men get such a hard time!!"

Men do get a hard time on here and it's a shame as there are some really lovely guys on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Men do get a hard time on here and it's a shame as there are some really lovely guys on here "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being dominated and told what to do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love being dominated and told what to do "

Make me a brew bitch

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if people need it, go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love being dominated and told what to do

Make me a brew bitch "

I will when I get up

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Not sure I frown as such. There are different sorts of look at me threads... the nonsense ones I don't mind but when people are doing that whole 'look at my pics, am I attractive' stuff I'm unimpressed. It's too needy for my tastes. I'm all for asking opinions on things but when it's a bit shallow it comes over as desperately fishing for compliments or validation. That's not an attractive trait for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a problem sharing the limelight ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What's the faberati? should I join it ?"

You can't join, you just belong......or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure I frown as such. There are different sorts of look at me threads... the nonsense ones I don't mind but when people are doing that whole 'look at my pics, am I attractive' stuff I'm unimpressed. It's too needy for my tastes. I'm all for asking opinions on things but when it's a bit shallow it comes over as desperately fishing for compliments or validation. That's not an attractive trait for me. "

Would you pass them by though or drop a comment saying its saying attention seeking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Men do get a hard time on here and it's a shame as there are some really lovely guys on here

"
Advertising sells doesn't it lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Because people like to think they are superior and would never do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't every single thread on here seeking attention ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely we are all attention seeking in some shape or form. Some via photos some via their forum posting style.

Threads can go one or two ways depending on who the OP is, how they interact with the comments made & how some of the more opinionated / influential forumites post.....

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Not sure I frown as such. There are different sorts of look at me threads... the nonsense ones I don't mind but when people are doing that whole 'look at my pics, am I attractive' stuff I'm unimpressed. It's too needy for my tastes. I'm all for asking opinions on things but when it's a bit shallow it comes over as desperately fishing for compliments or validation. That's not an attractive trait for me.

Would you pass them by though or drop a comment saying its saying attention seeking?

"

Well I wouldn't be mean but I might insert some sarcasm or cheek. I don't think I'd comment specifically to say 'attention whore alert' although that has a certain appeal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because people like to think they are superior and would never do that?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely we are all attention seeking in some shape or form. Some via photos some via their forum posting style.

Threads can go one or two ways depending on who the OP is, how they interact with the comments made & how some of the more opinionated / influential forumites post....."

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't think anyone posts because they want to be ignored.

The only ones that get on my wick are the trolls that post for attention, but as they say any publicity is better than no publicity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every thread and post is seeking some kind of attention ....we wouldn't post otherwise would we

(Waves hands ...shakes boobs and smiles)

Hypnotized by zoya, please all continue without me

Behave yourself woman and get back to the thread Can I play with them and answer over your shoulder? "

Yes but be gentle im suffering atm

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