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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is it? Is it an actual force? A combination of pheremones and psychology? Or is it just a cultural fiction?

We've all felt it, surely. That overwhelming sexual air that some random person suddenly has over you. As if, unrestrained, you'd both suddenly strip off and fuck right there and then. Why are we wired to find specific people sexy... when others don't... and others unattractive that many would say are sexy? What is this "chemistry"?

Thought it'd make interesting reading to see all your thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly we somehow see a potential mate, or qualities we subconsciously are unaware we find attractive.

Men probably have a predisposed genetic attraction to breasts...maybe we like curvy as it suggests child bearing hips?

But there's someone for everyone and it's not all about that initial lust? After all sometimes we just get horny for a week or two then go calm. We're just who we are !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think firstly it's wanting to fuck someone, then you see someone you like based on looks, then knowing they fancy you back, then it goes from there. There's probably some truth to their scent as well, could be it's the smell of them that makes you look in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think firstly it's wanting to fuck someone, then you see someone you like based on looks, then knowing they fancy you back, then it goes from there. There's probably some truth to their scent as well, could be it's the smell of them that makes you look in the first place?"

Pheromones that we unconsciously detect through smell signal whether someone's immune system is different enough from our own to produce robust and healthy offspring. It's really a very powerful determining factor when choosing a sexual partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a thought provoking question from the op .....

It's probably hormones , pheromones , looks , a flash of leg or breast , or a bulge , or eye contact .

Perhaps a combination of all of the above . But most of all it's likely to be hormones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think firstly it's wanting to fuck someone, then you see someone you like based on looks, then knowing they fancy you back, then it goes from there. There's probably some truth to their scent as well, could be it's the smell of them that makes you look in the first place?

Pheromones that we unconsciously detect through smell signal whether someone's immune system is different enough from our own to produce robust and healthy offspring. It's really a very powerful determining factor when choosing a sexual partner."

So it's thought yeah. We don't actually know for sure.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Animal Magnetism is the seventh studio album by the German hard rock band Scorpions, released on March 31st 1980

*courtesy of the useless information department*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought it was something to do with the anal glands, secreting the fine aroma of fish and chips

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

There's the unknown; the pheromones, the deep-rooted psychology that defines what every individual finds physically attractive, the quick glance that the animal brain tells us makes someone a good genetic specimen, the level of hormones already in our own bodies making us receptive and/or susceptible, the non-verbal communication in eye flashes, mouth movements, hair tucking and so on. Then there's the known factors i.e. he/she has soulful eyes/is quick to smile/shapely fingers/isn't wearing a T shirt with a band I hate on it. It's frankly amazing any of us ever meet via the internet, all factors considered.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's weird because its quite unmental. It's more impulsive... which of course is mental... but it kinda comes from somewhere else in the body. I mean... when you feel physical attraction its not like its obviously a thought... its more like your whole body is glowing with desire. I guess it's like when your mind tells your limbs to move but you're not really aware of all the messages going out to the body... except in this case its almost like a fight or flight reflex compelling your whole body to want to press itself against that other person and entwine with them. It almost takes your conscious mind by surprise and you end up thinking "what the hecks going on? I really need to shag this person" lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm not sure what it is, I do like it when you look at someone and know your going to end up shagging.

I've usually made my mind up in the first few minutes even though it could take far longer to actually get round to doing it

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners

Well energetically it's quite simple...

were all energy, we have our own vibrations, as we know vibrations can superimpose or collide with one another... some people resonate emotionally not mentally...

some physically yet not mentally etc etc...

How much of you resonates with the other person.. this deduces how easy it is just to 'be' around someone.

This is also why people get drained being around people energetically dissimilar to you. It takes effort to 'morph' your bandwidth to fit someone elses.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I call that 'dwang' and I'm not sure I can describe it but by heck you know when it's present.

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners


"Well energetically it's quite simple...

were all energy, we have our own vibrations, as we know vibrations can superimpose or collide with one another... some people resonate emotionally not mentally...

some physically yet not mentally etc etc...

How much of you resonates with the other person.. this deduces how easy it is just to 'be' around someone.

This is also why people get drained being around people energetically dissimilar to you. It takes effort to 'morph' your bandwidth to fit someone elses."

Also this isn't thinking space, you talk about animals, and most have little to no sentience.

We've been taught to think through our upbringing... therefore anything thought-based is biased and filtered by the limits of language and description.

The Animal Magnetism is feeling rather than thought, animals feel, they are perfectly well without thought.

I personally believe thought i sone of the most dangerous things in this reality, procrastination as an example... if you think about everything you are doing... half your life is spent on thinking rather than acting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is also why people get drained being around people energetically dissimilar to you. It takes effort to 'morph' your bandwidth to fit someone elses."

I'm not too sure about the rest of what you said, although I don't disagree.... but you're bang on with this. I'd definitely say there's a connection between people who drain you and people who electrify you... like they're at opposite ends of the spectrum of the same "thing". It's just puzzling what that "thing" is.

Anybody believe that certain things are "meant to be"? It might be that we're feeling the hand of time reaching into us and forcing us to take a left turn or something. There's definitely an aspect of possession or something that goes on when its quite extreme... almost like your body is running away from you. Lol I'm starting to sound like a mad impulsive sex craved wolfman

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners


"This is also why people get drained being around people energetically dissimilar to you. It takes effort to 'morph' your bandwidth to fit someone elses.

I'm not too sure about the rest of what you said, although I don't disagree.... but you're bang on with this. I'd definitely say there's a connection between people who drain you and people who electrify you... like they're at opposite ends of the spectrum of the same "thing". It's just puzzling what that "thing" is.

Anybody believe that certain things are "meant to be"? It might be that we're feeling the hand of time reaching into us and forcing us to take a left turn or something. There's definitely an aspect of possession or something that goes on when its quite extreme... almost like your body is running away from you. Lol I'm starting to sound like a mad impulsive sex craved wolfman "

No not at all, and i would agree.

I would say that everything happens for a reason, we all have a goal.. and as energy, logically deduced that is to acknowledge our highest potentials.

How we reach that goal though is up to us and freedom of choice comes in.

Intuition works with the everything to provide you with the opportunity to experience new things.

The trick is to acknowledge the lessons these experiences hold, rather than becoming overwhelmed by the mental projections, expectations and concepts of duality,. (i.e good and bad)

Everything has the potential to be everything... that goes without saying... so someone saying they are having a bad day, are clearly cught up in one side of a two sided coin. I generally like to illuminate the other side and i find no greater joy than watching someone bypass an obstacle on thier own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is also why people get drained being around people energetically dissimilar to you. It takes effort to 'morph' your bandwidth to fit someone elses.

I'm not too sure about the rest of what you said, although I don't disagree.... but you're bang on with this. I'd definitely say there's a connection between people who drain you and people who electrify you... like they're at opposite ends of the spectrum of the same "thing". It's just puzzling what that "thing" is.

Anybody believe that certain things are "meant to be"? It might be that we're feeling the hand of time reaching into us and forcing us to take a left turn or something. There's definitely an aspect of possession or something that goes on when its quite extreme... almost like your body is running away from you. Lol I'm starting to sound like a mad impulsive sex craved wolfman "

Agree. Possession.. an electric shock. Don't know what it is but it's good.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Well energetically it's quite simple...

were all energy, we have our own vibrations, as we know vibrations can superimpose or collide with one another... some people resonate emotionally not mentally...

some physically yet not mentally etc etc...

How much of you resonates with the other person.. this deduces how easy it is just to 'be' around someone.

This is also why people get drained being around people energetically dissimilar to you. It takes effort to 'morph' your bandwidth to fit someone elses."

This explanation I like

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I am sure it is a lot to do with our hidden instincts etc.

And I think Fab shows that, if we decide about sex based on instict etc., monogamy is not our natural state.

Otherwise you'd only get that feeling in the presence of one person and that would be it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am sure it is a lot to do with our hidden instincts etc.

And I think Fab shows that, if we decide about sex based on instict etc., monogamy is not our natural state.

Otherwise you'd only get that feeling in the presence of one person and that would be it?"

Exactly! well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Pooch has it

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


" Exactly! well put "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Also this isn't thinking space, you talk about animals, and most have little to no sentience.

We've been taught to think through our upbringing... therefore anything thought-based is biased and filtered by the limits of language and description.

The Animal Magnetism is feeling rather than thought, animals feel, they are perfectly well without thought."

What you're calling "thinking" I'd call "conceptualising". It's really hard for us, having learnt language really young, to grasp that thinking can occur without language. My little boy is doing it right now as he grows. He's looking around him wondering all sorts of things about life without the language to express that. At least that's what I feel is going on. That's why, when language comes, it releases a torrent of questions.

As for consciousness, however, I'm of the opinion that most animals have complex inner lives. My dog dreams and it scares itself silly with plastic bags... both of which show there's a place for dog psychiatry lol. Chimpanzees are capable of incredible feats... and Elephants exhibit amazing memories. So I tend to take the whole dumbing down of animals with a pinch of salt.

What I find more interesting are those areas where we project thinking onto supposedly non-thinking stuff and just ignore that we've done that. For example, when we say that our immune system detects a good mating or when our genes seek to replicate themselves... this detecting and seeking are conscious acts. So are our immune systems and DNA conscious? Or are we just using sloppy language when we talk about them? If we reduce it down to its bare bones... at some point we're saying that information is being passed between atoms or some such things. Is this information merely rates of vibration? And if so... how does that message get decoded into something that makes sense somewhere else? I mean... what even is attraction when it comes down to it? Lol late night mental soup from me

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners


"Also this isn't thinking space, you talk about animals, and most have little to no sentience.

We've been taught to think through our upbringing... therefore anything thought-based is biased and filtered by the limits of language and description.

The Animal Magnetism is feeling rather than thought, animals feel, they are perfectly well without thought.

What you're calling "thinking" I'd call "conceptualising". It's really hard for us, having learnt language really young, to grasp that thinking can occur without language. My little boy is doing it right now as he grows. He's looking around him wondering all sorts of things about life without the language to express that. At least that's what I feel is going on. That's why, when language comes, it releases a torrent of questions.

As for consciousness, however, I'm of the opinion that most animals have complex inner lives. My dog dreams and it scares itself silly with plastic bags... both of which show there's a place for dog psychiatry lol. Chimpanzees are capable of incredible feats... and Elephants exhibit amazing memories. So I tend to take the whole dumbing down of animals with a pinch of salt.

What I find more interesting are those areas where we project thinking onto supposedly non-thinking stuff and just ignore that we've done that. For example, when we say that our immune system detects a good mating or when our genes seek to replicate themselves... this detecting and seeking are conscious acts. So are our immune systems and DNA conscious? Or are we just using sloppy language when we talk about them? If we reduce it down to its bare bones... at some point we're saying that information is being passed between atoms or some such things. Is this information merely rates of vibration? And if so... how does that message get decoded into something that makes sense somewhere else? I mean... what even is attraction when it comes down to it? Lol late night mental soup from me "

asking the right questions mate, would chat with you about it but its getting late

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Genetic, psychological and a bit biological.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"What is it? Is it an actual force? A combination of pheremones and psychology? Or is it just a cultural fiction?

We've all felt it, surely. That overwhelming sexual air that some random person suddenly has over you. As if, unrestrained, you'd both suddenly strip off and fuck right there and then. Why are we wired to find specific people sexy... when others don't... and others unattractive that many would say are sexy? What is this "chemistry"?

Thought it'd make interesting reading to see all your thoughts "

You really should give it all up and start an A-Level Psychology course.

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What is it? Is it an actual force? A combination of pheremones and psychology? Or is it just a cultural fiction?

We've all felt it, surely. That overwhelming sexual air that some random person suddenly has over you. As if, unrestrained, you'd both suddenly strip off and fuck right there and then. Why are we wired to find specific people sexy... when others don't... and others unattractive that many would say are sexy? What is this "chemistry"?

Thought it'd make interesting reading to see all your thoughts

You really should give it all up and start an A-Level Psychology course.

lol

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Joe.. if you haven't got anything interesting or productive to add to these kinds of threads and you're going to insist upon following me around merely for the purpose of insulting me I will begin to report your posts. If you disagree with the subject then attack the subject... not the person asking the questions.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Well energetically it's quite simple...

were all energy, we have our own vibrations, as we know vibrations can superimpose or collide with one another... some people resonate emotionally not mentally...

some physically yet not mentally etc etc...

How much of you resonates with the other person.. this deduces how easy it is just to 'be' around someone.

This is also why people get drained being around people energetically dissimilar to you. It takes effort to 'morph' your bandwidth to fit someone elses."

Yup, this is not the phraseology that I would use, but it describes most like how I feel. It's a 'vibe', it just feels right.

It's like a horsemanship phrase - 'When it's right, it weighs nothing'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Pooch has it "

But he's a real fanny magnet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always a thought provoking question from the op .....

It's probably hormones , pheromones , looks , a flash of leg or breast , or a bulge , or eye contact .

Perhaps a combination of all of the above . But most of all it's likely to be hormones "

I think this ^^ kind of sums it up well.

It's funny tho because I can be attracted to people who on paper I wouldn't normally be as they have that certain something / chemistry.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's the brain that's doing it.

OK, genetics underneath and the surface is awash with our physical characteristics.

But it's our brain that's interpreting stuff we're perceiving. Our patterned imprints, our desires, our needs, what drives our behaviour - perhaps based on experiences and also potentially in concert with what and who's in our environment.

It boils down to our brains/minds. Look after them everyone.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It's the brain that's doing it.

OK, genetics underneath and the surface is awash with our physical characteristics.

But it's our brain that's interpreting stuff we're perceiving. Our patterned imprints, our desires, our needs, what drives our behaviour - perhaps based on experiences and also potentially in concert with what and who's in our environment.

It boils down to our brains/minds. Look after them everyone. "

Well I nearly always agree with everything you say, haha, but on this occasion I disagree - I think it can be a spirit thing too, for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's the brain that's doing it.

OK, genetics underneath and the surface is awash with our physical characteristics.

But it's our brain that's interpreting stuff we're perceiving. Our patterned imprints, our desires, our needs, what drives our behaviour - perhaps based on experiences and also potentially in concert with what and who's in our environment.

It boils down to our brains/minds. Look after them everyone. "

I think it's clearly not a conscious logical thing. And most scientific types seem to think its driven by genetic or immune system compatibilities which then bubble up into our subconscious. Put simply... for the whole thing to work we need to have two feeds of information. 1) our bodies need to be telling us what they want 2) we need to be interpreting from others that they fit with what our body wants.

The second feed clearly relies upon a mass of things; the other's smell, shape, manner, sound... but how the hell do we interpret these as adding up to genetic compatibility? I suspect there must be some kind of extrasensory thing going on here... an energetic vibration as some people have talked about.

The first feed is even more bizarre. It would suggest either that our subconsious has an intricate knowledge of our body's make up, not only down to our specific DNA but also summing up systems of things like our immune system. Without this knowledge how would we know what we're looking for. Either that... or these things themselves are sending out messages to our subconsious i.e. our DNA and/or immune system are relaying back "yep she's a hotty" to our subconscious. This implies that DNA and/or our immune system are capable of processing and responding to information.

Obviously all of the above could be rubbish and it could be something entirely different... but it's darn confusing when you follow the current rabbit hole of scientific thought

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