FabSwingers.com forum: Are forums essential for single males?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.

Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Fucking forumites is one small barrel of fish to choose from.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Can't be because most of the guys I talk to are not on the forums, and I've had friends come back on here with a new profile and get good meets arranged within a couple of days.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Why just single guys.

Most of my Lt friends have come from the forums, it gives you a chance to get the gist of someone's personality.

Yesterday I had a total of 13 messages as a direct result of forum threads

7 from one

And two threes.

I've always used sites with forums, but if I chat to someone whose not from the forums it just means I take longer to get to know their personality

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

No. Most of the men I gave met haven't known there is a forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Most of the men I gave met haven't known there is a forum.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't be because most of the guys I talk to are not on the forums, and I've had friends come back on here with a new profile and get good meets arranged within a couple of days."

This. 99.9% of the men I chat to & meet have never been on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

met a few from the forums...as a result of messages and banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I still haven't had sex with a single guy from the forums, even if there are some I'd like to

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no way .

We have met lots of single guys and none have been as the result of the forums .

If you want to while away the hours with messages rather than actual meets , the forums are probably a great way to get to know people .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fucking forumites is one small barrel of fish to choose from."

Shame more people don't use them really.

I wonder why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged women who I've known via the forums but they've never been within 20 miles of me. I can't recall ever seeing a post from any women locally. Most of the messages I get are in reply to my status updates. I just enjoy the banter on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope. I still haven't had sex with a single guy from the forums, even if there are some I'd like to

-Courtney"

Queue inbound!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Fucking forumites is one small barrel of fish to choose from.

Shame more people don't use them really.

I wonder why?"

You're not really wondering are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I still haven't had sex with a single guy from the forums, even if there are some I'd like to

-Courtney

Queue inbound!"

Most men on the forums are simply too far away, in any case. I really should move to Scotland.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fucking forumites is one small barrel of fish to choose from.

Shame more people don't use them really.

I wonder why?

You're not really wondering are you?

No, no I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are forums essential for single males?... simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts"

No. It's because you focus your attention on the forums and the people here.

Others who focus on the chat rooms, or the local clubs, or local people and their status and photo changes will all have their results and responses resulting from their approach.

I would be very surprised if dozens of chat room regulars messaged me. But after a popular thread I chat with you lovely people from the forums.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Fucking forumites is one small barrel of fish to choose from.

Shame more people don't use them really.

I wonder why?

You're not really wondering are you?

No, no I'm not

Phew... I thought for a moment I was going to have to explain the cliques and trolls again.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Fucking forumites is one small barrel of fish to choose from.

Shame more people don't use them really.

I wonder why?"

Loads of reasons.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.

Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?"

Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.

I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

No they are most definately not essential

Hardly any of the guys I know have even heard of them and they're really successful on fab

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.

Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?

Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.

I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there. "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"No they are most definately not essential

Hardly any of the guys I know have even heard of them and they're really successful on fab"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.

Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?

Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.

I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there. "

Probably because that fishy site no longer has a forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends why you join Fab really?

If you joined in under the impression you're likely to be sexually satisfied everytime you get the urge at your beck and call,then you're going to be dissapointed.

However if you joined with a lighthearted approach to simply have fun then you will probably stumble across them and join in....during the half hour a day you get spare,from all that carnal activity you're now signed up to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope,definitely not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had meets before posting in the forums and have never actually met anyone who posts, regularly.

So, no.

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

I would say "Not essential" but people do visit my profile after I've posted something on them. Not that they follow up to message me but I'm out of most people's age range despite their preference showing as 18-99. Dare I add "lol"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

When I first joined fab I didn't use the forums for a year. The guys I met were not in the forums and had no problems meeting women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can count on 3 fingers the number of single males we have met from the forum. So somewhere around 3%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.

Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?

Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.

I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there. "

Does the fishy site have a forum?

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

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Does the fishy site have a forum?"

Suck it and see, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of the single men I have met have been forum users. And I've met a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're a bloke then yes I think forums do definitely help how you come across

I've heard that sometimes when a female just joins FAB she gets messages/attention before she's even clicked the browse/forum button!

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

Essential?...don't think so..with respect, you might just be looking down the wrong end of the telescope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many of the thousands of people on Fab use or look at the forums? I've heard it's a very small percentage. Looking around I've seen plenty of single men with verifications who aren't on the forums. I've met some too. There are very few men,if any,who use the forums that I want to meet,although in the past I did meet a few. They weren't having trouble meeting with non forum users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forums no ... But cam rooms yes ! Made more contacts through camming

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.

Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?

Essential no,... It's just one more avenue for folk to get a view of me and my personality.

I'm on a well known fishy site (never ventured into their forum) and I get as many if not more messages on there.

Probably because that fishy site no longer has a forum."

There you go then not essential.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That's final then.

Question answered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think being on the forum may help some single men to be more successful, in terms of learning how to operate more effectively in the virtual world of Fab and possibly outside of Fab and in real life, as it can be educational. But in terms of meeting others I don't think it is essential at all.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I wouldn't mind trying these Fab forums anyone got a link to them?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I wouldn't mind trying these Fab forums anyone got a link to them?"

Members only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many lurk. . We've received messages that prove it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't mind trying these Fab forums anyone got a link to them?

Members only."

And strictly glitter-free.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I wouldn't mind trying these Fab forums anyone got a link to them?

Members only.

And strictly glitter-free. "

Gary ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Many lurk. . We've received messages that prove it."
I've met lurkers, its amazing how many read and don't post

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I wouldn't mind trying these Fab forums anyone got a link to them?

Members only.

And strictly glitter-free. "

FFS

But I'm Platinum Site Supporter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many lurk. . We've received messages that prove it.I've met lurkers, its amazing how many read and don't post

Isn't it just .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many lurk. . We've received messages that prove it."

That is true. I've had messages from people who have read stuff I've written on the forums but who haven't actually written on the forums themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think being on the forum may help some single men to be more successful, in terms of learning how to operate more effectively in the virtual world of Fab and possibly outside of Fab and in real life, as it can be educational. But in terms of meeting others I don't think it is essential at all. "

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

not essential, worthwhile though imo..

ive met socially quite a few off the forum and will be meeting more in the autumn, i think the forums are a great place for single guys to get known.. and seen.

i got a lot of messages from those not on forums before i stopped them all.

if people want to find me and banter on the forums..this is the only way now, to get themselves into my fort knox inbox.. that and meeting me when im out and about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only met one person off here. Well two button like to forget the disaster that was my first meet lol. As such I'm hardly a good measure. The good meet was via the forum. Most of my interaction, including chat and yes being blocked as come via the forum. Very little interaction from direct messaging. One exception to the case as always. I think it's just another way to get yourself out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and no.

In that order.

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By *CoastFunMan
over a year ago

Southampron

No and No.

I use them to keep me entertained when I'm bored

Never had anything come about due to being active in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I avoid guys that use the forum mostly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I avoid guys that use the forum mostly."

Even that Clem guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I avoid guys that use the forum mostly."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums have certainly raised my profile to a degree! I know only a small percentage use them but my last two meets were generated through contact/flirting on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I avoid guys that use the forum mostly.

Even that Clem guy?

I said mostly

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I've met a couple of guys who use (or used to use) the forums but I've got to know them better through private messaging first. I've also met a few who never use the forums at all who do very well on here.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We tend to meet away from the forums. It's not where we do our hunting.

Use them more for passing some time and having a giggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not essential but I think it can help get you known, it's a another part of the fab tool to use.

And it's the advice dished out quite a lot to single men who are having no luck ~ "join in the forums / chat rooms..."

I must be fairly unique because the majority of my meets have been via the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst it's not the be all and end all of making contact and meeting people, If it wasn't for the forum I doubt I'd be here. I find it a great icebreaker (no pun intended) and at times the banter is enjoyable.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

When I met men alone on my single profile, I never frequented the forums .. and had a fair few meets over four years. I don't think they are necessary at all and certainly do both attract and ward off a certain type of man, which was not then the type I was looking for. Since being part of a couple too, I do post here, and some people have come across our posts and met us because of that ... someone we may not have spoken to at a party or a club, but I certainly dont think it is essential ... there are a couple of people who have promised me a coffee though, hem, hem ....

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

Not bragging or anything.

But in the past 4 months I have met 32 women from the forum.

Not bad going for a single guy.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I'm fairly sure every meet I've ever had was with a forumite.

Trying to get actual interaction out of the blue would have been hard for me, as I come across better on conversation (even within the context of nonsense on here).

That doesn't sell me very well, but as few of the ladies reading it use the forums to identify meets, it won't matter!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Not bragging or anything.

But in the past 4 months I have met 32 women from the forum.

Not bad going for a single guy."

How do you fit that in? That is mad going? Do you do anything else? Not being rude, just wondering where you find the time ...

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"...simply because most of the messages I receive are from people who like my posts, and have often read my profile as a result of seeing one.

Do other guys find on sites without forums, it's almost impossible to initiate contact with others?"

No. Forums are simply just a fun way to while away a bit of time. Nothing more. Sure, they can be a good way to strike up a conversation with people but I don't think the forums have any bearing on actually meeting up with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not bragging or anything.

But in the past 4 months I have met 32 women from the forum.

Not bad going for a single guy."

Was that at 1 social?

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over a year ago

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