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By *ifferent69 OP Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

For us fellas for most the answer would be yes..

But..... Genuinely are there any ladies who can,t do with the, social, wine dine, meet first,small talk etc etc etc ..

But just want to get get to it???

Regardless if met other person before or not??

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"For us fellas for most the answer would be yes..

But..... Genuinely are there any ladies who can,t do with the, social, wine dine, meet first,small talk etc etc etc ..

But just want to get get to it???

Regardless if met other person before or not??

Glad we have you to speak on behalf of men.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It's only recently ive started doing a social meet, used to just meet and shag them that night.

I don't want a bloody candlelit dinner just coffee or a drink.

I really like socials now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm easy, don't mind socials or not. Do prefer when they just come in and fuck me though coz i could've been waiting like 40 mins for them to turn up...that's a long time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

look at the should we have a social threads and you will find loads that dont

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"For us fellas for most the answer would be yes..

But..... Genuinely are there any ladies who can,t do with the, social, wine dine, meet first,small talk etc etc etc ..

But just want to get get to it???

Regardless if met other person before or not??

Now, my turn to speak on behalf of all the 'ladies' here ... I HATE it. I have never done it. It is not a date. I don't like to be bought with wine and dine. I don't dress to impress and met Mr in McDonald's where I was catching up on work as he was late for our first meet. I tell everyone in the vanilla world that we met in Costa though as no one would believe I would ever go into McDonald's. Seriously though, any man who messages offering to wine and dine in exchange for sex I assume thinks I am a needy, delusional bitch.... plus I only meet women one to one, so unless they want to feed my partner too, or wine and dine him ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking a stranger in a 'meet now' scenario I'd never do. Firstly for my own safety and secondly because I don't see the attraction of it, it takes more than that to turn me on.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't insist on a social before things go further, but I do like a pub meet to chat first. More often than not the evening ends up with us in bed, but its a good way to make sure we really get on (or if he's the type to stand me up!)

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I've never met anyone from here without knowing I already want to fuck them. I've got to know them socially beforehand through digital methods before a physical meeting. That doesn't mean I get straight down to it (they may not want to fuck me when we finally meet) but I've never had an official social, just met for a pint or whatever before heading somewhere more private. I did once go to dinner first but that was after two hours of train delays getting to him and we were both starving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fucking a stranger in a 'meet now' scenario I'd never do. Firstly for my own safety and secondly because I don't see the attraction of it, it takes more than that to turn me on. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, one question : why? Are you that scared to be seen with someone you met in the lifestyle? Well,.surprise surprise, most of us are perfectly respectable people who can offer much more than quick relief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward! "

Depends if they pay for the coffee or wine and dine, maybe??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer a social 1st just to make sure the attraction is there and mutual. If a guy can't hold a conversation long enough to have a coffee, then I'm not interested. Don't do the whole dinner date thing tho, not as a social. But do with repeat meets sometimes, if we're spending the whole night there is no need to rush..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward!

Depends if they pay for the coffee or wine and dine, maybe?? "

Haha no - it's not about anyone paying for anything -I just need a bit more these days than a quick fuck from someone I've barely spoken to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward! "

He's also the free prostitute though.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I generally only fuck my friends so I'm happy only to speak for myself and say that having social time works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward!

He's also the free prostitute though.

true .... If it works out that way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I much prefer a social 1st just to make sure the attraction is there and mutual. If a guy can't hold a conversation long enough to have a coffee, then I'm not interested. Don't do the whole dinner date thing tho, not as a social. But do with repeat meets sometimes, if we're spending the whole night there is no need to rush..

I like social meets. Sometimes I like guys enough to meet for coffee but not enough for more intimate times. I also enjoy social meets with men I know I will have fun with later. For me it is part of the fun of the evening and tbh no one has ever complained. Some guys enjoy the build up as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do socials unless the man insisted. If I'm unsure after talking by message I don't want to meet to find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fucking a stranger in a 'meet now' scenario I'd never do. Firstly for my own safety and secondly because I don't see the attraction of it, it takes more than that to turn me on. "

I don't do meet now's or soon. I talk a while before agreeing to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, one question : why? Are you that scared to be seen with someone you met in the lifestyle? Well,.surprise surprise, most of us are perfectly respectable people who can offer much more than quick relief. "

How on earth did you come to that conclusion about the op?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I decide within five minutes of a social if I'm going to meet for sex so I couldn't imagine having to sit through three courses with someone I'm not going to go any further with.

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By *ifferent69 OP Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

"I decide within five minutes of a social if I'm going to meet for sex so I couldn't imagine having to sit through three courses with someone I'm not going to go any further with. "
Fives minutes?? Wow.... Would be regardless if conversation goes downhill after this... You,ve simply made yourmind up.. Oooooohhh i love a assertive woman...

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By *exybum_30Woman
over a year ago

"Fucking a stranger in a 'meet now' scenario I'd never do. Firstly for my own safety and secondly because I don't see the attraction of it, it takes more than that to turn me on. "

I totally agree with u! Im the same

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I decide within five minutes of a social if I'm going to meet for sex so I couldn't imagine having to sit through three courses with someone I'm not going to go any further with. Fives minutes?? Wow.... Would be regardless if conversation goes downhill after this... You,ve simply made yourmind up.. Oooooohhh i love a assertive woman... "

I'm polite, I make small talk over a coffee and then end the social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us fellas for most the answer would be yes..

But..... Genuinely are there any ladies who can,t do with the, social, wine dine, meet first,small talk etc etc etc ..

But just want to get get to it???

Regardless if met other person before or not??

Hell yeah , me !

We swing to have sexual adventures with like minded people , not to do all the other paraphenalia!

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward! "

What nonsense !

I certainly don't feel like a free prostitute , and would see a meet for mutual pleasure as far from being like a free prostitute

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"For us fellas for most the answer would be yes..

But..... Genuinely are there any ladies who can,t do with the, social, wine dine, meet first,small talk etc etc etc ..

But just want to get get to it???

Regardless if met other person before or not??

I don't like fuck and go meets with total strangers, no.

Firstly I need to know a bit about the person, like them, feel comfortable with them and fancy them.

Secondly, fuck and go is too clinical and cold for me, and fundamentally unsatisfying. If I just want a Tab A to fit in my Slot B, I'll use a dildo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us fellas for most the answer would be yes..

But..... Genuinely are there any ladies who can,t do with the, social, wine dine, meet first,small talk etc etc etc ..

But just want to get get to it???

Regardless if met other person before or not??

I don't like fuck and go meets with total strangers, no.

Firstly I need to know a bit about the person, like them, feel comfortable with them and fancy them.

Secondly, fuck and go is too clinical and cold for me, and fundamentally unsatisfying. If I just want a Tab A to fit in my Slot B, I'll use a dildo."

Totally understand that from a single woman's perspective

We both get off on the thrill and adrenaline of new meets , and getting down to it though . Perhaps because the fundamentally satisfying part of sex is something we have together .

There has to be an attraction and a spark with a meet , but not necessarily any more than that for us .

We are just adrenaline junkies using sex as fuel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grrrrrrr. Why does someone who doesn't meet for a social just want to fuck and go? Why are they labelled a free prostitute? Ffs. It really gets my goat the attitude of the social snobs who think that those of us that don't meet for a social will just meet and fuck anyone with no attraction and no connection

How many times have those that insist on a social got it wrong? I very those of us that don't meet for a social are far more choosy and far more careful in our selection process so please stop assuming that we meet for a blind fuck.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Grrrrrrr. Why does someone who doesn't meet for a social just want to fuck and go? Why are they labelled a free prostitute? Ffs. It really gets my goat the attitude of the social snobs who think that those of us that don't meet for a social will just meet and fuck anyone with no attraction and no connection

Thank you."

I feel like i'm getting a free service though but that might just be me.

We don't fuck just anything and have to have an attraction, just is the attraction might be more based on looks than personality.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Thank you."

I don't think there's anything wrong with not having a social but the OP is, as far as I can gather, talking about people who do meet for blind fucks and "just get down to it", which is why people are talking about that in their replies.

It doesn't sound like the OP is much interested in going through any selection process. It sounds to me as though he is looking for women who'll turn up and fuck with no preliminaries at all.

Personally, I don't need flowers, to be bought dinner or drinks but I'm no way going to meet anyone in private if I've not chatted to them for a bit, seen good, clear photos and met them in a public place first.

That's how I do it. I don't care how anyone else chooses to do it.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"For us fellas for most the answer would be yes..

But..... Genuinely are there any ladies who can,t do with the, social, wine dine, meet first,small talk etc etc etc ..

But just want to get get to it???

Regardless if met other person before or not??

I don't like fuck and go meets with total strangers, no.

Firstly I need to know a bit about the person, like them, feel comfortable with them and fancy them.

Secondly, fuck and go is too clinical and cold for me, and fundamentally unsatisfying. If I just want a Tab A to fit in my Slot B, I'll use a dildo.

Totally understand that from a single woman's perspective

We both get off on the thrill and adrenaline of new meets , and getting down to it though . Perhaps because the fundamentally satisfying part of sex is something we have together .

There has to be an attraction and a spark with a meet , but not necessarily any more than that for us .

We are just adrenaline junkies using sex as fuel

I can understand the dynamic could easily be different for couples.

My primary concern is my safety. That puts me off a lot of meets I'd go for otherwise.

I think when casual sex is addition to a relationship, it's always going to be different to when it amounts to your entire sex life.

You can turn up, have a meet, go and feel you used the meet, to some extent.

If I'm not careful it's me that ends up feeling used and that's not a nice way to feel coming out of a meet.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Have been times when I've had a fuck-and-go without a social and these have ALWAYS been terrible.

In a casual situation, I don't want to know your life history, a pint will suffice. But my most important sexual organ is my brain.

Think on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward!

What nonsense !

I certainly don't feel like a free prostitute , and would see a meet for mutual pleasure as far from being like a free prostitute

Just because you don't agree with something it doesn't mean it's nonsense!

Who are you to tell me how I should feel?

You do things your way and I'll do things mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward!

What nonsense !

I certainly don't feel like a free prostitute , and would see a meet for mutual pleasure as far from being like a free prostitute

Just because you don't agree with something it doesn't mean it's nonsense!

Who are you to tell me how I should feel?

You do things your way and I'll do things mine

Do you think you could do your things your way without comparing those that don't do things your way to free prostitutes though?

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By *aughtyMinxLikes YouWoman
over a year ago

Kettering

Club meets are easier, social drink and play if you want to with person, or find someone different. Not a wasted evening then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward!

What nonsense !

I certainly don't feel like a free prostitute , and would see a meet for mutual pleasure as far from being like a free prostitute

Just because you don't agree with something it doesn't mean it's nonsense!

Who are you to tell me how I should feel?

You do things your way and I'll do things mine

Do you think you could do your things your way without comparing those that don't do things your way to free prostitutes though?"

I wasn't comparing anyone - it was about how it made me feel!

I have had meets in the past that have made me feel that way

I didn't mean to cause offense x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't think of anything worse. I HAVE to have a social first only a coffee and that's just to make sure I fancy the guy in the flesh, takes even longer to get round to fucking him. From a single woman's perspective and the safety aspect what's gonna piss a guy off more, meeting someone for 20 minutes or so to have a coffee and then nothing coming from it or him arranging a hotel thinking he's gonna get a fuck then you turn up and decide you don't fancy him, how awkward would that be?

I think people that can just meet and fuck on the day aren't that fussy on who they fuck. People can do all sorts of things with pictures side profile pics of their good angle, soft focus wizardry, nah like you ain't catching me out, I wanna see a face in all it's glory and only the very handsome will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us fellas for most the answer would be yes..

But..... Genuinely are there any ladies who can,t do with the, social, wine dine, meet first,small talk etc etc etc ..

But just want to get get to it???

Regardless if met other person before or not??

I don't like fuck and go meets with total strangers, no.

Firstly I need to know a bit about the person, like them, feel comfortable with them and fancy them.

Secondly, fuck and go is too clinical and cold for me, and fundamentally unsatisfying. If I just want a Tab A to fit in my Slot B, I'll use a dildo.

Totally understand that from a single woman's perspective

We both get off on the thrill and adrenaline of new meets , and getting down to it though . Perhaps because the fundamentally satisfying part of sex is something we have together .

There has to be an attraction and a spark with a meet , but not necessarily any more than that for us .

We are just adrenaline junkies using sex as fuel

I can understand the dynamic could easily be different for couples.

My primary concern is my safety. That puts me off a lot of meets I'd go for otherwise.

I think when casual sex is addition to a relationship, it's always going to be different to when it amounts to your entire sex life.

You can turn up, have a meet, go and feel you used the meet, to some extent.

If I'm not careful it's me that ends up feeling used and that's not a nice way to feel coming out of a meet."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I wasn't comparing anyone - it was about how it made me feel!

I have had meets in the past that have made me feel that way

I didn't mean to cause offense x"

That's fair enough but you didn't specify it was how it made you feel which is why perhaps you got the comment you did. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We need to meet in the flesh to see if there is physical attraction before we invite other people into our sex life.

It is entirely possible we will play on a first meet but we wouldn't feel comfortable with fuck and go. We would at the very least have a chat over coffee. We can both establish pretty quickly if we find someone sexually attractive once we are face to face with them.

Also, pictures can be misleading and text conversation misinterpreted as it lacks tone. Imagine clicking with someone through pics and messaging but when it came to meeting they had a really irritating voice or something you found a complete turn off. It would be much more awkward to reject them if it wasn't agreed as a social/see how it goes meet.

Ultimately though, there is no right or wrong answer. Everyone has their own way of doing things and we completely respect that. If fuck and go is your thing then cool. If not that's cool too. We're all adults after all. Do what's right for you and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't insist on a social before things go further, but I do like a pub meet to chat first. More often than not the evening ends up with us in bed, but its a good way to make sure we really get on (or if he's the type to stand me up!)"

Agree entirely!

It's not about romance - and I always offer to go Dutch as I happen to like good food and wine - but I like going out for drinks/eating out - I can't do instashag (nothing to do with morals - the sex simply isn't as good if you haven't developed a connection/chemistry).

However - that being said I'm here because I adore great sex and I have little free time - so if we both click then yes - we'll have sex - and it's usually bloody marvellous because he feels like a friend by the time we get it on!

Perfick!

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We always meet for a drink and a chat first there as got to be a bit of something there not just a cock

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I think the main thing here is WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT, we all have different preferences.. We ask go about it different and in a way that suits us and our needs

I've done it diff ways...ive gone fucked and left, I've had a hr to several hrs talking then fkd n left. I haven't to my knowledge had an official wine dine social but that's because I don't like that approach, meeting someone in the park or on the seafront for a walk & talk is ok as both can walk away.

I think the OP just wanted a woman's take on the situation. Nothing more

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I like a social first to see if we click. I certainly don't want to be wined and dined, just a quick coffee or whatever is enough for me to know if I want to play with them or not.

I know I'm wierd aren't I? I have to actually fancy someone to want to fuck them

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's not cut and dried for me but i'd never do a 'dinner/dine' thing with someone I didn't know.

I do meet for ONE drink before the final decision.

The best sex has been with those that i've been sure enough of to go straight to the sex.

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By *rs PleasuresWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've done it once when I was single and it was amazing!

We planned him to walk in, fuck and leave. He did.

Ended up seeing each other for sex and friendship for about two years after though .

Would I do it now? No.

I prefer to meet and have a drink and chat to see if there's an attraction first.

Times, people and circumstances change....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without a social it's a bit like being a free prostitute!

I'd rather have a wank then I don't have to deal with feeling awkward!

What nonsense !

I certainly don't feel like a free prostitute , and would see a meet for mutual pleasure as far from being like a free prostitute

Just because you don't agree with something it doesn't mean it's nonsense!

Who are you to tell me how I should feel?

You do things your way and I'll do things mine

Do you think you could do your things your way without comparing those that don't do things your way to free prostitutes though?

I wasn't comparing anyone - it was about how it made me feel!

I have had meets in the past that have made me feel that way

I didn't mean to cause offense x"

Can understand this actually. I've had guys who make me feel like a prostitute just from talking to them.

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