FabSwingers.com forum: 'I'm looking for a REAL man!'

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Real' is not an expression I'd use for either sex *checks profile* but if I did I'd mean doesn't over groom shave their chest, spend too much time in front of a mirror etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coooooooooeeeeeeee,,,, what a man .... what a man ,,,,,,what a might fine man,,,,.....

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

someone i dont have to give instructions,or constant assurance, in order to maintain his world, and, someone that doesn't say 'i don't mind' when asked any question..

and doesnt sulk for three days straight and get mad when i laugh at that kind of behaviour

a sense of self awareness and for me its necessary for him to have a backbone..otherwise im likely to steamroller all over him..and on a constant basis that bores me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one that treats em like shit..usually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a kid so it doesn't apply to me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Someone comfortable in their own skin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"someone i dont have to give instructions,or constant assurance, in order to maintain his world, and, someone that doesn't say 'i don't mind' when asked any question..

and doesnt sulk for three days straight and get mad when i laugh at that kind of behaviour

a sense of self awareness and for me its necessary for him to have a backbone..otherwise im likely to steamroller all over him..and on a constant basis that bores me..

Hell yes to this I like to be put in my place every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think in this context it means "old school". Ie: confident, masculine, assertive, bread-winner, whatever other 1950s stereotype you can think of...

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

One that doesn't require to be blown up?

One with a pulse?

I'd guess a manly man rather than a bit of a wet excuse for a wimpy sort of bloke?

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

"No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?"

Any man that doesn't get mistaken for Frank Spencer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?"

One who doesn't need to ask this type of question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, ~I~ want a man and not a boy who thinks he can

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?"

I'd be rather put out if they messaged me for a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"someone i dont have to give instructions,or constant assurance, in order to maintain his world, and, someone that doesn't say 'i don't mind' when asked any question..

and doesnt sulk for three days straight and get mad when i laugh at that kind of behaviour

a sense of self awareness and for me its necessary for him to have a backbone..otherwise im likely to steamroller all over him..and on a constant basis that bores me..

Order 2 please- and I will share! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"someone i dont have to give instructions,or constant assurance, in order to maintain his world, and, someone that doesn't say 'i don't mind' when asked any question..

and doesnt sulk for three days straight and get mad when i laugh at that kind of behaviour

a sense of self awareness and for me its necessary for him to have a backbone..otherwise im likely to steamroller all over him..and on a constant basis that bores me..

I can't stand women like that drives me up the wall that witj laziness staying in bed all day and not having a job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, ~I~ want a man and not a boy who thinks he can

You spicey girl you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The opposite to a metrosexual male. Dosent go gym and lifts weights, does a proper manual labour job or work. Dosent shave of pamper themselves like a woman just does the nessecary so they don't stink and look presentable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, ~I~ want a man and not a boy who thinks he can

You spicey girl you

I always wanted to be Baby Spice. The fact that I'm a brunette didn't bother me

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Some one who doesn't ask, 'what would you like me to do next?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One who comes home from work expects his dinner on the table, then his wife brings him his pipe and slippers and if she answers back receives a back handed slap. Just like the good old days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some one who doesn't ask, 'what would you like me to do next?'"

Don't you think us guys want someone who is non needy And confident and doesn't need constant instruction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?"

Muscles, a big cock, lots of testosterone (identified by being bald) and intelligence ??

Tee hee, just playing along OP (in all seriousness I'm jesting here, obviously, but I do always enjoy your posts

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

There is no such thing as a 'real man' and the quicker women reliase this they may find a guy who will be what they wanted rather than seeking something that doesn't exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is no such thing as a 'real man' and the quicker women reliase this they may find a guy who will be what they wanted rather than seeking something that doesn't exist

No Men choose the woman we just let you think it's your idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?

One who doesn't need to ask this type of question "

Stop being mean to me (sniff)

"Dosent go gym and lifts weights"

You're saying weightlifting is unmanly...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose my real answer is I dont feel I need to prove my masculinity, I dont follow what many 'real' men follow..I rarely hang out with men either, so those boys nights out arent my thing..

I dont have much bravado either and physically I suppose I dont have the care to change my body shape to the ideal.I'd rather not be looked at to be some sort of protector for my feminine partner, I can vocally take charge of a situation without it being aggressive.

I fucking hate suits/ties too.

I like the type of woman thats like me in ways, androgynous essentially in personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?

One who doesn't need to ask this type of question

Stop being mean to me (sniff)

Dosent go gym and lifts weights

You're saying weightlifting is unmanly...?"

Some weightlifters are positively self-obsessed- not a trait I consider very manly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?

One who doesn't need to ask this type of question

Stop being mean to me (sniff)

Dosent go gym and lifts weights

You're saying weightlifting is unmanly...?"

Nope not saying its un manly... Just metrosexual

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?

Muscles, a big cock, lots of testosterone (identified by being bald) and intelligence ??

I'll have two brace of those please! (there are other, better ways to identify the presence of testosterone)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"someone i dont have to give instructions,or constant assurance, in order to maintain his world, and, someone that doesn't say 'i don't mind' when asked any question..

and doesnt sulk for three days straight and get mad when i laugh at that kind of behaviour

a sense of self awareness and for me its necessary for him to have a backbone..otherwise im likely to steamroller all over him..and on a constant basis that bores me..

Hell yes to this I like to be put in my place every now and then

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No not me, sorry boys...

I've read this on a few womens profiles, I'm curious as to what defines a real man, in a womans view?

One who doesn't need to ask this type of question

Stop being mean to me (sniff)

Dosent go gym and lifts weights

You're saying weightlifting is unmanly...?

Nope not saying its un manly... Just metrosexual"

Men have lifted weights long before metrosexuality was a 'thing'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah not saying anything wrong with weights it's just vanity though isn't it when u could do something that archives more than just your self image

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now the noodle armed pansies start criticising the men with muscles

Better to work out than gamble drink or drugs

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By *olyCheshireCatMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

"There is no such thing as a 'real man' and the quicker women reliase this they may find a guy who will be what they wanted rather than seeking something that doesn't exist

I think, in the 21st century, this is about the size of it. Say your definition of a real man is confidence...men who aren't confident aren't real? They might be lovely! Different strokes for different folks isnit. So work out what you want in a man and ask for that instead e.g. "i'm looking for a confident man"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Integrity, selflessness, humility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now the noodle armed pansies start criticising the men with muscles

Better to work out than gamble drink or drugs

read the entire post then you don't look stupid!

ITs regarding real men and I said real men don't need to work out they are muscley through doing hard work rather than going to the gym just for vanity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Real man : says ouch when you nip.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

When a woman tells you what you should do, think or be.

You ignore them and do what you fucking want.

That's a real man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Integrity, selflessness, humility."

And a cock pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a woman tells you what you should do, think or be.

You ignore them and do what you fucking want.

That's a real man. "

Unless it's yr mum

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Integrity, selflessness, humility."

He's a keeper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm verified, so I'm real

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Now the noodle armed pansies start criticising the men with muscles

Better to work out than gamble drink or drugs

read the entire post then you don't look stupid!

ITs regarding real men and I said real men don't need to work out they are muscley through doing hard work rather than going to the gym just for vanity"

And what about those of us that have manual jobs and also like to go to the gym?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Real Men? I'm guessing perceptions will vary lol...

For me it's a guy who;

* Gives a straight answer to straight question...

* Isn't gutless or cowardly...

* Doesn't lie himself out of a difficult situation...

* Knows when to apologise...

* Prides himself with some integrity...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now the noodle armed pansies start criticising the men with muscles

Better to work out than gamble drink or drugs

read the entire post then you don't look stupid!

ITs regarding real men and I said real men don't need to work out they are muscley through doing hard work rather than going to the gym just for vanity

And what about those of us that have manual jobs and also like to go to the gym?

That's hillarious!!! All you men that don't participate in manual labour but work your ass off in other ways - you aren't real men. Even if you kick ass in the gym to escape from your 'non manual labour' jobs nah...doesn't count!

I haven't read the whole thread so I'm sorry if I missed anything/ misunderstood.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

This changes with every newspaper column and every magazine article. Be secure in yourself and not play up to what people think you should be. That's being "real!"

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Now the noodle armed pansies start criticising the men with muscles

Better to work out than gamble drink or drugs

read the entire post then you don't look stupid!

ITs regarding real men and I said real men don't need to work out they are muscley through doing hard work rather than going to the gym just for vanity

And what about those of us that have manual jobs and also like to go to the gym?

I haven't read the whole thread so I'm sorry if I missed anything/ misunderstood."

Yeah, you really have.

I have a manual job (agriculture: livestock) and I like to go to the gym to unwind.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A real man is the one laying next to me in bed after satisfying my sexual needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He can be a skinny thing with less muscles than me,he's still real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an imaginary man, just a figment of your and my imaginations

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We did get a message a few days ago asking if I wanted to be tucked by a real man. First, I presumed he was talking to me, the Mrs, once that was established, I asked him what the hell was he thinking as my partner is a real man, how dare he? So, he is a man's man, on and off works on a building site, does all the handyman jobs around the house, and generally cares for everyone and everything, and is the most sensitive man I know. I, on the other hand have my own career and do my own thing too. I handle the money and the legal things as I can do the paperwork etc. I think emotionally I am much harder. I think we click because we are both real, but don't fit all of the stereotypes, and, oh yes, what she said about the sexual satisfaction .... don't need no other 'real man' for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Real Men? I'm guessing perceptions will vary lol...

For me it's a guy who;

* Gives a straight answer to straight question...

* Isn't gutless or cowardly...

* Doesn't lie himself out of a difficult situation...

* Knows when to apologise...

* Prides himself with some integrity..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now the noodle armed pansies start criticising the men with muscles

Better to work out than gamble drink or drugs

read the entire post then you don't look stupid!

ITs regarding real men and I said real men don't need to work out they are muscley through doing hard work rather than going to the gym just for vanity

And what about those of us that have manual jobs and also like to go to the gym?

I haven't read the whole thread so I'm sorry if I missed anything/ misunderstood.

Yeah, you really have.

I have a manual job (agriculture: livestock) and I like to go to the gym to unwind....."

Thats exactly what I was getting at. (Sorry sarcasm doesn't come across well here)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone heard of a man wanting a real woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex does quite a manly job he's a fireman, he's also the most metrosexual guy you'd ever meet yet he'd also ride motorX bikes, fix cars, but also preened himself to perfection, waxed his underarms and had his pubes lazered off, had 100's of moisturisers and plucked stray eyebrows, dressed well and spent a lot of time in the gym because his job involved being physically fit and strong.

On paper with his job and all he may be considered a 'real man' but up until the last couple of years he's been a shit father to our child, he's still a prick to me and can't be civil for the benefit of our child so I wouldn't class him as a real man! A real man could seperate his feelings towards me and see the bigger picture.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

A real man is honest and isn't emotionally redundant.

So many boys...so many boys....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think in this context it means "old school". Ie: confident, masculine, assertive, bread-winner, whatever other 1950s stereotype you can think of..."

Just looked up the definition of "real woman" all I saw was a picture of sextravagant...that's a perfect bod!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Real Men? I'm guessing perceptions will vary lol...

For me it's a guy who;

* Gives a straight answer to straight question...

* Isn't gutless or cowardly...

* Doesn't lie himself out of a difficult situation...

* Knows when to apologise...

* Prides himself with some integrity..."

Damn fine list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He can be a skinny thing with less muscles than me,he's still real. "

i still fart better, dont take that away from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He can be a skinny thing with less muscles than me,he's still real.

i still fart better, dont take that away from me

I would never take a fart away from a man

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