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By *ebs OP   Woman
over a year ago

braintree

Why is it all I get is time wasters and men being nasty saying I shouldn't be on here its so not fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't pay attention to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why do they say you shouldn't be on here??

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why is it all I get is time wasters and men being nasty saying I shouldn't be on here its so not fair "

Ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are shits. Have a virtual hug and a little patience, I'm sure it'll happen.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 24/08/15 18:31:22]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause your looking for a longer term partner and not nsa??

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By *ebs OP   Woman
over a year ago

braintree

Cos after a few moments of chatting they say let's me or I want to go to bed with u erm what ever happened to getting to know the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're looking for a relationship, perhaps this isn't the right place for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cos after a few moments of chatting they say let's me or I want to go to bed with u erm what ever happened to getting to know the person "

That's not time wasting or being nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cos after a few moments of chatting they say let's me or I want to go to bed with u erm what ever happened to getting to know the person "

That's just someone wanting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone bothers to read profiles. Id tell them what your looking for as soon as they message and then they can move on.

The site is about swinging would you still be looking to swing when you met the person? If not your probably in the wring place

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By *ebs OP   Woman
over a year ago

braintree

Pof been there done that half of them are on here so doesn't matter where I look lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it all I get is time wasters and men being nasty saying I shouldn't be on here its so not fair "

Some people may think that you'd be better suited to a dating site because you're looking for a long term relationship, but everyone is free to use fab the way they wish.

Just ignore people who try to be negative towards you, use your block button and enjoy yourself. "haters gonna hate!"

sasha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As another poster has said,some guys are shits,saying that,this is a swingers site where expectations of sexual relationships are high,as opposed to maybe a dating site,where developing a relationship is more likely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pof been there done that half of them are on here so doesn't matter where I look lol "

Yes it does. You will not find a relationship easily on here, you're wasting your own time.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I think its okay to want to get to know the person a bit, and to want to find a fb. But people are on here for different things. They are on here for a quick shag and if they don't get won't, they turn it on you. I don't think you should take any notice. Hold out for what you are looking for, but consider other sites for the sub thing ... use your block button and the silly messages will dry up. I did not check your age preferences, but you can use those and your filters - going to clubs on fetish nights might also help you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember your still in a virtual world. Easy to ask directly what you want here, rather than in a pub etc. Just take it with a pinch of salt, never take it it to heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cos after a few moments of chatting they say let's me or I want to go to bed with u erm what ever happened to getting to know the person

That's not time wasting or being nasty "

Exactly this .

It's a swinging site where people look for others to swing with .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cos after a few moments of chatting they say let's me or I want to go to bed with u erm what ever happened to getting to know the person "

If you don't want the same as them it just means you aren't compatible. Neither of you is wrong. Just stop chatting to them and move on.

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

Look at the up side, at least you learn they are shits early on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at the up side, at least you learn they are shits early on"

How are they shits ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at the up side, at least you learn they are shits early on

How are they shits ? "

I was thinking the same thing. Asking to meet isn't exactly unusual either on here or a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at the up side, at least you learn they are shits early on

How are they shits ?

I was thinking the same thing. Asking to meet isn't exactly unusual either on here or a dating site."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

show me who did that to you, I'll bring them in front of Justice !

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark


"Look at the up side, at least you learn they are shits early on

How are they shits ?

I was thinking the same thing. Asking to meet isn't exactly unusual either on here or a dating site."

Sorry guys, wrong word to use. I should of said: Look at the up side, at least you learn they are "time wasters and men being nasty" early on.

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By *lirtyGirl1Woman
over a year ago

Northwest


"Cause your looking for a longer term partner and not nsa??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is a swinging site..its not for relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"show me who did that to you, I'll bring them in front of Justice ! "

my toe is tuck in the bath tap spider man please help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cos after a few moments of chatting they say let's me or I want to go to bed with u erm what ever happened to getting to know the person "

This is a swinging site..

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield


"Why is it all I get is time wasters and men being nasty saying I shouldn't be on here its so not fair "
there small minded dick heads trolls now don't worry about it your awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this is a swinging site..its not for relationships "

There seem to be a lot of people looking for something more on here and although this is predominantly a swingers site, as long as people use the site within the rules and are upfront about what they want, they can use it how they wish. It may not be however, the most suitable site for what the op is looking for. People being nasty and saying she shouldn't be on here isn't really acceptable. Its clear on her profile so they can just move on but as we all know, some on here just have nothing better to do than slate others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this is a swinging site..its not for relationships

There seem to be a lot of people looking for something more on here and although this is predominantly a swingers site, as long as people use the site within the rules and are upfront about what they want, they can use it how they wish. It may not be however, the most suitable site for what the op is looking for. People being nasty and saying she shouldn't be on here isn't really acceptable. Its clear on her profile so they can just move on but as we all know, some on here just have nothing better to do than slate others."

Who said she shouldn't be here? People have said she's in the wrong place for what she wants. There's a difference in sentiment there.

Also, she has posted several times about how she's not finding what she wants, perhaps she really should reconsider why she's here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this is a swinging site..its not for relationships

There seem to be a lot of people looking for something more on here and although this is predominantly a swingers site, as long as people use the site within the rules and are upfront about what they want, they can use it how they wish. It may not be however, the most suitable site for what the op is looking for. People being nasty and saying she shouldn't be on here isn't really acceptable. Its clear on her profile so they can just move on but as we all know, some on here just have nothing better to do than slate others.

Who said she shouldn't be here? People have said she's in the wrong place for what she wants. There's a difference in sentiment there.

Also, she has posted several times about how she's not finding what she wants, perhaps she really should reconsider why she's here. "

The op said in here opening thread people are saying she shouldn't be on here. My post wasn't directed at anyone who has posted on here subsequently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this is a swinging site..its not for relationships

There seem to be a lot of people looking for something more on here and although this is predominantly a swingers site, as long as people use the site within the rules and are upfront about what they want, they can use it how they wish. It may not be however, the most suitable site for what the op is looking for. People being nasty and saying she shouldn't be on here isn't really acceptable. Its clear on her profile so they can just move on but as we all know, some on here just have nothing better to do than slate others.

Who said she shouldn't be here? People have said she's in the wrong place for what she wants. There's a difference in sentiment there.

Also, she has posted several times about how she's not finding what she wants, perhaps she really should reconsider why she's here.

The op said in here opening thread people are saying she shouldn't be on here. My post wasn't directed at anyone who has posted on here subsequently."

Ah sorry, I suspect it's in response to her saying they're nasty for wanting to meet for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this is a swinging site..its not for relationships "

I would say it's not for monogamous relationships.

If people are looking for swinging relationships then here is the best place to look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can use this site anyway you wish to ~ there are plenty of people looking for more than nsa and some find it in Fabs.

OP you need a thick skin to be on here otherwise you'll be easily upset by comments made.

Having sub on your profile may also be the reason you're getting those kind of messages too.

Maybe have a rethink of what you are looking for ~ being a sub or being in a more conventional type relationship and go from there.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"Cos after a few moments of chatting they say let's me or I want to go to bed with u erm what ever happened to getting to know the person

If you don't want the same as them it just means you aren't compatible. Neither of you is wrong. Just stop chatting to them and move on. "

this

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"this is a swinging site..its not for relationships

I would say it's not for monogamous relationships.

If people are looking for swinging relationships then here is the best place to look. "

and again, this

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Presumably this is after you've turned someone down for an instant shag

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