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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. " you could of just pm'd me | |||
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"I'm usually pretty astute at noticing it, for it such a rare occasion when someone does flirt with me or show interest.... Anyone got a violin handy?!" Yes | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. " I real life, apparently not great! My 8 year old niece had to tell me someone was checking me out today, I totally didn't notice, despite talking to him! On here it's easier, they tend to send a message! | |||
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"I'm not very good at spotting the signs at all. Even after a social I've had to ask if they fancied me or not " thought it was just me I'm terrible at it too x | |||
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"We never know until a place & time are suggested, up to that point we don't rely on the hints....." Ah yes, I understand not being sure until you've met but can you tell if they are interested in meeting unless they come out and say it? | |||
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" The brick might still be a bit too subtle. " Lol. This! | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. " I don't know about a brick, think I need a concrete block. | |||
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"It's a wonder some of us manage to sort out any meets at all. I'm glad it's not just me though!" To be fair the opening messages are usually about fucking .before they have seen your face pic. what is that about?? lol | |||
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"I'm not very good at spotting the signs at all. Even after a social I've had to ask if they fancied me or not " You had to ask if someone fancied you or not !!! Flippin Jeesh,and scaramanga! They were obviously not worth the time ! I just saw your pic's and Shawiiiinnngggggg | |||
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock" What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt! | |||
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"I never assume someone wants to play with me even though I know they're flirting with me, they'd have to show or tell me " Also a good point. I tend to miss that they're even flirting though! Sometimes people flirt for the fun of it. I've fallen foul of that one a couple of times by contacting people who've been flirting and them saying oh, sorry, it was just messing around, I wasn't serious | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. " Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers" One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me. Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things. | |||
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt!" No I always assume it;s banter | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers" Even worse, knowing how to say I'm interested without sounding like a total twat | |||
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt! No I always assume it;s banter " *sigh* Yep I understand that. | |||
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt! No I always assume it;s banter " I tend to assume that people are interested in what I have to say, as opposed to fancying me. Of course, it has dawned upon me that I talk absolute shite, so..... | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me. Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things. " Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too | |||
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"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it! " I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint | |||
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt! No I always assume it;s banter " Me too. | |||
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"Nope I'm clueless I don't get it till I'm told outright I usually think someone is just being nice haha" This is me too | |||
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"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it! " Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. | |||
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"Nope I'm clueless I don't get it till I'm told outright I usually think someone is just being nice haha" Same and this and even when they say they like me or they want to go play i look at them or look around like are they taking the piss???? I just don't get any signs even when they tell how fucking dumb!!! | |||
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt!" Did someone mention a kilt?? | |||
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"I'm usless at piucking up on things like that If anyone wants to PM to tell me that they are interested it will almost certainly come as a shock What? You're a hottie. You know the reaction you get with the kilt! Did someone mention a kilt?? " BM, Get yer kilt, you've pulled! | |||
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"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it! Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. " I could still not notice someone being perfectly obvious, or think they were just messing around. | |||
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"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it! Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. " I usually have to say it or I'd never get any sex. | |||
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"Not so much on here because if you get a message it's usually a clue that they're interested. In real life though I'm pretty good at knowing if someone is interested, although I pretend to them that I don't know cos it's nice to hear them say it! Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. I usually have to say it or I'd never get any sex. " I then have to say it again to get follow up sex. | |||
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" I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint " I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning! " Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. " People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know! Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright. | |||
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" I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning! Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know! Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright. " If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. | |||
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"How does anyone ever get to meet people they fancy if everyone's too scared to say anything?" "Shyness is nice, and shyness can stop you, From doing all the things in life you'd like to, So if theres something you'd like to try, Ask me, I won't say no, how could I?" | |||
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"How does anyone ever get to meet people they fancy if everyone's too scared to say anything?" On cards on the table I fancy the pants off you but I bet half the time you don't wear any. | |||
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"How does anyone ever get to meet people they fancy if everyone's too scared to say anything? On cards on the table I fancy the pants off you but I bet half the time you don't wear any. " I so do! | |||
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"How does anyone ever get to meet people they fancy if everyone's too scared to say anything? "Shyness is nice, and shyness can stop you, From doing all the things in life you'd like to, So if theres something you'd like to try, Ask me, I won't say no, how could I?" " I had to Google that song | |||
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"How does anyone ever get to meet people they fancy if everyone's too scared to say anything? On cards on the table I fancy the pants off you but I bet half the time you don't wear any. I so do! " Just had a look at your profile for research purposes in relation to this thread of course and there is a distinct lack of knickers. Not that I'm complaining mind, enjoying the view here. | |||
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" If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. " But I encourage them to talk then I'll mention the time and how late it is and they're all Awww do you have to go, I'll leave and they'll message! | |||
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" I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning! Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know! Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright. If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. " But we all think you're a self-centred dick and you're still here Sorry, I am only joking. I'm just in a troublemaking mood. | |||
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" If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. But I encourage them to talk then I'll mention the time and how late it is and they're all Awww do you have to go, I'll leave and they'll message! " Again, were it me, and you'd mentioned the time, I would assume it was a thinly-veiled hint, say goodnight and never, ever initiate contact with you again. But them, I am the kind of bloke who lives in the woods by himself and spends most of his working life with animals and not people. | |||
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" I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning! Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know! Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright. If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. But we all think you're a self-centred dick and you're still here Sorry, I am only joking. I'm just in a troublemaking mood." I thought this was the place for self-centred dicks? | |||
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" I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning! Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know! Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright. If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. But we all think you're a self-centred dick and you're still here Sorry, I am only joking. I'm just in a troublemaking mood. I thought this was the place for self-centred dicks? " No, we prefer them with a bit of a bend. They hit the right spots better when they're not quite centred. | |||
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" I'd need someone like you to follow me and say to stop being a jackass and take the hint I don't like playing my cards too early so I'd never show the guy that I like him in the beginning! Who says it? Even if I'm massively interested in someone, I'll make it perfectly obvious, without stating it explicitly. I'd die of embarrassment before coming out and saying it. People say it, when I meet someone I fancy I let them talk and I'll ask them subtle questions which makes them talk more, I seem interested in what they say but don't give much away about what I'm thinking. After they leave they probably realise that all they've done is talk about themselves and don't know where they stand and that's when I get the texts, always something along the lines of, really enjoyed seeing you but do you want to see me again? I'll say we could meet again I'll let you know! Fucking always backfires on me though so I wouldn't recommend what I do! I get them so interested in the first month or two then I start liking them and mess things up. Need to work on the bit in the middle cos I fall hard and fast, if I could reign it in a bit till they've caught up with me feelings wise I'd be alright. If that were me; I'd leave, realise that I'd spent all night talking about myself (which I really try to avoid) and never text you, because I'd assume that you thought I was a self-centred dick. But we all think you're a self-centred dick and you're still here Sorry, I am only joking. I'm just in a troublemaking mood. I thought this was the place for self-centred dicks? No, we prefer them with a bit of a bend. They hit the right spots better when they're not quite centred. " Kinky dicks. | |||
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"How strange, I have very sensitive antenna for that kind of thing, I usually know before they have decided themselves lol! " Mind you I'm very cool the other way round in real life, my response is very subtle at first, they have to do all the work! | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me. Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things. Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too" I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy. Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially. | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me. Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things. Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy. Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially." I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me. Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things. Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy. Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially. I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself" Welcome to my world. I'm just an emotional cripple who regularly attempts to phycological destroy themself. | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. " I'm hopeless at Reading signs or signals even on meets I don't make the first move incase I get rejected | |||
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that. But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing." What's your theory? | |||
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that. But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing. What's your theory?" I'm scary. | |||
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"What about if you're on a night out in a bar or club (normal club not swinging club) there's guys there. You get eye contact with them, they approach you, offerto buy drinks or just want to chat. Those are the guys that are interested, those are hints!! " See that is where I will fail as I won't make eye contact with people at clubs lol x | |||
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"What about if you're on a night out in a bar or club (normal club not swinging club) there's guys there. You get eye contact with them, they approach you, offerto buy drinks or just want to chat. Those are the guys that are interested, those are hints!! " God knows! The last time I tried to talkto anyone in a conventional nightclub we went through the whole "shouting at each other from six inches away and still missing what the other has said" rigmarole.. | |||
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that. But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing. What's your theory? I'm scary." Ah right that's my theory for me too. You're not scary. | |||
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that. But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing. What's your theory? I'm scary. Ah right that's my theory for me too. You're not scary. " You're a woman, of course you'd think that. Most men find me terrifying | |||
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that. But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing. What's your theory? I'm scary." I used to think that when I was on as a single. Couples wouldn't talk to me... Guys would approach me x I had to blantantly ask and now I won't ask. Lucky for me Mr is a cheeky chap. | |||
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"What about if you're on a night out in a bar or club (normal club not swinging club) there's guys there. You get eye contact with them, they approach you, offerto buy drinks or just want to chat. Those are the guys that are interested, those are hints!! God knows! The last time I tried to talkto anyone in a conventional nightclub we went through the whole "shouting at each other from six inches away and still missing what the other has said" rigmarole.. " A bar then, a wether spoons where they don't even play music! | |||
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"I usually am the one to make the first move, whether on here, at clubs, or off line. I have a theory about that. But no-one hints to me. Its either 'you, come here and fuck me' or nothing. What's your theory? I'm scary. Ah right that's my theory for me too. You're not scary. You're a woman, of course you'd think that. Most men find me terrifying " I've never understood men being terrified of women lol | |||
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"What about if you're on a night out in a bar or club (normal club not swinging club) there's guys there. You get eye contact with them, they approach you, offerto buy drinks or just want to chat. Those are the guys that are interested, those are hints!! God knows! The last time I tried to talkto anyone in a conventional nightclub we went through the whole "shouting at each other from six inches away and still missing what the other has said" rigmarole.. A bar then, a wether spoons where they don't even play music!" Are you asking me out? | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. " i have given you far too many hints ffs | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me. Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things. Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy. Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially. I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself Welcome to my world. I'm just an emotional cripple who regularly attempts to phycological destroy themself." I'm not only that but I'm doing quite well at physically destroying myself too. | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me. Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things. Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy. Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially. I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself Welcome to my world. I'm just an emotional cripple who regularly attempts to phycologically destroy themself." I think our worlds might be in the same quadrant of the galaxy waspy | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. Same, I've had women near enough swinging from my dick in nightclubs and I just assumed it was fun without sexual content until they got the hump and went elsewhere. The joys of aspergers One does not need Asperger's to be socially inept, trust me. Unless I am an undiagnosed Aspie. Which might explain a few things. Both are equally as likely. I know a few people who are not diagnosed and I don't think would be but they miss the signs too I am also not aspie and am both emotionally rubbish and cripplingly shy. Unfortunatly I don't have a "reason" to explain it with, I'm just s bit shit socially. I don't use it as a reasonreason except in the terms of grounding my sanity because I can guarantee that if I didn't have a grounding, I would psychologically destroy myself Welcome to my world. I'm just an emotional cripple who regularly attempts to phycological destroy themself. I'm not only that but I'm doing quite well at physically destroying myself too." I'm surprised I'm still in one piece to be honest | |||
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"How good are you at picking up on the signs someone is attracted to you, either in day-to-day life or on here? Can you easily tell if someone is angling (but not outright asking) for a meet, or do you need to be hit with a brick with "fancy a fuck?" carved into it? I don't take much in the way of flirting and banter seriously so I need the direct approach. The brick might still be a bit too subtle. " I(Mr) wouldn't have a clue, unless someone spelt it out to me on a wall in five foot high lettering I would be clueless. Not wanting to sound self deprecating but I am, I would be very surprised if someone did come onto me. | |||
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"Believe it or not but I am quite shite as well..... I had a message the other night with 'The Fab Queen' as the subject and I just thought he was being a sarcastic Barsteward lol It seems he is actually interested, and I thought I was the queen of sarcasm in my area " I'm that useless that I wouldn't even be able to think of a title like that. Flirting is not my thing really, my messages probably sound like an angry Secretary has typed them 20 minutes after home time from work lol | |||
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"Believe it or not but I am quite shite as well..... I had a message the other night with 'The Fab Queen' as the subject and I just thought he was being a sarcastic Barsteward lol It seems he is actually interested, and I thought I was the queen of sarcasm in my area I'm that useless that I wouldn't even be able to think of a title like that. Flirting is not my thing really, my messages probably sound like an angry Secretary has typed them 20 minutes after home time from work lol" Don't beat yourself up, some have the gift and others don't, it may have been a great title, but it took him a few messages before he let me know he was interested! So there you go! Not everyone is as confident as they seem to be, so don't give up x | |||
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