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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been in touch with a woman on and off for a while now from here and things all seem good.

I think we both understand what we need.. sort of like a fwb but not as exclusive.

My confusion is we can swap a few flirty texts and pics over a couple of days then nothing for ages? Not even a hello then out of the blue I'm bombarded with messages.

Never asked or brought the question up with her as I don't want to come across as needy.

Is this normal for women to blow hot and cold even when not in a relationship? It normally wouldn't bother me but I just find it strange behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought ....but instead of asking the forums why not ask the lady in question only she really knows the answer. Or point her to the forums and maybe she will answer you on here.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Fuck knows people just confuse me, I can't stand all this hot and cold bollocks or playing games business...anyway why don't you just ask her she maybe able to explain to you but perhaps she is just busy with real life etc..

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Women are strange as are some men. Life experience will tell you so

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The first rule of understanding women (and people) not all of them are the same. The other rules are you will only understand anyone by communicating with them and when it comes to understanding any gender don't believe the stereotypes.

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By *layfull pairingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Understanding women and their odd mood changes.....good luck with that...

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Good luck with that OP, I am a woman and I still don't understand why I do some things!!

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By *avid1Man
over a year ago

Dubai

That is just a fact of life and it is never going to change, we are all individuals and therefore all different, the lady in question may be busy with something else: it could be as simple as that. Something going on in her private life or some sort of crap at work; ex partner or anything in between. Send the lady a massage and ask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Asking a women these sort of questions directly can open a huge can of worms.. playing the chicken and asking a bunch of strangers instead

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Asking a women these sort of questions directly can open a huge can of worms.. playing the chicken and asking a bunch of strangers instead "

You assume that women are all the same it's a common mistake, women make the same mistake about men. Most people are easy to understand you just need to know them as individuals rather than one tangled homogenous mess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Asking a women these sort of questions directly can open a huge can of worms.. playing the chicken and asking a bunch of strangers instead "

Meaning intelligent strangers.. Some good and sensible replies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure she want the same thing tho and have you met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think men are guilty of this just as much. I've been speaking to a potentially FWB for about a month and he's the same. I'm not massively arsed though I'm guessing he's just busy with real life and work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Asking a women these sort of questions directly can open a huge can of worms.. playing the chicken and asking a bunch of strangers instead

You assume that women are all the same it's a common mistake, women make the same mistake about men. Most people are easy to understand you just need to know them as individuals rather than one tangled homogenous mess.

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Yea I suppose I haven't known her that long to really understand her habits yet.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Asking a women these sort of questions directly can open a huge can of worms.. playing the chicken and asking a bunch of strangers instead "

All I know is if I were the lady in question, id be mighty pissed off that you couldn't discuss our circumstances with me and chose to discuss it with a bunch of strangers that don't know me instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you met or had a social?

Has she got veri's?

He might only text when wanking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The first rule of understanding women (and people) not all of them are the same. The other rules are you will only understand anyone by communicating with them and when it comes to understanding any gender don't believe the stereotypes."

Pretty much sums it up for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you sure she want the same thing tho and have you met?"

Yea we've been chatting and meeting on and off for most of this year.. its mostly sexual but with some flirting inbetween.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Perhaps it's time to arrange a meet?

I get fed up with just chatting online to people I haven't met. There's not a lot of point just saying the same stuff over and over and I won't get drawn into sexy chat with someone unless I've met them and know that I fancy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she finds it difficult to text you when her husband/boyfriend/kids or family are about.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Asking a women these sort of questions directly can open a huge can of worms.. playing the chicken and asking a bunch of strangers instead

You assume that women are all the same it's a common mistake, women make the same mistake about men. Most people are easy to understand you just need to know them as individuals rather than one tangled homogenous mess.

Yea I suppose I haven't known her that long to really understand her habits yet."

Hmmm. What is it that makes you think we might have the answers?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Asking a women these sort of questions directly can open a huge can of worms.. playing the chicken and asking a bunch of strangers instead

You assume that women are all the same it's a common mistake, women make the same mistake about men. Most people are easy to understand you just need to know them as individuals rather than one tangled homogenous mess.

Yea I suppose I haven't known her that long to really understand her habits yet.

Hmmm. What is it that makes you think we might have the answers?"

Haven't been in a sort of fwb situation before.. was hoping for some guidelines

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Been in touch with a woman on and off for a while now from here and things all seem good.

I think we both understand what we need.. sort of like a fwb but not as exclusive.

My confusion is we can swap a few flirty texts and pics over a couple of days then nothing for ages? Not even a hello then out of the blue I'm bombarded with messages.

Never asked or brought the question up with her as I don't want to come across as needy.

Is this normal for women to blow hot and cold even when not in a relationship? It normally wouldn't bother me but I just find it strange behaviour "

You say it wouldn't normally bother you implying it happens often. How often does this happen to you ? Why is it bothering you now ?

If everyone says it's normal and she's just like all other women, what will you do ?

If everyone says it's odd and she's a needy nutter, what will you do ?

What do you WANT to do ?

Make your own rules for YOU and stick to them.

Meet her/dont meet her.

If something smells fishy she's a kipper.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Asking a women these sort of questions directly can open a huge can of worms.. playing the chicken and asking a bunch of strangers instead

You assume that women are all the same it's a common mistake, women make the same mistake about men. Most people are easy to understand you just need to know them as individuals rather than one tangled homogenous mess.

Yea I suppose I haven't known her that long to really understand her habits yet.

Hmmm. What is it that makes you think we might have the answers?

Haven't been in a sort of fwb situation before.. was hoping for some guidelines"

The guidelines are your own. There are NO rules in fuck club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First rule of understanding women....don't even try!

Also bit puzzled about your "like fwb but not as exclusive". I have (and have had in the past) fwb... There is nothing exclusive about that kind of relationship imho

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Understanding women ,, think thats a lost cause , they dont understand them selves ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you sure she want the same thing tho and have you met?

Yea we've been chatting and meeting on and off for most of this year.. its mostly sexual but with some flirting inbetween. "
Nice one. Take her for a coffee and pop the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys I meet off here are rarely my priority. That sounds well harsh, but I've got my own set of stuff to sort out, uni, and my work takes up a lot of time. I am very good aT forgetting to text back, as a single woman on here I know how bad being clingy can be. You men are never happy, are you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you sure she want the same thing tho and have you met?

Yea we've been chatting and meeting on and off for most of this year.. its mostly sexual but with some flirting inbetween. Nice one. Take her for a coffee and pop the question. "

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