FabSwingers.com forum: Love Yourself

By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

‘Love and appreciate yourself. You’re all you have.’

Do you ever get the impression we don’t spend enough time loving ourselves and too much time worrying about how others see us or trying to unrealistically mould ourselves into what we think is attractive to others.

I can’t be the only one who despairs at the sight of yet another cock size thread or posts by women who knock how they look. The same old questions and the same tired old statements come up time and time again. ‘Does the size of my penis matter?’ ‘Are my breasts too small?’ ‘Is my bum too big?’ The answer to all those questions is yes to some people and no to other people. And that’s all there is to it. It’s impossible to be everyone’s cup of tea. Some people seem to have a hard to coming to terms with what they are. This is the only body you’re going to get. Enjoy it the best you can. Stop beating yourself up because you don’t look ‘perfect’, because there’s no such thing. We are ALL perfect. Billions of years of evolution went into creating this thing we walk around in. Make the most of it.

I can’t put it much better than these quotes I read…

‘Everybody has a part of her body that she doesn’t like, but I’ve stopped complaining about mine because I don’t want to critique nature’s handiwork…My job is simply to allow the light to shine out of the masterpiece.’

‘Real beauty isn’t about symmetry or weight or makeup; it’s about looking life right in the face and seeing all its magnificence reflected in your own.’

A lot of it seems like a modern age creation to me. I’m sure 500 years ago people weren’t worrying about the size of their breasts or if they were classed as VWE. Probably too busying worrying where the next meal would be coming from for such nonsense. So where does this all come from? Our upbringing? Parents? Peer pressure? The media? What is driving this and how can we put an end to it?

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Two thoughts, initially: first I am not sure every time someone posts something like that here it is because they are worried, I think it can also be to draw attention to themselves. I think swinging can bring someone a bit of confidence and relief from the relentless drive to be perfect as you realise you are fine as you are ... actually one more thing. My partner totally accepts me for who I am, and I do the same for him .... its rare, I think, but great to find someone like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's the nature of the site. There are plenty of people making derogatory comments about others' bodies. I'm not surprised people become concerned about theirs. I'm not,I love myself. I could do with losing a few stones but I don't dwell on it. I haven't lost anyone important to me because I put on weight.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'll tell you where it comes from Howard.

Capitalism. Patriarchy. The owners of production. Industrial Growth and leisure time. Celebrity and the Opium of the People.

That and Channel 5

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll tell you where it comes from Howard.

Capitalism. Patriarchy. The owners of production. Industrial Growth and leisure time. Celebrity and the Opium of the People.

That and Channel 5

Don't forget Closer and Heat magazines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find comfort in loving myself or appreciating how others judge me...... but I do find supporting people who face real life challenges puts most things into perspective......

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I'll tell you where it comes from Howard.

Capitalism. Patriarchy. The owners of production. Industrial Growth and leisure time. Celebrity and the Opium of the People.

That and Channel 5

Channel 5 does have a lot to answer for, that's for sure!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I quite like me, actually.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I don't find comfort in loving myself or appreciating how others judge me...... but I do find supporting people who face real life challenges puts most things into perspective......

Well that's the thing, all this worrying about how you look fades into insignificance when faced with REAL problems and challenges.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I quite like me, actually. "

That's exactly how it should be.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that lots of people want approval from others ALL THE BLOOMIN TIME!! I'm too darn busy looking in the mirror to give it though

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I quite like me, actually. "

Yeah I quite like me too. We all have stuff we don't like but I figure if it bothered me that much I'd do something about my twelve extra chins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I quite like me, actually. "

I quite like you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8aShfolR6w8

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I'll tell you where it comes from Howard.

Capitalism. Patriarchy. The owners of production. Industrial Growth and leisure time. Celebrity and the Opium of the People.

That and Channel 5

Don't forget Closer and Heat magazines."

I note that Chanelle has gained weight. Tut Tut Tut........ course I saw it whilst purchasing a very sophisticated broadsheet. I had to turn my eyes away. After reading it for free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm a kind person & have a good sense of humour so I like that side of me.

I'm not keen on the physical aspects of myself but they are less important than my personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do feel the need to explain to men on here who want to meet me that I'm fat. I say fat and not curvy because it's fat. I'm not saying it as an apology,more as a warning in case they don't find fat women appealing. I think that's fair.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I think I'm a kind person & have a good sense of humour so I like that side of me.

I'm not keen on the physical aspects of myself but they are less important than my personality."

Personality and self confidence are very important. More important than the physical side of things I would say. Though of course physical attraction is important.

There is certainly nothing wrong with how you look Miss Innocent. Make the most of what you've got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do feel the need to explain to men on here who want to meet me that I'm fat. I say fat and not curvy because it's fat. I'm not saying it as an apology,more as a warning in case they don't find fat women appealing. I think that's fair. "

I do exactly the same thing. I'm not putting myself down, I'm being truthful.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I do exactly the same thing. I'm not putting myself down, I'm being truthful."

As long as you ladies are happy with how you look then that's all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pride myself of the fact I'm a lovely person/friend/mother/daughter/sister/lover/FB....

I'm kind hearted, trustworthy, honest, reliable, funny sometimes and caring, and many more... as long as I keep all these I will be happy.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"I quite like me, actually. "

Ditto..

Sounds narcissistic but my male side is deeply in love with my gurl alter-ego..

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I do exactly the same thing. I'm not putting myself down, I'm being truthful."

To.me that is accepting yourself and being comfortable with yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not particularly a fan of myself but getting hung up on comparing your worst qualities with the best of others is a complete waste of the finite time that we're alive.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

If I could go back to my insecure 18 year old self, I'd give her a good shake and say "this is the hottest you'll ever look, get over yourself".

However, despite my fat body today (not putting myself down, truth) I feel sexier and more confident with who I am now. With age comes wisdom, acceptance and confidence. I like me, if others don't, meh.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I pride myself of the fact I'm a lovely person/friend/mother/daughter/sister/lover/FB....

I'm kind hearted, trustworthy, honest, reliable, funny sometimes and caring, and many more... as long as I keep all these I will be happy. "

I don't think I've ever read a truer post. You certainly are funny sometimes!

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I'm not particularly a fan of myself but getting hung up on comparing your worst qualities with the best of others is a complete waste of the finite time that we're alive."

That's the key. Just don't get hung up on these things. It wastes so much precious time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I pride myself of the fact I'm a lovely person/friend/mother/daughter/sister/lover/FB....

I'm kind hearted, trustworthy, honest, reliable, funny sometimes and caring, and many more... as long as I keep all these I will be happy.

I don't think I've ever read a truer post. You certainly are funny sometimes!

I don't see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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So where does this all come from? Our upbringing? Parents? Peer pressure? The media?

What is driving this and how can we put an end to it?

All the above.

It won't end. Just get worse.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

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So where does this all come from? Our upbringing? Parents? Peer pressure? The media?

What is driving this and how can we put an end to it?

All the above.

It won't end. Just get worse. "

As depressing as that sounds, you may sadly be right. I guess all we can do as individuals is educate our children as best we can regarding body issues and the pressures they may feel to look a certain way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is there so much pressure on what we look like rather than what we are like on the inside?

Someone can be very good looking but if they have an ugly personality, their looks soon turn ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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So where does this all come from? Our upbringing? Parents? Peer pressure? The media?

What is driving this and how can we put an end to it?

All the above.

It won't end. Just get worse.

I'm realistic not really depressing. Sorry.

Educate the next generation as much as we can.

Head up chest out big smile.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Why is there so much pressure on what we look like rather than what we are like on the inside?

Someone can be very good looking but if they have an ugly personality, their looks soon turn ugly."

Very true. Sadly as a society we forgot a long time ago what's really important and what is not. In the same way that some people think having lots of money automatically makes you a better class of person or having a certain job makes you something special. I like to think that what is inside is what truly matters. That's where people are truly beautiful or really ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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So where does this all come from? Our upbringing? Parents? Peer pressure? The media?

What is driving this and how can we put an end to it?

All the above.

It won't end. Just get worse.

I feel our efforts would go unnoticed Howi, what with all the magazines and TV programs and all the social media around.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've never been one to care what others think, I dont read magazines, I don't follow the latest fashion, I walk round the house in slobs but take pride when I go out.

I've lost loads of weight and done it for me. However, I'm not saying I don't enjoy the compliments as I do but that's an added bonus.

Now I've been busy and not had time to get my eyebrows done, my friend is coming to stay and I know I will get told off

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

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So where does this all come from? Our upbringing? Parents? Peer pressure? The media?

What is driving this and how can we put an end to it?

All the above.

It won't end. Just get worse.

I feel our efforts would go unnoticed Howi, what with all the magazines and TV programs and all the social media around."

It certainly would be a difficult task. I don't envy any parent trying to bring up a child nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I quite like me, actually.

That's exactly how it should be."

Took me a long time to like myself...big step. Now I am finding that others like me too. I am totally at ease and comfortable in and with myself, and I am happy for the first time in as long as I can remember

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I quite like me, actually.

That's exactly how it should be.

Same here. There's not really much I can add to that. Long may it continue.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Having bipolar, I'm like two people, I'm the happy, confident, loves her own skin when I'm well.

When I'm I'll I'm the opposite but now I shut myself away and noone sees that side of me.

One of my long term friends sent me a message, telling me all the positives about being me, I read it when I start to go down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of people I meet, both from here and in the real world tell me I'm intelligent, funny, gentle, sweet/friendly, deep and even good-looking, and yet I can never seem to find a place I belong, the companionship I crave and the overall acceptance I so long for, and it fills me with frustration, sadness and bitterness.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Having bipolar, I'm like two people, I'm the happy, confident, loves her own skin when I'm well.

When I'm I'll I'm the opposite but now I shut myself away and noone sees that side of me.

One of my long term friends sent me a message, telling me all the positives about being me, I read it when I start to go down.

When you feel down read this: "you're ok"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like myself too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The majority of people I meet, both from here and in the real world tell me I'm intelligent, funny, gentle, sweet/friendly, deep and even good-looking, and yet I can never seem to find a place I belong, the companionship I crave and the overall acceptance I so long for, and it fills me with frustration, sadness and bitterness."

Personally, I think your expectations of what you are looking for or want are far to high.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm alright personally.. I'm also very modest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I think your expectations of what you are looking for or want are far to high. "

I'd have to agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then there's the ones who love themselves wayyyy too much and the walls have to be bulldozed down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I think your expectations of what you are looking for or want are far to high. "

What is it that you think I want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its an age and experience thing.

I do love myself. But in order to do that, I had to get to know myself.

And one one of the things I know is that its human nature to be critical of oneself, to strive for more in terms of perceived perfection.

I think the real trick is to learn to love what you have, only then can you be truly happy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are days when I am a decent person and there are days when I'm a self centred cunt. There are days when I look okay, and days like I've been pulled through a hedge backwards. No one's perfect all the time and I don't expect that of myself - or importantly, of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I think your expectations of what you are looking for or want are far to high.

What is it that you think I want?"

I'm not sure, but I'm sure you won't find her here.

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I think its an age and experience thing.

I do love myself. But in order to do that, I had to get to know myself.

And one one of the things I know is that its human nature to be critical of oneself, to strive for more in terms of perceived perfection.

I think the real trick is to learn to love what you have, only then can you be truly happy x"

That last sentence sums it all up perfectly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello Chums

I used to care a lot about what people thought about me. I used to worry about was I good looking enough did women like me ? whay wanst I meeting any one

I realised I was trying too hard.

I have become really relaxed about myself and how I look. I have a great body. I look after it . ok its not a six pack , but I don't want one .

I am confident in who I am. I like who I am , if some one doesn't then I wont waist time and energy on negative people.

Its easy to say be positive about your self. its a state of mind , and one I think I have achieved.

I like being positive and I hope my posts convey that. I like positive people.

People who knock you or say mean and spiteful things on the whole tend to be insecure. The friend I have made ion the Forums are brilliant we have a laugh at our selves and gentle teasing of each other ..

So guys be positive and positive things happen , and a big hug, tea and cake all-round to my chums x

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Hello Chums

I used to care a lot about what people thought about me. I used to worry about was I good looking enough did women like me ? whay wanst I meeting any one

I realised I was trying too hard.

I have become really relaxed about myself and how I look. I have a great body. I look after it . ok its not a six pack , but I don't want one .

I am confident in who I am. I like who I am , if some one doesn't then I wont waist time and energy on negative people.

Its easy to say be positive about your self. its a state of mind , and one I think I have achieved.

I like being positive and I hope my posts convey that. I like positive people.

So guys be positive and positive things happen , and a big hug, tea and cake all-round to my chums x

Here here! That's it. Be positive. That's my current mantra. I'm only looking for the positive people too. There's some strange people around here for example, who's sole purpose it seems is to bring you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello Chums

I used to care a lot about what people thought about me. I used to worry about was I good looking enough did women like me ? whay wanst I meeting any one

I realised I was trying too hard.

I have become really relaxed about myself and how I look. I have a great body. I look after it . ok its not a six pack , but I don't want one .

I am confident in who I am. I like who I am , if some one doesn't then I wont waist time and energy on negative people.

Its easy to say be positive about your self. its a state of mind , and one I think I have achieved.

I like being positive and I hope my posts convey that. I like positive people.

So guys be positive and positive things happen , and a big hug, tea and cake all-round to my chums x

I will raise my glass..er mug of tea to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

negative people who snip, gripe and cause trouble are just displaying their low self esteem.

Positive fun people will always be popular , surround yourself with them its infectious .

Please Please listen or you tube Carl Sagen The Pale Blue Dot. it puts life into perspective better than any piece of political rhetoric or theological dogma.

and remember you cant love anyone else until you learn to love yourself .

and that's not a massive ego thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"negative people who snip, gripe and cause trouble are just displaying their low self esteem.

Positive fun people will always be popular , surround yourself with them its infectious .

Please Please listen or you tube Carl Sagen The Pale Blue Dot. it puts life into perspective better than any piece of political rhetoric or theological dogma.

and remember you cant love anyone else until you learn to love yourself .

and that's not a massive ego thing

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"negative people who snip, gripe and cause trouble are just displaying their low self esteem.

Positive fun people will always be popular , surround yourself with them its infectious .

Please Please listen or you tube Carl Sagen The Pale Blue Dot. it puts life into perspective better than any piece of political rhetoric or theological dogma.

and remember you cant love anyone else until you learn to love yourself .

and that's not a massive ego thing

I think it was Carl Sagen who said...

'Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside awakes.'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"negative people who snip, gripe and cause trouble are just displaying their low self esteem.

Positive fun people will always be popular , surround yourself with them its infectious .

Please Please listen or you tube Carl Sagen The Pale Blue Dot. it puts life into perspective better than any piece of political rhetoric or theological dogma.

and remember you cant love anyone else until you learn to love yourself .

and that's not a massive ego thing

I think it was Carl Sagen who said...

'Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside awakes.'

he was truly a great man and very eloquent too .

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"negative people who snip, gripe and cause trouble are just displaying their low self esteem.

Positive fun people will always be popular , surround yourself with them its infectious .

Please Please listen or you tube Carl Sagen The Pale Blue Dot. it puts life into perspective better than any piece of political rhetoric or theological dogma.

and remember you cant love anyone else until you learn to love yourself .

and that's not a massive ego thing

I think it was Carl Sagen who said...

'Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside awakes.'

he was truly a great man and very eloquent too . "

Very true. Inspirational stuff.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I appreciate the good bits and have an awareness and acceptance of the bits I consider bad. That goes for personality as well as physical traits. I think that makes me a comfortable realist.

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By *atcherofmyballsMan
over a year ago

hereford

George Benson learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I spent a lot of years believing that I was unlovable because that was what I was told. I forgot to appreciate the love people were giving me as I couldn't trust it to be real.

A lot of time, one hell of a lot of money in therapy, getting older and relaxing my expectations of others and myself has helped. Sometimes I slip and feel unworthy to be alive but it's a blip and not a life sentence now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having bipolar, I'm like two people, I'm the happy, confident, loves her own skin when I'm well.

When I'm I'll I'm the opposite but now I shut myself away and noone sees that side of me.

One of my long term friends sent me a message, telling me all the positives about being me, I read it when I start to go down.

When you're up, write your own list. Might help also having it in your own words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I leArned to love myself during my thirties. There are things I do that on reflection, I don't like, but when I realise I try to rectify most of them. I'm flawed but I'm happy with my imperfection

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"negative people who snip, gripe and cause trouble are just displaying their low self esteem.

Positive fun people will always be popular , surround yourself with them its infectious .

Please Please listen or you tube Carl Sagen The Pale Blue Dot. it puts life into perspective better than any piece of political rhetoric or theological dogma.

and remember you cant love anyone else until you learn to love yourself .

and that's not a massive ego thing

I think it was Carl Sagen who said...

'Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside awakes.'

Excellent quote. Narcissism is repugnant to me, but somewhere along the line I have managed to develop an awareness of my own value - I know my intrinsic worth.

That protects me from needing to seek to have it affirmed by others I think, and I am grateful for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far from crapping all over your post, I actually love it.

Sometimes we see something at exactly the right time.

I'm feeling chubby and loathing my body, right now. So this has made me feel a little lighter.

(Metaphorically speaking, of course! I'm still thirteen stone

Thank you.

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While it's true that those who love themselves and have a lovely personality are much nicer people , it's also just as true that fit people who are the stereotypical gorgeous looking , can also have great personalities too .

And we would rather fuck the fit ones with a great personality as first choice .

Secondly the fit ones with a crap personality .

And the ones in love with themselves but a bit minging if none of the above are available

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"While it's true that those who love themselves and have a lovely personality are much nicer people , it's also just as true that fit people who are the stereotypical gorgeous looking , can also have great personalities too .

And we would rather fuck the fit ones with a great personality as first choice .

Secondly the fit ones with a crap personality .

And the ones in love with themselves but a bit minging if none of the above are available

exactly how I feel

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Far from crapping all over your post, I actually love it.

Sometimes we see something at exactly the right time.

I'm feeling chubby and loathing my body, right now. So this has made me feel a little lighter.

(Metaphorically speaking, of course! I'm still thirteen stone

Thank you.

Xxxx"

Thank you. I'm glad you've taken something positive from this thread. That was my idea when I started it, to try and help people think a little bit more positively about themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I think your expectations of what you are looking for or want are far to high.

What is it that you think I want?

I'm not sure, but I'm sure you won't find her here."

If you're not sure then how can you claim my standards are too high? I know what I want and I won't settle for less, I don't see that as having excessively high standards, but simply being true to myself.

I'm not looking for love here, this is simply to help fill the time in between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love myself because nobody else ever has

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did a thread like this ages ago, keep up

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By *oward1978 OP Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I did a thread like this ages ago, keep up

Maybe 'like' this thread but almost certainly not as good as this one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did a thread like this ages ago, keep up

Maybe 'like' this thread but almost certainly not as good as this one!

Play nice children or I will take your sweeties from you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did a thread like this ages ago, keep up

Maybe 'like' this thread but almost certainly not as good as this one!

Pfft like a million times better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"negative people who snip, gripe and cause trouble are just displaying their low self esteem.

Positive fun people will always be popular , surround yourself with them its infectious .

Please Please listen or you tube Carl Sagen The Pale Blue Dot. it puts life into perspective better than any piece of political rhetoric or theological dogma.

and remember you cant love anyone else until you learn to love yourself .

and that's not a massive ego thing

I've just watched that, didn't do anything for me other than want him to hurry up and get to the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"negative people who snip, gripe and cause trouble are just displaying their low self esteem.

Positive fun people will always be popular , surround yourself with them its infectious .

Please Please listen or you tube Carl Sagen The Pale Blue Dot. it puts life into perspective better than any piece of political rhetoric or theological dogma.

and remember you cant love anyone else until you learn to love yourself .

and that's not a massive ego thing

I've just watched that, didn't do anything for me other than want him to hurry up and get to the point"

What was the point ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"negative people who snip, gripe and cause trouble are just displaying their low self esteem.

Positive fun people will always be popular , surround yourself with them its infectious .

Please Please listen or you tube Carl Sagen The Pale Blue Dot. it puts life into perspective better than any piece of political rhetoric or theological dogma.

and remember you cant love anyone else until you learn to love yourself .

and that's not a massive ego thing

I've just watched that, didn't do anything for me other than want him to hurry up and get to the point

What was the point ? "

No idea other than earth is the only planet with life on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are very good at talking negatively to themselves and your subconscious takes everything as an instruction. so tell yourself your clumsy and your subconscious will make you do clumsy things. hope that make sense.

I taught confidence courses for years but have only truly felt it since I started liking myself and being more selfish

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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The more people accept and love themselves as they are, there will become a growing awareness of this as the norm. It becomes infectious,as we can't help but be influenced by those around us.

Many of us will know the calm that you find, when with others who have an inner peace and personal balance - where they're fully accepting of themselves. It rests us too. I can be messy but I love finding my inner connection and peace, when im fine with myself as I am.

Ihope more of us develop our self love, it will be great to experience more of this.

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