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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I the only one who gets a tad bit insecure when you message a woman explaining she's beautiful in every single way but then reads and just deletes??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No lol, just move to the next profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just keep at it her loss someone elses gain

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By *ature studentsCouple
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth Dorset.

Popcorn anyone??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HAppens all the time feel like I've two heads

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Am I the only one who gets a tad bit insecure when you message a woman explaining she's beautiful in every single way but then reads and just deletes?? "

Don't take it personally. There could be many reasons for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my female fuck buddy gets around a 100 messages a week on here and rarely uses the site so when she does sadly does a blank delete

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What I don't get is - on most profiles it says treat with respect but - a simple no thank you would do - rather than a no response it just makes you think what is it about me that got it deleted... Paranoia tends to kick in and respect goes both ways...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have to understand some females get too many messages and cannot reply to all of them

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

They possibly don't want to know what you are doing whilst you are taking a dump

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just accept they deleted by error and move onto the next one

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Because like plenty of the other women on here and I suspect many of the couples too, no thank you then results in

'Why' so you tell em why then you get

'Well you ain't all that anyway' or worse

Or 'well I can change x y z'

Or else in response to no thank you, you get abuse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because like plenty of the other women on here and I suspect many of the couples too, no thank you then results in

'Why' so you tell em why then you get

'Well you ain't all that anyway' or worse

Or 'well I can change x y z'

Or else in response to no thank you, you get abuse! "

that does happen a just delete mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can understand that... I have been lucky to get a few responses saying "no thank you" and I tell you what - its brought some relief

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If you expect a reply from everyone you message, you are only ever going to be disappointed.

There are lots of reasons for someone not replying.

You can accept it and move on, or you can get upset but the end result, either way, is that it won't change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all part of the fun .....best to just type message, send it then delete ..... No fun looking at your sent mail box to find out if it's been read or not x some of the women and couples on here would need a p.a to answer every single message xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmm I hear what you guys are saying... But then the novelty of sending a essay for a first message as "one liners won't do" starts to wear off - you can't win

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Well, some guy messaged me that I was beautiful, so I replied, how could you know? Look at my picture, it shows hardly anything of me ... he replied he could tell because of my knee ...of course, it works every time, and we hear it again and again. My knee is beautiful though ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

face facts.. you cant knock a coconut down every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, some guy messaged me that I was beautiful, so I replied, how could you know? Look at my picture, it shows hardly anything of me ... he replied he could tell because of my knee ...of course, it works every time, and we hear it again and again. My knee is beautiful though ...."

^^ this. Blowing smoke up intelligent women's asses doesn't work.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Hmm I hear what you guys are saying... But then the novelty of sending a essay for a first message as "one liners won't do" starts to wear off - you can't win"

Not every time, no, you can't.

There is middle ground between an essay and a one liner though.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I just delete any message which telling me I'm beautiful.

I have no face pics in public so it tells me that the bloke is full of bull or thinks I'm a bloody idiot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just delete any message which telling me I'm beautiful.

I have no face pics in public so it tells me that the bloke is full of bull or thinks I'm a bloody idiot."
your beautiful i just know you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Beauty is not just within the face...

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

OP, how do you know they read it before they deleted it?

If it's because you spend too much time refreshing your sent messages page, then I have a potential solution for you...

If not, you're making an assumption. They may check your profile first and then delete unread, they may mass delete all the One liners that came in after and your message goes with them, or they may just be too busy to cater to the fragile ego of a complete stranger that they never intend to meet.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"Am I the only one who gets a tad bit insecure when you message a woman explaining she's beautiful in every single way but then reads and just deletes?? "

just see it as part of the course and move on, count it as a bonus when you get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete all your sent mail as soon as you've sent it then you won't know what the recipient has done to it. You'll either get a reply or you won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What bothers you the most OP, genuinely feeling upset that they haven't replied, or annoyance that you've told them.they are beautiful, best looking woman on the site etc and they have still ignored your attempts of flattery.

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By *ice rideMan
over a year ago

solihull


"What bothers you the most OP, genuinely feeling upset that they haven't replied, or annoyance that you've told them.they are beautiful, best looking woman on the site etc and they have still ignored your attempts of flattery. "

And your pictures are so good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading messages I always delete them, I just don't like clutter and an inbox with a lot of read messages just feels like clutter to me.

Never thought people would be upset about this I try to answer all mail, maybe the odd one slips through the net but can't imagine how full inbox and outbox would be if I had kept every message

Sometimes things are done for a reason and it is reasonable just not something you would do or something you would think of.

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i laugh how in threads some start one with genuine concerns then try and hit on replies with compliments whilst casting others aside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only last night I sent a "thanks but you're not for me" message only for the guy to then bombard me with messages until I threatened to report him. So from now I'll just delete and block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the worst is when you politely say no thanks and they reply with why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get is - on most profiles it says treat with respect but - a simple no thank you would do - rather than a no response it just makes you think what is it about me that got it deleted... Paranoia tends to kick in and respect goes both ways..."

You know how you get junk mail through the post? Unsolicited phone calls? Email?

Same thing. Just because its sent doesn't give a right to a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get is - on most profiles it says treat with respect but - a simple no thank you would do - rather than a no response it just makes you think what is it about me that got it deleted... Paranoia tends to kick in and respect goes both ways...

You know how you get junk mail through the post? Unsolicited phone calls? Email?

Same thing. Just because its sent doesn't give a right to a reply."

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"Beauty is not just within the face... "

I told you, its my knees ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am lucky I get very nice messages and always reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am lucky I get very nice messages and always reply "
after that contribution a think it will change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

beautiful in every way - you mean her profile sounds lovely and she has good pics ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Groundhog Day.

Why would it bother you, you're obv not what she's looking for so move on.

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

I never worry if a woman deletes a message where I've commented her as I assume I wasn't for her. But it doesn't change the fact I might think she's beautiful or enjoyed her profile text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the worst is when you politely say no thanks and they reply with why?"

Lol no, the worst is

"well you're a fat ugly slag and your cunt is probably riddled so I wouldn't touch you anyway"

To which I replied Thank you ive changed my mind please let's meet in an hour you sweet talking bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the worst is when you politely say no thanks and they reply with why?

Lol no, the worst is

"well you're a fat ugly slag and your cunt is probably riddled so I wouldn't touch you anyway"

To which I replied Thank you ive changed my mind please let's meet in an hour you sweet talking bastard

"

That's brilliant

Did they reply to that? I want to know what they said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 14/08/15 08:31:16]"

some like being called names and get off on it

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Am I the only one who gets a tad bit insecure when you message a woman explaining she's beautiful in every single way but then reads and just deletes?? "

I find when that happens to me.. telling myself it's because I was out of their league helps.

Feel free to use this .. You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to reply to every single message politely.

But the endless 'why?' messages, arguing and begging make it uncomfortable for both parties.

I still try to answer as many as possible, but don't get drawn into the resultant wheedling and subsequent upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the worst is when you politely say no thanks and they reply with why?

Lol no, the worst is

"well you're a fat ugly slag and your cunt is probably riddled so I wouldn't touch you anyway"

To which I replied Thank you ive changed my mind please let's meet in an hour you sweet talking bastard

That's brilliant

Did they reply to that? I want to know what they said!

"

Didn't give him chance and blocked him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantastic reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the worst is when you politely say no thanks and they reply with why?

Lol no, the worst is

"well you're a fat ugly slag and your cunt is probably riddled so I wouldn't touch you anyway"

To which I replied Thank you ive changed my mind please let's meet in an hour you sweet talking bastard

That's brilliant

Did they reply to that? I want to know what they said!

Didn't give him chance and blocked him "

Spoilsport!

But it was probably for the best you did

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"the worst is when you politely say no thanks and they reply with why?"

Pha, the last time I politely said someone wasn't my type, a rather stocky gent said Neitzsche wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire and judging from the guys in my veris I obviously had crap taste anyway!!

Back to deleting without a word...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"beautiful in every way - you mean her profile sounds lovely and she has good pics ? "

Yup, just like you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who gets a tad bit insecure when you message a woman explaining she's beautiful in every single way but then reads and just deletes??

I find when that happens to me.. telling myself it's because I was out of their league helps.

Feel free to use this .. You're welcome. "
. - I like this

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