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Funny how our opinions change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Last time I was properly on her as prettytiedup and I was the married cheating wife I wouldn't be bothered about meeting and playing with other married men

But now im a single woman i wouldn't touch a married or attached man with a barge pole without out speaking to the wife first

Funny how our opinions change x

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

What was it that changed your opinion?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Leaving my husband n now being a more settled person in my own skin n life i guess now I just don't want the grief that goes with cheating x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how will you ever know hes single on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last time I was properly on her as prettytiedup and I was the married cheating wife I wouldn't be bothered about meeting and playing with other married men

But now im a single woman i wouldn't touch a married or attached man with a barge pole without out speaking to the wife first

Funny how our opinions change x "

This is actually really interesting. Do you think you would ever cheat on someone again?

-Courtney

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By *parklesglitzWoman
over a year ago

Mancs


"Last time I was properly on her as prettytiedup and I was the married cheating wife I wouldn't be bothered about meeting and playing with other married men

But now im a single woman i wouldn't touch a married or attached man with a barge pole without out speaking to the wife first

Funny how our opinions change x "

interesting to see how its changed now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how will you ever know hes single on here"

too true

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Last time I was properly on her as prettytiedup and I was the married cheating wife I wouldn't be bothered about meeting and playing with other married men

But now im a single woman i wouldn't touch a married or attached man with a barge pole without out speaking to the wife first

Funny how our opinions change x

This is actually really interesting. Do you think you would ever cheat on someone again?

-Courtney"

Atm having just left my second marriage n fast approaching forty I don't want another full on relationship again just fun x I feel like ice never had igit fun in my life lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"how will you ever know hes single on here"

Having always been a cheater i guess ill just look for the signs x

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Leaving my husband n now being a more settled person in my own skin n life i guess now I just don't want the grief that goes with cheating x"

I would have thought it would have been the other way round, not wanting any grief from others cheating when you were married ( if your hubby didn't know of course ) but, no harm in opinions changing, mine have changed a lot over the years for lots of things

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cos I wasn't happy I didn't really care very wrong on him I know but that was just how I felt it was the only way I could rebel in a controlling marriage

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Interesting that was the reason you cheated - I myself personally have never cheated in a vanilla relationship (my definition of cheating includes when I do it in front or, with, or with the knowledge of my partner, so I deem swinging as cheating) - I was in a vanilla relationship for a year with no sex (long story) but never ever considered cheating - in the end it fizzled, but only then I considered other men. I met Mr on here and interestingly, for me, as time has gone on, I am less and less interested in playing with others, make and female. Not sure yet if it is a passing phase, or what is going on - but I too an a firm believer that opinions, feelings and whatever change and its good to have some alone time, for perspective. Pepper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pleased for you if you were in that sort of relationship.

Out of curiosity, do you mind me asking if you were open about being married on your profile and in the forums?

Given your experience at least this helps show that some people have a genuine reason for extramarital sex (your example being just one of many).

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

At least you are honest about it and recognise that opinions change...Nothing set in stone

Good luck with the new quest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what comes into play here are the age old sayings such as, 'don't judge a man until you have walked a mile in his shoes' and 'you never know until you try' etc.

Basically, you can have an opinion on something and believe that you would never agree with something else or would never act in a particular way in a certain situation. The reality is though, unless you actually experience something for yourself, you can't guarantee what your reaction will be.

We evolve as people as we encounter new life experiences and it is possible to change our opinion on something after having experienced it first hand.

I'm not sure this post accurately portrays what I'm trying to say as it is difficult to put into words but hopefully you get my drift.

This is just my opinion.

B xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how will you ever know hes single on here

Having always been a cheater i guess ill just look for the signs x"

Liars are usually people well versed in the art and have been at it for years...

It's not that easy whether you've been one yourself or not!

Players know how to play you!

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By *parklesglitzWoman
over a year ago

Mancs


"how will you ever know hes single on here

Having always been a cheater i guess ill just look for the signs x

Liars are usually people well versed in the art and have been at it for years...

It's not that easy whether you've been one yourself or not!

Players know how to play you!

"

agree

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I'm pleased for you if you were in that sort of relationship.

Out of curiosity, do you mind me asking if you were open about being married on your profile and in the forums?

Given your experience at least this helps show that some people have a genuine reason for extramarital sex (your example being just one of many). "

Yes I would be really interested too - as I am tired of hearing about hot married men (usually only the men) are terrible - one thought I had about it is the men in swinging relationships are a bit jealous they can get away with it without their partners knowledge?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

When my folks bought a campervan and I nabbed it for a weekend my opinion on people driving them and caravans changed drastically. Now I'm the big fucker holding everyone up and it tickles me hugely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think what comes into play here are the age old sayings such as, 'don't judge a man until you have walked a mile in his shoes' and 'you never know until you try' etc.

Basically, you can have an opinion on something and believe that you would never agree with something else or would never act in a particular way in a certain situation. The reality is though, unless you actually experience something for yourself, you can't guarantee what your reaction will be.

We evolve as people as we encounter new life experiences and it is possible to change our opinion on something after having experienced it first hand.

I'm not sure this post accurately portrays what I'm trying to say as it is difficult to put into words but hopefully you get my drift.

This is just my opinion.

B xx"

I think you've summed it up very well.

Life is forever changing, would be very odd if we never evolved and changed some of our opinions from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very interesting post. Change is the only way we can grow and expand our minds. It's nice to hear you got out of a controlling relationship and I wish you all the best with having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think what comes into play here are the age old sayings such as, 'don't judge a man until you have walked a mile in his shoes' and 'you never know until you try' etc.

Basically, you can have an opinion on something and believe that you would never agree with something else or would never act in a particular way in a certain situation. The reality is though, unless you actually experience something for yourself, you can't guarantee what your reaction will be.

We evolve as people as we encounter new life experiences and it is possible to change our opinion on something after having experienced it first hand.

I'm not sure this post accurately portrays what I'm trying to say as it is difficult to put into words but hopefully you get my drift.

This is just my opinion.

B xx

I think you've summed it up very well.

Life is forever changing, would be very odd if we never evolved and changed some of our opinions from time to time."

Thank you lovely lady x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Cos I wasn't happy I didn't really care very wrong on him I know but that was just how I felt it was the only way I could rebel in a controlling marriage "

I meant more the grief you may get from partners of the people cheating

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Cos I wasn't happy I didn't really care very wrong on him I know but that was just how I felt it was the only way I could rebel in a controlling marriage

I meant more the grief you may get from partners of the people cheating "

Maybe it's because you're both taking the same risk and have an equal need for discretion? Just a thought.

If you're cheating, there's always a chance your partner will find out, so always a chance of drama. Maybe the extra chance of drama from them being caught doesn't seem too bad?

For a single, with no risk of drama at home, they also don't want the risk of drama from the partner being caught.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

My opinions on a lot of things have changed over the years. Things often look different from an alternative perspective or with more information.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Cos I wasn't happy I didn't really care very wrong on him I know but that was just how I felt it was the only way I could rebel in a controlling marriage

I meant more the grief you may get from partners of the people cheating

Maybe it's because you're both taking the same risk and have an equal need for discretion? Just a thought.

If you're cheating, there's always a chance your partner will find out, so always a chance of drama. Maybe the extra chance of drama from them being caught doesn't seem too bad?

For a single, with no risk of drama at home, they also don't want the risk of drama from the partner being caught."

Yes you are probably right thinking of it that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm pleased for you if you were in that sort of relationship.

Out of curiosity, do you mind me asking if you were open about being married on your profile and in the forums?

Given your experience at least this helps show that some people have a genuine reason for extramarital sex (your example being just one of many). "

I was always open with my meets I trued to be open on the forums but was often abused by the forums police x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has the change of morals been brought on by what you did to your partner and you don't want to see someone else going through it?

It's not a dig at you, just being curious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cos I wasn't happy I didn't really care very wrong on him I know but that was just how I felt it was the only way I could rebel in a controlling marriage

I meant more the grief you may get from partners of the people cheating "

I think at that point i was kinda on a self destruct mode so I didn't care x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has the change of morals been brought on by what you did to your partner and you don't want to see someone else going through it?

It's not a dig at you, just being curious."

I think so yes x plus now I want peace n quiet in my life x

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